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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️

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ImpatientMama · 17/11/2020 14:24

Hello! We are trying for our second child and I am frustrated. I am sure several of you can relate to being frustrated with this whole TTC thing. 😅 Anyways. AF was due 3 days ago and has not shown her ugly face yet. But I have also gotten nothing but negatives (and one invalid). I was planning on not testing again until AF is a week late. Anyone get their BFP that late or even later? I am irregular, so it could just be a late period? I just want to know if I really am pregnant or not, so I can move on! Thanks for any insight you all provide! 😊

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Bgrace8 · 14/12/2020 15:17

@ImpatientMama ooo that could be good but why would it be EWCm still? I’m praying for implantation this time as it’s a good sign. Test away!!!

@HJen22 that sounds lovely! Nothing better than a break away from reality x

HJen22 · 14/12/2020 15:01

@Bgrace8 yeah it's great to have you all to chat to!

We went to the Isle of Skye, it was lovely! A change of scenery! And lucky we got to go, kept thinking our tier would change where we are but it didn't so was ok to go! Ah lovely where did you go? It's so nice to get away!

@ImpatientMama that sounds positive! I'm forever looking for that in the 2ww after learning about it! I have everything crossed for you!

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ImpatientMama · 14/12/2020 14:10

This morning when I wiped, I saw a mixture of egg white cm with some brown. Thinking it could be implantation bleeding. Didn't have it with my first, so I'm not 100% sure. Tempted to test tomorrow, 8 dpo. It will most likely be negative. I have 5 cheapies, so I have plenty to use early. Haha.

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Bgrace8 · 14/12/2020 13:37

@HJen22 welcome back! So nice that we’re all in the same boat and can keep each other updated.

Where did you go away? I was away too last weekend - so nice for some normality isn’t it!

Are you gonna test or wait and when are you due af x

HJen22 · 14/12/2020 13:19

Hi girls! Sounds like everyone has been keeping busy, best thing for it in the 2ww!

I was away all weekend which was lovely; and after worrying about my ovulation and BBT, a couple more days or temping and it confirmed ovulation, two days later than originally predicted. Which works out better for when we managed to DTD 🤞🏻6dpo and just trying to keep busy and not symptom spot. My stepdaughter comes Friday so something to look forward to! X

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ImpatientMama · 14/12/2020 12:26

@Bgrace8 seems early for those symptoms to be pregnancy related, but I would say those hormones sure have a way with letting us know they are around!
@lastbany glad you have been busy! Helps in this tww! Planning on wrapping gifts today for Christmas, so that will hopefully keep my mind off things. Good luck on your Friday test and definitely let us know how it goes!! 🤞🤞

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lastbany · 14/12/2020 07:56

@ImpatientMama I think I'm around 10dpo (according to app! Buy tbh haven't followed it much this month had too much on!) my daughter turned one plus other bits and bobs!, so af due 19th which is Friday! I have one frer left from last months disasters. And hard as may be I will wait till Friday to use it! As I think I will get a definite answer then! I feel like I'm getting cramps today but still you never know :)

Bgrace8 · 14/12/2020 07:22

@ImpatientMama I think I am going to do the same, test early with cheapies!

I am only 3dpo and not sure if it’s related my nipples are SOOOOO sensitive like actual agony if I touch them or catch them. Got lots of breakouts too so wondering if I have some crazy high hormones

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ImpatientMama · 13/12/2020 23:21

@Bgrace8 I am 6 DPO today. AF is due next week. One app says the 21st and one says the 25th. So who knows exactly. Haha. I am going to start testing a little early, 10 DPO, and test every other day until hopefully I get a bfp! Or af comes. 😔 I got some cheap tests to use early and will use for the earlier test. And save the more expensive ones for when I hopefully get a positive on one of those! Thanks! Fingers crossed for you too! What DPO are you?

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Bgrace8 · 13/12/2020 22:21

@ImpatientMama how many dpo are you and when are you due? Keeping my fingers crossed for you!!!

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ImpatientMama · 13/12/2020 21:44

@Bgrace8 I used easy@home opks. Tracked them using the Premom app. I also have been tracking my BBT on there. I found another app for BBT tracking called Fertility Friend. That app actually has some analysis of your chart, which I like. This is my first time tracking so I am no pro, but I have read that if it stays elevated, you have concieved. If you have not concieved the temp will begin going down before AF shows up. So I am really really REALLY hoping it stays elevated!

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Bgrace8 · 13/12/2020 21:36

Amazing news! Which tests did you use? I haven’t done BBT but may consider it next month as I’m sure that’s the only actual confirmation that you have ovulated.

So if the temp stays high that’s a sign of conception?

I think I may do cheapies too as I was too sad last month with a late period and then a BFN! X

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ImpatientMama · 13/12/2020 21:16

Hi @Bgrace8! Two weeks is an awful long time! I used OPKs for the first time this cycle, along with BBT tracking. I am very happy I did. Had low tests from 11/30-12/5. 12/6 (CD13) my first test was high, the second was peak. WOO! The next day both tests were high and then the following day they were low again. My husband and I DTD the day before peak, day of peak, and the day after. We took a day off and then DTD again. I feel like we timed it pretty well. My BBT was mid-97 and now it is in the mid-98s, which is a good sign. Hopefully it stays elevated!! I am 6 DPO today. I got several cheap tests and was going to start testing at 10 DPO every other day until, hopefully, I get a BFP! Period is due mid next week. After I ovulated, I have been riding my stationary bike every other day, just to stay active now that it is too cold for walks like I used to do. I am praying every night that this is my cycle! Last cycle was heartbreaking when I had a chemical pregnancy. Good luck to you!!! And all the ladies on here! 🤞

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Bgrace8 · 13/12/2020 20:58

Hi girls! How are you all doing? Thought I’d come back on here so we could drive each other crazy for the next 2 weeks!!

I started testing with OPKS and got 5 flashing smileys, I was going crazy then got my solid smiley Thursday. We DTD every day flashing smiley and solid smiley 🤞🏽 I ovulated later this month than last month. This month was cd17 whereas last month was cd13!

I’m also due either Christmas Day or after as not sure with the irregular cycle last month!

Had a blood test at docs wed too and also follow up call Friday to see if anything sinister with the cycles.

How is everyone else doing??

HJen22 · 10/12/2020 18:42

@ImpatientMama I'm sure your timings are fine! The other months I've done it they haven't always been the exact same and have confirmed ovulation after a few days of high temps. Maybe mine was just delayed?! It worried me so I did another OPK but was low!

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ImpatientMama · 10/12/2020 18:39

@HJen22 I haven't consistently woken up the same time. But pretty close. So I am hoping it still is somewhat accurate. I just hope it stays increased with maybe a small dip for possible implantation.

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HJen22 · 10/12/2020 18:29

@HT1335 I know, I told my bf to read up, he makes me feel like I'm crazy when I'm worried that the best time may have passed! That sounds nice and relaxed, same I am also having a few drinks and trying to just chill out. We're away this weekend to Skye so I'll have a wine or two! I've hardly drank at all the last 9 months whilst we've been trying.

@ImpatientMama that's so good you managed to DTD all of those days!! Great timing and BBT! Mine has mega confused me, it had a big dip on the expected ovulation day but then it's not really been that obviously high/upwards since! But I don't know if my timing has effected it! Some days I've woken up at 5.30am and had to do it or the actual time I wake up won't be 6 hours straight! But rubbish though cos the other months I've done it the app has come back saying BBT confirms ovulation!

@lastbany yeah I'm 100% not testing! Wasn't fun at all last month seeing BFN! Let's fingers crossed for everyone this month 🤞🏻🤞🏻

lastbany · 10/12/2020 12:46

@ImpatientMama that's great! I bought cheapos from eBay and they didn't work kept getting invalid! So I gave up but my cm was crazy around xd 10!!

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ImpatientMama · 10/12/2020 12:39

@lastbany according to the opks, i did ovulate! It was interesting to see the test progressions. I had a very sudden spike and it was pretty high. Woo! We were DTD the day before the peak test, the day of the peak test, and the day of ovulation. So I feel like we timed it pretty well. I did research (i cant stop myself 🥴) and those are the days with the highest chance. So I am in the tww and I like knowing my dpo now, which is 3 dpo! I have also been tracking my bbt and it seems to be aligning with everything so far. It did spike today so I am hoping it will stay high. 🤞
@HJen22 @HT1335 men. Haha. My husband knew I was testing because it would be in the middle of the day and he would see the test waiting on the table for me to read when the timer went off. When I noticed the high test I told him that we are DTD that night and the next day. Just to give him a heads up. Haha.

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lastbany · 10/12/2020 10:01

@HJen22 100% not taking till af due! I have one first response left over AF due 19th x

HT1335 · 10/12/2020 09:57

Aww it is really stressful and j don’t think the bfs understand the ovulation process etc and they just want it to happen, which I’m sure it will for us all
No I’m having December to be more laid back, I’m taking the pre conception vitamins as is my partner and we’re trying to be laid back, have a few drinks and have fun.. then back to testing seeing the gp again in jan if this doesn’t work soo 🤞🏻 I’m not doing pregnancy tests either unless I’m late again.

HJen22 · 10/12/2020 09:52

@lastbany oh so you did! We had a fall out right at the wrong time too 🙄 I felt like my bf was blaming me for the pressure, I'm like make up your mind, do you want to know I'm doing OPKs etc or not! Emotions are always running high and I've been so busy at work the stress levels didn't stay as low as I'd have liked! Sounds like you covered plenty days around ovulation so fingers crossed 🤞🏻 I'm avoiding any pregnancy tests this month! What's everyone else's thoughts? Xx

lastbany · 10/12/2020 09:35

@HJen22 haha oh no! Well we had the big row just after af so was in a panic anyway did few times befor cd10 then every other day to ad14 not done opk b cm and flo and it pointed to cd13 so we see! He away now rest of month so who noes lol

HJen22 · 10/12/2020 09:35

@HT1335 I really wanted it to be stress free this month and just do the OPKs and BBT for peace of mind after having such a long cycle and not knowing what was going on! Did you decide to track anything this month or just go with the flow? Fingers crossed for you too!! X

HT1335 · 10/12/2020 09:27

@HJen22 oh it’s very stressful isn’t it doing the tests as it makes you doubt what’s happening but it’s sounds like you’ve covered things so 🤞🏻🤞🏻
My AF lasted a while so we’ve just started to dtd on a casual basis whilst trying to be stress free and see what happens
Good luck to us all

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