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No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️

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ImpatientMama · 17/11/2020 14:24

Hello! We are trying for our second child and I am frustrated. I am sure several of you can relate to being frustrated with this whole TTC thing. 😅 Anyways. AF was due 3 days ago and has not shown her ugly face yet. But I have also gotten nothing but negatives (and one invalid). I was planning on not testing again until AF is a week late. Anyone get their BFP that late or even later? I am irregular, so it could just be a late period? I just want to know if I really am pregnant or not, so I can move on! Thanks for any insight you all provide! 😊

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HJen22 · 21/12/2020 14:33

@ImpatientMama I'm glad it didn't drag out for you again, last month was the worst wasn't it! I hope that I don't have a ridiculously long cycle this month again, I'm thinking not since I confirmed ovulation it should be in the next few days as I'm 13dpo! Next cycle will be cycle 10 tracking for me 😔 although they say not to count til your first true period so I guess 9 but still, feels like forever. Need to just find some positivity from somewhere! X

@HT1335 how are you feeling? X

lastbany · 21/12/2020 14:29

@ImpatientMama deffo ! I wanted a 18 month ages ago in my youngest two but hey Ho! Really doesn't matter my daughter has her one year jabs today! More important worries lol I'm day 3 and will do ovulation sticks this month let's see how I go xx

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ImpatientMama · 21/12/2020 14:11

@HJen22 I am bummed AF showed, but at least she didn't keep me waiting like last cycle!

@lastbany cycle 4 for me! It is now taking longer for baby #2. I know it will happen if/when it is meant to!

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lastbany · 21/12/2020 14:03

@ImpatientMama on to next month xx

HJen22 · 21/12/2020 10:36

@ImpatientMama I'm sorry AF has arrived 😞 hopefully your cycle has reset, really wishing you so much luck for cycle 4!

My BBT has dropped even more today, so expecting AF tomorrow! I had thought I had accepted this month wasn't the month, but I've woken up in a foul mood today 😭 didn't want to feel miserable with the arrival of AF this month either! So hopefully I'll snap out of it soon!!

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ImpatientMama · 21/12/2020 00:13

BBT dropped and have been spotting today. Seems AF has arrived. Early. 🙄 Short cycle for me. 26 days when usually it is around 30. Oh well! Ordered more OPKs which will also come with several pregnancy tests so I don't have to waste money on those! Maybe my body just needed to use this cycle to reset after my chemical pregnancy. 🤷‍♀️ Hoping cycle number 4 is the magic cycle for us!

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HT1335 · 20/12/2020 18:42

Yeah we will have to wait and see and hopefully get our BFPs when the time is right! 🤞🏻

lastbany · 20/12/2020 14:24

Yep don't feel too bad expected it! Onto next mo th x

HJen22 · 20/12/2020 14:19

@lastbany I'm sorry AF arrived but glad it's not been a strange long cycle again! And as the ladies say, enjoy the festivities with some bubbles and fingers crossed for BFP next month!

@HT1335 I am feeling the same, don't feel any different, no symptoms, so thinking AF on its way! I also don't think we timed DTD at the right time despite our best efforts 😔 we're not out til AF comes though I guess!

HT1335 · 20/12/2020 11:15

@lastbany at least you know what’s happening can have a drink and plan for next month! I have a feeling I will get my AF I don’t feel any different and as we’ve been more relaxed I don’t think we’ve dtd enough but we shall soon see.

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ImpatientMama · 19/12/2020 21:10

@lastbany well enjoy a nice beverage this holiday season! Hope you have success next cycle! I really liked using opks. Not sure if they worked this cycle, yet, though. 🤞

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lastbany · 19/12/2020 18:43

Well AF arrived day 28 as per usual lol strange really how last month was so out! So I'm going to do ovulation sticks this month we decided! But again not a lot of pressure just nice to see when ovulate x

HJen22 · 19/12/2020 14:02

@lastbany yeah I have a feeling AF is on its way too, I've been consciously trying NOT to symptom spot so also feeling a bit more relaxed about it, for a change! I'm hoping being busy and now my stepdaughter is here I won't have time to wallow for too long! I'd absolutely love a BFP this month but if it doesn't happen, onto the next 🤞🏻

@ImpatientMama oh it's so hard when apps are all different isn't it! I hope your next test is a BFP! Patience is the hardest thing! The whole TWW just isn't fun!

lastbany · 19/12/2020 13:49

@HJen22 I'm pretty sure my bodies gearing up for at I feel relaxed about it tbh we didn't try hard this month and I'm not worrying anymore just gonna leave it to happen when does xx

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ImpatientMama · 19/12/2020 12:15

@lastbany my opks read: CD13- high in the early afternoon, peak at night, CD14- both were high, CD15- both were low. So I am guessing I ovulated on CD14. I tested 8dpo, 10-12dpo, all negatives. 🙄 I have one more FRER, one cheapie, and two digitals left. And would love to not have to buy anymore tests! So I think, as hard as its going to be, I'm going to wait to test again until Wednesday. I have three apps and all three have different predictions for when my period is going to start. If I test Wednesday, it will be 1-2 days past 2 of the three apps predictions and 1-2 before the other app predicts it. So it will be right in the middle. And I would hope by then I would get a positive (as long as AF doesn't show!), I would be 16dpo on that day. So this will definitely be testing my patience! 🙃

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HJen22 · 19/12/2020 08:55

@lastbany morning! Well it was predicted i would ovulate CD12 but after a peak OPK on CD12 and temping, it changed to CD14. One app says AF due tomorrow and another Tuesday! If any, hopefully not tomorrow as that would mean a pretty short luteal phase (I'm 11DPO) and thats flagged up as too short on Femometer previously!

How are you feeling? X

lastbany · 19/12/2020 08:46

@HJen22 @ImpatientMama out of curiosity when did you ovulate what day? Just wondering with the late cycles? Af due today for me so we will see what happens:)

HT1335 · 18/12/2020 13:26

Oh good luck everyone! I never test until AF is late
I’ve had two days of bleeding tho and AF not due until the 26th so once again I’m very confused as to what’s going on! At least it’s Xmas and we’re all busy and distracted instead of sitting and thinking about it too much x

HJen22 · 17/12/2020 14:29

@ImpatientMama yeah 10dpo is still early so keep positive! That's annoying about all the invalids! Not what you need! I use Ovia now too and like it, although one app says AF due Sunday and one says Tuesday! Fingers crossed for a BFP🤞🏻

@lastbany yeah I just can't face doing numerous tests again and them coming back negative, it's just as hard as the waiting, both are rubbish to be honest. But I said before I didn't want to keep seeing BFNs, I wanted the next to be the BFP. But seeing as AF was 10days late last cycle i had to! I have my fingers crossed for a BFP for you too 🤞🏻

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ImpatientMama · 17/12/2020 14:06

The cheapos are annoying me with all the invalids I have gotten this cycle and last cycle. Think I will get better tests. Our local drug store has a brand that is similar to frer, but a little cheaper. So I may try those instead.

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lastbany · 17/12/2020 12:45

Haha! My af is due tonorow so I should know soon enough! However will only be day 28 tomorow and last month was 34!! Have usual cramps etc I tested Monday afternoon like a idiot with my frer!! My last one! Just though ah let's see! I'm pretty sure it's negative as o don't think app etc predicts correct ovulation day and I've decided to just leave to gods lol if happens it happens so o won't be testing of af doesn't come till next week Monday Mayve but only with a cheapo lol was hoping we would have some BFP by now x

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ImpatientMama · 17/12/2020 12:29

I tested at 8dpo and it was negative. Tested again this morning at 10 dpo and it was still negative (plus 2 invalids 🙄). I did use cheapies so those invalids and negatives didn't cost me a fortune. I use an app called Ovia which has a place where people can post questions and post about their test results. All super anonymous which I like. And a lot of ladies recently posted about getting their bfp at 10 dpo, so I was hopeful. I know 10 dpo is early, so I am going to stay positive and hope maybe at 12 dpo I will get my bfp! I also noticed a bbt increase today which is hopeful. I just can't help myself from testing early! 😅

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HJen22 · 17/12/2020 10:38

I'm at 9dpo and don't plan to test until AF is missed by at least a few days. Not feeling very positive today, temp seems to be going down and I told myself I'd not look too much at it after ovulation but it's hard not to!

How are you ladies getting on?

To top things off, I've found my first grey hair today! Which isn't good, I have the darkest hair! Felt like I could cry 😭😂🙈

On the upside it's finally not raining today so I'm going to get a walk at lunchtime! Try and destress. Why is it so easy to say you'll chill, but not so much to manage!!

Bgrace8 · 17/12/2020 09:33

@lastbany no but I’m far too early yet, think I will end of week/ beginning of next.

Ladies?

lastbany · 17/12/2020 08:15

Anyone caved and tested???

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