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No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️

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ImpatientMama · 17/11/2020 14:24

Hello! We are trying for our second child and I am frustrated. I am sure several of you can relate to being frustrated with this whole TTC thing. 😅 Anyways. AF was due 3 days ago and has not shown her ugly face yet. But I have also gotten nothing but negatives (and one invalid). I was planning on not testing again until AF is a week late. Anyone get their BFP that late or even later? I am irregular, so it could just be a late period? I just want to know if I really am pregnant or not, so I can move on! Thanks for any insight you all provide! 😊

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Bgrace8 · 29/12/2020 15:08

@HT1335 I guess everyone’s different, one of my friends had really sore boobs and back ache but I don’t ever get PMS Symptoms but I’ll keep you updated with that!

I’m excited for you you’ll have to keep me updated!!

HT1335 · 29/12/2020 14:42

@Bgrace8 oh that’s good to know as I always think you must get all these major symptoms so you would know that you’re pregnant
So really it’s just waiting for AF and testing that will give the answers!

Bgrace8 · 29/12/2020 14:36

@HT1335 ask away! Nothing at all I feel absolutely no different to normal apart from I was really constipated (tmi) this week and had a little nasal congestion but I always do on mornings!

No sore boobs, no back ache no implantation spotting, no nausea! However when I get my period I never get PMS symptoms so I must just be that way out!

HT1335 · 29/12/2020 14:31

@Bgrace8 thank you
Can I ask do you feel any different, do you have any of the pregnancy symptoms that you see when you google? I just wonder if people know they are pregnant due to how they feel. It’s not something you can really go around asking people without looking a bit strange!

Bgrace8 · 29/12/2020 14:00

@HT1335 you have patience! Keep me updated and fingers crossed for you all girls x

HT1335 · 29/12/2020 13:36

According to my app I was due on Sunday but the last few times they have been all over the place so I’m not sure! I’ve just said to my partner we will do a test on Friday if no sign as I’m off work so I’ll have time in the morning.
Aww that’s lovely I bet your so pleased and relieved!
It will give everyone hope that it can happen for us all 😊

Bgrace8 · 29/12/2020 13:17

@HT1335 I did use my FMU but the lines came straight away and so strong and same with the clear blue digital it came on within a minute!
No idea when my period was due as my cycles have been abit all over!

I’m in shock haha.

How late are you? We’d be due same time if you were!!

HT1335 · 29/12/2020 12:45

@Bgrace8 omg!!! Aww that’s lovely to see I bet you can’t believe it!!! Did you test first thing in the morning? Wow that’s fab news
No I can’t bring myself to test as I’ll be so disappointed if it’s negative, so I keep putting it off!

Bgrace8 · 29/12/2020 12:31

@HT1335 have you tested?
Well ladies, I have never been in so much shock in my life .....

No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️
HT1335 · 29/12/2020 11:55

Still no sign of AF for me so I’m back in limbo 😣

lastbany · 28/12/2020 21:16

How can it be bacn to ovulation week!!

HT1335 · 27/12/2020 10:45

@Bgrace8 I’m 31 days today and I still feel tired and a bit sickly but that could be down to working a lot, I’ll maybe test on Tuesday if no sign by then
It’s awful isn’t it as you don’t want to get another disheartening negative but on the other hand you want to know what’s happening
Well good luck! Hopefully we have some answers in a few days 🤞🏻X

Bgrace8 · 27/12/2020 10:16

@HT1335 I can never think of what I want to do! My last was 33 days which will be tomorrow so going to deffo wait till that’s over then think about what to do! So nerve wracking either way and we have family staying for a few weeks so it’s going to be very difficult to do test or tell my partner!

What day are you on now?

HT1335 · 27/12/2020 10:00

Yeah it was ridiculously late and very confusing as I’m normally like 29 - 31 days. I’ve been so busy with work and Christmas luckily I’ve not had time to think and decide what to do, I’ll maybe wait until mid week and then take one if no sign of AF are you going to do a test or wait for a few days? @Bgrace8

Bgrace8 · 27/12/2020 09:53

@HT1335 oh wow that was a long cycle! Do you think you’ll wait the full 41 days out and what day are you now? I’d be wanting to test if I was you! X

HT1335 · 27/12/2020 09:26

Yea there is no sign of AF today so I am going to try not thinking about it for a few days... I won’t be able to but I will try! My last cycle was 41 days it was really late so it may be the same again this time
Back in the waiting game 😩
Yes I hope everyone had a lovely Christmas x

Bgrace8 · 26/12/2020 22:38

Oh I’ve had a fair few of those due to work! Horrible things, so glad you are negative!

My app said I was due yesterday but I am yet to come on, my last cycle however was 33 days which is Monday so I’m trying not to think about it until the !

Hope all you ladies had a lovely Christmas! X

HT1335 · 26/12/2020 22:07

My app says AF is due tomorrow I’ve had no spotting so I’m not sure! I did get a negative Covid test one only time I was pleased to see a negative! So I’m in the waiting game again, I won’t test until I’m a few days late as the app could be wrong and after last time, who knows when AF is actually due!
Is everyone else doing ok?
@NatMoz last month some of us had very late AF but would usually have pretty regular cycles

Bgrace8 · 26/12/2020 21:59

@HT1335 how are you getting on?? X

HJen22 · 23/12/2020 18:21

@HT1335 I hope so too ❤️🤞🏻 I've been with my bf 4 years but we only just moved into our house last September. I'm so glad you have felt more relaxed! I've had days of being ok and chill and days of being stressed! Annoying as I so wanted it to be a stress free month! I've managed to avoid any tears yet though! Aww how lovely! I love being an auntie so much! It's the best! My sister is one of two people who know we are TTC and I know she can't wait for me to have a baby and her be an auntie.

@NatMoz im sorry you're going through this, it's an agonising wait isn't it! I hope you have some answers soon, a BFP would be so lovely! Are your cycles normally pretty regular?

HT1335 · 23/12/2020 17:48

@HJen22 I really hope it happens naturally for us! 🤞🏻 I have 2 nieces I love them to bits it’s amazing being an auntie isn’t it ❤️
@NatMoz this is how we all felt last month its very frustrating when you don’t know what’s happening

NatMoz · 23/12/2020 17:28

I've had 2 One Step negative tests but my period was due over a week ago now. So frustrating that I'm in this misery of not pregnant but no period nonsense.

HT1335 · 23/12/2020 17:19

@Bgrace8 I’m 36 so I know I’m classed as ‘older’ too which is also a worry but I’ve only been with my partner for 3 years the timing hasn’t been right before now. How old are you?
It is very frustrating although I have felt more relaxed about it this time maybe because it’s been a busy month with work and Christmas so I haven’t had as much time to think about it

HJen22 · 23/12/2020 17:19

@Bgrace8 I am up in Scotland! That's me finished work for Xmas (work for an oil company and been wfh since March!) we are at my sisters for Christmas which I'm really looking forward to as I have two adorable nephews ages 1 and almost 3 who I dote on 🥰 what about you? I will be 33 in March! You?

@HT1335 I also came off the pill right at the end of March, so basically April! I've always had a bit of a fear of it taking a while, and had really hoped it wouldn't 😔 my doctor said to keep tracking cycle length after I spoke about last month and I could go back in March for a referral. I am hoping I don't have to though...

Bgrace8 · 23/12/2020 17:10

@HT1335 and how old are you both? Fingers crossed you won’t need it as I know it can take a while for some people cant it, but then some fall on so quickly so it is frustrating!