No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️

@HT1335 I'm sure you'll be ok at 36 I mean even 41 is young for the menopause but it does happen, I would imagine it will still be the pill messing your cycle up, mine was all over the place for around 8 months after I came off of it! My partner was told back in his early twenties that he has low motility sperm so always knew there may be issues, he did manage to have his other two and we got pg once but that unfortunately resulted in a mc so just now hoping for a little miracle to come along! Sending good luck to you, let me know how you get on?

@Marvellouslymadmum this is my fear as I’m
36 and I don’t have any children so I don’t know if there are any problems with me or early menopause. But hopefully it’s just taking a long time for the pill to come out of my system and a normal cycle to resume 🤞🏻 Time will tell I suppose. I’m sending good luck to everyone

@HT1335 it's so hard not to think there's something wrong isn't it?! I mean I'd be devastated if I am going through the change this early but at the same time I'd rather that than anything sinister! We have two teenagers each but none together and my partner would love a little girl as it's all boys in his family. I'm going to resist the urge to test today and hopefully tomorrow then if af doesn't show I think I'll test first thing Thursday and call the docs if still bfn then

@Marvellouslymadmum I’m going to wait for 2 days as last one mu cycle was 41 days and see if AF arrives at 41 days this time.. if not retest and then ring the gp as I’m worried there is something wrong now. It’s hard work makes you feel like wanting to give up sometimes but then I do try to be positive aswell. It’s just a waiting game all of the time isn’t it

So frustrating! And so hard not to symptom spot!! I totally got my hopes up and tested on Sunday but had a bfn which I was really sad over then decided what if there’s something wrong with me or I’m going through the change!! Now today I’ve woken and have that heavy tummy feeling so maybe flo is just tricking me and is about to arrive. What are you going to do about your long wait? I’ve been resisting the urge to re test at the moment

@Marvellouslymadmum welcome to the group! Hopefully you get the result you want it’s very stressful when AF is late and out of sync I am in the same boat I’m cycle day 40 now and still no sign
@ImpatientMama I totally agree I have spent an absolute fortune on tests and products to try and help! It’s very frustrating 😭
@Emc16x good luck with your test do let us know how you get on!

@ImpatientMama my Flo app says 7 days late. Spotting has stopped now. I’m wracked with nerves. Think I’ll buy a test tomorrow and test FMU on wed. Thank you :)

Hi all, I’ve read through the whole thread today, highs and lows and I’m in the same boat some of you have been in! I’m usually pretty predictable 28/29 day cycle shortest being 26 longest 31 currently on cd36 feeling bloated, sicky and dizzy with a little back pain but no sign of af and no symptoms of her showing her face! I caved amd tested yesterday with a co-op test and got a bfn and am getting a bit worried something could be up, last month af was lighter than usual but longer and now this month nothing at all! I’m 41 (42 in March) so a little older, been ttc for two years casually both have children from previous relationships but none together though we had one mc 3.5 years ago. I’m glad I found this thread!

@ImpatientMama wow! When did you start testing? I had cheap tests but I couldn't get them to work! Tried holding in pot if pee longer but some reason didn't wirk! So I'm going off flo app but tbh my cm was consistent to the dates! X

CD38. Still haven’t plucked up the courage to do a test. I stated spotting on 2nd Jan. Started pink and now brown. I’m praying it’s implantation. Again, it’ll be a miracle but something just feels different.

@Emc16x yeah it’s my fist time ttc been trying since March April time so around 9 months with no luck! I’ve spoken to my gp but I only got general health bloods take no hormone one ones or anything so I’m going to phone up next week and request this then I would get my referral in March if nothing happens by then.
Have you done a test yet? Sending you good luck
@lastbany still no sign of AF day 38 of my cycle now 😞

Well I believe I'm in the 2ww! How about you ? @ImpatientMama @HT1335 @HJen22

GP did blood tests for me in June, July and Aug. Asked me to wait till December to call them for a hospital referral but after a good friend told me she was pregnant and it was all by chance I called the docs crying my eyes out and they referred me straight away so the first appointment was jan 29th at the local hospital!!

Are you TTC for no1? How long have you been TTC? We actually have up this month as we’ve also moved in with my parents so we’ve had zero chance to get in the mood apart from the once!

@Emc16x yeah I done a test yesterday and it was negative as usual! I came off the pill March/ April time and had fairly regular AF initially and now they’ve gone really irregular it’s very strange but I had been on the pill for years plus I’m 36 so I know I’m classed as older.
Oh yeah I would get a test and then you know but I understand the disappointment you feel and why you would put off doing one but you never know!
Has the gp done any bloody or tests with either of you already? X

Sorry I mean @HT1335 xx

@HT1335 thank you!

I’m 28. TTC for baby no 1. DH is 35 and so so desperate to be a Dad.

I came off my depo injection September 2019 and had irregular periods ever since. Hopefully it’s been the injection just making it’s way out and no other underlying problems.

Ive heard dh may have to do a semen analysis. I could get scans to see if any tubes are blocked. And possibly start a course of clomid to kick start ovulation! My 21 day bloods said I didn’t ovulate for 3 months straight but my clear blue digital ov tests always say I do. So so odd.

Still painful cramping and boobs today! Back ache too. No sign of AF. Might go and buy a test to do tomorrow. Just so scared of being let down.

I’ve already worked out my due date, my scan dates, when and how I’d be able to tell people. I do it every cycle!

Have you done a test @HJen22? Sorry I’ve I’m late catching up! X

I am cd37 now and still no sign of AF what the hell 😖 last month my cycle was 41 days 🤷🏼‍♀️X

@Emc16x hello and welcome! I don’t know I’m really sorry but I do hope you also get your BFP before you go for your appt! It’s awful when you feel that you don’t want to test incase you get the disappointment again I know exactly how you feel.

I suppose if you go to the appt I’m guessing they do further tests and see what the problem is and then provide you with some options. Is it your fist time ttc? And how old are you do you don’t mind me asking
Fingers crossed for you 🤞🏻X

So glad I found this thread. I’m Cd34....however I do have irregular periods but thought over the past couple of months they were evening out a little bit. This is the longest I’ve had since September. Cramping and breast pain. Not testing yet. I’m too scared!

We’ve been TTC for 16 months. We have a Referral to the infertility clinic at our local hospital end of Jan (waited 5 months for the appointment!!!) does anybody know what the first appointment will entail?

I’m crossing everything I can call them up before and cancel as I’ll get a BFP before then but not feeling hopeful xx

@Bgrace8 thanks for the tips! It’s giving me hope that it will happen! 🤞🏻😊x

@HJen22 oh yeah a break from it all does you good! Otherwise you would drive yourself mad constantly thinking about it and being stressed so I don’t blame you

Haha I can imagine! It’s not nice to go through all this is it but if it means we get the result we want will have to grin and bear it 😂

Well I will let you know how we manage with using it, it won’t be for a few weeks now by the time I have my week of AF whenever that may be, I’ve a feeling it may be eventful but hopefully it works! And I hope your month of being a bit more relaxed about things works for you, I really do 🤞🏻X

@HT1335 @HJen22 good thing about the conceive plus is if you didn’t want them to know, they didn’t have to really! Just use the applicator 10 mins before anything! Mine never came out after unless I went straight to the toilet.

I can’t be sure if that’s why we conceived but I would definitely use it again as I think, you wouldn’t know if partner had low sperm count and if so this is meant to be really useful!

I’m sure it will all be fine, one of my friends who had been trying since last October has just conceived! Xx

@HT1335 I may try and broach the subject nearer the time of next cycle haha! Personally I think it's worth a try!!

When I was speaking about the doctors I reminded him if we do have to, it will be both of us going at some point, his face about what he will need to do made me laugh 😂

I know, it's hard to know what to do for the best isn't it! But after my meltdown on Xmas Eve decided I just needed a little rest from tracking for this month anyway! X