The dreaded TWW!

@mommyofone2019 I think that's a really good mindset just wait for AF - I think if it doesn't arrive on Monday I may test then but will deffo wait until Monday. Still wonder if we dtd enough this month but then I keep seeing people on threads saying when they got their bfp they only dtd once 🤷🏼‍♀️ so try not to think about that too much! Also trying not to read other threads, I think when i see other people get bfp it makes me wanna test 😂😂 xx

@namechangedformyBFP ahh I think Christmas is a good distraction for everyone! I finished all my wrapping on the weekend which was lovely and deffo got me I the festive mood - do you have much more to do to get ready?

Ummm I feel like I've been slightly obsessive today 😂😂 I ordered some frers which will come tomorrow but I won't use them until at least Monday 🤞🏻 I wfh and choosing to self isolate as we're going to my nans for Christmas so I feel like your mind just wanders when there's not much to occupy it 🤣

@S345 @mommyofone2019
Thank you for your messages. I'm doing ok, just trying to get prepared for Christmas!

How is the wait going before you guys POAS?

@mommyofone2019 yes the Christmas build up deffo helps you not to overthink every twinge I've found 😂😂

Same as you really, lots going on so I haven't really thought about it although I did have a dream last night that I found out I was pregnant 🙈 AF is due Sunday/Monday so I will wait until at least then, if by some kind of miracle I am pregnant I would want to keep it a secret and surprise my fiancé on Christmas morning so no point in me testing early as I think I would struggle to keep it a secret if it was positive 😂 when will you test?

@mummydoingamasters hope you're doing ok today xx

@S345 thank you. It's been a bit of a strange weekend of accepting it, emotional breakdowns and blaming myself but I think that's all a bit normal.

I think we need to have a serious conversation because if we didn't already have kids I think it would be different, but as we already have 2 we just need to decide if regret would be more harmful than any more miscarriages I guess.

I have everything crossed for you and I'll be staying on the thread to find out same as for @mommyofone2019 outcome! I'm still over cheering everyone on 😊

@namechangedformyBFP I'm so sorry to hear this, I have been thinking about you over the weekend. Hope you are being kind to yourself 🤗 I guess only you and your hubby can make that decision, knowing what's right for both of you. I hope you can continue your journey but also totally understand if you choose not to, there are so many emotions attached aren't there and it just feels like you're on one very, at times erratic rollercoaster 🤪 do you feel in a position where you could reset this month and treat next month as a fresh start?

Premom says 10dpo and Fermometer says 8dpo - I'm REALLY trying not to symptom spot but I'm finding it hard 😂 I feel quite nauseous but not like icky sick just more the feeling, bit like motion sickness although I'm probably just hungry 😂

@mommyofone2019 how are you finding your TWW? Apart from the madness of Christmas!!

@S345 exactly as I suspected so I've cancelled the midwife referral today.

Now me and hubby are having conversations about whether to try again or not. As much as my head can rationally say it should get easier each time, it actually gets harder and I'm not sure how many more times I can go through it to be honest.

How's your TWW going? What day DPO are you?

@namechangedformyBFP haha yes!

Oh I'm so sorry to hear that lovely, really hoping it's nothing for you to worry about but sending hugs eitherway! Keep us updated if you feel up to it. How are you feeling now?

Covid just makes you forget abroad holidays even exist doesn't it 😂😂 butlins will be fun anyway, doesn't matter where you are you'll still have a great time.

It's actually going ok....I could be 6 or 8 dpo not really sure as didn't use opk this month! I've got some creamy cm today but absolutely not thinking too much into it, I probably have this normally every month and just don't pay any attention 🤣

@S345 he just makes me laugh but also I have to prepare myself for some of the things he says 😂

I'm gutted but I don't think I'll get as far as getting any negativity. I've woken up today with bleeding and cramps so I'll test in the morning (expecting a negative) then me and hubby will need to have a conversation about whether we can do it all again 😞

Oh goodness, yeah I forgot about all the travel risks and restrictions before COVID even came on the scene.
Our honeymoon will be to Butlin's so I doubt we'll have any issues there 🤣

How's your TWW going?

@namechangedformyBFP oh bless him, I have a nephew who is at the same stage and you're right the things they come out with you're just like 🥴🥴 sorry to hear you may receive some negativity, hoping that doesn't happen for you though.

Ahh I don't blame you, I would have thought by 2022 you will deffo be able to have everything you had planned and enjoy it fully without having to compromise! Yes we will deffo do it even if it's with the 30, our honeymoon was booked for the Maldives so that's what we're most upset about 😂 especially with the Zika virus and ttc it's unlikely we will go now for a few years!!

I can imagine, I feel like I will be like that too I guess you just have to take it for what it is and try to resist 😂 Can you keep poas for weeks and the bfp will still show? I'm clueless on that part of it!!

@S345 I would but my DS is at the chatty stage and he would tell everybody without realising what he's saying 😂 I think the plan is to keep it quiet as long as possible because we are expecting a lot of negativity.
No date for a scan yet, I'm still waiting to hear from the midwife team as it's all changed because of covid.

We're looking at 2022 now just because we've got everything booked we're not allowed! Buffet, DJ, 80+ guests 🤦🏻‍♀️
It's all just shite. I'm glad we did the legal bit though. Fingers crossed you get to at least do the legal bit in may!

We did every other I think and one on O day. I still don't believe it and I'm still POAS every other day 😂

@namechangedformyBFP how many children do you have? Have you told them about their baby brother or sister or will you wait a little longer? Do you have a date for your 12 week scan?

Ahh it's such a bugger isn't it, I must admit I've kind of gone past the point of caring now 😂 just wanna get married! We were the same with most of our balances being paid cuz originally we were May of this year and only postponed around late March so most things had been paid! We've now rescheduled for May next year and we will do it regardless of what restrictions there are. Don't blame you for getting the legal part done, when do you think you'll book your reception for?

Yes it sort of seems like you cover all basis although I think if you can do every other then a couple in a row you'd hope that would cover all bases too! Did you dtd lots to get your bfp?

Happy Friday 🥳

@S345 seems that way! This will be our last though, or we'll run out of room!

I do that too, and then I google pregnancy vs AF symptoms and they're all pretty much in both 🤦🏻‍♀️

Our wedding was postponed from April too! We rescheduled for January then decided to just do the legal bit back in October so we're just waiting to plan the reception again now. I was so annoyed as 3 days before lockdown is paid all our balances in full! Bloomin' typical. When have you rescheduled for?

I'd never heard of SMEP until recently but it makes sense. 🤞🏻 this is your month!

@namechangedformyBFP ahh that's so lovely, November was your lucky month after all ❤️

Oh she really is, last month I noted all my symptoms in my app so I could refer back to them this month. Last month I was deffo the same googling everything, thing is if you read enough you deffo can convince yourself that you're pregnant which is just not helpful 🙄 why do we torture ourselves like that?!

Yes ttc for our first, our wedding got postponed so we sort of started casually trying in April, very casual mind you, then it got postponed again to next year so we thought we better not carry on as I didn't wanna be ready to drop on our wedding day so we've literally just picked it back up in the last 2 months so I would say this is my second cycle properly ttc! I was determined to follow SMEP this month but we just dtd every other day in my fertile week and then twice in a row around ovulation so I hope that's covered it ✨

@S345 During my first pregnancy I was so laid back, I took everything in my stride so I'm trying to channel that this time.
Yeah, we've been talking about it for a while and we joked about November being our month and then bam 😂

AF is a twisty little sod. She plays tricks on us women! I've been known to google symptoms like I'm possessed. I can convince myself I'm pregnant if I google hard enough!

Are you trying for your first or do you already have children?

@namechangedformyBFP amazing if you can wait I think! You totally sound like you're taking the right approach too just one day at a time ☺️ did I read this was your first month ttc?

I will hold off until my missed period I think, I don't get a huge urge to poas because I think I have just accepted that getting a BFP doesn't come easily to everyone but I do also find that reading some threads on here almost convinces me to poas before my missed period 😂 a lot of my friends that are or have been pregnant say the same thing about it feeling like AF is coming...it's annoying that the symptoms are so similar!!

@S345 I'll wait for the standard scan probably. I'm worried but unless anything happens I'll just keep going 1 day at a time.

I'm terrible at symptom spotting but this month I was convinced everything was AF! It was only when my usually favourite foods started to make me feel a bit off that I was a bit more certain.

Are you eager to POAS or will you hold off until you miss your period do you think?