TTC after MC - November 2020 (Thread 15)

@bubblybrit but others have waited a cycle or two - it all depends on how you guys both feel xx

@bubblybrit I’m 37 next year too - OH and I started trying straight away both times as I didn’t want to feel like I was losing time x

@PumpkinEverything the lh can go dark due to pregnancy hormones. Mine came out as high a couple of days after the squinter on my frer pg - but it wasn’t as dark as my normal opks have gone before - so I’m not sure how much I trusted it! After my last mmc I ovulated on cd21, which was about 2.5 weeks after I had finished bleeding, but that mc ended naturally

I’m wondering if OPKs are working as well as normal after all this @Bellabubble or if they’re not as accurate if theres even a hint of a line of a pregnancy test. I really have no idea at all though! When did you start using them again? Because of my irregular cycles I used them last time or I’d never have been able to pinpoint ovulation, so keen to use them again!

I actually remember you saying that before now you’ve mentioned it @TheDaydreamBelievers have you got your negative test yet? It really is crazy how the advice is so different; surely they’d all be consistent 🤦‍♀️

Glad to hear you’re getting similar results @bez91 my line came up instantly this morning and got darker and darker very quickly 😩 I’ve kept it so I can compare it to next weeks when I take another one

Hi everyone, I now think i'm maybe 5-6 dpo according to when I got a peak on clear blue.
I've been testing which is crazy lol but they are DEFO negative, I'm 3 weeks past surgical managment today.
Going to try and leave it another week before I test again as that would roughly be when my period is due xx

Took another test today 13 days post procedure for MMC and still a strong positive although not as strong as last week so will test again at the weekend. Hopefully going in the right direction but it's so so deflating although kind of reassuring to know others are in the same boat.

@TheDaydreamBelievers I'm also so confused with all the conflicting advice and what ladies on here have been told. That's the first time I've heard no sex until after a period though! I think I'm ovulating as had ov pain and EWCM although tinged brown so may have missed the boat anyway before next period as I'm in two minds if we should before the test is a clear negative 🤦🏼‍♀️

@PumpkinEverything I didn’t do a test until a week and a half weeks surgical management, and that came up but feint, then I did another one which was 2.5 weeks post surgical and that was vvvvvvvvv feint! A real squinter! My surgery was 3 weeks yesterday. I’m currently not sure when I ovulated - even though I did opks and my bbt - my app says I ovulated Friday just gone - but bbt didn’t rise until Mon morn, and I usually get a big temp spike after I ovulate - my gut instinct given my history of bbt trends says it was on Sunday lol! But I think after mc things can be a bit different for the first cycle!

PS my period came exactly one month after the miscarriage bleeding x

Hi @bubblybrit and welcome to the only place where a lot of us get to talk about all this stuff! What I'd say is, you and your other half will decide when it's right to start trying again. After the bleeding stops is the only real rule.

For the rest of it, it will take time to process and grieve your loss - not only of the child but of how your thought your life was going to look in x months. This first bit is the hardest and you're doing brilliantly by writing here about it. Don't try and think about all the tracking, ovulation etc yet, it will sort itself out step by step.

I recognised every word you wrote from my own 2020 so if I can get through it, you will too xx

@Runnergirl1 it’s been so helpful scrolling through and reading so many stories of similar experiences. (And positive outcomes too!)

The hospital told me today my HCG had dropped from 200 on Saturday to 45 on Monday (when everything was pretty much over) and so they have classed it as a complete miscarriage. Relieved that at least that’s been straightforward. Just wondering how long it took everyone to get a negative pregnancy test?

When I took my test one week post MMC I got a BFP stronger and quicker than I have ever before. So it does take some time to get a negative. I’d say around 2.5-3week mark.

So sorry to see new ladies on here. Hopefully you find some comfort from ladies all in the same boat as yourself x

@PumpkinEverything so weird how much advice varies. I was strongly told to wait until after a period, and definitely until after testing negative. They said otherwise it would be hard to say if it was a new pregnancy or if there was an issue with surgery, like retained tissue causing a positive test. They actually told me not to have sex until after a period, but the leaflets they gave me say dont have sex until not bleeding and dont TTC until after next period.

Btw my test was still strong one week post surgery. As strong as before aurgery

@PumpkinEverything. I completely understand what you mean. I’m not really looking forward to worrying about cycle length, ovulation, symptoms etc. Find it so stressful. I know I should take it one day at a time but I can never do it when I’m in the midst of everything.

@bubblybrit my cycles ranged from 34-45 days before I got my BFP so I feel a bit reluctant to wait as I don’t know how long it’s going to take for AF to next arrive 😩 I imagine it’ll be an even longer wait this month.
I’m exactly the same as you, I found it hard to get excited with my pregnancy as I was so worried that something would go wrong all the time as I’m a worrier too. I know I’ll be the same next time (which I hope there is a next time) but trying to tell myself already to just take each day as it comes and not stress as it’s not good for me!

Hi @PumpkinEverything. I think my DH is a little cautious so might be weary about trying so soon after our loss. I think I’ll wait until my first period arrives and then have a conversation with him. It will likely be 2021 by then so hoping it’s a better year!

I dislike the TTC journey in general but will definitely not be able to relax when I (hopefully) see a BFP again!

I’m clearly getting ahead of myself but I’m a worrier by nature anyway.

Welcome @bubblybrit 😊 glad to see you on here. I mentioned to my husband that I wanted to start trying again once I was physically ready and he said he was glad as he was too scared to ask as he didn’t want me to feel pressured. Once the bleeding/spotting has stopped for me we’ll see how it goes 😊

Sorry I also meant to ask how long did it take for your period to return after your miscarriage? The staff nurse said it could be any time between 2 and 6 weeks so just wanted to see if that sounds about right from those who have experienced it.

I’ve not broached the subject of TTC again with DH as feels too soon but I’m also 37 next year and desperately want a baby.

When did it feel like the right time to start again?

@PumpkinEverything directed me to this page - thank you.

I went for a private scan on Saturday that showed baby had stopped growing at 6+4 (I was expecting to be 10+6). Although they booked a rescan I wasn’t overly hopeful.

I started to miscarry on Sunday evening so called the EPU. They booked me for a scan today and confirmed that I had had a complete miscarriage.

I’m grateful that I didn’t need further intervention but I’m feeling so sad and lost.

At nearly 11 weeks I felt in a good place and had started to plan ahead for a future that involved a toddler and newborn. Everything I ‘planned’ has been taken away so cruelly.

I know that DH and I can try again once everything settles down but feels too raw at DH the moment to even consider that now.

I’ve not read this thread from the beginning yet but I’m so sorry for everyone going through this. It is truly the worst thing I have experienced.

Thank you @NI101 after surgery I was only advised to use protection if we didn’t watch to conceive yet as I could be more fertile, but they actually didn’t tell me to wait, so I haven’t been sure! I will wait until the bleeding has stopped for sure, but didn’t know if I would have to wait for a negative test or not.

@Hopefulmummie you can certainly ovulate whilst still receiving a positive test according to my extensive googling skills. In a situation like yours, i would suggest waiting for AF and then do a test to confirm.

@PumpkinEverything the docs recommend you wait until a negative test/your first period before trying again in order to date the new pregnancy accurately. Personally, we started TTC as soon as I stopped bleeding which was around CD7 (CD1 was first day of MC bleeding).

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Thank you. Spoken to G.p , says higher risk as over 35 so might just be one of those things but has also booked me a blood test to check thyroid and is referring me for a pelvic scan xx

@MgW1 I am so sorry this has happened to you. Sending lots of love and hugs ❤️

@Mumsdaily eeeeek such exciting news! So happy for you, that is amazing ⭐️

@Mumsdaily Forgot to say wonderful bfp! Fingers and toes crossed it continues well for you xx