TTC after MC - November 2020 (Thread 15)

@anon0704
Its impossible isnt it! It completely affects your fertility. I have friends who have been through similar and got pregnant quickly to begin with but then after mc its taken longer - maybe twice as long but have all got there in the end and had healthy children.
I have had bad hair and acne post miscarriage so i know its all stress related! We will get there 💪
I deffo want an early scan around 8 weeks. Only thing is il want my husband to come and if things are like they are i don't think he would be able to ao would get a private one done. Might even have 12 week privately as well. Aftwr what happened before i cant face a scan on my own again 😔 xx

[quote MgW1]@anon0704
I know how you feel about being anxious and early scans. I found out at my scan , although i had re arranged it and found out at nearly 14 weeks that there was no heart beat - it measured 12 weeks. Getting pregnant is the first step , its the rest of the pregnancy which will make me anxious! When was your blighted ovum? Iv just done my first clear blue opk and got high fertility. Due to ovulate thurs / fri 🤞🏻 xxx[/quote]
Hey, my BO was at the beginning of April, and then I thought it was done but ended up with a massive bleed at the beginning of May, so it was about three more weeks of bleeding after that.

We only really started trying again in July/August after taking some time to heal, so I'm only really coming up to cycle 5 of trying. Still immensely nervous and upset and stressed, but trying to keep myself calm cause I know stress isn't good for baby making. How can you not be stressed though?

@anon0704
I know how you feel about being anxious and early scans. I found out at my scan , although i had re arranged it and found out at nearly 14 weeks that there was no heart beat - it measured 12 weeks. Getting pregnant is the first step , its the rest of the pregnancy which will make me anxious! When was your blighted ovum? Iv just done my first clear blue opk and got high fertility. Due to ovulate thurs / fri 🤞🏻 xxx

I'm trying OPKs this month, so crossing fingers. Doing the SMEP too. A little worried as our m/c was a blighted ovum at 12 weeks, found on the 12-week ultrasound. I'm hoping with my anxiety, we'll be able to get an early scan even though this is my first m/c.

@susiebluebell I know exactly what you mean! This site is the only place that I feel like I’m not alone in what I’m feeling. As much as everyone around me can try and help it hasn’t happened to them it’s happened to me.

Hello and welcome @NMH19 and @NatNoo96 I'm so sorry you both find yourselves here. I've found the experience of mc and trying to conceive quite lonely, despite having had wonderful support (my mc was in August at 5 weeks and was my first pregnancy). People quickly move on and stop asking you about it, I suppose with good intentions, but for me it's not like [first pregnancy] and then [second pregnancy] with nothing in between, I've been on a continuous cycle of being aware of what my body is doing ever since. And this thread has been a real lifeline 😊

@NMH19 I’m at a similar stage to you! Coming up to a year ttc, and 2 miscarriages. I was lucky and had a Dr get the ball rolling for fertiltiy tests, but there’s different tests they will do for recurrent miscarriages and they only do them after 3 in a row because apparently 2 in a row can still be just “bad luck” which I think is just plain crazy!! I’m attempting to see if my Dr will do some of the blood test for recurrent miscarriages early for me, I’m going to play the age card!

@HappyVibes I’ll wait to the end of this cycle and if nothing 100% will contact my GP. Thank you xx

Hi @NMH19 sorry for your losses. If you are in the UK, the NHS do allow for testing after 1 year of TTC, I’m not sure if where you are from is under the NHS. If it is, if you to your GP they should be able to refer you to gynae to start the testing xxxx

Hi ladies

Firstly I’m so sorry for all of your losses, I hope you don’t mind me joining as this has been a very isolating and long journey.

I’m coming out to a year of ttc and have had 2 losses around the same gestation, 5-6weeks. Where I am from unless you have heavy bleeding or require hospital treatment they do nothing to after a 3rd loss. So I’ve never had blood tests or a scan and sometimes I wonder was I dreaming and all I have are pictures of my clear blue digital tests.
My last loss was 10 July. I hope you don’t mind me joining. I have got some comfort from knowing I’m not alone when I read your posts.❤️Xx

@Furbsies sorry about that :/ now you have a cause for the pain so that's good news, always good to have answers.

Good luck with next cycle! Fingers crossed for you and i hope you are doing ok

@msg92 hey haven't updated in a while. AF arrived. So out for this cycle. Scan showed a large cyst on my right ovary, I guess that's the cause of the pain.

Other than that. Its going okay. Trying a new make of inositol this cycle.

@HappyVibes thank you! The strip one is just a femometer brand cheapy

Thanks ladies, I don't see anything on the frer either. I took the pic of the IC quite a while after I did the test though so it's possibly an evap line. I guess a frer in the next few days will tell me for sure. Last months bfp I didn't get anything on any tests until 12dpo so still early days 🤞🏻

@SS123456 I can see it on the strip maybe but not the FRER. But use FMU if you are going to test early. Fingers crossed for you.

@Furbsies did AF arrive or are you still in the game?

@SS123456 I can definitely see a line on the strip one. I can’t see anything on the FRER, but definitely on the strip one I can see something. What’s the strip one? I would retest with an FRER on Tuesday xxxx

@SS123456 I can’t see anything on the frer but maybe something on the ic 🤞🏻 X

Ladies can I use your line eyes?! This is an IC from this afternoon at 9dpo. I did a frer this morning (crazy early for testing I know!) which to me didn't even have a squinter but I'm doubting myself now! 🙈. Thanks!

@Bellabubble hopefully they will be able to share some advice sooner rather than later with you re steps forward of how to progress. It doesn’t sound bad at all re wanting to try again, I fully feel ya on that front!

Oh I see, sorry I misunderstood, I meant to go through all of them testings - that’s exactly what I’ve just had, so so many different type of bloods and scans etc. It’s good that you know which ones you need now so definitely ask for those even if it’s just for piece of mind.

💓💫

@Runnergirl1 thank you. I’m doing ok - well I have come to terms with the fact that it’s another mc, but the waiting for things to happen is really anxiety inducing! I’m at that stage now where I want to go..ok..it happened, wasn’t great, but we can start again - you feel like your heading in the right direction then! We’re also due observations at school the week after next and for the first time ever I feel like it will be what tips me over the edge! I’m normally pretty chill about observations too!

@HappyVibes I think from what the lady that did my scan was saying (she is also a midwife - so I lucked out to get a private scan with a trained midwife!) when Dr’s test for fertility, it is to check you can fall pregnant, but it doesn’t check some of the key things that can be an issue for recurrent miscarriages, and they only check these after 3 in a row. Luckily both scans (from previous mc and this one) showed that I had no blockages/cysts etc and my uterus was the correct shape (apparently shape can be an issue in recurrent mc too) but the cd3 and 21 bloods don’t check vit D, B12 or sticky blood syndrome (APS). I just need to check they did my thyroid bloods when they took my cd21 bloods - as thyroid problems is another one linked to recurrent mc. After that we’re getting into the realms of just pure bad luck, or oh and I don’t match genetically..but apparently that is actually quite rare, and even then they can do things to help with that! I know it sounds bad, but I just want to be able to get back to trying again so I feel like I’m doing something instead of waiting! x

@NatNoo96 welcome to the group! I'm really sorry to hear about your loss but you are in good company in here with people who understand what you are going through. I also miscarried at 5 weeks last month and it is devastating. We had been trying for 14 months with no luck so finally thought we had got there!

Sorry for the essay ! 🙈

I hope you don’t mind me joining? I have been hoping to find some in a similar position to myself as feel quite isolated currently. I had a early miscarriage at the beginning of November at only 5 weeks. We had only been trying for 1 month and I fell pregnant straight away and we were over the moon then obviously absolutely devastated when I miscarried. After my blood test this Wednesday to confirm hcg is back at 0 (it was only at 300 the first week and had dropped to 27 by last week so I’m pretty confident it should be back at 0 by Wednesday) we are looking to start trying again straight away. I feel so anxious it will happen again but I want a baby now more than anything. Would love to join this thread and hopefully have a happy journey this time with you all

@MSG92 im going to meet my miracle as its the nearest one to me. They only offer abdominal scans. Thats why I've booked it just after im 7 weeks gone as if youre before 7 weeks they say, you may not see anything.
Completely understand you wanting to book a scan before 12 weeks, go for it :) xx

@griff2019
Sorry got confused with what sort of scan your having! I havent conceived yet. Just concerned things arent right post mc. So many of you on here at different stages - hard to keep up 🙈!! Xx