TTC after MC - November 2020 (Thread 15)

Hey ladies, completely relate to these feelings. We thought the scan getting brought forward would mean an early Christmas present/surprise for our families! 😔

However, thank you again for sharing your experiences. This group has been so helpful for me these past few days, especially in terms of what happens after etc! 😘 I'm sorry you've all experienced this, but I can't thank you all enough either! 😘

I've been experiencing what is like a light-medium period with some clots. Not looking forward to Wednesday. However, DH and I have decided to just be us two for Christmas this year, and have takeaway, party food, and Netflix all day! Just building in "small things to look forward to"! 😍

Sending much love and positive thoughts to you all! 😘 Remember to give yourselves some extra TLC and treats this Christmas! 😘

Hi ladies a I’ve been silent for a while - craweld past the finish post at school and got a delightful head cold so feeling very gross!! Does anyone have any advice for what to expect AF wise post surgical management?

I’m 4 weeks post surgical management today - and have been spotting very lightly since Thursday eve (never used to happen before I had my first mc in Feb but now seems to be my new pre-af thing!) but it normally gets heavier each day - it hasn’t really, today is the “heaviest”, but still no where near filling a pad, almost like you get at the tail end of AF really. I don’t know if this is going to be it for this month - and if so what day I should class as cd1..which I want to get right so I can track ovulation as accurately as possible next month! Last time because things happened naturally, I got AF and although it was shorter than normal, it aas definitely full flow. I’m also wondering whether it is possible that I had an anovulatory cycle so it isn’t a proper bleed - especially as I have had none of my AF symptoms. Sorry for such a long post lol! I hope everyone is doing as well as they can be in the current climate - sending positive thoughts to you all xx

@bez91 I was going to tell my son who's 5.5 and always asking for dc3 tomorrow afternoon when he finished school, and now I can't even progress with whatever treatment might be needed because of the time of year, such crap!

@TheDaydreamBelievers ahh that's annoying, if it's faint like you say it's just probably taking some time to work out of your system.

Totally get the pain over Christmas too @bubblybrit and @elsimo 💕 my 12 week scan should have been a couple of weeks ago, our DD (3) tells us almost daily for about 18 months she wants a baby brother or sister and we were going to tell her Christmas Day, she'd have been so so excited. Love to everyone

@PumpkinEverything I will probably leave it until after xmas and see what happens. They wont do anything over xmas anyways. Might just be taking a while to wind it's way down

Argh that’s so annoying @TheDaydreamBelievers are you supposed to ring them or what did they advise?

I feel exactley the same!! My 12 week scan should have been fri so I should have been telling everyone we had twins on the way!
Instead my period is on its way! Only good thing is thats pretty much exactley 4 weeks since surgical management so at least my bodies doing what I should.
This is also my first xmas without my Dad !
This is all being made much harder for us because of this bloody virus.
Big love to everyone xxx

@TheDaydreamBelievers. That’s exactly how I feel. My DH isn’t really opening up and just going about his day. That also concerns me. I’m painting on a happy face for my DD as she is loving all the lights, tree and presents. Inside though I just want to curl up into a ball until 2021.

Meant to say I feel the same about xmas and my husband is really struggling. This was meant to be our time to get cosy and dream up names and rub the tiniest little bump and now it's nothing.

Same faint line at 3 weeks 🙄🙄🙄. Greattt. Also I smell awful, not sure what hormonal nonsense that is (I wash every day so it isnt and hygiene!!!)

@Garman and @PumpkinEverything. I think that’s what I’m really struggling with at the minute. I was so full of joy and excitement about what this Christmas would bring and feel like it’s all been taken away. It will just be the three of us rather than having family round and announcing a new arrival 😞

Oh and my boss has postponed a scheduled call as he is away to see his ‘little wriggler’ at a 20 week scan. He was mortified when the words came out but it still stung.

@PumpkinEverything I'll test again Wednesday being 3 weeks post procedure. Fingers crossed for you tomorrow and you @TheDaydreamBelievers today 🤞🏼

Fingers crossed it’s a clear negative tomorrow @TheDaydreamBelievers my guess is it will be if your last one was so faint 😊

@Garman @bubblybrit I feel your pain 😔 my dad lives in England (I’m in NI) and I only see him a few times a year. He was over visiting this weekend and it had worked out perfectly that I was going to finally be able to tell him news in person instead of over the phone, and it was going to be the best type. I’m trying to not let it get to me, but I’m hating other peoples announcements right now because I keep thinking that should have been me.

@bubblybrit same here, we had planned on telling family over Christmas when we'll see them because 12 week scan was supposed to be last week, instead I had my follow up appointment for miscarriage that day. It definitely magnifies the crapness.

@PumpkinEverything browny watery bleeding every day for 2 weeks and proper heavy red bleeding on 2 of those days. Then just stopped dead! Time to test again tomorrow as will be 3 weeks after. Week 1 test was as positive as pre-surgery, week 2 was very weak (needed a torchlight to see), let's see what week 3 brings

Was yours proper bleeding or mostly spotting @TheDaydreamBelievers ? Everytime I think it’s done, it’s not 🤦‍♀️

@bez91@PumpkinEverything we will go back to DTD now I've stopped bleeding and will TTC again after next period

Hi @Acebobase. I’m so sorry that you find yourself here. I had a MMC on the 13th Dec where I would have been 11 weeks (baby stopped growing at 6 weeks though according to the scan I had on the 12th). It would have also been my second baby.

I’m finding everything so much harder with Xmas round the corner as we had planned to tell our families on Xmas Day.

It truly is rubbish.

Great @bez91 😁 when are you doing a PT again? I’ll be two weeks on Tuesday and I’m not looking forward to testing again as I’m so sure it’s going to be a clear line 🤦‍♀️ Did an OPK today because I’ve been having some ovulation type cramps, but seems too early for them. It was a positive result; but not peak

@PumpkinEverything yes absolutely fine 😊

Thanks @Garman I’ve seen your posts 😔 sorry you’re going through all this so close to Christmas as well.

@PumpkinEverything you can ttc as soon as the bleeding has stopped. We had restarted 2 weeks after miscarriage but I now know that it wasn't considered complete yet so no chance of conceiving with too thick lining.

Hi, can I join?

Had a 'natural' miscarriage on 12 Dec in my 12th week. Would have been our second.

I have pcos so used/will use clomid

Still feels so very raw...

Oh great! That’s really good to know @bez91 and everything has been fine for you? We haven’t done it since I conceived so it’s been a while... it’s now on my mind a lot 😂🙈

Hey @PumpkinEverything I'm only a week ahead of you from the surgical management and the first few times we DTD we just used condoms when I was spotting just as you described, I think the risk of infection is very low anyway. We're not actively trying this month because my PTs are still faint positives so don't want to track ov as no idea where my cycle is but like you want to be close to DH. When we were waiting for all the rescans etc we daren't even DTD so we're just having fun catching up 🙈