The Turkey Baster Gang (gobble gobble)

@restingwitchface86 I inserted standing up, with one foot on the bed. Haven't tried lying down, a lot of woman recommend it but it just didn't feel right for me. Maybe you can practice with some lubricant both positions and see if/when you have leakage?

@eloiseislost Thank you! It's amazing how simple the diagrams make it look, but when you're trying to feel around up there it's a whole different story, haha! I'll try not to panic about any leakage... can I ask if you found it easier to insert lying down or standing up?

@DinkBoo Did you reheat it or do you drink it cold? I'm one of those weird people that drinks beverages at any temperature! 😅
I will feel better once I've had my booking appointment and a scan to make sure that all is OK. For now, it doesn't feel 100% real.
DH wants to spend Christmas with his family but I'm apprehensive, it's not like covid will take a break! Vaccine is just around the corner, part of me just wants a safe, rather than a family Christmas… We'll see! 🎅🏻

@restingwitchface86 You are very welcome!
Looking at anatomical diagrams helped me understand that the cervix is not a continuation of the vagina, but rather it sits on top of it. So that means, if you insert the cup correctly, the swimmers will have nowhere to go but through the cervix! 🤞🏼
I have to also say, every time I inserted a soft cup with swimmers in it, there was some leakage, and yet it worked just fine, so try to be relaxed, it only takes one! 😉

@eloiseislost I'm just finishing the one DH made for me about 4 hours ago!

Glad you're doing ok!
Hope you're able to get some decent relaxing in, in between the panickiness.

You have my sympathy on that score. I keep panicking about Christmas now we are allowed to mix. I love my family, but I also kind of just want to hibernate here (away from a hot house, cooking and other smells, and a ten minute walk from the epu).

@eloiseislost Thank you so much! That diagram definitely helps - so technically it should be impossible to trap the swimmers in the softcup and miss my cervix? I think this sounds like a great route to take then and I'm glad my donor suggested it!

Hi and welcome @restingwitchface86 😃
I switched from syringes to softcups on the 3rd TTC cycle and it worked!
I think I understand your concern, but if you tuck the rim behind your pubic bone and it does not move or leak thereafter, it means it's sitting where it is supposed to.
The fact that you can't find your cervix can be down to many factors, even the length of your fingers. Your cervix sits on top of the end of the vaginal canal and the soft cup sits against it -I don't know if the attached diagram is of any help.
Best of luck! 🧚🏼‍♀️

Hi ladies! Never posted in this thread before but I have a quick question which I'm hoping doesn't sound too silly...

I'm self inseminating with the help of a donor (no partner for me, going the single mum route before all my eggs dry up!) and it's going to be my second cycle soon. First go I used a syringe, my donor has suggested softcup for the second cycle.

Now here comes the very silly question. My donor (who is a doctor) said I should practice finding my cervix and inserting the softcup, checking to ensure it's covering my cervix. I have no idea what's going on inside my lady bits but I cannot find my cervix at all - I'm very tall (almost 6ft) and I'm wondering if perhaps my fingers just aren't long enough, but I've tried at different stages of my cycle and I just can't find it.

What I CAN do perfectly easily is insert a softcup, they're no problem for me. What I'm concerned about though, is that I'll insert the softcup and somehow miss my cervix - I'm concerned I'll kind of trap the semen from entering my cervix if I can't confirm that it's covering it. At least with a syringe I don't have to worry about inadvertently trapping the swimmers from entering my cervix in the first place!

So my question is... is this possible? If my cervix is particularly high, is it possible that the softcup will be too short and 'cut off' my cervix and trap the swimmers away from it? This feels like such a silly and embarrassing question but if I'm being honest, I don't really understand where the softcup sits inside me and I'm just paranoid of using it and doing things wrong!

Thanks so much to anyone who can help and I hope you're all having lovely relaxing Sundays! x

+1 for the bedtime Yorkshire tea, I'm actually having a cuppa right now @DinkBoo 🫖

@Oilyoilyoilgob I'm OK, thank you for asking! 🙂
A bit panicky about everything these days, covid, the pregnancy, Christmas being so different, etc. Trying to take deep breaths and only worry about things I have control over… which is not much really! 🤷🏻‍♀️

@MrsKin90 re the aspirin, that's particularly impressively non-sensical!

I'm glad you're feeling okay re AF, hopefully the arsing around this month was just your body keeping you on your toes and making sure you don't have too little to think about

Now I want Chinese... Thanks @Oilyoilyoilgob !

Good luck for the feline MRI.

for everyone in fact, just because

Re decaf drinks: I love Yorkshire Teas bedtime brew (with vanilla and nutmeg) in the evening and Taylors rose lemonade is amazing hot or cold, it actually tastes of the things it's supposed to and makes a really strong brew. (I make my classy posh tea in a Sports Direct mug/bucket as the bags are so strong )

@Lori23TTC I've never had one but I know a few people who have! Sometimes people get pregnant after them as it clears things out? My friend had to take two days off work after as very crampy, but said the procedure itself was fine. Fingers crossed it isn't needed and you get a bfp in a few days 🤞🤞

@DinkBoo that sounds frustrating! Why are these things so difficult when those are quite common things for pregnant people to need?! I remember my friend couldn't get a prescription for the low dose asprin she'd been told she had to take by the doctor as she "could buy it OTC" but they wouldn't give it her without one... So I went and got it from the pharmacy and said it was for my dad for something he has and they gave it to me! But they asked if I was pregnant first as they couldn't give it me if I was 😂 what a joke.

@Oilyoilyoilgob I hope you're managing to have a more relaxed weekend and not worry too much. Unfortunately worrying really doesn't solve anything does it? But I know it can't be helped. Still sending lots of hugs.

After my bit of spotting on 26/11 my rhr and temperature went back up for two days ☹️ but has now come all the way down today and AF started last night so this is CD2 for me? I'm a bit concerned about how my LP went on a bit and everything went up very promisingly and then came down, but I'm not going to dwell.
I'm okay weirdly? And I didn't even cry. Very bizarre. I've ordered some vaginal applicators to see if they make a difference and will not be hoping provides an amazing distraction and i forget all about TTC/my tww which I'll hopefully be in then.

Fingers crossed for some happy news for everybody 🤞😊

@Oilyoilyoilgob I'm so sorry about your cat, I truly hope the vet is able to provide some relief -whether that means here on this Earth, or in a better place. You are doing the absolute best for this wee soul, never doubt that. My thoughts are with you, I know the pain. Virtual hug 🤗

Nice to read everyone's updates, still lurking here, I love how lively this thread is and a warm welcome to all the new members! 🙂

Now let me tell you all of the saga of the quest to get a high dose folic acid prescription standing at 2 hours, which consists of 2 phone calls with a trip to the pharmacy in between.

@Oilyoilyoilgob sorry I missed a page again! Oh your poor cat 🐈‍⬛ I’m keeping my fingers crossed.. it’s the worst thing to go through the love we have for our pets is so strong 💙🐾 keep us updated sending you love x

@DinkBoo glad little bean is all good... keep rested ❤️ Xxx

@MrsKin90 sorry to hear about the spotting 💙 I hope you are ok...

I’m DPO7 so little while for me to go!

At least it’s Friday I hope everyone can have a stress free weekend! If I’m not pregnant his cycle I have to call the fertility clinic and if they can fit me in I have to have a Hysterosalpingography, or HSG test. Really doesn’t sound pleasant but is anything in ttc?! Has anyone had this? Xx

@Oilyoilyoilgob I'll be hoping for the best for you and little cat today. My heart really goes out to you honestly. What a heartbreaking situation to be in. Let yourself have as many tears as you need to. ❤️ Sending lots of hugs your way.

@DinkBoo how very confusing for you! I'm glad to hear all is well with little bean right now, hopefully the empty sac will be gone by the time you have your next scan!

When I lose track of the thread I just chime back in wherever it is currently and hope I haven't missed anything too important 😂

@Oilyoilyoilgob I'm so sorry!

I'll be thinking of you and sending you all my virtual support.

I hope everything goes as gently as it possibly can.

I officially cannot keep up with you guys anymore!

Still reading and crossing my fingers for you all.

Just a quick update, had a very worrying bleed Tuesday am which I thought was bean and/or empty sac going. Hence being crap at posting.

Bean still there and growing, measuring 6.4 weeks (which I think is right from dtd dates).

Empty sac also still there, and now officially being described as an empty sac, which may or may not be worrying (as it is still there, that may indicate 'something worrying' is stopping it being reabsorbed) but they were happy to discharge me to midwife for now, as long as I keep worrying

(I love the NHS with all my heart but man are they great at emotional rollercoasters at times, understandably, but still)

@Oilyoilyoilgob it was in the old thread you mentioned AF! On 31/10 you said... "I’m starting my period today"? Thank you for your kindness and suggestions for the glasses and heat pad! I'm going to look up both 😂 is it terrible that I'm a bit jealous you eat less when stressed?! I'm not jealous of the actual stress of course, but I'm definitely an eater in those situations! 🐖
Happy Friday to everyone!!
Can't believe we've only had this new thread since the start of November.

@primrosechill thank you ❤️ I had my hopes a bit TOO high this cycle! I think next cycle I'll just focus on surviving it rather than getting excited 😂 if I O at the same time as this cycle I'll be due AF Xmas day so that'll be a killer!

@MrsKin90 I’m sorry to hear that - screw AF! I know you had your hopes up this time round. It really really sucks - enjoy the wine lovely ❤️🍷