Any mums in 40's ttc?

Hi all
I’m 41 and trying for no.2. My DD is 12months. I fell the first month of trying back in March/April but unfortunately miscarried in June at 10 weeks.
I had a miscarriage before my DD to, so hoping the next one sticks like she did.

@kirinm so ubiquinol is a supplement you can take that helps with lots of things but most importantly can help improve egg quality in older ladies.

You don’t need a prescription, it’s not cheap to buy, but worth it IMO. I buy mine from Nature’s best. The capsules are 100mg and I take 2 a day as 200mg daily is a recommended dose.

www.naturesbest.co.uk/co-q10/co-q10/ubiquinol-100mg/?src=GONATO&gclid=Cj0KCQjwreT8BRDTARIsAJLI0KKpSMZnwSOcI15JmwSeLSMTC3VGETqjl5TzGhCshKUrQ6Oew6dlNd0aAuNrEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

I’ve been trying to conceive my 3rd dc since I was 40. I was 46 last weekend and that was my cut off. I’m so sad.
We had all the tests going and were given the reason as unexplained infertility as all was ok.
My two other dc were with my exH and my new partner and I wanted one together as he has no children of his own, although he adores mine but they are 16 & 14. I was with hi. Since they were 9 &11 but he missed out on all the baby years, he’d make such a great dad.

I'm 42 and trying. I had my DD when I was 40 and stupidly assumed it wouldn't be too difficult. I've had two chemical pregnancies since we started ttc about 8 or 9 months ago now.

Can anyone tell me about ubiquinol? What is it and is it prescribed? Thanks

@timeforanother1 I don’t feel much of an expert but sadly know more than I hoped I would ever need to! But of course feel free to ask anything 😊

As for the soy you can buy tablets. I just take Tesco own brand. They’re stocked with all the other vitamins and are usually with other vitamins to treat menopause symptoms.

The tablets each contain 40mg of soy. It’s recommended to take them either cd1-5, 2-6, 3-7, 4-8 or 5-9. The earlier you take them the likelier you are to bring ovulation forward but also produce more eggs. But the egg won’t necessarily be the most mature and ready. The later you take them will ensure the best most mature egg, but won’t necessarily bring ovulation forward at all. 3-7 is often said to be the best days as its middle ground and the best of both worlds. Slightly earlier ovulation whilst still ensuring a healthy mature egg is released.

I have always taken them cd3-7 and it’s always brought my ovulation forward noticeably. I take 4 tablets (160mg) days 3 and 4, then 5 tablets (200mg) days 5, 6, and 7. (Those doses are the equivalent of taking clomid).

@timeforanother1
Yes keep your fingers crossed please, I’ve convinced myself I’m pregnant already although it might all be in my head and I can’t test for another 5 days!
Yes I couldn’t face it straight away after MC, and then we decided to wait a bit longer as our daughter is a handful :-)
Good luck next month if you try, let us know how you get on xxx

Hi :-) Yes, I’m 42, with a 4 year old DD. I also had a MC 2 years ago. Both times - with DD (I was 37) and with the MC (I was 40) I got pregnant quite quickly, but now I’m 42, who knows :-) We’ve decided we’ll give it 18 months to see - I’m on cycle 1 of properly trying now and I’m on the 2WW :-) Good luck! :-) xxx

Oh and I don’t drink alcohol at all anyway, and have never drank tea/coffee etc, never smoked, so nothing to cut out there. There’s nothing I’m not eating, but am trying to just generally eat more healthily. I could do with losing a few lbs!

@timeforanother1 I’ve said I’m happy to keep ttc until I hit 40 then I’ll call it a day. That will be 3 years trying by then and I’m not sure I could manage any longer. 13 months so far has been torturous at times!

I had tried ttc multivitamins but found they messed with my cycles and made them longer. So I take separate folic acid, separate vit d and then the ubiquinol capsules too.

I had been tracking ovulation using opk’s but found it stressful not knowing when to start testing each month (as my cycles can vary a little), and I’d often miss catching my peak. So 2 months ago I bit the bullet and bought the OvuSense monitor. I’d never wanted to chart bbt as I don’t always sleep well and know I couldn’t commit to taking my temp at the same time each day so it would never be reliable. The monitor takes all that stress out. I just pop it in at night before going to sleep and it tracks my core body temp throughout the night and then I take it out in the morning and then link it to my phone and it gives me my temp. It predicts ovulation window and then confirms ovulation day etc.

I’ve also tried soy isoflavones a few cycles. I had noticed my ovulation was often quite late (cd18-22) and soy works like natural clomid by bringing ovulation earlier. It worked for me and brought it forward to cd13-16. Stupidly this cycle I thought I’d try a natural cycle and see what my body would do, but I’m currently cd16 and nothing so far which is annoying. I’ll be back on the soy next cycle!

I really hope you have more luck than I have so far! I think because it happened so easily for me with my schedule, I assumed it would this time!

I’m in the older bracket at 39 and ttc. My dh is in his 50’s though so I’ve promised I won’t hold my breath and try to be realistic. I have 1 ds who’s 4 and I’d dearly love another. Wish I’d started sooner really. We started last month so fingers crossed

Hiya, I’m not quite 40 yet, I’m 38, but still definitely within that ‘older’ age bracket.

I have 3dc already from a previous relationship all conceived very easily, but the last one was when I was only 32.

I’ve fallen pregnant a few times with my dp, a miscarriage at 9 weeks back in January, and then 2 chemicals in March and June.

We’ve had fertility tests done to check all is well and everything was great. All my blood results were great, indicating a good strong ovulation. Scans showed good egg reserve and follicles etc. Dp had a semen analysis and all was great there too, although he’s only 30.

We’ve been ttc now for 13 months and it’s likely just down to my age and my eggs being of poorer quality, so just a case of keep trying and hope I still have 1 or 2 ‘good’ eggs left that will implant and stick.

I take a higher dose of folic acid, vit d, and 200mg of ubiquinol (to help improve egg quality).

Good luck with your journey! Hope it’s nowhere near as long as mine! X