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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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AF should have arrived Thursday eeek

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Timetotry123 · 19/10/2020 10:15

Hi

I have been trying for over a year and have had my first consultation with the fertility clinic last week. AF was due Thursday and hasn’t showed up and I haven’t had my usual pre af spotting. I am terrified to test I don’t know why I think I don’t want to be disappointed. Has anyone else felt like this. I was think of waiting until I’m a week late would this cause any harm if it were to be a bfp how quickly should you get in touch with your doctor if I were to be pregnant what is the first steps?

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TheDaydreamBelievers · 19/10/2020 11:20

Hi @Timetotry123 I can understand your test anxiety. As long as you follow the food/drink advice for pregnancy, they only really need you to book in about week 6 (2 weeks after missed AF) as that gives time to arrange the week 9 midwife appt

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Timetotry123 · 19/10/2020 11:19

I’ve always been getting cramping like af is about to arrive and my boobs are sore which is all normal before af for me.

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Timetotry123 · 19/10/2020 11:15

Lol I’m just bad at disappointment, I have tests in my drawer just waiting for the day I would get by af’s due date but now I’m in this situation I’m freaking out.

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Timetotry123 · 19/10/2020 11:14

I have been taking that for over a year now anyway as I had a deficiency in it. I take vitamin c,d, B6 folic acid and zinc. At the first app last week they said they think my partners sperm count was low (12mil) but would need to do another test. I think it would be a little miracle if I was. I’ve never been late I’m just very anxious to test because if I am I’m worried something will go wrong. But I guess that’s normal wether I test or not. Sorry I just needed somewhere to blurt out my feelings lol

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Waiting4another · 19/10/2020 11:11

Totally normal to be scared by the way and you are a very patient human if you have been trying for a year without testing - go you!

Waiting4another · 19/10/2020 11:09

If you are not taking folic acid, do start now, it is important for development very early on x

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 19/10/2020 11:00

I hope this is it for you.

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Timetotry123 · 19/10/2020 10:50

Yes I ovulated on the 30th September going by the clearblue digital ov test. I don’t smoke and drink maybe once or twice a year lol. I have checked up on the foods just Incase. I’m 34 so time is ticking, we are both scared I think but really want it. Hearing of chemical pregnancies makes me want to make sure if it is there it’s stuck. I have never tested before as I’ve always been worried to test before af is due and I usually have the spotting as a tell tale sign. I think I will wait until a week late and then test.

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Waiting4another · 19/10/2020 10:29

As long as you avoid alcohol, smoking and the foods that you should not be having in pregnancy, and as long as you are taking folic acid (and iron), you should be fine not testing and not finding out until you are ready to.
It is reasonable to not want to be disappointed, especially if you have been trying for a while, stress can cause AF to be late too...
Fingers crossed for you though, good luck!

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 19/10/2020 10:29

Test!

Do you know when you ovulated?

BabyMoonPie · 19/10/2020 10:23

And whether you test or not makes no difference to if you're pregnant or not! The waiting is the hard bit but you are several days late so it's reasonable to put yourself out of your misery

BabyMoonPie · 19/10/2020 10:21

Test! You're late so test! You probably don't need to contact your GP - most areas are self referral to the midwife. If you are pregnant look at the NHS website for foods to avoid. I hope its a positive test