TTC 8 months in, still early days but starting to feel more and more every time AF arrives

@CausingChaos2 let us know how it goes. Glad your ultrasound came back normal too!
I am 15dpo. My AF did not come yesterday but I have many times had it come late or in the night so I fully expected it this morning. I haven't been to the loo for ages as I'm scared to look.
My stomach is really aching and cramping today so I am sure it's coming and just late.
I don't actually have any tests either so that's why I haven't done any. I will leave it a while if it didn't show as I feel like id be tempting fate if I went and bought one. Silly I know but I used to find the negatives awful!

Lovely to see the babies are doing well. Very excited for you both MJM and yorkie

I’m ok thanks Lovebug just plodding along. I had my pelvic ultrasound which came back as normal. Referral has now been made to fertility clinic, although I’m a little confused as thought the first referral would be to the local hospital to check for gynae issues. Instead I’m being sent straight to the clinic.

How are you? Whereabouts are you in your cycle?

@MJM1608 thankyou. I can't even imagine it happening now but I am hoping I'll be surprised so badly!
@Izzie94 did your SIL AF come? I'd be the same, happy for them but it's devestating for you. Especially when it feels they have got it so quickly. If it has happened, I really hope your okay and I'm sending you love ❤️

How is everyone on this thread doing?

@MJM1608 ohhhhh lovely I am so SO happy for you 🥰🤰 how amazing. I really hope I get to experience it once in my life!!! Always wanted 2/3 kids and now I’d be grateful for one haha. I’m going to get DH to call his doctors at the end of this cycle to do a sperm test. It’s the only thing we haven’t had done!! I’m really hoping this year is my year. Please keep us updated, I LOVE it!!!!

@30somethingyorkie ahhhh so amazing 😍 I love hearing all your stories, I’m so glad you ladies are not still on this long ass journey with us. I’m ready to give up 🤣 but I’m glad you’re well and keeping them babies safe.

@Lovebug06 we got some last month but kept forgetting to use it haha! I haven’t had my static smiley yet BUT I’m going to use it this month!!🤞🏼 I may take next month off opks but we’ll see haha!

Feeling a bit down tonight after my SIL announcing to me she’s 3 days late (they were trying to conceive and on month 4! The longest ever time to try for them) I’m of course happy for them, but when it’s so close to home it hits you doesn’t it just hope in a way she tells me soon so I can get over it and move on concentrating on myself. I’m probably overreacting lol xx

@Lovebug06 thank you - keep fighting on ❤️❤️ I really rate preseed & used it every month, every time we DTD. 100% recommend - although not sexy one bit!

@30somethingyorkie how amazing - you will have your hands full! 😊 glad you’re doing well, it’s such an anxious time but you just have to look after yourself as best you can ❤️

@30somethingyorkie @MJM1608 so happy for you both x
@Izzie94 @CausingChaos2 have either of you used pre seed? X
@CausingChaos2 thankyou for that. I didn't know the term had changed either x

@Izzie94 Thanks for thinking of me!! ❤️ I’ve looked at this thread a few times & so sad not to see more positives - you ladies must be finding it so hard 🥺 sending you all lots of love!! Hang in there!! Have you investigated any further with more testing?

@30somethingyorkie Hope you’re doing well!! Did I see you’re having twins?? AMAZING!! Hope you’re keeping well ❤️

Our little lady is absolutely perfect thanks for asking! I’ve started showing properly now at 22 weeks & started feeling her kicks. Can’t complain about anything 😊 just hope you all get to experience this amazing feeling soon!! 💜 xxxx

I’m fine thanks Izzie94 on CD 2 now but we won’t be TTC this month so feeling a bit more relaxed. Next cycle may be a different matter! I think getting your DH some tests would be well worth it, like you say 10 years is a fair while.

Lovebug06 I think the term used now is sub fertility anyway. As in it’s taking us longer than average to conceive. Doesn’t mean that we can’t. So your DH’s relative is ignorant as well as insensitive. Stay strong x

Like both of you I’ve never had a BFP. The blood tests I’ve had (and my BBT temping) show that I’m ovulating though. Very frustrating not understanding where things are going wrong!

@CausingChaos2 thankyou xx

@Izzie94 yes I've never had a hint of a bfp either! 2021 has got to be our year surely. X

@Lovebug06 ah same with my DH! And to be honest, with him already having a child I really did think it would happen quickly 😅 I’m glad it’s not just me, and the best things in life take time ey! I feel exactly the same, I do try and stay positive but 15 cycles in, I feel like I’ll never see a BFP. I’ve never ever had one!!! BUT, this is going to be our month 🤍 if not the next🤞🏼😂 this year is for us!

@CausingChaos2 I’ve had blood tests by my doctor and paid privately for scans which I’m perfectly fertile 🤞🏼 It just seems like it’s one of those things that’s taking time. They weren’t interested in DH due to his son, but I’m going to get on at him next month to call and see (I might even call for him😂) I can’t see why they wouldn’t. That was 10 years ago now. Lots can change!!! How are you anyway lovely? Coping better than us? 😅

@30somethingyorkie @MJM1608 how are the pregnancies ladies? Would love to hear some positive stuff 😍

Hope everyone else is ok x x

Lovebug06 That is absolutely horrid. How very heartless of them. Please take no notice.

Izzie94 I hope you fall PG and don’t need any help, but just incase, I’m sure my GP said they can do initial investigations even if you/ your partner already have DC. It’s just the actual fertility treatment that wouldn’t be possible. If it’s the same in your area it could save you some pennies on tests if you go private.

Hello to everyone else and welcome to the newbies.

@Izzie94 oh that's horrible of her. I just think as dh has children already its not as big deal to his family. This member just talks of how other family members will have babies and when they're older and I'm totally left out. If I was infertile this would be even worse!
I'm also cycle 15 and my fw has just ended. At the beginning of all this I was so excited, I'm just deflated now. I have my fingers crossed for you X

@Lovebug06 really sorry you’ve got some members of the family that clearly don’t understand. I really wish they’d teach people that getting pregnant can take time!!! Doesn’t mean we’re infertile. I had a comment of my sister in law to say “maybe you just don’t match as a couple”. Yep, thank you 👍🏼 Absolute idiots. But my new mantra is we can’t control other people but we can control our own happiness and actions so I removed myself from that situation and said my peace with it 😅 I’m also expecting her pregnancy announcement any day soon!! So feeling a little flattened atm, but I’m in my FW and hoping by some miracle cycle 15 is my lucky one? Haha

@laura2093 oh that’s a little exciting! Is this for a fertility clinic? Unfortunately DH and I don’t qualify so we haven’t been referred nor gone private yet! Hoping this year is our year and we’ll fall naturally 🤞🏼 Let me know how you get on though. I’d be interested to know as I am very tempted to pay for a private consultation and some better advice from fertility specialists!!

X

@laura2093 is this for the fertility clinic or the bloods? Sorry I get mixed up.
Hope your okay. I've done the bloods and would also be interested to hear about the fertility clinic x

Hello ladies ❤️ I hope you are all well? I took a bit of break from here whilst I got my head in a better place. We are still trying this month, now using conceive plus lube and my partner taking macca root as well. I take seven seas too. We are not doing opks or temp. Just going with my normal cycle... less pressure and bulking DTD around one week.
We have now officially been referred- just waiting for a phone call to book the initial appointment. I'm anxious but pleased things are moving forward. Any ideas what to expect at the first appointment? Xxx

@Izzie94 we all go quiet but come back together. I don't think we expected us to still all be trying at this point, but I find this group so supportive. I hope your okay.

@CausingChaos2 I hope AF doesn't come. I hope your feeling okay about your scan x

@sparkylauz I have that issue with DH sometimes. I don't think they get the heartache so much and get a bit drained. I find it upsetting as although I get it could be pressure they literally just have to DTD, don't have all the other stressful bits. I am glad you are feeling better after a chat, I found that helped too x

Welcome @acaciabluebell this group is lovely. I am on cycle 15 now, it is so hard isn't it, never expect it to take so long. I'm sorry to hear of your chemical

A member of DH family has referred to me being infertile a few times. Not meant horribly but I'm a bit shocked and hurt. Some of us don't conceive easily, it doesn't mean I'm infertile (and I think it would be horrible to hear if I was ) and people who have got pregnant easily don't get it at all.

@CausingChaos2 I’m good thanks lovely ☺️ Ah, sometimes a break is just what you need. I really hope this is your month though!!🤞🏼 I’m glad you’ve got your scans booked too, it’s almost nice having that to look forward to in a way 😅

@SparkyLauz it’s just draining isn’t it?!? My emotions are sick to death of being happy during the fertile week, feeling so hopeful, then back to misery every time I get my period 😩😂 it’s really hard finding that momentum each month isn’t that? But also you don’t want to waste a month. Ugh!!!! We will get there 🤍 positive thoughts and all that! Oh that’s amazing!!! Least you can chill out about that now and be certain it’ll happen in the next few months🤞🏼 We’re all getting those BFPs before fertility treatment is needed!!! As we’d have to pay we’re waiting until next January so I’m realllllly trying hard to be chill lol! X

@acaciabluebell welcome lovely!! 🥰 sorry to hear you’re joining us. I’m 26, DH 31 and I must admit I never thought it would be this hard! We’re on cycle 15 now and it’s never easier each month. So sorry to hear about your chemical, in a way I’m glad I’ve never had one because I bet it’s devastating after all that time to finally see a BFP for it to be taken away. Where did you get the AMH test? Is it legit? Are the docs willing to do any further investigations for you? I really hope you get your BFP soon🤍 we all deserve it by now xx

Hi everyone I hope it's OK for me to join - I've been looking for somewhere where I can chat with others in my similar position. I've been in a few other threads but then everyone there got pregnant but I'm still waiting 😭

I'm on month 13 of TTC#1 now, I'm 25 and DH is 28. I just had a chemical pregnancy in my last cycle. Before that, I had all my initial fertility tests done in Jan/Feb, most were normal but my progesterone on day 21 was 25.3 which is too low. They want it to be over 30 to indicate ovulation. I then took an at-home AMH test because I was feeling paranoid and turns out I have a super low ovarian reserve. We also got DH's semen analysis results back this week and it came back as low morphology (only 2% normal).

I'm on CD8/9 now and I've just finished my bleed from my chemical pregnancy so waiting for my FW now, which could take up to 3 weeks. So much waiting!

Hii @izzie94 yeah I think we're all finding it hard at the moment 😥

I'm on CD14 so thinking I O'd yesterday from CM and pain but don't think this is the month as literally only DTD once and that was 5 days ago. DH has not been very participating recently which made me a bit upset. But after a talk we will step up our game next month I'm going to back to OPKs too. Good news though that his Semen analysis was sufficient and GP said that was all ok so that's a bit of a weight off. She has referred us now to fertility clinic so we are just waiting for them to contact us.

Hope you're all OK. I'm still buzzing that you're having twins @30somethingyorkie!! It really goes to show good things come to those who wait 😊

Hello Izzie94 how are you?

I’m ok thanks - AF due any day but we won’t be TTC next cycle just incase (and what feels v. unlikely!) we conceived as it would mean a December due date. GP has sent off our referral to fertility and I’ve a pelvic scan later this month.

Hey ladies

Sorry this thread is SO quiet at the moment. Seems we’re all struggling a bit 😭

How’s everyone feeling? Where are you at with your cycles? Sending lots of love x

@CausingChaos2 AF arrived yesterday evening. Haven't even cried. Feel like it though. I can't actually imagine it not coming?
So the random bit of blood two days before, was just another new thing for me. My friend had that last month and it was implantation. I also didn't really get cramps or anything this month. I think my body likes to mess with me!
My heart hurts so badly when AF comes every month. X

It is so hard Lovebug I so wish I could wave a magic wand and we’d all have our BFPs. I think most of us on the thread are trying for our first too, which feels particularly cruel when we have so much love to give and nowhere to put it.

@CausingChaos2 I am not as far along as you I'm about 14 months. But I had a year before that I wasn't allowed to try and had to get my body prepared due to a medical condition, so with that on top it just feels forever.
I wiped and there was some pink and now I'm scared to go to the toilet. I know that's stupid. It also makes no sense as if it's coming I just want it to come and get it over with at the same time. Does anyone else feel like this? I just know I'm gonna be so upset. My friend is pregnant after less time than me who already had other dcs and it's so hard. Various scans and newborns on my social media feed today also. Ahh ttc is so hard.