TTC 8 months in, still early days but starting to feel more and more every time AF arrives

@MJM1608 Thank you! It was actually really lovely, we were the first one in our council and at the time could have 30 people and masks weren’t mandatory so have some lovely photos! I wouldn’t have had it any other way 🥰

Oh we’re basically on the same timeline then for ovulation! It was my first month so first static and I was so happy to see it 😂 Yes similar to you, we DTD sunday, missed monday as he was working nights, yesterday and will today as well ✨

Fingers crossed for us both, we can get through this TWW together 🥰💞

@Izzie94 it’s a reeeal struggle not to test early!! I’m going to try my hardest this month 🤞🏼😂 Hope AF doesn’t arrive 🙏🏻✨haha i know this bloody browser app, pain trying to scroll up all the time 🤣 I’ve just had my peak ovulation so 1DPO and dreading the wait already, will still DTD today and tomorrow 😂😣 Any symptoms? hope this is the month for us both!! ✨💜🙌🏼 Xxxx

@2020TTC Aww welcome! Congrats on the wedding - it’s nice that you went ahead with the wedding even though I’m sure it’s not what you planned. At the end of the day you married your love & sometimes TTC can’t wait! 🥰🥰 you’re deffo better going by OKPs than an app! Have you DTD already this week? I had my peak smiley yesterday too! We DTD two days ago, yesterday & will do today. You ovulate within 24-36 hours but it’s good to have sperm waiting for the egg if you managed to DTD a few days before your peak 😊 we can be on the TWW together! No matter how many times your period comes - whether 3 or 10.. it still sucks! Hope it’s a good month for us 🥰✨ xxxx

Hey all, hope you don’t mind me hopping on this thread. Me and my husband recently got married (July, small covid wedding) and we had planned on moving our reception to next year but both wanted to try so we’ve cancelled that and we’re on our 3rd month TTC.

Would be lovely to follow your journeys alongside mine, i’m 26 and husband is 27. I got my first static smiley today so assume ovulation is tomorrow (if ive read that right, first month using opks) which was 2 days later than my app said which is what i’ve used the other two months.

Wishing us all luck ✨

@MJM1608 thanks lovely ✨ don’t ever usually test early but as it was opened, I felt an urge too 😂 will definitely wait and see if AF arrives Saturday. What CD are you now? Keeping my fingers crossed for you! 🥰 (sorry I can’t go back and check on my phone, or if I can I don’t know how without losing this 😂)

@SparkyLauz welcome ✨ really is a lovely small group. Sorry you’re welcomed to what feels like the dark side of months TTC 😅 it’s been a quick year alll things considered!! Do you use OPKS? Or just aps? FW is often my favourite. It’s when I’m definitely most positive!

@chillyfields oh absolutely treat yourself to a little vino! I definitely do of a weekend. I know what you mean, after so many months you kind of can’t believe it’ll ever happen. But it will ✨🥰 for all of us! TWW is my least favourite. I wish we could just know instantly if it’s worked or not 😂 xxx

@SparkyLauz Welcome! Really lovely bunch of ladies on this thread! It gets harder as the months go on, doesn’t it! Hope you get your peak on your expected day 🤞🏼🤞🏼

@chillyfields that’s good to have that distraction!! When I was on furlough I felt time go by soooo slowly too! Belated happy birthday! Hang in there & stay positive - your time will come (hopefully this month!!) 💜 Definitely no harm having a wine that early on! Enjoy it 😄 xx

Thanks @Lovebug06 and @Izzie94! @MJM1608 this month I feel ... nothing. Could also be because I'm actually distracted by work (had been furloughed before which meant every TWW was killer, just pure symptom spotting). Psychologically I've given up a bit too, just feeling like I'll never get there, so I'm consoling myself with a glass of belated birthday wine. Naughty I know but I figure that even if I do get pregnant this cycle, at 5DPO there is no way it would have implanted yet.

Hi girls can I hop in here? I'm glad I found this because reading all your comments has made me feel so much better. Im TTC my first and on my 8th cycle now so its nice to be in a thread with girls in similar situation. Currently CD9 so predicted O this weekend I beleive. Xx

@Izzie94 you’re not out until AF arrives - stay positive hun, 11 dpo is still early!! 🥰🤞🏼Some people don’t get BFPs until 14/15 dpo! You’re so right - each month is only one try (25% chance or something) and you really need perspective like that to keep positive! 💜✨ if AF does arrive at least you are out of your misery & a new cycle can begin 🥰 totally agree it’s hard not to be a little jealous of others but our time will come & we will look back in a few years with our little babas and TTC will be a distant memory 😊 just got to get through this rollercoaster first!

@Lovebug06 how old is your DSC? great that it took your mind off! I find covid hasn’t helped TTC because you’re stuck with your thoughts more often! Makes it easier to DTD at least 😂 if only falling pregnant was that easy... will never understand how people fall pregnant from a one night stand! Is AF still here for you? Least a new cycle can begin and a fresh start 🥰 hopefully you get good news before Xmas ❤️

@chillyfields the TWW is the worst isn’t it!! How you getting on, feeling any different yet? I’ve just had my peak OPK today (first test I took this month - thank god i didnt miss it 😂!). Luckily we DTD yesterday so again today, tomorrow and maybe the next day just incase... then I will be joining you in the wait, dreading it already!! Hope you’re doing ok and it’s good news this month💜✨ xxxx

@chillyfields literally!! Like HOW 😅😂 I ask myself that every day. It’s so hard to compare because it happens for everyone at different times, but you can’t help feel a little bit jealous that it’s quicker for some. If only! Eee fingers crossed for you ✨🥰 that would be a lovely birthday present, and would make for a beautiful Christmas annoucment!! X

@Izzie94 oh I'm sorry to hear that. I know what you mean when you hear stories of accidental pregnancies - two couples we know announced pregnancies a few months ago, and found out recently that one was 'an accident' (the other 'hadn't been trying for long at all'). Like, how??? I'm 5dpo and on cycle 6. It was my birthday a few days ago and really hoping for a BFP as a birthday present to ourselves!

@Izzie94 ITS NOT POSSIBLE! 😩😂 that’s how I feel every time I hear one of those stories. Yeah definitely, CD1 is always the worst for me then I’m more positive after! I’m 11DPO today, tested because I had 1 test left and thought why not. Biggest bfn 😅 so, onto cycle 11 it seems ✨ let’s hope the next month is our last xx

@MJM1608 thankyou. Yes it's horrible isn't it. No chill day for me. The dsc arrived but it took my mind off it so maybe that's better! Hopefully it's your month. From another post of yours, I didn't know about ovulation really either, hadn't needed too, felt quite overwhelmed by all the info at first tbh. Even at school your told you have sex, you get pregnant, I wish it was so easy!

@Izzie94 another friend announced yesterday, an accident apparently, I'm like HOW?! 🤣
Start of the month can be positive in the way that's its a new cycle, a new try again, so I tell myself anyway. But then it's a whole month! So long again, to then get AF anyway!
@chillyfields good luck this month, fingers crossed for you.

Thanks so much @MJM1608 and @Izzie94. I'm on CD17 of a usually 32 day cycle. O came weirdly early this month so I'm 3DPO I think. Trying to distract myself and not test until AF overdue this time, as it's been so heartbreaking before. Good luck to both of you too, and all the other ladies on here! X

@MJM1608 I know!! I feel somewhat lied too 🤣 I was told at school if I had unprotected sex I’d get pregnant. Haha!!! I honestly thought you could get pregnant whenever through the month, completely did not realise you only have 12-24 hours 😂 absolutely insane. But when we put it like that, and each month is only 1 try, it puts it into perspective a little 🥰 it’s just taking us a few more tries than other to create that perfect little bundle. I love coming on here to read and have support of people in the same position, it really does make the process a little easier ✨Yes lovely you’re right!! Positivity always 💜 sending you lots of baby dust- we’ve got this!! Xxx

I would definitely use ovulation tests. I followed an app at first but turns out I was ovulating days later than the app said I would.

@Lovebug06 I know it happens, but I honestly no longer believe in “accidents” no way!!! 🤣 I wish we could perform some accidents haha!

Owww lovely 😔 CD1 is always my worst day. I swear as soon as you get the pot out that happens!!!! I’ve done that SO many times. I honestly feel exactly that, I can’t imagine not having AF. Like I hope every month but a part of me just knows it probably won’t be a BFP! Treat yourself to something nice, and try keep yourself busy, a new month will be just round the corner to try again ✨🥰 we’ve got each other now haha and we’ll get through it!

I’m CD27 of a usual 32 day cycle, I feel like I do most months so can’t imagine it being any different!

Yes definitely! I love that this thread is a bit smaller and moves a bit slower, it’s nice to actually get to have conversations 😊 x

@Lovebug06 So sorry AF has arrived 😔 this process never gets easier. You almost just get used to her arriving no matter how much you hope she doesn’t. Hope you’re OK today, nothing wrong with having a “me” day chilling and feeling sad - it’s a Sunday after all!! Sorry you didn’t get your BFP this month & hope the next cycle is a postive one for you! 🌈💜

@Izzie94 I feel so surprised that no one told me before we started trying how mentally tough this journey is! I have a few close friends with kids & no one said it was this hard! I didn’t even know what ovulation was until I started trying 😂 I know lucky people falling pregnant so quick 😊 probs not going to get easier but at least there is so much support out there like on this thread 💖 got to stay positive & power on! Hope you get your BFP soon 🤞🏼✨

@chillyfields welcome to this lovely supportive thread 🥰 hopefully this is your lucky cycle 🤞🏼As the months go on, it doesn’t make it any easier but definitely makes you want it more! When that BFP comes it will be amazing 💜 xxxx

Op I didn't want to read and run as I know exactly how you are feeling. My husband and I tried to conceive for three years. Had all the tests. He was fine. My hormones were a mess and I wasn't ovulating at all. Dr said she would refer us for ivf. We were devastated. A week before our firsts ivf consultation we found out I was pregnant. I couldn't believe it. We now have three children 6, 4 and 7 months. My only advice is don't let them say you are "too young" for tests I was only 20. I pushed and pushed and they eventually went ahead. I think as a general rule they will iffer you hormone testing once you have been trying a year? Big hugs. Please feel free to ask me any questions about our journey xx

@Izzie94 yeah a year is normal I think, just doesn't feel it when there's so many people pregnant and saying it was an accident or it only took a few weeks!

I am out. Woke up this morning to AF. There wasn't anything on the pad so I was like so I grabbed a cup to pee in to test, then I wiped and the tiniest bit was on it, and I knew it was done. Pee straight back down the loo 😂 I feel crap but I actually haven't cried like normal. Can't actually imagine AF not coming if you know what I mean?

I love this thread. I've joined a few but when there's so many people sometimes your messages get missed, or if you don't read it for a couple of days there's so much happening and I get a bit lost! This thread is great. Good luck girls, baby dust to you all.

@Lovebug06 haha it definitely won’t be!! I think we all forget that 12 months is standard for TTC, it’s average and unfortunately we were dealt this card because we can deal with it and we will get there ✨🥰 ahhhhh my fingers are crossed for you!!! Keep us updated I really hope it’s your month ✨ xx

@chillyfields welcome lovely! It’s a long journey isn’t it. Although completely normal it feels somewhat unfair compared to other people’s short journeys 😔 but it’ll happen for us all, and it’ll be SO very worth it. What CD are you? Let’s hope it’s your sixth and final ✨ x

What a lovely supportive thread. I just wanted to say you're definitely not alone, and hoping this month is your month! (I'm also 32, OH is 34, and this is our sixth month trying.)

@MJM1608 yes I know roughly when it is as my cycles are 26/28 days and the ewcm too. So I'm going with that at the moment. AF due today. Not been to the toilet for a while but last time I went it hadn't come yet. I was obsessed by testing too but I found it even worse when i got negatives than the actual period for some reason! Need to go to the loo but I'm dreading looking, if that makes sense? Hope this is your month x

@izzie9 yes it does feel like it must be my fault, but hopefully that isn't the case. I'm waiting on AF right now, I'm so anxious 😂 I'll probably be crying in a bit when it comes as usual lol but you never know! Hope this is the month for you x

@Lovebug06 literally!! They’re so rational aren’t they, what they say is so true but I totally get that you want them to be on your level. I feel that! I think the worst part is that sometimes I feel like it’s my fault because he hasn’t struggled before! So you instantly blame yourself don’t you 😅 oh really? I definitely think it’s the best way, just DTD when you want, I have friends who’ve DTD once during the month and fell pregnant!!! (I’m secretly very jealous 😂) I defo think being more relaxed helps our entire body. ✨ when’s AF due? I really hope this is your month and we can be two very excited women in a few days 🥰 x

@MJM1608 hahaha literally!!! I usually come and check every day on here but I try not to always reply and get too into it, because it doesn’t help with thinking about it constantly 🤣 it’s so true. I have many friends whom have fallen pregnant outside their “FW”. Sometimes I think we know too much!! None of my pregnant friends know this much about fertility as they were all so lucky within 4 months max 😅 Yes I will lovely 🥰 thank you. Fingers crossed for all of us this month ✨ we’ve got this!! Xxx

@Izzie94 haha might need mobile app then but I fear I will becoming too addicted!! It’s sad to think you wait for your period just so you’re put out of your misery! Glad you’re feeling relaxed! Some of my friends just DTD 2/3 days around their peak & have fallen pregnant so I don’t think it needs to be literally every other day of the month 😂 it sucks the fun out of it when you schedule it in doesn't it!

Loving your positive energy! Totally agree it’s nice to have that bubble of hope in the TWW 😊 let us know how you get on! Everything crossed for you 🤞🏼 Xxx

@Lovebug06 glad to hear that ditching the OPKs have made you more relaxed - I am taking this approach! I will take 1 on the day I think is my peak. How do you count your DPO without using them - by your EWCM? When will you be testing - or are you strong enough to wait for AF? Fingers crossed she doesn’t arrive & this is your month 🥰 xxx

@30somethingyorkie it's just a different experience for them isn't it. I hope this is your month.
@izzie94 yes that's exactly it. My dh also hasn't tried before so he seems a bit confused that it hasn't just happened 😂 but he also says the whole it'll happen when its meant to stuff. It's true but I kind of want him to understand my upset sometimes.
To the message you put to the lady above, I've also ditched the opks. I found it stressful, dh found it stressful and I weren't getting anywhere anyway so I'm on month 2 without them. I feel more relaxed but now AF time is coming I'm a bit anxious! I'm a month behind you. 12 dpo on cycle 9.