TTC 8 months in, still early days but starting to feel more and more every time AF arrives

@Juno231 Thank you! Ugh this journey is tough - hope you’re ok! Glad you are heeling hopeful & know that your time will come! ❤️❤️ I’ve only had my BFP for 3 weeks and it’s felt like a LIFETIME! Just want to make sure the little bean is in there growing 😭🤞🏼Xxx

@Doveyy92 Yep this is my first - no idea what I’m doing 😅 and you? Sorry to hear about the chemical pregnancy (what it sounds like), I had one too in September. We were honestly jumping for joy, then the bleeding started days later - it was devastating!! It’s so hard to believe everything is OK & I have doubts / anxieties every day - but you just have to believe this is your time ❤️ I waited 5 days to book my NHS appointments & then booked the private one after I passed 5 weeks. Still doesn’t feel real, not until that scan is OK! The excitement will come & hope for us both that we will have our summer babies! 🥰 xxx

@MJM1608 thanks for checking in! Yes AF showed and I'm now CD6 of cycle 12 :( I keep seeing ladies in cycle 12,13,15 etc getting their first BFPs so am hopeful that this just means I'm that much closer to my own BFP.

Can't believe you're 6+4 already! Got everything crossed for you for Wednesday 🤞

@MJM1608, thank you 🙏🏼 🎉 congratulations to you too! Is this your first?, it’s telling me on NHS website approx 6th August 21, iv yet to book a doctors appointment because when we first started TTC we had a really early MC, where I got a positive for a few days then AF came, was completely heartbreaking, didn’t even make it to the first docs appointment so this time I’m leaving it a week or so before docs then yes I think I will do the same and book an early one for peace of mind! Sometimes I feel it’s too good to be true and try not to get my hopes up :( yes I am with you, this wait does feel worse than the TWW, once I get that il be settled. Xxx

@Juno231 did AF eventually come? Sorry to hear if so 😔 Hope you’re ok & sending love for cycle 12! 🥰

@SparkyLauz yay for static smiley!! Did you DTD a few times this week? ☺️ FINGERS CROSSED this is the lucky one!! 🙏🏻❤️ Hope the TWW isn’t too horrific!! Keep yourself busy & focused on Xmas 🥰

@Izzie94 Hey girl! Hope you get good news before your SIL - it would be tough to take I’m sure ❤️ Stay your positive self & keep going ✨ hope this is your month finally!!! How long to go until AF? Would be the best Xmas present for you!! One day you will be telling others your TTC story & looking back on this distant memory - I hope it’s soon💜
I’m 6 + 4 today! The wait for the scan has been SO TOUGH! So many doubts & fears cross your mind! I’m feeling rough this week - nauseous, thought of food makes me feel sick & that ill feeling before you get a bug is constant! Nipples look super weird too!! Can’t complain as long as the wee bean is growing in there 🤞🏼 Scan is wed at 6pm, praying everything is OK 🙏🏻 Thanks for checking in 💜

@Doveyy92 congratulations on your BFP!! ☺️ It’s the best feeling! When are you roughly due? Are you booking an early scan? I have one on Wed at 7 weeks, can’t come soon enough!! The wait to a scan is worse than the TWW - and that’s bad! xxx

@Doveyy92 it’s definitely the only place I can come and realise I am not alone!! Ttc in real life is very lonely 😔 lots of my friends didn’t struggle, or so they don’t say!! So you feel like the weird one not being able to get pregnant, but actually, it’s SO normal!! Ahhhhh, how beautiful 💘😍 so amazing. Right before Christmas as well, couldn’t have asked for a better present during these seriously crappy times. Thank you!! Of course I will! ☺️I really hope I can one day share and help others who feel as crazy as me right now trying 🤣 thank you for the link darlll. I’ll have a look at that! Goodnight and enjoy your BFP 😍 xx

@Izzie94, aww thank you for your reply 💖 it’s lovely that we can all relate to the struggles of TTC, I only found out a few days ago and my heads still trying to take it all in! Good luck in getting your BFP💕 I hope when you do you share with us all 🙏🏼 another thing I forgot to add is the strips on Amazon that knocked the Clearblue £45 sticks out of the park , they have their own app and everything, definitely worth a look Femometer 50 Ovulation Test... www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07QLT76BQ?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share&tag=mumsnetforu03-21.

Goodnight lovely ladies xx

@SparkyLauz is it mean that I’m hoping it takes her at least 3 months, just so she may understand a bit better 🤣😂 I’m honestly thrilled that others don’t struggle, it’s lovely for them, but when it’s that close to home, I wanted to poke her between the eyes and be like hellllllooooo shut up now. Thanks 😂 have you managed to DTD much over your fertile period? I’ve totally forgotten what month you’re on lovely? (I’m month 11- feeels like month 188283733727) 🥴 x

@Doveyy92 Hi lovely!! Aww that’s so so amazing. I am so glad you got everything you wanted eventually 💘 I absolutely LOVE hearing stories like that. It really helps me put into perspective how long we’ve been trying and that it’s not necessarily that anything is wrong as we’ve had all our testing done and we’re all ok!! Really promising about your symptoms too, as I get tender boobs most months before AF and always count myself out when it happens! I really hope I get my positive soon💘 thank you again for sharing that I appreciate those so so much!! Was this a reason BFP?

@MJM1608 when’s your first scan lovely? Hope you’re not suffering too much with any symptoms yet! 🥰✨

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Hi All

I just wanted to come on and share my journey, I am 28 and had been TTC for a year and a half without any luck, these forums are what I searched when I was looking for answers and all I could find were mostly people like me asking questions or women who seemed like they were pregnant but never came back to share or give advice, so I would like to tell my story in the hope it helps someone else!

After TTC for well over a year we decided to give it a break as you know it was starting to be very upsetting. We left it a few months then I decided to buy ovulation sticks off Amazon, I got the little cheapies and then spent £45 on the clear blue ones.

I had started taking the cheapy ovulation sticks about after a day my period ended.. (my cycle 27 days) this was because I had heard that some women can ovulate early and in fact miss there ovulation period if they are going by the normal 14day guideline, anyhow, i actually started ovulating on day CD11 but it didn’t peak until CD14, I hear TTC the before CD14 because it’s better if the sperm is waiting for the egg. So we DTD on CD9, 11, 14,16. In the cheapy pack on Amazon you get some HCG strips also, I started testing on 7DPO for pregnancy, nothing out of the ordinary, sleeping fine, eating fine, boobs abit sore but I’m always like that before my period.. , so around 11 DPO, I could see a little faint line, I mean you would need to squint to see it, didn’t think much of it. 12 dpo I tested around 6:30 am, that faint line got a little darker, but this time it made me wonder, I tested again on 12DPO at 14:00 and there it was, not a bold line, but was clear to see. We then got a Clearblue digital and it confirmed 2 weeks pregnant. Me and my boyfriend are completely shocked and overjoyed! I don’t think the strips are a coincidence, I made sure I tested a few times a day and tested early to make sure I wasn’t missing it, after a year and a half and not trying the strips we feel like fools! But everything happens for a reason I suppose, but I want my information to help someone so that’s the reason I created an account and shared. If I knew how to add pics I would send my ovulation stick app on for everyone to see what they looked like but I don’t know how to attach pics but good luck to you all out there and il nosey in here every so often in case someone wants to ask me a question Xxxx

@Izzie94 its nice to have a bit of a break from here sometimes as you can get too wrapped up in it, it seems a bit insensitive of your SIL talking like that, that would have upset me TBH. By bragging about her always falling 1st month then I doubt it will happen this quick for her this time😂 she will then understand what it's like to be in your shoes haha! Oooh you're not too far from testing now then, exciting! Xx

@SparkyLauz yay!!!! I LOVE a smiley face day 🥰 definitely prefer waiting less. Mine was later this month!

Sorry I’ve been quiet girls, had my SIL keep mentioning this month they’re trying and how she’s fallen with both her others first month so I’ve really really struggled. She also knows we’re trying so it was a kick in the teeth! We’ve been really really relaxed this month. Think we only DTD 3 times if that around my fertile week. Currently CD30, and I think going by my late ovulation It’ll be a 34 day cycle, ugh longgggg. Don’t feel any different though as usual haha. Hope you’re all ok ✨💘 x

Got my Smiley face this morning its quite a few days earlier than expected this month tbh so glad I tested early! Woo 😊😊 less waiting for me now xx

@causingchaos2 ts quite funny really, he is so oblivious to everything. We had our 2nd (cotton) anniversary at the weekend and he bought me a t-shirt that I already had 😂 he pays no attention what so ever haha. I wouldn't mind being on a booze ban this Christmas as its not really going to be like a usual Christmas despite these 'rules' being relaxed.

So sorry to hear of your DGM passing, sending hugs your way xx

@Lovebug06 I'm the same as you i can't imagine it happening either. And there's a few other young newly married couples in my family, brother/brother in law/ cousins etc and I dont think any of them are TTC yet but I realllllly want to be the first! Sounds silly but we've been together 13 years and everyone expects it to be us who has the baby first so it would be disappointing if someone did it before us now lol.

@mjm1608 Let us know how the scan goes next week!! Glad that your partner is able to come with you to the private one xx

I'm on CD10 so my FW coming up now, im exhausted thinking about DTD over the next week 😂

@MJM1608 ah mine was 15 a year and a half ago so that's low enough to get rejected by a fair few fertility clinics!

13DPO and bfn + my rhr is dropping so I assume AF will show tomorrow. On to cycle 12 😅. Always bugs me what a troll my chart is as it still looks fine.

Sorry I’ve been a bit AWOL! I see so many posts on mumsnet with women having multiple miscarriages.. I know the chances are low but it gives me such anxiety! I will be much more comfortable and relaxed once I have my scan next Wed! ☺️

@Juno231 good to hear you have a plan in place! ☺️ Let us know how your 2nd test goes 🤞🏼 My blood level was 54 for reference, which they seemed happy with. Good luck!! ✨❤️ Will be lovely to tell our parents at Xmas (my parents are in the highlands so need to figure out how to tell them!). Praying the scans are all ok 🤞🏼☺️

@Lovebug06 sorry AF came, it’s so disappointing 😢 and really shit that you had a bug too! Hope you’re feeling better and fresh for a new month 🤞🏼✨ may it be a lucky one for you!!

@SparkyLauz men really don’t know how much goes in to TTC do they! That’s good you had a chat about it so he understands more. Get on that over FW 😉 amazing to have a care free Xmas then hopefully your BFP after the festive celebrations 🥳🤞🏼

@CausingChaos2 I’m good thanks for asking! Deffo feeling “off” & nausea comes and goes (which is horrific!). I’m assuming it’s going to get worse as I’m 6 weeks tomorrow, but can’t complain as I’m just lucky to be in this position🙏🏻❤️ Sorry that your DGM passed away 😢 family comes first! Hope you’re ok! Enjoy a boozy festive period & January is a new year ✨🥳 could still be a chance for december you never know!! xxxxx

@sparkylauz yes it felt cruel! And oh that is terrible. I can't imagine the pain she must be in how awful.

@CausingChaos2 I feel like it will be next year at some point now. Sounds strange but I can't actually imagine it happening, actually getting a positive. Feels like a bit of a dream. But it would be so amazing. Good luck to you too. I think they say you can go to a gp after a year for checks, I'm not sure what they say about how many cycles though. I shall go soon too.

SparkyLauz You made me smile that your DH doesn’t know you’re doing OPKs! Glad that you’ll know either way before Christmas, although fingers crossed you’ll be on a drinking ban

Lovebug06 It’s rubbish how your body tricks you into having hope isn’t it? So many times I’ve had unusual symptoms before AF. I’m not far behind you in cycles, fingers crossed this is your last.

Juno231 Hope your results haven’t changed for the worse but don’t blame you for going down the private route if you need some help. I dread to think of the backlog from COVID. I’ve thought about getting the day 3 and day 21 bloods done privately as my cycle varies each month so impossible to book bloods for the right day and my GP surgery isn’t that flexible with specific dates.

How are you feeling MJM1608 ? Such a shame that your other half can’t come to the scan but glad they’re letting partners in to private scans.

Well done on catching your peak Izzie94 ! It is a buzz to know everything seems to be working as it should!

Where is everyone in their cycles now? I’m just out of my FW but didn’t manage to DTD until two days after a peak reading on clear blue. My lovely DGM died so just wasn’t in the mood. So fully expecting to be heading into cycle 10 in December. AF due 4th December.

I’m wondering whether to start thinking about having some investigations. Has been well over a year of trying now, although only 9 cycles of timing DTD around FW.

Hope you’re all ok 🤞

Just seen an announcement on my FB a girl I went to school with was expecting twin boys she only went for her 20 week scan 2 weeks ago and she's lost them this weekend 😢can't even imagine how she's feeling. There's a lot more risks involved with twins i guess xx

@lovebug06 aaw sorry to hear your AF came too, and how incredibly mean of your body to play tricks on you like that!!

@MJM1608 this month I'm not doing anything diff really. I've never actually told my DH that I use the OPKs he's typical bloke and doesn't understand it all. Anyway when I got a bit upset earlier this week I explained that its actually a really slim chance every month to get pregnant and he didn't know this. So we agreed to do it on more of the exact days this time which we hadn't done done before as I never wanted to put pressure on by telling him we HAVE to dtd haha.

I'm quite lucky that my TWW will be over before Xmas so its either enjoy Xmas knowing I'm finally pregnant or enjoy Xmas and have lots of drinks haha. Xx

Hi everyone sorry I went missing for a few days,

My AF did come on weds as I thought, however I've had an awful bug so although I obviously thought no! When I see it, I felt so ill that I couldn't really think about it, so I haven't been upset and that's a good thing.
Worst bit was that the night before and that morning I felt really sick, and that made me think it could be, my dh told me couple days after he was thought so too, he even wanted me to test to make sure 😂. I had a period so I knew but I did it to show him and bfn of course. Bit cruel of my body to give me the sickness just before AF comes hey! So I'm now cd5 of cycle 11.

@MJM1608 btw your Christmas reveal sounds amazing!

@MJM1608 thank you that's super helpful! I did my AMH test privately in June 2019 and it was only at 15.2 back then (with below 15 being low fertility /egg reserves I think). So not ideal. I've reordered the test to see if it's gotten much worse and if it has I'll def just go down the private route and not waste any more time.

@Izzie94 haha I KNOW GIRL!! I feel like I’ve known for months and it’s not even been two weeks!!! Time is passing slooOoOow!! Fingers crossed we can see more family at Xmas 🤞🏼DH is not allowed to the NHS scan 😔 but he is allowed to private scans, and we will probably have 2 of them before the NHS one (at 13 weeks). Such a weird time to be pregnant, I don’t even feel pregnant my symptoms are zero today 😂 can’t complain though, I’m sure it will be horrific in no time!! Mumsnet can deffo send your mind into over drive!! How you feeling? Did you manage to DTD lots this week without that pesky tooth getting in the way? 🤪 really really hope you’ve been lucky this month, you deserve it so much for your positivity alone - to me and everyone in this thread!! ✨💜 hope you find a lovely new place in the new year too!!

@Juno231 sorry it’s such a long / slow process but hopefully you conceive naturally before needing any treatment!! 🤞🏼🤞🏼 We had the semen analysis, ovarian assessment (vaginal scan of ovaries & follicles, AHM blood level taken) & a consultation with the dr to discuss our results. Sounds like you’ve had a lot done already? Do you know your AHM blood level?

It’s so exciting!! There’s not a minute that goes by that I don’t think about being pregnant ☺️ It’s just nerve wracking that you don’t know if things are progressing until the first scan but I really have a good feeling that all will be well 🤞🏼 Can’t think negatively or you’d drive yourself crazy! 12 days until the scan (hurry up!!) & I will post a photo here 🥰 we are telling our parents & sister/brother at Xmas then just wait until the NHS scan (12th jan) to tell everyone else, want to tell all my friends in person! Thanks for the support - so lucky to have found this thread!! ✨ xxxx

@Izzie94 ah congrats on the peak! Get DTD! Please keep me in the loop on what the next steps are for you as per the private investigations? I feel woefully uninformed. The GP called my May appointment an assessment and googling it it sounds like it's an assessment of infertility - but then I'm worried once they've assessed me (and potentially done an HSG?) they'll just put me on an IVF waiting list which could then take up to a year after my May appointment? Sounds so silly. If all I'm missing is an HSG to determine whether or not further help is needed then I'd be happy to just get that sorted privately and maybe do a few rounds of IUIs first before progressing to IVF - but I think the NHS prohibits you from using their infertility services once you've started privately...

@MJM1608 on that note - what did your fertility assessments cover? I've already had day 3, day 21, ultra sound and SA done. Can't wait to hear back from your scan btw! Must be so exciting :) Will you be doing a Christmas reveal at all?

Ahhhh, randomly had so much EWCM today - more than I’ve noticed before! (I thought maybe it because I started vitamin D yesterday lol) so did a cheap OPK as usually use clear blue and these ones as and when, annnnnd got a really good positive! Ahhhh! Looks like I’m about to ovulate, and will DTD the next few days ✨ I know yous probably don’t really care but I got excited and needed to share this somewhere 🤣 don’t tell me why I get excited about positive opks!!! Looks like my AF will be delayed a few days as usually a positive in CD18. Maybe this is my body’s way of waiting for DH to recover from his tooth removal 😂

Hope you’re all ok! Nearly the weekend x