TTC 8 months in, still early days but starting to feel more and more every time AF arrives

You haven’t put a downer on the thread Lovebug06 , I wish I could give you a hug! It’s so tough to see it happening all around you when it’s something you really want. But you will get there, I’m sure. You’re in good company on this thread, we understand how it feels and why sometimes it’s best to take a break from it all.

I’m on AF at the moment and not expecting any luck before Christmas so will be heading into the new year alongside you.

Hope everyone else is holding up ok

@MJM1608 not really sure what’s going on with my body yet 🙄. Not had this happen before but I had some pink spotting yesterday morning after (sorry tmi🤣) a bm!!!! Then nothing for the rest of the day. Usually once I start, it’s straight away red and cramps etc. So expected to wake up this morning to it... nope nothing. And of course like the crazy ass woman I am.... I am thinking positive 🤣😂 sake. Hahaha!! Boobs were a bit tender again this morning too. So who knows what my body’s doing this month! Will test in a couple of days if it hasn’t shown itself. 😨 ahhhh, hope it stays that way for you 🤍 especially over Christmas. What’s your Xmas plans? Will you have to tell people? I guess you won’t be far off 12 weeks then anyway!! 🥰

@SparkyLauz I’m so confused what AF is doing this month!! It’s really thrown me, but I’m sure she’ll be here in no time🙄 shes clearly wanting to give me false hope haha! Ahhh the TWW ☹️ I’ve not seen the let down!! And maybe I’ll watch it too 😂 especially if I get AF haha!!

How are all you girls? Love me a Friday!!! Hope you all have a good weekend xxx

Hi girls,
I had a bit of time out. I'm surrounded by friends having scans, people announcing on social media and in dhs family every girl bar me now has a baby or is pregnant and another with a just turned 1 year old is going to start trying and I just know it'll happen quickly before me. So I have been feeling very alone and down and needed some time away. I'm now in the TWW and honestly have no hope for this month but hopefully in the new year.
Sorry to hear about your AFs arriving girls. I'm glad your scan went well @MJM1608.
Sorry to put a downer on the thread I just thought I'd update. Good luck to you all this month. X

@SparkyLauz no I haven’t seen it but maybe I’ll watch it to make myself feel better for not being pregnant 🤣🤣🤣

@izzie94 I'm good thanks! How are you? Now 4DPO it seems to be going quick. Sorry to hear AF is on the way xx

@30somethingyorkie Glad you had a chat with dh and you're feeling better about it. ❤

@MJM1608 Omg!! Thats amazing, so happy all is well, is your next one the 12 week one and Is that a dating scan? Bet you're over the moon!!

@natmoz welcome to the group. So sorry to hear you're having a hard time. Its a real rollarcoaster of a journey and its not fair that we are never warned about how difficult it can actually be for a lot of people to fall pg. And we only find out the hard way! It is really difficult to hear the news of close friend's/family pregnancies, but it will be your turn soon enough 😊

Has anyone seen The Let Down on Netflix? Only a few episodes in and it does not show the early stages of motherhood in very positive light 😂

@Izzie94 Aww so sorry to hear that darling!! Hope you're OK - sending you hugs!! Hope you have a nice weekend planned - even if it is just to feel sorry for yourself! At least you can enjoy xmas, eat what you want & start fresh for 2021! I really hope your BFP is not far away!!

Looks like I’m out girls, no cramping but seem to have a really light pink when I wiped 😟 so I’m sure it’ll be in full flow by tonight / tomorrow.

Here’s to lucky cycle 12! 🤍✨🤞🏼 X

@MJM1608 ahhhh SO amazing!!! 😍🤍✨ I am so glad it went well for you lovely. Here’s to a happy and healthy 9 months. I bet it feels much more real now doesn’t it! Oh I’m so happy for you and also very much wish I could join you! 🤰 from my late ovulation I think AF will come tomorrow.. my boobs started being sore a few days ago and I got a little excited as it was much later in my cycle but they seem to have tapered off today 🥺 so fully expect AF tomorrow and I’m feeling really down about it. Cycle 12 for me!

@NatMoz hi lovely. I really feel your pain, nothing makes it easier and I’m fed up of people telling me to relax it’ll happen! 😂 it’s really really tough and others don’t quite understand if it’s been a short journey for them. I’m on cycle 11 and probably going into cycle 12 tomorrow.. no fertility issues, had checks etc ☹️ It just bloody sucks x

I'm on cycle 6 of TTC and I'm having a bit of a tough day.

I try and be as positive as possible on the outside but I'm devastatingly impatient in reality.

Anyway in the last few weeks my husband's best man announced he and his wife were pregnant, my friend's younger sister is pregnant and my other friend has just announced she's pregnant with twins earlier this evening.

Was a bit like a knife to the heart and I'm starting to think there's something wrong.

No one told me during sex education it would be this hard

Hi lovely ladies! Just catching up! Fiiiinally had my 7w scan tonight - our little beans heart was beating strong & measuring well! I am exactly 7w so dating is still the same as I expected ☺️ It was really amazing to see - no tears, just in shock!!

@Izzie94 how you doing love - any sign of AF? Hope she’s staying away!! ✨❤️

@SparkyLauz I’ve told 3 friends (not any of my bestest friends yet!!) - you guys know more than anyone lol! 🥰 telling our parents at Xmas which I’m super excited about!! How you been doing

Sending love to everyone - there is light at the end of the tunnel 💜✨

@Izzie94 and @30somethingyorkie thanks so much! It’s so nice to talk to people in the same boat. We haven’t told anyone that we’re ttc and I think there’s only so much of me talking about ttc that my DH can handle 😂 I’m feeling ok. Some days I’m really positive and thinking about the new cycle and the fact my body was getting back to normal off the pill and lots of people take this long etc but then other days I feel really down about it. But so lovely that there’s already been a bfp on this thread and yes 2021 will be all of our years 🤞🏻 Fingers crossed for everyone!

My fertile week will be the week before Christmas so I’ll also be knackered with work but going to have to power through 🤣🍆 so I’ll be like 7dpo at Christmas which is tricky as way too soon to test but I’ll probably feel a bit guilty about drinking loads and eating so much Brie etc but think I’ve decided that I’m going to enjoy my Christmas and eat and drink and they say when you relax it happens so 🤞🏻🎄

@Juno231 oh my god I got AWFUL post pill acne and I’ve never ever suffered before, not even in my teenage years. It was really awful and made me feel so shit. Luckily it’s cleared up now, only a month or so ago though!! So I really do think our hormones are whacked out when we come off for some of us!! I did read someone put on here that a fertility specialist had told them some contraceptives stop your endometrial lining building up, so when you come off the pill it can take up to a year for it to actually build back to a reasonable thickness!! (I never knew that!) so I think that’s why they say 2 years, 1 year for your body to adjust back to “normal” and a year to conceive 😩 my periods were also very very light when I first came off and only now seem to be reaching 3/4 days of flow which is good.

Awww definitely makes it harder when you’re so flat out doesn’t it! Feels like effort and some nights I wish I could just be like naaa😩😂 but then I worry I’ve missed it!! 2021 is going to be our year 🤞🏼✨ x

@izzie94 yes! I was on the pill for 14 years. I did stop it last Sept so you'd think that would be all out of my system now but I still have pretty bad post pill acne from it and I still never know what to expect from my cycle. My AF is different every month, so is my LP so god knows what's going on.

That's a brilliant FW to have BTW! I'm worried ours will be a bit crap if it's starting tomorrow as I have so much work to get done before Xmas leave that I'm knackered and stressed all the time 😅. Got two ovulations in January though so that could be my lucky month!

@SparkyLauz haha that’s how I look at it!! But she’ll definitely fall this first month and I’m preparing myself for a little cry but then it’ll be done and I can stop thinking about that 😩😂 how are you? I see you’re currently in the TWW... bleughhhh the worst 🥴 x

@Cams50 welcome lovely!! Sorry you’re joining us on this long winded journey 😔 but everyone on here is absolutely wonderful 🤍✨ really puts ttc in perspective! And you don’t feel so alone as these months pass. How are you feeling? I really thought I’d be pregnant by month 6 max! How naive was I 🤣

@Juno231 literally 😔 I really never thought it would take us this long a year marks a really depressing time but we will get there lovely!! Were you in any contraceptive prior? I was and it’s my excuse that it “took a while to adjust after” not sure if that’s really a thing but it makes me feel better 😂 my next FW will be Christmas week if I get AF so not that bad seeing as DH will get a few days off and we can drink copious amounts of wine 😋 x

@SparkyLauz yep that’s literally me every month 😂 yeah the OPKs are reassuring alright. I love getting the positive one!! Thanks you’re probably right. I’m probably wasting my money on all this but it’s taking so long so I like to feel that I’m helping things along in some way. Hope the tww goes quickly for you!

@Cams50 I think we all go into the TWW totally chilled but then it all goes to pot half way through 😂 telling yourself you won't be symptom spotting then you feel something that you 'haven't had before' and half way through your convinced this is the month! Test too early get a bfn start spotting beleive its IB get hopes up again then 2/3 days later AF shows up. Thats been me every month for what feels like forever! Its such a rollarcoaster!

I dont temp as I don't think i could be bothered with it tbh. I just use OPKs which I probably don't really need either as going through my diary its more or less the same day each month I get the CB smiley face. But I just like to see that smiley face haha gives me a boost mid month!

The only thing im taking is folic acid. It sounds like youre totally on the ball with all the supplements! I'm sure if you've had all sorts of checks before then something will have been flagged up before now so youre worrying for nothing 😊

@SparkyLauz thank you! I appreciate it. I’m on cd2 so just starting af. I big time got my hopes up last cycle but onto the next!

Yeah I’ve been using OPKs for a few months now and temping for two. I do find them useful for confirming ovulation. I’m also taking pregnacare conception. I’ve tried different things like seed cycling and extra b and c vitamins but I’ve stopped those. I’m now taking evening primrose oil until ovulation and I’m starting Agnus castus and ubiquionol this cycle 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’ve had some checks done in the past because I had a lot of breakthrough bleeding on the pill and everything came back normal then but starting to worry something might wrong like Fallopian tubes or something but hopefully not and it’ll happen soon 🤞🏻I get quite long periods though so worrying there could be some hormonal imbalance either so that’s why I’m trying the Agnus castus. I’ve rung the gp and they won’t do any day 3 blood test or anything like that until it’s been a year so just gotta keep going!

Eek 1 dpo! Well hopefully this cycle will be your bfp 🤞🏻🤞🏻 Have you been temping or anything like that?

Hi @Cams50 welcome to the group 😊everyone is lovely and very supportive here, im TTC my first also, currently 1DPO! Where abouts are you in your cycle? Have you been tracking temps/opks or anything the last 8 cycles? Xx

Hi all,

I hope you don’t mind me joining. @Juno231 think I’ve seen you on a different post-pill thread! I’m now cd2 of cycle 8 ttc baby number 1 and would love the support of people in a similar position to me ☺️

@Izzie94 haha yes, cycle 12 has an extra bit of depression to it, doesn't it? For me it's knowing that 84% or whatever conceive in the first year, so automatically feels a bit crappy to fall into the 16%! If you AF shows in the next few days, when is your next FW?

@Dovey92 aww thankyou for sharing your success story! Did you not use opks at all then until over a year of trying??

@izzie94 Haha no I don't think its mean at all, she's got children already so she can wait a few more months!! Its your turn next!

@MJM1608 and @izzie94 We didn't DTD during the week last week but did it Friday night got the smiley face on Saturday morning DTD Saturday and then Sunday night so hoping that it covered it?! Never done it more than once past the smiley day before so maybe that's where ive been going wrong previously 🤞 feeling really positive though this time. This is cycle 9 for me and 7.5 months of TTC. AF due around 10th December.

@MJM1608 Cant beleive you're 6+4 already!! Have you told anyone at all yet or just us girlie's on here? I bet its hard not being able to tell anyone just yet i know i would be bursting haha

@30somethingyorkie its a really good idea to talk to you DH about it😊 I felt a lot less anxious during the FW this time as he knows how important it is now to nail it over these days!

@MJM1608 thanks beaut 💘 I actually decided to mention it to her and say of course I’m super happy for them, but I’m also feeling a little sad for myself it hasn’t happened yet, and she was actually really supportive so I’m SO glad I said something. She’s now rooting for us both 🤞🏼 So my cycles have been around 32 days for a while now, but I think I ovulated late this month as I did one OPK as I saw loads of EWCM! That was CD20, so I think It’ll be around 2 days away ahhh! I don’t have my usual pms symptoms, no sore boobs, whereas usually 1 week before I always get them!! So very very strange. But trying not to think too much into it. I refuse to early test, but It’s hard 😂

Ahhhh it’s going SO slow isn’t it!!!! Good luck for Wednesday I’m sure it’ll be perfect 💘 I hope after then you can relax a little bit more. Although, I’m sure it’s just a constant worry until 12 weeks!! SO bloody happy for you 🥰 x x

@Juno231 sorry you’re going into cycle 12 lovely 😔 I’ll be joining you in a few days if AF arrives. It feels somewhat sad to actually say cycle 12 doesn’t it? Really thought it would have happened by now. By like you say, it’s pushing us closer to our BFP🥰🤞🏼 How are you feeling?

@30somethingyorkie lovely to hear from you! ☺️ Hope work has settled down a little bit now. I’m working from home and I swear the pressure has ramped up!!! Have a lovely week off 😍 and let’s get us some festive BFPS!!!!!✨🤍

Yes, same haven’t a baldy yet 😂, I guess that comes with time. Yeah I think that’s what it was, makes you very paranoid about this one, it just shows how common it is if you experienced it too! I’m trying to enjoy it as much as I can and my sister who has been through it herself has been very supportive and I think as long as we have someone or wee forums like this it makes it feel like your not alone 💖 I feel very much the same with the scan, once it’s been done and I see the little peanut a weight will be lifted! 🙏🏼 Xxx