TTC 8 months in, still early days but starting to feel more and more every time AF arrives

Hi @acaciabluebell so sorry you're still here too 💔
How did your fertility appointment go?

I'm gonna ttc naturally for the Summer and then if nothing happens, I'll start my IVF cycle. Luckily, we had everything set up before I got pregnant, so I just need to book in for baseline scans & bloodwork when I get a period, then start the injections the following month. 🤞🏻
The fertility clinic said I should have 2/3 periods after the MC to build up a lining ... I'm fine with this because I'm pretty fragile atm & the idea of walking into IVF after a miscarriage feels overwhelming.

Currently waiting on my first post miscarriage period before I can do anything though. It'll be a relief when it comes ... I was testing positive pregnant up until 5 days ago, but had ovulation signs too 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

@JeanieJ So so sorry to hear this 😞 Sending you love and light. Take all the time you need to process and grieve. We are all here for you ❤️

Hope pregnancies are going well for those who have been blessed with BFPs ❤️

TTC wise... AF started yesterday so officially on month 30 TTC my 🌈 baby. But some good news...I finally have an appointment with my fertility/IVF clinic on Monday! Really hope it's good news and we can start IVF soon 🤞🏽

How are you getting on @Izzie94? And anyone else who is still TTC x

Hey guys,
I'm back on the ttc boat.

Sadly I miscarried over the weekend after 11 weeks 😢 it was brutal and I'm still going through it.
DH and I had been trying for 20 months and had been just about to start IVF when we conceived naturally.

It'll take a while for my body to recover and then I can give the fertility clinic a call and decide next steps.

Really hoping my rainbow baby can come soon. Xx

Congratulations for all the BFPs ladies :)) so pleased for you all!!! It’s madness to me that I thought at the time of commenting on this at 8 months ttc, that, that was long? LOL!!!! We can all laugh together at that can’t we lol.

Unfortunately the same as @acaciabluebell here, officially 28 months ttc… and I’ll be 28 this year.. and we started when I was 25! Jeeeeesus lol. Feeling good though the last few months, not really focussing on it anymore. It’s our last year of trying naturally before we go down another route. The drs have already put in a referral for us, but have explained we may not be eligible for all help as DH has a child already. But we’re saving anyway, just in case. But I just have a gut feeeling it’s going to happen naturally, I can’t explain it!!! I just do. My skin has finally cleared up from the pill, I notice EWCM every month.. something feels better now.. I hope haha!!

We’ve had endless pregnancy announcements throughout ttc, best friends, both my SIL’s. So that fucking sucks, but I know my journey will make us stronger, and part of who we are.

I’m sorry for anyone else still struggling. And I hope you have just a little bit of hope like I do 🤍

@MarMar123 Congratulations! I’m sorry I didn’t see your update at the time. That’s wonderful news.

@SparkyLauz Thanks for tagging me and I’m wishing you all the luck in the world that your little emby sticks! It’s still a big achievement to get to this point so it must be a fighter! When is your OTD and will you wait until then?

@JeanieJ Congratulations! I bet you keep pinching yourself?! The cycle before IVF is crazy, I’ve heard of that happening with other ladies, there must be something in it!

@acaciabluebell Sorry to hear you’re still in the trenches with it. Do you have a plan or timescale you’re working towards? Yes it’s crazy where the thread started.

Like Jeanie, I hope this doesn’t hurt anyone. My first IVF cycle has recently finished and we were incredibly grateful to have a blastocyst that stuck. First ever BFP of my life so very surreal and emotional. I’m 9 weeks now and it hasn’t been straightforward as had some bleeding at 6 weeks, but little one seems ok on scans. I found the IVF really tough and am still on meds due to the bleed so not feeling the best, but after so much bad news on this shitty fertility ‘journey’ we really needed something positive like this to happen. I still can’t say ‘I’m pregnant’ out loud but just hoping and praying this pregnancy will continue.

Congratulations all!

No news here, except 5 failed Letrozole cycles, and not any closer to IVF either. Still trying, month after month. On my 28th cycle now 🤯 I can't believe this thread started at 8 months. Jeez.

@SparkyLauz fingers & toes crossed for you! 🤞🏻🤞🏻it only takes one 🤞🏻💕

@MarMar123 congrats on your pregnancy! 💕💕 such amazing news.

I have a little news, I got my first BFP 3 weeks ago, right before my first round of IVF and am currently 7.5 weeks pregnant. I can't quite believe it to be honest.
20 months in - I was deffo not relaxed btw 😂 in fact the total opposite.
I'd had a laprascopy in December that found & removed endo, so maybe that helped! 🤷🏻
I'm really hoping it sticks around & think I'll book a reassurance scan in next week just to be sure!
I really hope this didn't upset anyone Xx

So lovely to read an update like this @MarMar123 - I wasn't actively in the thread but still lovely - Congratulations ❤️

@acaciabluebell @causingchaos2 @izzie94 @JeanieJ

Sorry if ive missed anyone off!

Hi girls I know it's been a while since anyone posted on here. Just want to see how everyone is doing??

I have just been through my first round of IVF which hasnt been as bad as i thought it would be at all! Only managed to get just 1 fertilised egg even though it was done with ICSI.... but im currently 4 days into my 2 week wait! (Technically 7DPO) keeping everything crossed for this 1 shot we have.

A massive congratulations to you @MarMar123 that's amazing news so happy for you! Xx

Hi everyone- it’s been a while since I last posted and I wanted to post this earlier but I was so anxious something would go wrong and I guess I still feel anxious bc it’s still early. I got my BFP back in January after 21 months actively TTC and 24 months off birth control. I just wanted to post on here to bring a little bit of hope to all of you ladies and any ladies that may stumble on this thread. This place was my safe space and I’m so thankful to have been part of this group. We had completely given up hope of it happening naturally and we were set to start IUIs right before we found out. I just want you all to know It 100% can happen even when it seems impossible. I’m sending you all so much love ♥️

Hi everyone, happy new year! I hope you are all well.
Hoping this new year brings everyone happiness and success. 2022 will be our year, I am sure of it!

Thanks ♥️ @acaciabluebell

Im sorry you hit the 2 year mark. Milestones are terrible but January is not far off and it’s great you will start a medicated this month. These are all positive steps forwards.
Best of luck babe. Let us know how it goes. I’ll keep everything crossed for you.

Hey @MarMar123, I hope you had a great 33rd birthday! I know what you mean about birthdays being difficult, my birthday was last month and I always thought I would at least be pregnant by now. Sending you all my love xxx

Hope everyone is doing okay? I started my period today so another failed cycle, I think it's my 23rd or 24th cycle now, so reached 2 years of trying. I tried to chase up my hospital and see if I could get an earlier cancellation appointment but no luck, have to wait until January for a telephone follow up. So I've decided to make the jump and start medicated cycles this month, I'll be taking Letrozole during the wait for IVF.

Hi everyone,

Just wanted to say hi and check in. I turned 33 today and it’s been hard. I have so much to be thankful for, but I never expected to be 33 still ttc our first baby. It’s just hard and sad.

I hope you all are doing well. I know the holidays are hard on all of us. I hope we all get our little miracles this season but if not, I hope we can all find peace and strength as we keep going in this journey.

sending you all so much love ❤️

@CausingChaos2 That's fantastic, so so pleased for you that you will be able to start IVF so soon. How exciting! But I totally get what you mean about feeling sick to your stomach about it. I remember I went into my consultant appt thinking I would be put onto clomid or something similar - I still cant quite believe we were told IVF is our next step. Took me ages to accept it. It's so daunting but it's also the best chance of success for us. I've got my fingers and toes crossed for you lovely. I hope your appointment next week goes well, do update us when it happens!

Thinking of you all - hope you are doing okay xxx

Thanks for such a lovely message Mars and I’m glad you have an appointment booked if nature doesn’t intervene beforehand. It’s reassuring that everything looks good but must be frustrating not to have answers why it isn’t happening for you.

That must have been a shock Sparky . It’s scary when things happen quickly but at least you’re on the pathway that’s going to have the best chance of success now.

Acacia Thank you for the love and hugs - will gladly take them. After being told it would be 8 weeks for the paperwork and then 6 weeks waiting list to see the clinic we were expecting to start end of Jan/ Feb time. Imagine my surprise when they called last week. We have a telephone appt to create a treatment plan next week and will begin IVF on my next cycle or the one after! This is absolutely pathetic and irrational but I felt physically ill and really tearful for a few days. My tubes are blocked so there really is no other way but it’s just so daunting and I’m scared about what’s to come. I know I should be pleased it’s going ahead but can’t get my brain to think like that at the moment.

It’s good news about your HSG although a pain about the wait for andrology. I know it’s the situation all over the NHS at the moment but waiting is so upsetting, isn’t it? The fertility route feels particularly drawn out with tests weeks apart, then waiting to see consultants.

Really empathise with how you feel - we’ve had so many of us with bad luck in this thread when you think it started around 8 months TTC, but at least we are in the same boat. Its really tough to feel left behind. I have to scroll past quickly when I see another pregnancy announcement or birth on social media - hate that it’s making me feel like that as I’m genuinely happy for others, but it’s hard to see.

Sending everyone love and thinking of you all. It looks like lots of us will be having intervention of some sort in the near future. I just hope we can all come back in a year or so and say it worked out.

@CausingChaos2 I'm so so sorry that you had such a rude consultant and for what you went through. Sending so much love and hugs your way ❤️ I'm glad you have been referred for IVF now and have gotten the ball rolling. Do you know when you might start?

@SparkyLauz Oh no, that's terrible that your GP gave you the wrong information!! Just utterly terrible! I know that my husband's semen analysis from the GP always had "NORMAL" written on it when it definitely wasn't!! So bad. Do you mind sharing what kind of MFI it is i.e is it count, motility, morphology? We have 0% morphology and borderline everything else and I've never been able to get any kind of clear answer as to what it means for our chances of conceiving naturally.

@MarMar123 That's great that you have an appointment booked in! January will be here before we know it! x

Just an update from myself: I had my HSG last week and all seemed fine. DH has been referred to the Andrology and it seems like we will be waiting a while, which is just so frustrating. I'm having a bit of a mopey evening today as I was checking an old thread I was very active on, and have now seen that all of the previous posters have gotten pregnant/given birth already, and it feels like I am just the odd one out, which really freaking sucks.

@CausingChaos2 just read your update hope you're ok sending lots of hugs your way xx

@Lovebug06 in glad your scan went well and baby is fine, its lovely to hear from you!!

I have recently been coming to terms with my own news so I'm sorry if I've been quiet on here for a while. After many repeat tests we have been told our chances of conceiving naturally are very very small due to DH, it was a bit of a shock as the first test the gp said it looked 'fine' so I'd always presumed it was me that may be the problem. Everything is normal on my end which I'm extremely grateful for bit because of DH sperm they have referred us for IVF straight away. There is a 9 week waiting list and we should get a call after then to start the process. I'm surprised at how quickly this will go ahead now and it's made me feel slightly nervous! Xx

@CausingChaos2 this journey is so hard isn’t it? I think it’s ok for you to feel all the feels - you need to do that to heal and be ready for the next step. Try to do things you enjoy and make you happy right now. I really believe when one door closes the universe opens another or at least a window… you’ve got this babe. And we’re all here for you. ♥️

I actually made the appointment for the clinic today. We go back January 5. So 3 more months of trying naturally.

No they didn’t offer me anything since everything looked good. They said we would have a good chance of conceiving during the 3-4 months following the HSG but clearly that wasn’t the case.

Thanks Lovebug I will be making a complaint. I’m just going to wait a couple of weeks until I feel a bit more resilient. I’m sure I’ll be fobbed off but I audio recorded the appointment so I know my recollection can be backed up and that I’m not being over sensitive.

Thank you so much MarMar123 the hug would be gratefully received! I’m a bit all over the place, one minute trying to get back to normal but it’s always there in the back of my mind, the next minute very tearful and I’m not normally the type to cry. Scared of what’s to come, but you’re right that the referral is a step in the right direction. I will update the thread with any news, how are you feeling now? Any more thoughts on going back to the clinic? Did they offer you clomid after the HSG?

@CausingChaos2 I’m so sorry babe. Reading your post made me want to give you the biggest hug. How are you feeling now? I’m glad you got the referral, I know it’s maybe not how you wanted this but it is a step forward. Keep us updated.

@Lovebug06 ♥️ ♥️♥️ Can’t wait to see if we’re right! 💙 🎀 😉

@CausingChaos2 I'm glad you got through to the hospital. If the consultant was rude definately complain. When dealing with this type of thing they need to be sensitive and understanding I think not make their patient feel worse! X

Sending you loads of love x

Thank you Lovebug and you mustn’t feel you can’t come back and chat to us. One silver lining to this horrid cloud is the lovely support we all have for each other. I’m so pleased that your scan went well. It must have been overwhelming to ‘see’ baby after all you went through.

I think that’s another cruel blow from infertility, if (a big if) I ever get pregnant I’ll be so worried, and can’t imagine being able to enjoy the pregnancy and get excited. I hope as the weeks progress you are able to do that and enjoy it as you so deserve to.

By pestering the hospital I managed to get in for my follow up. Consultant was so rude, I think I’ll have to make a complaint. But they are referring us for IVF due to my blocked tubes, so that’s progress I suppose. So will be waiting a few weeks for the funding to be agreed now. Keep popping in on the thread when you can, would love to hear the updates through your pregnancy and beyond x

@CausingChaos2 I'm so sorry to read that. It made me feel tearful thinking of how bad you must have felt.
Sending you all the love in the world and I hope you have get your appointment soon x