Trying to conceive baby No 1 over 40

I am 47 and going through my second miscarriage in one year. I started to try to get pregnant when I was 46 last may and got pregnant at forst try, there was heartbeat at 6 weeks but no hb at 8 weeks, than in February I got pregnant again there was again hb at 6 weeks than in 8 weeks scan the baby had no heartbeat and measuring 6 weeks. I discovered I have hypothroidsm and had ureaplasma infection and green yellow discharge through my second pregnancy. I can get pregnant but every body thinks I am crazy if I try one more time. It is possible to get pregnant until menapause for sure maybe other people have better immune accpetance, physiology than mine can be succesful. All I can say is it is possible to get pregnant but for the rest you need a team who belive in your pregnancy I could not find this. I am so heartbroken people tell me why you wait until this age to try to become a mother... what can I say, everyone is not as lucky as they are

@Honey2 apparently vit e is very good when ttc and b6 is good for Hormone balance c is be again very important ttc and most are deficient. I don't think you can not over analyse when ttc it's impossible 😂

@Honey2 I use the Ava bracelet which takes skin temperature, so that will normally be lower than taking oral temps.

Vitamin C and E are form of antioxidants and the B6 is to help lengthen my LP. To be honest, I have no idea exactly what they all do, I just researched best supplements for fertility and took the advice of my acupuncturist 😂

@Marvellouslymadmum thanks for the tip. Haha the things we do!

@sabtom gosh sorry not sure I can help with your chart... the temps seem very low. Is that normal for you? No chance your temp tracker is not working right??

I’m taking similar supplements to you, pregnacare, ubiquinol 200mg D3 8000iu (doing a high dose for 2 weeks) and folic acid 400mg. I’m wondering if I should be taking 400mg but it’s so expensive!!

What is the vit E B6 and C for?

My partner is also on the wellman conception and I’ve asked him if he would cut out all alcohol for a month next month if I don’t fall preg this month. Lol he didn’t look impressed but I think he will agree - for one month! Not sure how much difference that will make. He drinks loads of coffee too but de-caff so hopefully that’s ok.

Today (7DPO) I’ve got some pains like ov pains low down on my right, very confused as I never get ov type pain any other time than actual ovulation. very strange - wondering if he actually something completely unconnected like trapped wind lol but I don’t feel bloated. It’s so easy to over analyse every twinge!!

@Tillybabs temping is great to confirm ovulation, just take your temp at the same time every morning before you get out of bed. I have my alarm set for 6.45 which is what time I get up for the school run but have it set for same time every day, then reach my arm to bedside table and grab thermometer without moving and take my temp then if it's not a school day I go back to sleep 😂

Thanks @sabtom and @Marvellouslymadmum! Much appreciated! X

@Marvellouslymadmum I don’t normally test at all tbh. I don’t know why I did this month. Now just waiting on AF!

I’ve now bought a bbt to start temping.

I’ve only ever used OPKs so will look up when to temp etc.

Hi @Geriatric1234 dhea is actually one I'm not on! 😂 I also take b complex High dose, vit e, magnesium, folic acid, pregnacare, iron 210mg (prescribed) evening primrose oil, maca root

@sabtom I'd say you ovulated cd17

Hi @Tillybabs I don't test unless af is late cos I hate bfn

I’m 10DPO and did a test strip which was negative. I don’t know why I bothered lol. AF due in a few days.

I’m in south London and turned 40 this year and been trying since September last year. No children.

Not sure what DPO I am, neither app has detected ovulation or me yet. Had a peak on CD15/16, but no clear rise in temp yet. Any opinions?

Morning @Geriatric1234. Well, I'm on a cocktail of vitamins and supplements -

Omega 3-6-9: 3600mg, label says take 3 but I only take 2.

Ubiqinol 200mg + 250mg Omega-3: I used to take 3 tablets a day (600mg) but I've recently cut that down to 2 a day (400mg) expensive stuff!

Vitamin E 1000iu: 1 a day

Vitamin C 1000mg: 1 a day

Vitamin B-complex: 1 a day

Vitamin D 2000iu: 1 a day

Folic acid 5mg: 1 a day (on prescription cause I'm diabetic)

Pregnacare: 1 a day

Ferrous Fumarate 210mg (iron): 1 every other day

Also doing Acupuncture 2/3 a month. Only had 4 sessions so far.

OH is only on the wellman conception, but trying to get him to cut down on alcohol and coffee is a nightmare! And he says he's quitting the cigarettes but I know he's hiding his sneaky smokes! 😡 I've been on these supplements for quite a few months now, and nothing, so maybe I'm wasting my money, but I daren't stop just incase they are helping 🤷🏻‍♀️

Morning all! Happy Monday!

I’m having a little reset in preparation for next cycle. Currently 12 dpo, AF due on 6 days and I have zero symptoms of anything at all (!) plus had v high fever following vaccination so think it’s unlikely to be a BFP this month and am focussing on next cycle.

Can I check in re:supplements with you all? I know it feels like this Q is coming up endlessly and I’m so sorry to ask again but I’m ADD so I really struggle with organising multiple sources. I’m taking:

Naturelo pre-natal (has the good folate)
800mg D3
50mg B6
Vit C
200 mg ubiquinol

Should I add in DHEA?

I haven’t been tested for progesterone as I’m so symptomatic of it being a decent level apparently. And following TVS where ovulation was visible they feel there’s no need to test - that seem right or shall I pay privately?

Thanks for the check-in Team Over 40! Xxx

@wanderlove oops! Did he go get it out the bin? Lol

@Rejoiningperson aww that's lovely thank you for sharing

@Catconfusion a doctor told me that m/c and c/p are your body's way of saying there was something not quite right with this one, weather it's chromosomal abnormality or what we don't know but it's just your body knowing this one wouldn't make it I know it's not much comfort but It helped me deal with it a little better. Plus they also say it's a positive that you can get pregnant too

@Honey2 no af is just starting, new it was on the way and we'd probably missed out this month so not too disappointed just want to get on with the next cycle

@Littlemiss40andfabulous I love South Wales - some beautiful beaches 😊

@Marvellouslymadmum do you think you will test again today?

@Catconfusion I think it’s totally understandable that you would like a sibling for your son... people can be so judgement can’t they ☹️ When I fell pregnant in February I was really worried about what everyone (family friends work) was going to say. I even thought I might just say it wasn’t planned. Stupid really!

Incidentally I’m 10dpo with zero symptoms but refusing to test until I know AF late. I can’t cope with a chemical. AF due in 8 days (yup - v long LP) so my 2WW is more of a 3WW!!

@Rejoiningperson thank you so much for sharing. I’m 42 and met my partner late so it’s nice to know nature can still make things work!

@Catconfusion I think it’s most likely to simply be a question of waiting for the right egg. If all your tests are okay I think you can drive yourself nuts analysing these MCs. Though I totally understand why: should we take this supplement? Aspirin? Progesterone? It’s a permanent head spin!!

@Honey2 I’m in Windsor :-)

@Catconfusion no not really- figuring every other day covers all bases and I need time away from thinking about ovulation. Interestingly DH is far more motivated with this method and he's been instigating and it's felt just more about having fun together again. I don't know if it'll work but I recommend it to reduce relationship stress!

Thanks @Rejoiningperson I’m so glad it’s worked well for you. People in real life are sometimes really shocked we want another baby after having our son at 40. We’re both nearly 42 and really want ds to have a sibling. We met late in life so have done everything as quickly as we can. It feels so unfair to think we might not be able to have the family we want just because we’re older. Hopefully our luck will change. We’ve been ttc since Christmas and have had two miscarriages. It always gives me hope to hear success stories. Xx

Thanks @Littlemiss40andfabulous it’s such a shock as the tests looked so good until they weren’t. I’ve still not started bleeding which is frustrating. My head is all over the place trying to figure out why this has happened again: is it bad egg quality? Still recovering from my c section? My long cycles, Do I need more progesterone? Is it my weight or my diet? Am I not on the right supplements? Do I now have a thyroid issue? Can I only carry boys? It’s enough to drive anyone crazy!

Do you know what, the dtd every other day sounds good. Certainly sounds less stressful. My fertile time is over three weeks so it might be a marathon but maybe it’s the way forward. It would be a little tough for me as my cycles are so irregular I wouldn’t know when to do a hpt. I guess I could check my temp if I think I’ve ovulated to see if it’s raised. Are you adding in an extra one if you think you’re ovulating? It might be better for our relationship as well. We tend to only dtd when I think I’m ovulating due to having a toddler. It’s a bit sad really. I hope it works for you! Xx

Just to say best of luck peoples!

I had my second at age 42, and it’s been absolutely fantastic, so don’t give up hope. Ignore anyone being rude about older mothers, they wouldn’t think twice if it were a man. I’m able to give so much more to my child now I’m older, I”m a much better parent.

Thanks @Honey2

@Catconfusion I'm so sorry to hear your news. I was really hoping this wouldn't happen this month.

I'm living in South Wales - so we're very spread out!

We're ticking over here, surprisingly finding it quite easy to dtd every other day. First time trying this rather than peeing on sticks and focusing when ovulating and it is definitely less intense and thought consuming.

It's pouring with rain here so a day indoors here. Hope your weekends are going ok.