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Trying to conceive baby No 1 over 40

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October1979 · 13/10/2020 16:07

I am 40 nearly 41 and ttc baby no1. I fell pregnant for the first time in December but suffered a missed miscarriage at 8 1/2 weeks in February. I've been trying ever since with no luck. I use Clearblue advanced fertility monitor. Take vitamin B, C and Co Q10 as well as pre conception tablets daily. Until lockdown I did weekly acupuncture. I guess I'm feeling low as af turned up today and I turn 41 very soon.

I am usually positive and hopeful. Trying to think what's for me won't go past me...

Looking for some buddies in the same boat or some over 40s who conceived naturally to give me hope and share their secret to success.

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Littlemiss40andfabulous · 23/05/2021 08:39

@Honey2 these are what I use - bought on Amazon.

@sabtom this month we ditched the Clear Blue digital ovulation predictor and it's smiley faces and tried to just dtd every other day. We managed it for the first week but then got tired so I wasn't convinced anything would happen this month.

In fact I've been really down this month- and spent a fortune of multivitamins and Coenzyme10 supplements, but as I only started them 4 days ago, they are not likely to have influenced this hcg result.

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sabtom · 23/05/2021 08:17

Congratulations @Littlemiss40andfabulous Thanks great to see so many BFPs popping up on this thread!
Did you do anything different this cycle? xx

Honey2 · 23/05/2021 08:02

@Littlemiss40andfabulous that’s a great line! I only just got a line that strong this morning at 19dpo on the Femometer tests. That’s really great, I’m keeping everything crossed so hard for you. Can I ask what brand test that is? I’m running out and I might buy some more, stupid really I know because doesn’t tell you much as this stage but I like my morning poas 😂

Littlemiss40andfabulous · 23/05/2021 07:17

Thanks everyone. Did a morning test and it's really strong- strongest line I've ever had.

DH very sensibly not getting too excited yet as we only got to 5 weeks last time and I'm trying not too too, but I am a little bit!

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Geriatric1234 · 23/05/2021 00:16

Ahhhhhhh @Littlemiss40andfabulous CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Xx

soontobeamama · 22/05/2021 22:04

Fantastic news @Littlemiss40andfabulous! Sending positive vibes that it sticks xx

Honey2 · 22/05/2021 17:23

@Littlemiss40andfabulous wow!!! Brilliant news!!! So happy for you. Positive thoughts - this is the one! Xx

Marvellouslymadmum · 22/05/2021 15:37

@Littlemiss40andfabulous yay congratulations let's hope this is your sticky little bean!

October1979 · 22/05/2021 14:47

Fantastic @Littlemiss40andfabulous this is wonderful news💕💕💕

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Littlemiss40andfabulous · 22/05/2021 13:21

Slightly in shock here. 28 days since AF so expecting it any day (usual cramping would suggest that too).

Went to the loo and thought why not just try a pregnancy test on the off chance- I have enough of them to spare and got this! Must be at least my 3rd wee of the day!

DH away for the next few hours before I can tell him and now I'm a little bit distracted for all the work I was going to do today!

Very early days and only other time I saw 2 lines I had a chemical pregnancy and AF came the following week... but where there is a line there's hope!

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sabtom · 21/05/2021 12:01

@wanderlove hopefully it's pregnancy symptoms instead Thanks

Well as predicted AF arrived early this morning a day later than expected 😔 the cramps this month though are intense! Last time I had cramps this bad was my teenage years and after my miscarriage last year. Wondering if it's a side effect of the acupuncture I'm having? 🤔

Anyway, appointment made this morning for my initial scan to start IVF.

wanderlove · 20/05/2021 21:06

@sabtom
I'm also due AF in the next few days. I've got spots and ratty as hell so expecting it soon.
I've feeling a bit despondent...probably a bit of pmt. I hate the vague hope that it isn't going to come.

sabtom · 20/05/2021 18:28

@Littlemiss40andfabulous I've been taking Ubiquinol for about a year although I've only been taking 400mg for a couple of months

Littlemiss40andfabulous · 20/05/2021 18:19

@sabtom yes I'm taking 400mg (200mg twice a day) as the book recommends.

Got to be patient and wait several months now to see if it will have any affect. How long have you been taking it for?

I think AF will arrive tonight or tomorrow for me too...

sabtom · 20/05/2021 18:16

@Honey2 so happy for you! Are feeling any pregnancy symptoms yet?

@Littlemiss40andfabulous How much Ubiquinol are you taking? I've been taking 400g a day but wondering if that's too much? Confused

Well it looks like I'm out again this month, CD 29 for me (TMI sorry) started with light brown spotting yesterday a littler and again just later this afternoon. I haven't had the brown spotting before AF for a few months now so it's a bit unusual this month and I'm usually on 26/27 cycle so 29 days is the longest I've had. If it wasn't for the temp drop this morning I would've taken a test thinking it could be implantation but I expect AF so up tonight or tomorrow morning Sad
So now we're gunna make an appointment and get the ball rolling for IVF, I don't see the point in holding off any longer, my eggs are only getting older Sad

October1979 · 19/05/2021 19:37

Hi @Honey2 your progression lines look great and it's also so good you have enough HCG for the digital to register 2-3 weeks! This is really positive. Great news. I'm 4 dpo I think or 5. Only time will tell xx

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soontobeamama · 19/05/2021 19:00

Lovely to see @Honey2 - hope you're feeling ok? xx

Littlemiss40andfabulous · 19/05/2021 17:23

Aw congratulations @Honey2 - that's wonderful to read 😊

Marvellouslymadmum · 19/05/2021 15:54

@Honey2 yes!! Congratulations lovely, love seeing the bfp on this page, definitely gives me a little hope

Honey2 · 19/05/2021 15:29

@Marvellouslymadmum thanks! I couldn’t resist and I did a clear blue weeks test and it came up 2-3 weeks which has put my mind at rest a bit!

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Marvellouslymadmum · 19/05/2021 14:31

@Honey2 I think your lines look great on the frer! Lovely progression, the others have progression it's just light lines it may just be the way those tests are

Littlemiss40andfabulous · 19/05/2021 12:44

Hi @Honey2 yes I do and I started them today. We also now have milk in glass bottles being delivered and I've got rid of all my plastic storage containers as the book suggested. DH not thrilled at having to take multivitamins too!

Honey2 · 19/05/2021 12:40

How is everyone doing?
@October1979 how many DPO are you now?
@Littlemiss40andfabulous did you get your ubiquinol?

Im doing ‘ok’ worry myself sick, which is pointless but can’t help thinking it’s likely to go same way as back in Feb/ March. I’ve had reasonable progress on FRER tests but the cheapie Femometer tests are still so faint and no progression it’s doing my head it Confused

Pics attached!

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birdbybird · 16/05/2021 12:49

@Littlemiss40andfabulous you can also get it from Holland and Barrett. Its expensive and they keep it behind the counter.

Honey2 · 16/05/2021 09:38

@Littlemiss40andfabulous good old Amazon! Ubiquinol 200 Milligram EAF CoQ10 (Enhanced Absorption Formula Coenzyme Q10 as Kaneka Ubiquinol) 30 Softgels www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00LFVDK1E/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_5DF2WJZ5EYY4KZW04EYB?tag=mumsnetforu03-21