Trying to conceive baby No 1 over 40

@October1979 sorry to hear about af, it’s always a bit of a sinking feeling. Are you doing ok?

Oh I’m glad u think there might be something . Eeep fingers crossed. Maybe just maybe 🤞

Ohhh sounds promising @October1979. Eeeep fingers crossed it’s your moth.

Feeling nauseous again tonight, and had a faint metallic taste in my mouth which is stronger tonight...it’s all starting to get a bit suspicious 🤔.

My period is never late, 3 days now. But Afraid to get my hopes up. I thought I saw a shadow of a line on test this morning but couldn’t tell if indent or my imagination. I’m hoping it turns into a proper line tomorrow!

@October1979 thanks. Yes good point that could be an explanation. As I’ve had cramps since 6 dpo I though they may have been implantation but it could have happened later. I’ve always has results on day of missed period so this is new to me!

Still no AF today, BFN with FMU. I’m my head I’m flipping widely thinking I must be PG to don’t be silly...but then what’s the explanation. 🤷‍♀️

Great to hear all the post I’ve stories 🥰

I really don’t think you’ve missed your chance @October1979, but I understand that feeling. You just really want a baby and of course that makes you worry.

I realised I got my dates wrong, AF should be today. 🤦‍♀️ But it still hasn’t arrived 🤷‍♀️.
Did a bless blue early test this morning with FMU and negative.

Felt horrific this afternoon. Awful cramps and nausea. Couldn’t concentrate on work and was like a demon! Had to lie on the floor for a bit.

So I’m terribly confused and In total limbo. Anything is possibly at this point I guess.

But I feel so strange 🥴 cramping on and off now for 6 days.

I conceived and gave birth to my DS when I was 42. We had been trying for about 3 years and I had 3 early miscarriages in the year before that. We had fertility investigations and my FSH level was a bit high at 12.6. We were due to start IVF. We did the sperm meets egg plan and I would recommend it. You start having sex on day 8 and then do it every other day until you get a peak on the clear blue ovulation predictor. You then have sex 3 days in a row and then once again after another 3 days I think. I googled it and got all the details. Think timings also depend on your length of cycle too. Turns out I ovulate really early so this helped us. Was quite tiring but I feel so lucky to have my son as I didn’t think it would happen for us. Just want to wish you all the best and am sorry for your loss

I think tenacity and patience are important at this age fir ttc! I have a 10 month older. After several losses and three rounds of ivf where my eggs were proven rubbish, he was conceived via donor egg. He is a wonderful happy little love!

Sorry for the loss of your baby @October1979

I think you asked for stories of over 40s who conceived with no issues. That is me.

I conceived my first son aged 38 after having the contraceptive injection. The injection didn’t work, and he is now six years old
I conceived my daughter after three months of hell on the pill which I stopped as it was making me bleed uncontrollably. Six weeks after I came off it I was pregnant with her and had her two weeks after my 41st birthday. She’s four now. My second son was a huge surprise as we weren’t using contraception but I had had a two week long period which doctors suspect was a failed multiple pregnancy and became a single one. He’s three in a couple of days.

All my babies were induced but all 39 weeks plus and all straightforward labours and good weights. There were several other “geriatric “ mothers around the time I was also one of them.

Sending you lots of luck and baby dust.

I had my first DS this March just a week past my 43rd birthday! We'd been trying on and off for 3 years and I'd been taking all the usual supplements (ubiquinol), used ovulation sticks etc but had never pursued IVF as I have seen how hard it has been for friends. It came as a great wonderful surprise as we'd not even had one positive test in all that time. I just wanted to say it can happen and to send you positive thoughts x

Oooh I hope so. I have been trying to be calm about it but I do think I feel wierd. It’s just so hard to trust your body. Had too many months of phantom symptoms. I’ve had a positive on these cheapies on day of missed period before, but was 13 days dpo.

Well tmi but I’m gonna collect some wee and see how yellow it is! Then I’ll decide. Don’t want to waste a FRER in watery wee. I’ll just be left with the cheapies fir the morning then.

I havent had my hip Pain that I had last two times (An old pregnancy injury loosens up with the relaxin) but had that on 1: days DPo last time.

You are due to test at the weekend? When is AF?

@October1979 lol Imagine someone came in, they would be like why was that person looking at their own boobs? Makes no sense from the outside 🤣 I know the body obsession is unreal. Squeezing and checking all the different parts of our body to see if they have changed and a complete obsession for what’s going on in your knickers!

No sign of AF yet and no cramps...that is very unusual for me, never late. It was only a cheapie I did this morning, so I’ve gone out and bought an early response test. But I think I’ve drink too much water tonight!! Might have to wait till FMU I peeing non stop.

It’s agony waiting I’m dying to know! But feeling hopeful. Eeeep! 🤞

BFN this morning for me, Will see if AF arrives today. I’m Only 11 dpo As ovulated early, so possible too early but will know if AF comes.

Lol @Helbelle75 that’s quite a story!

@October1979 how are you getting on?

Test day or AF for me tomorrow! Having cramps on and off since sat/sun. Definitely not my normal pattern only get a couple of hours of AF cramps. Bit of nausea On and off. So I’m in with a shot, but who knows it can all turn to dust pretty quickly.

Will probably test first thing, won’t be able to wait!

I was bitten by mosquitoes! The only other time I've been bitten so badly was when I was pregnant with dd1, so the thought crossed my mind, but I'd just started a new job and didn't really allow myself to dwell on it. I finally did a test a week after my period was late and it was positive.
Everything crossed for you.

Congratulations @Helbelle75 ☺️ Lovely to hear such a positive story