Trying to conceive baby No 1 over 40

Welcome @Littlemiss40andfabulous and good luck for your peak in a few days! Xx

Oh no @October1979 maybe it’s just too early. How many dpo are you now?

So sorry @Bouncytree I hope it’s just too early for you too. I guess it can implant late which would make the hcg rise late.

Hope you both get a surprise!

Happy new year! I hope this is our year! Xx

Hey @Campalumpa and congratulations on having your dc.

My DH is really healthy and had a full SA before we conceived dc last year. They apparently swim faster than normal and are very healthy. He luckily hates baths. Also takes a fertility supplement. Xx

Welcome @Littlemiss40andfabulous

Negative this morning 😭 might be a bit on the early side, but I’d imagine you’d have a squint of a line. Will wait and see but have been thudded back down to earth this morning 😞

Thanks for the welcome October1979. Sorry it’s not your month but definitely enjoy that guilt free drink! I do treat myself to one each month when AF arrives.

We have started using the clear blue digital ovulation sticks and I’m expecting to have my peak and ovulate in the next few days (just as we return to work and life gets busy again).

We are trying to relax and be patient, hoping time is all we’ll need to conceive naturally too.

Happy New Year XxX

Hi October1979,

I'm also 40 (41 in March) and have been trying to conceive for the first time since May, with no success currently. I'm hoping it'll just happen naturally at the moment...

How are you getting on?

Sorry not read the whole thread but is your DP doing everything to enhance your chances of getting pregnant? Like not having hot baths, not drinking eating well, taking zinc and antioxidant supplements?

We both had free fertility checks which identified some issues so we made some lifestyle changes to improve chances.

I got pregnant just shy of 41, had a MC and got pregnant again shortly after. Now have a nearly 12 year old!

Sorry to hear that @October1979. I hope your doing ok. At least you can have a drink To wish in the new year.

Yes I keep convincing myself and then have to pull back because I sing want to be completely gutted. But there ya certainly nothing yet to suggest I’m out.

I will be testing first thing in the morning! Watch me race to the test 🤣 I’m
12dpo tomorrow. They are just regular tests not frer...u think it should be accurate enough by now?

@Catconfusion hope things are going ok for you

What did you decide @October1979? Are you testing?

Very booby here and cramps gone away completely since last night.Nausea for 3 days. So feeling hopeful again.

@Catconfusion ah yes I see. That is frustrating. Hope you find the thermometer. Thanks for your positive thoughts. Fingers crossed you hit ovulation this month and I hope your cycle settles. 🤞

@October1979 it’s a tough one isn’t it. Dailey good chance of showing up with a FRER 11dpo I’d say. I’d defo do FRER rather than regular if you want a drink just in case.

Have you seen this?
www.countdowntopregnancy.com/pregnancy-test/dpo-chart.php?dpo=11

You can put in the dpo and it tells u how statistically probably it is to get a positive. Not much percentage between 11-12 dpo.

My cramps have subsided. 😳 for now anyway. Very confused. Felt just like AF but then went a bit odd and stopped. Could go either way at this point. I feel like you too maybe I got carried away. But you just don’t know till test/AF so your defo not out!
🤞🤞🤞

I’m gonna try and wait. I don’t want to fork out for yet another FRER now I’m
This close. I’m gonna test the 1st at 12dpo

Nearly there 😅

@October1979 I’d test tomorrow. You should get a result on an Frer. I got a positive on an ic at 10dpo with ds so it’s probably going to show up. You definitely deserve a drink tomorrow night regardless. Fingers crossed and good luck! Xx

@Bouncytree the problem is without temping there’s no way of knowing if it was O as I sometimes get all the signs and it’s not. The LH strips don’t work for me as I get false positives. Basically I have it had a mild version of poly cystic ovaries. During pregnancy the cysts were gone and my cycles have seemed shorter since so it might have got better. I know sometimes having a dc does sort pcos.

I definitely felt a bit like AF was coming when pregnant with ds until it didn’t. You’re not out yet! Fingers crossed! Xx

@Catconfusion that is really tough going not knowing when you ovulate or how long your cycle will be. It is a nice relief when you know you’ve peaked and you can give DTD a rest for a bit 😆 My DS is 3 and it’s hard work fitting inDTD to a schedule...some days your just wrecked.

It’s easy to feel stressed about it. But you don’t have to find your peak you just need to DTD every few days. We got PG with DS doing it every 3 days and not testing for ovulation.

Definitely worth getting hold of that thermometer. It have you tried OPK strips? I got a big box of easy@home on amazon and they last for ages. Miles cheaper than clear blue or boots. 50 for 14 quid.

Getting mixed signals here. Nausea last night v bad and mild today. Boobs still sore. But some mild cramps a little like AF coming. I’ll be gutted. I really got my hopes up this month. 😭

How are the symptoms @October1979?

Yes it’s definitely challenging. Obviously we’re blessed to have DS already but feel time is running out for a sibling so the pressure is on. Just wish we had more time!

So today I’m feeling nauseous and dizzy. Starting to wonder if I ovulated like a normal person this month. We dtd last Wednesday and day 14 was Christmas Day. I’m annoyed at myself because I had a few drinks over Christmas. Even though I know it doesn’t affect things early on it still worries me. Omg what if it’s just happened just like that!? I’m starting to panic now as just assumed I’d ovulate on day 18 like last cycle. I’ve ovulated in day 14 about twice in my whole life. I’m now going to find my thermometer so I can do my temperature tomorrow. Eek! Xx

Thanks @October1979 I just hope my cycles have regulated. I thought I’d be ok with not particularly tracking this cycle but I’m now getting a bit stressed not knowing where I am with things. I can get all the signs of O then it doesn’t happen so it’s confusing without temperatures. Then as my luteal phase is so long it’s such a long time before I get AF.

Not long until you can test. I do hope it’s good news for you! Xx

@October1979 it’s quite difficult for me to use fertility monitors because of my cycle length. Quite often they say a maximum of 35 days and mine are usually longer than that. I also get false LH surges that don’t result in an ovulation. My body then gears up again about a week later. Monitors usually can’t cope with the second surge. The only accurate way I’ve tracked ovulation is with temping. After a rise I know I’ve ovulated. Ovusense is really good but we can’t really afford it at the moment. I do have a smart thermometer that sends the temperature to my phone but I can’t find it at the moment. Our ds is teething at the so very little time to find it. I might just leave this cycle. We’re so exhausted as been up multiple times in the night. You never know I might have already ovulated. I’m not sure I can face dtd every couple of days at the moment on little sleep. Xx

In my experience the symptoms come and go so don’t worry about them not being consistent, especially this early. It sounds like you’ve both got a good chance.

Before DS I had really irregular periods so difficult to know when AF would come. Last cycle it was a 34 day cycle. I think I may have ovulated today and my luteal phase is about 17 days so about the 15th January. It’s difficult to know though. My ds was conceived on day 34 of what would have been a cycle of over 50 days. I really hope I’ve not gone back to cycles like that. It’s so hard to know when to try. I think I’ll just keep going with dtd every couple of days until I can test. Xx