Trying to conceive baby No 1 over 40

@Littlemiss40andfabulous thanks, I know I’m winding myself up and there is nothing I can do to change the outcome. I’ve ordered some more cb weeks tests and I’ll do another one on Saturday (if I can make myself wait that long!) I’d just rather know sooner than later if it’s not good news again.

Hi all, hello to the new people 😊

@Honey2 I definitely wouldn't be worrying about that test I'm sure your hcg levels are fine.

@October1979 🤞🏻 for you, those rises definitely look good so far and I can see the lines!!!

@Littlemiss40andfabulous that line looks amazing!

I do love seeing the positives and thinking 🖕 to all the people who say it's impossible at our age! Keep those bfp coming ladies!

@Honey2 I can appreciate why that might make you anxious but I really don't think it should as I remember reading everyone is very individual with slightly differing rising hcg levels early on (for several reasons of which I can't remember) and the fact is you are having positive lines.

I know the waiting and wondering if the positive lines are going to stay is hard though. XxX

@October1979 wow! That’s brilliant news - clearly May is a special month! I am so pleased for you... keeping everything crossed for us all.

@Littlemiss40andfabulous that’s a great line at 4+4 makes me more nervous about my test though as even though I’ve had line progression it feels slow and I’m still not getting a line as dark as the control on my internet cheapie ☹️ At 5+1

@October1979 I only just saw your update. That's exciting news!

I know what you mean about the worry of another chemical pregnancy- I'm trying not to get too excited/obsessed as am so aware it could still happen.

Hoping you have good line progression with this one xx

Hi @Honey2,

I'm doing well thanks. No symptoms at 4w and 4 days but there is line progression which is exciting. At this point last time my (relatively faint) line was disappearing.

I'm waiting until we go food shopping tomorrow to buy a digital test too, although I don't really need to going by this poas!

Hope everyone is doing ok x

Hello all, how is everyone getting on?

@kalidasa welcome to the thread! Best of luck with your TTC x

@Littlemiss40andfabulous how are you feeling? Hope things are going well.

@October1979 hope all is well with you xx

I’m doing ok mild nausea and sore ish boobs. Nothing major though. I’ve gone and worried my self this morning - I took a clear blue weeks at 5+1 and it’s was still only 2-3weeks. I KNOW that doesn’t necessarily mean anything, that everyone’s hcg levels are different and there are plenty of stories on MN about people having perfect pregnancies having not got a 3+.

Doesn’t stop me worrying though. I’m a glutton for punishment! 🙈 I really need to step away from the tests, but the days are so long in these first weeks!!

Hi @Lastyearttc,

I only started them 4 days before getting my BFP so don't think they helped this cycle, but pregnancy multivitamins and Coenzyme10 (200mg twice a day).

I also got rid of plastic food containers and swapped from plastic milk cartons to glass milk bottles, as the 'it starts with an egg' book recommended that due to a chemical that can leech out of the plastic into food, which can affect the process of conception.

Hiya @birdbybird, I’m sorry about the MCs :-( My MC was in cycle 1 after which I opted for tests. My tsh was 1.5 and I understand the range is 0.5-5 and varies a bit through your cycle. I was told it was exactly in the middle for the CD I took it on. X

Hi @Geriatric1234 do you mind if I ask what your thyroid level was or what they said was acceptable? I had a chemical in cycle 1 followed by a MC in cycle 2. Am now in month 5.
My tsh was a bit a above 3.

@kalidasa Oh I’m totally with you - I’m not considering ivf either (no kids but 2 step) as I think the odds are far too low at our age (for me). I got a bit of a fertility MOT just to check this was feasible and to manage expectations. So I had AMH, thyroid, vitamin D blood tests done. AMH to check I still have any eggs (was fine) and vit D/thyroid just in case as they’re so common yet easy to treat but also cause MC. Also had transvaginal scan to check my fibroids (turns out I had none!) and to do a follicle count, which was also decent. I had an MC in December so I wanted to make sure it was just nature ditching a dodgy egg, not my body causing it. Getting progesterone checked in a week juuuust in case. It feels reassuring to know everything is in working order! 🤣 Now it’s all down to egg roulette and the universe! X

Oh gosh @Geriatric1234 and @Lastyearttc I'm no expert on the HyCoSy procedure - that's the limit of my knowledge!

For £100 I would probably do it but that's partly because I would drive myself mad worrying and I figure if £100 reduces that then it's well spent. Wish I wasn't such a worrier

Thanks @Geriatric1234 I did have a look at 'It Starts with the Egg' a couple of months ago. Found it a bit overwhelming! Trying to strike a balance between being proactive and trying not to obsess constantly. I have started taking CoQ10 though a month or so ago, as well as vitamins and folic acid of course. I haven't done any tests, no. We wouldn't go down IVF route or anything like that, if it doesn't happen then it doesn't, we are lucky to have two lovely boys. I am definitely ovulating every month though, and with a nice big clear temp shift and a long LP with no spotting, so I think my progesterone etc is probably OK.

Hi @Lastyearttc! We’re EXACTLY the same age - I’m 43 in august too! Welcome and I second the HyCosy Q @Mattieandmummy and anyone else who knows about them! Xx

Welcome @kalidasa! Have you had any tests done yet to check your ‘status’? Yes - it’s really allll about egg quality now so kinda just a lucky dip! 🤣 Have you read it starts with the egg? Great for supplements and as you aren’t trying for a few weeks you can start supplementing those maturing eggs to give them a good boost and not feel the time is wasted. Xx

Hello all can I join? I turned 41 in April. We've got two DSs, 6 and 8. I have always longed for a third but DH was totally against it until he finally agreed the end of last year. So worried we have left it too late though! I know it's not the end of the world as we have these two lovely boys but I was so thrilled when DH agreed and now for it not to happen is hard. I got pg very easily in my 30s, first go each time (though did have two false starts / v. early losses), but we've been trying for 6 months now with no luck. I'm pretty sure there have been 2-3 false starts/failed conceptions in that time too (I get sick very early and knew I was pregnant before the test in all my previous pgs). Struggling this month as we have to take 6 weeks off trying -- we are moving to France at the end of July and with both boys I had very severe hyperemesis and was mostly in hospital between weeks 6 and 12ish so we have to avoid any chance of being in that phase for the move. We can start trying again end of June/start of July but I'm ovulating about now and finding it really painful not to be at least giving it a go! I have charted my cycles for years and years (used to use natural family planning before the boys) so know my signs really well and I am definitely still ovulating every month and have 2-5 days of EWCF which I think is fairly good at this age. I assume the issue is egg quality though. I have quite long cycles too with a long LP which reduces the opportunities a bit! Anyway, have been lurking on this thread and it's encouraging to see some BFPs.

@Littlemiss40andfabulous thank you for the welcome and congratulations on your Bfp! What supplements were you on to help you catch?
My LG is 5

Well @Mattieandmummy I'm glad you did as I have a hycosy question! I also had to postpone mine last month as they only do them on Mondays and I was in my fw (didn't catch obvs). So because of bank holidays it's 21st June. However I could pay £100 excess and have one privately next Tuesday 1st June... just weighing up whether it's worth spending for this cycle or waiting for next??? I'm 43 in August.
What would you guys do!?

Oops put that on the wrong thread, that will teach me to not wrestle a toddler, put away the Sainsbury's order and Mumsnet at the same time!

Just to say I was also told by our consultant that a HyCoSy gives an increase in fertility for the following two to three months so worth considering. I was meant to have one this month and then had a stupid 10 day long period and that plus the fact our clinic only does them on certain days meant I had an LH surge before I could have it done. Next month, fingers crossed.

I'm also now 40 😔 and TTC no. 2.

Hi @Lastyearttc welcome to the group!

Thanks for sharing - that's really encouraging to hear! All the best for a sibling for your LG. How old is your LG?

I've just bought lots of conception supplements too, although recently found out I'm pregnant (4 weeks and 3 days) so am hoping I won't need them if it sticks.

XxX

Hi all,
Just wondering if I can join you 40+ ttcers!?
I am blessed with a LG but desperately want to give her a sibling 🙏
To give you all some positive news... I fell pregnant at 40 and 41, so now hoping at 42 I can catch again 🙏
I'm on cd 1 of cycle #11 this time round. Just spent a small fortune on supplements, use opks and temp. Also going through fertility tests atm, just need to get my head around the blood results but fertility nurse said everything looks ok! Apart from low AMH which is understandable.

Congratulations @Littlemiss40andfabulous.

@Littlemiss40andfabulous thanks for that... looks like your strategy worked! Maybe you were ovulating earlier than you thought and so you caught ovulation better this month??