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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Trying to conceive baby No 1 over 40

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October1979 · 13/10/2020 16:07

I am 40 nearly 41 and ttc baby no1. I fell pregnant for the first time in December but suffered a missed miscarriage at 8 1/2 weeks in February. I've been trying ever since with no luck. I use Clearblue advanced fertility monitor. Take vitamin B, C and Co Q10 as well as pre conception tablets daily. Until lockdown I did weekly acupuncture. I guess I'm feeling low as af turned up today and I turn 41 very soon.

I am usually positive and hopeful. Trying to think what's for me won't go past me...

Looking for some buddies in the same boat or some over 40s who conceived naturally to give me hope and share their secret to success.

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Catconfusion · 27/01/2021 21:30

Oh no @Littlemiss40andfabulous I’m so sorry. I did wonder if it would go the same way from what you said. It’s pretty sad so allow yourself to grieve. My second loss two years ago was a chemical but this one was worse because I got such strong lines. That’s why it was a bit more of a shock. It does mess with your head. Definitely not a sign of anything wrong and I’ve heard you can be super fertile after. Fingers crossed for us both! Xx

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October1979 · 27/01/2021 20:37

Apparently @sabtom over a few months you'll see a pattern and you ll know when the pattern changes. I just look at pulse rate and skin temp. Apparently you want your skin temp to stay high or climb at end of luteal phase and pulse should get higher if your pregnant. Both will fall if not. I'm sure there is a far more too it. But that's as far as I've got

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sabtom · 27/01/2021 20:00

@October1979 oh gosh! All those graphs and figures look far too complicated for me to understand Confused

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October1979 · 27/01/2021 19:21

Still not sure what it all means as have never tempt before

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October1979 · 27/01/2021 19:20

Hi @sabtom this is my first month using Ava and so far So good. I'm 11dpo so expecting af tomorrow but here is my chart so far

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October1979 · 27/01/2021 19:16

Really sorry to hear that @Littlemiss40andfabulous that's hard news to take. But stay positive and it will happen. Sending love 💕 your way

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sabtom · 27/01/2021 18:49

Oh @Littlemiss40andfabulous I'm so sorry to hear that Thanks

sabtom · 27/01/2021 18:47

I've been considering trying a Ava bracelet as I'm getting sick n tired of setting my alarm to take my temp every morning (and I'm sure my OH would appreciate not being woken up before he has to lol) sometimes I get up earlier than my alarm and get up to go to the bathroom so the thermometer method can be unreliable. However, it is quite expensive and I don't know whether it's worth it or just put that money into the IVF fund 🤔

Littlemiss40andfabulous · 27/01/2021 18:42

Well ladies, it was nice whilst it lasted...

@Catconfusion I'm now joining you with stomach cramps and bleeding and being pretty confident I am definitely not pregnant any more.

I'd never heard of a chemical pregnancy before but think that's what I've had.

I'm going to take the positives though - that we can conceive, chemical pregnancy's are pretty common and do not mean there will be problems in future pregnancies.

And now I'm off with my hot water bottle to eat chocolate and drink that glass of wine!!

Take care everyone xxx

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Catconfusion · 27/01/2021 11:13

Thanks @sabtom I have one of them from when I was ttc my son. I fell pregnant with ds before I could use it and then misplaced it during the haze of early pregnancy. Before that I was using ovusense which was amazing, just expensive.

Great your data is lining up! I really hope this is it. It helped me so much when it came to having scans knowing when I conceived almost to the day. It gave me a lot more confidence all was well. I really hope we get some more bfps on this thread. Xx

sabtom · 27/01/2021 11:08

@Catconfusion I use Femometer and it's app and I also input details into FF as a backup. Sometimes the dates they give me don't match at all but this month they've both been consistent in my ovulation date.

Catconfusion · 27/01/2021 10:30

Brilliant @sabtom I’ve got everything crossed for you. It’s looking so good! Well done for holding off the testing. What kind of thermometer are you using out of interest? Xx

sabtom · 27/01/2021 10:20

Morning all! Just a little update. My temp went up a little this morning to 36.72. AF isn't due til tomorrow so I'm gunna hold off on the test til then.

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Catconfusion · 26/01/2021 21:32

@October1979 that’s a good idea. Much easier to know for sure at 4 weeks plus! Xx

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October1979 · 26/01/2021 21:00

Thanks for your positivity@Catconfusion my AF is due Thursday. I'm going to try and wait until then to test

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Catconfusion · 26/01/2021 20:49

@October1979 the symptoms can come and go early on. Everyone is different though. I got to 6 weeks and everything was severe and more consistent by then. You just never know until you take a test. Xx

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October1979 · 26/01/2021 18:37

Me to @Catconfusion but I think the breast sensitivity would get worse rather than better if I was?

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Catconfusion · 26/01/2021 18:30

I’m ok thanks @October1979 though been swinging between feeling between incredibly sad and hopeful for next time. The hormones are probably not helping. It is horrible having this amazing thing happen and getting excited for it be snatched away. It’s so cruel. Just wish I hadn’t got such a strong positive on Friday.

Good news on the progesterone front then. I had a feeling the low temps were due to how they’re taken. I do hope you’re wrong about AF. Sore boobs are definitely an early pg symptom. It can come and go too. I really hope you get a surprise. Xx

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October1979 · 26/01/2021 18:17

Hi @Catconfusion how are you doing? I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so cruel that we get our hopes up to have them dashed like that. Well done on looking at the positives so soon. It's not easy but I'm sure it will happen for you soon. Thanks for your feedback. I checked with Ava and it looks like you are right skin temp is lower. Mine look right in the middle. I was looking at bbt and worried it meant low progesterone too. But thankfully they are in the mid range of where they should be. I do think AF will come though. My breasts were sore all week and are starting to lose their sensitivity. This usually happens 2 days before af shows.

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Catconfusion · 26/01/2021 16:29

@October1979 it does look a bit on the low side but then I used Ovusense when I did mine so an internal monitor. I can imagine skin temperature being cooler. Do Ava advise about how the results will be lower than internal temperature? Low temperature can be a sign of low progesterone, though I suspect you’d be spotting if this was a problem. Xx

sabtom · 26/01/2021 16:15

@October1979 unfortunately I'm no expert on charts, I just input my temp and let my app work it out lol but I would agree with @Catconfusion, it's staying high so it looks good.

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October1979 · 26/01/2021 15:31

Thanks @Catconfusion is my BBT a bit low?

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Catconfusion · 26/01/2021 15:30

@October1979 your chart looks really good. It’s a good sign your temperature has gone up. Fingers crossed for you. Xx

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October1979 · 26/01/2021 14:41

Hi @sabtom are you good at reading BBT charts? I think my AF is on its way too. Could you tell me if you see anything good/ concerning with my BBT chart. Thanks

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