Trying to conceive baby No 1 over 40

@sabtom if you don't ovulate you can still get af but it may be on time or much later than usual. It's just guess work I'm afraid! I'd keep using your thermometer as well amd see what happens

@Marvellouslymadmum I'm not sure, I've only been using it a couple of months. I charge it every night for at 3 hours before I wear it and I don't think it can be reset. I guess I'll just have to wait it out this month. If I haven't ovulated this month when will AF arrive? I usually expect it around 13/14 dpo, but if there is no 'dpo' what do we go by?

@sabtom 36.6 would be an Lp temp for me too, I don't know a lot about the Ava bracelet, could it need charging or resetting or something?

Ok so this is annoying, my temp went down even further this morning. Just out of interest I took my temp using my mouth thermometer (still have it next to me beside) it was 36.60 which is a LP temp for me, so now I'm beginning to think my Ava bracelet is faulty maybe?

@sabtom I would agree with @October1979 my body sometimes attempts ovulation 2-3 times before it happens or gives up for the month!

@October1979 yep, the strap is on the same notch every night. If my temp hasn't started going up by tomorrow I think it's an anovulatory cycle this month. Either way, gunna have to give the OH a rest tomorrow night, bless him, 4 nights in a row at our age! 😂

Oh and I don't have the Ava ovulation "tick" yet. So I don't think it's sure yet.

Hi @October1979, no, Ava has changed my ovulation date, it predicted ovulation CD14 and still says I ovulated CD14. It has moved my ovulation date before but this month it hasn't. Hopefully my ovulation was delayed and I get a ride in temps within the next few days.

Other than adding vitamin E tablets, I can't think what I could've done different to delay ovulation 🤷🏻‍♀️

Hi all! Hope we're all doing well and looking forward to a little normality again tomorrow?

I made a post earlier about my temps, but don't seem to be getting any replies, maybe you lovely lot can give me some opinions?

CD 15 (day after Ava’s predicted) I got a peak static smiley after 2 days flashing smiley, but temps are going down not up? I normally ovulate around CD 12/13/14 and regular cycles (26-28 days)so this month seems very unusual. Could it be late ovulation this month or not at all? I tested again today (CD 17) but got an empty circle so I'm no longer peaking. Gunna DTD again tonight just incase but this is the longest we've ever gone! Both getting tired 😂

Been taking folic acid since Xmas, calcium and vitamin D because I have a cow's milk allergy and multivitamin. No alcohol since I stopped the pill (Nosecco is a good alternative!) and have cut down to one coffee in the morning and no retinol eye creams anymore. Trying to up the exercise, eat well and do mediation more regularly too. Was just going to give my body a chance to settle and see what it does for first couple of months off the pill. Have been recording physical changes on an app (think I ovulated on Sunday) and have ordered a thermometer to start doing BBT once it arrives. Really surprised though how different my body is off the pill too. I'm a scientist so I'm okay with the science bits, but it's the emotional side of it that's full on and the uncertainty. Also really missing chatting with girlfriends about this with the whole lockdown - it's different on Zoom.

Welcome to the thread @ponymum1980 😊 I second what @Geriatric1234 wrote, get going with tests and supplements, time is not on our side unfortunately, wish I started earlier.

Update from me: CD15, after 2 days of flashing smileys I just got the static peak smiley today. FF says ovulation day was CD13 and Ava says it was yesterday. Temp dipped this morning, but I'm hoping that's the dip before ovulation happens? Anyway, DTD CD10/12/14 and plan to jump my OH tonight and tomorrow and maybe the day after if he's game 😂 hopefully all bases will be covered

Welcome @ponymum1980! Have you thought about any tests/supplements yet? They’re v helpful for women our age :-) Good to get an idea of where you’re at so you can either just chill and enjoy the process or take any required action quickly. We have less time than those 30-something chicas! 😆 Also, do you know about ovulation tracking? It’s not scary and is another good way to make every month count! Xx

Hello, can I join the over 40 TTC for the first time? I'm 41 and stopped taking the pill last month. Scared and excited but also feel bombarded with negativity about my age.

@Bouncytree glad you're doing ok, yes I'm going to speak to the doc this week about a few things and see what I can find out then book some private bits if I don't get anywhere.
I also found out recently that most of the data on getting pregnant at an older age was all gathered year and years ago think it's was like 1800's or something stupid when the average age of a woman was around 45 😂🤦🏼‍♀️ no wonder they didn't have many successful pregnancies when they were all on their last legs or dead!

Thanks @Bouncytree! It's the longest wait ever, but I've only got a few days to go now - resisting taking an early test until Saturday, as that is when I'm due on.

How are you feeling? Have you been in touch with the early pregnancy unit to book in for an early scan?

Wishing you looks of luck that this is your time!

Hopefully the rest of us won't be too far behind! xx

Hi everyone, thanks for your kind words.

Good luck with ovulation @sabtom

@Marvellouslymadmum I hope you get sorted with tests soon. It may not be as much as you think privately and worth it when feeling under such time pressure.

@soontobeamama Fingers crossed for your TWW your nearly there

@October1979 good luck with DTD this month, it always feels good to be on a fresh cycle and seeing the positive OPK. Fingers crossed this is your month 🤞

I have to say I found a lot of the stats very confusing in relation to fertility and IVF. They are given out of context of the studies and very hard to get a sense of what they mean in practicality. I was told I had a 5% chance of getting pregnant naturally and 15%-20% with ivf. That Is all prior to tests so based on averages. It didn’t seem to encouraging but then I read a 20 year old has a 20% chance of getting PG. it is all theoretical anyway, no one really know what will happen in practice and persistence is key really. It makes me me laugh that I was actually pregnant when he was telling me I had a 5% chance. Though I’m not there yet 🤞

@Catconfusion so frustrating when you feel under pressure to ovulate and it just won’t happen. My periods were different after the MC, 2 days longer and symptoms for about 5 days before hand, cramps nausea, thought I was PG every month and also worry about peri menopause.

Taking it day by day here and trying to keep a level head until I can get some scans and info. Feel like we’re in with a good shot but trying not to think too far head, I know there’s a possibility of MC again but trying not to worry too much. Cramps just like period last night and seemed less nauseous than before so was flipping out a bit. But no bleeding so all good for now. I’m on Easter break and looking forward to getting back to work for some distraction, they days are going so slow! .

@Bouncytree oh congratulations 🎉 here's to a sticky bean!
CD 11 for me, still no positive OPK but starting DTD yesterday and doing it as many times as we're physically up to it lol. Usually ovulation happens around CD 13/14 🤞🏻

As for me, I’m cd 19 and still no o. I had a melt down yesterday when my temperature dropped. I just felt so sad and frustrated with my body. Thankfully I’ve always suffered with irregular cycles. If not I’d think it was the dreaded peri menopause. My hormones seem all over the place. I’m getting mood swings and hormonal headaches. I have none of the other symptoms so just think it’s maybe still my body sorting itself out after the miscarriage. Or else I’m still recovering from having my ds last year. Maybe having a baby later in life takes longer to recover from, He is one tomorrow and my aim was to start trying then so I guess we’ve got the ground running. Wishing baby dust to you all! Xx

@Marvellouslymadmum I’m so sorry to hear the wait is long for an appointment. I think it’s awful considering it’s time sensitive. Hoping you can get a private appointment though annoyed for you it’s come to that. Xx