Trying to conceive baby No 1 over 40

@Catconfusion ah I’m so sorry to read this. This whole journey can be absolutely heartbreaking. I really hope it turns out ok for you x

@October1979 I agree in most circumstances about not comparing different brands but the frers are so sensitive so a faint line at 4 weeks is not normally good news. Yes the Wondfro looked a bit fainter this morning and about the same this afternoon so not really progressing, that’s why I did the Frer for reassurance. I might be completely wrong and I get a stronger line tomorrow. I’m trying not to lose hope but it’s tough. Xx

Thanks @October1979 the other tests were Wondfro so much less sensitive but I was getting decent lines until this morning. My samples have seemed pale today so I don’t know, maybe I have been too hydrated. It was with a 2 hr hold so a guess a fmu test will confirm. I’ve been getting a bit of cramping but nothing major. Af is due on Friday as my Lp is 16 days. It’s just so disheartening. This cycle has been so long and exhausting. I just hoped this was it for us but I’m not too sure now. Xx

It’s looking like bad news from me. After seeing the lines get darker since Friday, I had a lighter one this morning. I wasn’t too worried as I felt nauseous and had lots of symptoms. Tonight I did an Frer and it looks faint for 14 dpo. I guess I need to try and relax and see what the morning brings. Xx

@Honey2 I think it sometimes takes a little longer to identify it, mine changed it 3 times this month!

@Marvellouslymadmum any idea why FF hasn’t identified ov yet?? I thought it put the cross hairs lines on after the 3rd day of temp rises?? I make that today...

@wanderlove scheduled dtd always fun 😂
@Honey2 your chart looks similar to mine this month 🤞🏻 for some positive news!

@Littlemiss40andfabulous hello! Every other day sounds like a good plan... takes the pressure off a bit rather than intense BD all around ov!

I’ve just ovulated (I think - waiting for FF to confirm) @wanderlove it’s like you say - we DTD 4 nights in a row, by the end it’s not very romantic and becoming hard work (esp at 41!!)

I’ve attached my chart - fingers crossed I ovulated on Monday and really hope all that BD pays off!!

Got a flashing smiley this morning and feel strangely excited . There's nothing like dtd on demand to make you feel unromantic !

@Catconfusion just catching up on posts and read your fantastic BFP news! Congratulations!

Hello to everyone else, and those new to the group.

I'm just ticking along here waiting to ovulate. This month we're trying to dtd every other day and just see what happens.

@wanderlove yes that's it, so they tell you not to take any notice of the lines in those ones. It guesses your fw until you've done your opk/temps and then adjusts it accordingly.

@Honey2 those strips don't work properly for me so I have to use the clearblue ones. The strips just never pick up he surge for me 🤷🏼‍♀️

@wanderlove yes the green boxes are the fertile window - but until you have put quite a bit of data in the ff app will just place those green boxes mid cycle as the ‘average’ fertile days are here. Once you enter opk details and have completed a full cycle or 2 then the ff app can place the fertile days more acurately.

As for opk’s I use the Femometer ones - much cheaper than the clear blue. They show nothing or very faint on the test line for me right up to the day before my peak reading, but I think they are pretty accurate at spotting your peak LH surge. You can also download the Femometer app as well where you take a pic of the opk strip and it intelligently recognises how much LH there is and tells you if it’s low, high or peak. I’ve attached a pic of mine from this months. Sorry probably too much info in one go 🙈

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Guessing the green boxes on the ff app are the fertile window? If so it means I am on my last day of fertile window according to ff yet my other app has me three days off ovulation and opks have nothing yet!

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Thank you. That makes sense. So it's not like a control line but two separate ones I guess. Im going to try and crack the fertility friend but if not I may have to try the other one.

@wanderlove don't pay any attention to the lines on the cb opk if they're the purple digital advance ones. They test for two hormones so the lines don't mean the same. I use the ff app and the opk are at the bottom of the data but in tests. I also use Femometer which is good

I'm really struggling with the fertility friend app. It's prob mr but I just can't get my head around where to put opk results and temps. Does anyone have any other app recs?

Hi again everyone. It's so reassuring to read everyone's stories. Sometimes I doubt my sanity trying for a baby at 41! However you do see women getting pregnant in their forties (like Sue Redford) and think it must be possible. I think I'd regret not trying. I've started with the opk test. I'm using the clear blue one which is expensive but thought good to start off with whilst I get my head around it. It's been interesting so far as my app says I should be entering my fertile window but the opks say no (just the ⭕️). I did notice when I was getting the test strip out that the second line was darker than the day before so hopefully this means my hormones may be increasing. I've honestly never known so much about my body with the endless testing, temping and googling!

Yes sorry I didn't meant hcg test with gp more investigations like blood tests etc, they will do those for you after 6 months.

Ahh ok thanks, sorry getting my head around all the abbreviations! No the first month I was a bit late so just tested at home, it was negative and then AF (check me out using the abbreviation !) started a few days later. This is now our second month and I’m currently mid cycle.....

Haven’t had any tests done at GP, I’m a paramedic and tbh the clear blue tests are way more accurate in early detection than the GP ones (I know this as we carry the same tests on our ambulances)

It’s only early days for us and tbh we’re enjoying trying 🤣 I think if after 6months or do and still nothing I’ll discuss with GP

@Bluelightbaby cp is chemical pregnancies which are very early losses. So when you get a positive test then a few days later your af (Aunt Flo/period) arrives. My partner is 3 years younger than me. How long have you been ttc so far? Have you had any tests done through gp?

I’m sorry to hear about your 2mc (sorry new to this so not sure what 2cp is 😬)

My partner is ten years younger than me and doesn’t have any children so he’s very excited - I’m feeling the pressure !!

@Honey2 oops autocorrect fail again! Radford not daddies 😂 we only managed to dtd one day this fw and it was the Thursday before I got my peak on Saturday so I'm probably out this month anyway plus had a random huge temp this morning - no idea what that's about!!
@Bluelightbaby welcome! I'm in a very similar situation to you, I have a 16 and 15 yo from previous relationship and fell pregnant straight away with both, my new (5.5 years) partner has a 14 & 13 yo with his ex. We have now been ttc together for over 3 years and had 2mc and 2cp and I'm 42. Seen lots of bfps of similar ages recently though so that's promising!