TTC 35+ Thread 5 Cougar and Silver Fox Club

@claireb7rg I’m sorry you going through a hard time give yourself time cry if you need to whatever makes you feel better and yes the monitoring can make you hope I stopped opk’s long time as I never got a positive and we also decided to stop for a while we just gonna do it as normal if it happens it will be a miracle but for now I doubt it we stopped as my body ain’t responding to any of it think I left too late

@claireb7rg so sorry you are going through this!! Hopefully the appointment will bring you some options!! Take care and maybe a couple of weeks not thinking about it all will help. I think it’s easy to get to the stage it’s all you can think about!! I’ve def not been as proactive with all the monitoring last couple of months, it has helped a bit!!

@claireb7rg I'm so sorry 😞 this is such an incredibly difficult process to go through.
Definitely understand the desire to walk away from it all. I hope that taking a step back from all the monitoring gives you space to grieve...and its not like the monitoring is what makes you pregnant anyway!
🤞fingers crossed for you that it happens once you've stopped expecting and hoping it will.

@Sleeeeeepy it’s grim! Feel better soon!

@Loladoodle Ahhh great tip, thanks! I've not had a bout in ages, I'd forgotten how painful it is!

@Sleeeeeepy I used to drink cranberry juice by the gallon for this but I started taking cranberry tablets from Holland and Barrett a couple of years back and I’ve NEVER had another bout since! Highly recommend as part of your daily vits!!

@seleepy I really thaught this month was the one I get my proper AF I can’t believe I’m sad about not getting a proper period but here I am oh no I hope you feel better soon no sexy fun time for you till you feel better lol atleast you don’t have to explain me I don’t even no sexy fun time at those I’m happy with crisps and chocolate

@Trying4mylastmiracle I quite often have a couple of days then a gap then more days bleeding. My cycles were pretty short though and I think my hormones are probably a bit out of whack - I've found b vit complex useful to lengthen my cycle but still getting the gap.

An update on the sexy fun times, I've now got cystitis. FFS.

@CC81 no I haven’t it’s never crossed Lyn mind but now you mentioned it might be something worth looking into might explain things a bit more thank you

@Trying4mylastmiracle - Have you had any tests to check your hormone levels?

If not, I'd definitely advise it. If you have a deficiency (in progesterone, for example), you may be able to get treatment from your GP to help.

Well I woke up this morning my period is completely gone so it lasted two days anyone ever had this before ? so again sat here like 🧐so grab a test today and do one tomorrow morning just to make sure my period was due tomorrow

Ah I'm so sorry @Trying4mylastmiracle, its bloody tough being a woman!

Heres to our next cycle! X

@CurlyNo2 sorry to hear that atleast you have a normal cycle mine started yerstday no spotting nothing just a lot when I wee then turn into a full period within an hour heavy then today Slow down and I think tomorrow might be last day seems to be slowing down just went for a wee realised I didn’t to change my sanitary towel since about 6 o’clock there was just a bit on it so really which means my cycles are still all over the place that’s the second time now so feel a bit down really I thaught this was gonna be my first proper period didn’t even need paracetamol for the cramps 😒another month to wait for my 2 or 3 day period

Think I'm out this month as I've been having heavier than normal spotting 😔

@Keepeas sounds like you had one of those days I’m glad sleeeeeepy’s post made you laugh i did the same thing when I read it at first I thaught I read it wrong then I read it again then just started laughing she made me laugh twice today we all need need it a lot is going on in the world right now hope your little one gets better soon

[quote Sleeeeeepy]@Trying4mylastmiracle that's good news 😊

Good luck with cycle 8 @Loladoodle I've just looked and I'm on proper cycle 6 after about 6 weeks of naffing about at the start

If it hadn't been DH's birthday I just wouldn't have bothered again tbh, I need a holiday not a shag. I didn't tell him it was peak but I've noticed he is much more interested at that point in the cycle, I think it must be the pheromones (it's not the sexy vibes or special effort, he's lucky if I brush my hair)[/quote]
@sleeeeeepy hahahaha
My OH asked me why I snorted, this has made my day 😂

We decided to pay to see a fertility consultant privately because I've been losing my mind, and we thought maybe it made sense to start looking into IVF. I thought I'd be frustrated if they told me that everything was fine and it would just take time, but actually it was such a relief to have someone who knows what they're talking about take the time to listen to all my concerns and reassure me that everything is fine. All the numbers are slightly lower than average for my age, but still good, so I'm feeling really positive again that it will (eventually!) happen for us. 🤞
Wishing everyone else luck too!

Catching up on this thread made me laugh!

I've had a shit day, overloaded at work, just finished a 13 hour shift working remotely at home and now my 4 year old has to self isolate for 2 weeks!

I need to cry tonight to try and release some of this tension!

Felt little twinges like AF was on her way. It looked so promising over the weekend too

@Sleeeeeepy sounds perfectly reasonable to
me 😅

@selina37 you sound positive and it’s made a difference I feel a bit meh I don’t know if I’m ovulating I don’t even want to find out as that will make my mind start questioning things so gonna let my body get back to normal an not pressure my self soo much as my cycles are all the place at the minute I think the pill is still lingering

[quote Sleeeeeepy]@Loladoodle I am prepared to up the shagging in exchange for a holiday 😂[/quote]
😂😂oh god I’m choking right now laughing

@Loladoodle I am prepared to up the shagging in exchange for a holiday 😂

Sorry the witch arrived @selina37 but good your cycle is like clockwork 🤞 I’m sure that’s a positive thing!

@Sleeeeeepy I hear ya sista! I need a holiday too... but a hol alone ain’t gona make us pregnant would need a hol and a shag!!

Oh and I've also been a bit healthier... eating well, nuts and seeds and added Red Raspberry Leaf extract, and vitamin D...

Ah AF turned up as expected this morning! A day late though, making LP 15 days this month. Not really a lot of spotting though this month, just the usual from (sorry) having a number two 😐

On the plus, cycles seem more like clockwork at the moment. I feel a LOT less stressed than I have been so maybe that's why. And I've been feeling ovulation. I hadn't been for a while.

Onto next month...

Hope you're all doing good. Sorry got all those with AF too - she's such a bitch.