TTC 35+ Thread 5 Cougar and Silver Fox Club

@Vie8126 no sorry, no testing for me this time around. Just winging it!

@Sleeeeeepy it’s hard I know! We have decided against any testing or intervention too. Have had a difficult time previously Ttc with a very long, mentally draining road. I’m not prepared to do that again (new partner this time though). The plan is to dtd, take our supplements and keep the faith. If it doesn’t happen by middle of next year we will call it quits but I am keeping faith it will 🙏

Took 3 years last time, I don’t have 3 years this time but I have faith for it to happen and acceptance will come if it doesn’t. I have a good life regardless and I must remember that.

That was cycle 6 after about 6 weeks I don't count because my cycle was sorting itself out. We caught really quickly with DS1 and DS2 sneaked in unnoticed. My hormones are a bit unbalanced I think, I can really see the difference from when I was younger, which is what makes me think it's not going to happen. I don't want any intervention as I don't think it would be great for my mental health, long story there and not one for today!x

Has anyone done an at home AMH test?

🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 for all!

@sleeeeeepy understand what your saying completely, how long have you guys been ttc for?

My cycle tricked me after being bang on 24 days for the last 3 cycles it decided to not turn up yesterday and led to me doing a CB early test this morning which was stark white. Queue the usual feelings of disappointment etc I am stomach cramping like mad so was a waste of a test and I wish I just waited it out.

Hi @joanna1009!!

Nice to see so many new ladies on here! The thread was a bit quiet for a while there. Good luck everyone! Keep the faith! PMA 🙌 (which will turn to PMS for me next week but hey, gotta take the positive moments as they come 🤷‍♀️😅)

@Sleeeeeepy what cycle are you on?

Aw @Sleeeeeepy have you been trying long? x

Ha ha @Loladoodle! Good idea!!

Welcome all the newbies! This is a really lovely thread and I hope it brings you baby dust!

10dpo and a BFN on a FRER so that's me out for the month, the usual cramping is starting up. Every month I'm a bit less hopeful, I think this is probably a pretty healthy place to be as I'm becoming more accepting that this is probably it for us. I'm a bit sad but it doesn't feel as painful as it did. I'm glad we tried though or I would have regretted not knowing if it was meant to be.

@whatever1980 spike his dinner 🤣
Thanks good luck to you too! I’m cycle 8 now, trying to keep positive 💫

@Joanna1009 hello! How have you found it? Do you have a plan? X

Happy to see this thread. I'm TTC (cycle 2) at 38. Looking forward to following everyone's journeys.

Is anyone else just starting their TTC journey and super anxious about it? Im trying to be chill be my stomach can get really knotted about it if I think too long about it 😬

@whatever1980 I have tried to cover things as best I can. I am paranoid it's not going to come easy and that it's going to effect my head really really badly.
Omg! Every day?! How were you not broken? 😯😂 my DP is a bit put out by my DTD plan but once I've got him turned on he's good to go anyway. I told him the schedule last night and he rolled his eyes 🤭 I said "it's ok, we like sex, don't we? I love you!" 😁 😘 he feigns exasperation, it's cute 😊

Hi @Loladoodle I've bought tablets for husband too but he never takes them! I'm doing it all here! Good luck!

@MamaMoonbeam sounds like you have it all covered! Every other day too ovulation sounds reasonable as couple of months ago I dtd everyday from CD8 to CD17 and DH was dreading DTD by the end 😆

Thanks @whatever1980 I had ordered the Q10 will see how I get on with them and will consider the Ubiquinol in a couple of months if no joy! Supposed to be good for sperm too I’ve read might get dp to pop a few as well 😅

Hi @whatever1980 ! Im ok, thanks. You? Trying to convince DP that he really does want to BD tonight 😅 trying to do every other day until 4 days before ovulation then every day if we can. It's fun and I don't want him to get bogged down by any pressure so trying to keep it light. 🤷🏻‍♀️ how are you doing with things?

Hi @MamaMoonbeam I'm CD3 so bit behind you! How are you?

Hi @Vie8126 good luck hope this is your month!!

I've heard reflexology and acupuncture are great for fertility perhaps just even getting you to relax. My feet embarrass me so may go for acupuncture if I can.

I swear that nausea wasn't a PMT symptom for me before I started ttc. First month I got it in July I was sure I was pregnant but obviously wasn't. I've had nausea every month since then. It's like a trick!

I get night sweats too when PM which I've always had but convincing myself the menopause is here early for me. I've a couple of friends who are a year or so younger than me and they're pregnant and I'm kicking myself for not trying sooner but I had a new job and didn't want to upset anyone - stupid

Good luck!

Not having a fun cycle this month. I used to ovulate day 14 but since stopping pregnacare it moved to day 18-20. This month I’m on cd22, loads of ewcm with some blood (sorry tmi) last 3 days now but still no hint of a peak opk. I o ly usually get 2-3 days of this.
I guess I’ve been stressed out about some stuff this month which has maybe delayed everything. Now worrying I’m not going to ovulate This cycle. How dare my body not have a cycle go like clockwork!! 🙄

Hi all!
Can I join you all? Im 37 with an 11 yo DS from a previous relationship. This is my first cycle TTC my second, and DP's (38) first!
I don't think im ready for the psychosomatic symptoms!! Im already feeling like my uterus is heavy and bloaty on CD10! 🤦🏻‍♀️
How is everyone doing? Xxx

@whatever1980 I use the clearblue 4 day opks I get high for around 5 days then peak been tracking on Ovia but resisted temping so far. Each month I try to be level headed but end up crazy. My boobs are super painful today but sure its just PMT on complete toilet watch as due on today. I asked DP to pick me up a pregnancy test as I was out with DD but then changed my mind and told him to leave it gonna sit this one out and wait.

I truly didn't really think about my age just thought it would have happened by now what happens I guess when you feel no older than 20 in your head! Few stressful nights last week where I was just this isn't happening for us. Even today every single twinge is magnified. I didn't fully appreciate how hard it would all be.

I only take folic acid will look at the other supplements. Tempted to investigate reflexology as I love it anyway and might make me relax a bit but not sure if you can even get it atm with Covid.