TTC 35+ Thread 5 Cougar and Silver Fox Club

Hi everyone hope you're all okay

@MgW1 I'll keep my fingers crossed for you 🤞🤞🤞

@Overlyanxious glad you're feeling more positive and things seem to be moving quickly for you which is great no hanging around.

Is acupuncture relaxing? I had it about 12 years ago at a yoga retreat but can't remember much about it but I've heard great things.

I'm just apart to depart with another £20 for my 2 week supply of ubiquinol 😶

@Overlyanxious
Do you think the scan is a sign that you have a milder case ? Im glad your feeling a bit better. Sounds like you should look into acupuncture too! I went with an open mind to it , no harm in trying. I suffer with painful heavy periods also so hopefully it will help with that.
Well AF is due Thursday so decided not to drive myself crackers testing. If AF doesnt turn up thurs a FRER test will give me an accurate result by then. I just used a cheap test but the V.V faint line appeared within the 3 min test time. I just thought it would be much darker by 12 dpo...so not that hopeful.
Thought we would take a laid back approach this month with the trying, want to try and enjoy xmas after such a crap year. My next fertile window is christmas week.
Xx

@MgW1 glad you are feeling relaxed and fingers crossed it’s not a chemical. I had my dr appointment and I’m being referred to a gynae specialist so I can have more tests as the ultrasound doesn’t show enough - he said though to just keep trying. After a weekend of feeling sorry for myself I’m now feeling a lot better about it all.

@selina37
Im ok , had a faint positive but think its a chemical
12 dpo and its so faint i have to hold it up to see ! Anyone else had a chemical? Il test again friday. Had acupuncture today and feel quite relaxed. Hope everyone is ok xx

Hi ladies, how's everyone?

@Loladoodle how are you getting on with your tests?

@Kitekat81 thank you so much 🥰 yea was really hard. After the MC I wondered what was taking my period so long to return, did a HPT and was positive! So got all excited again only to find out it was retained product, not a new pregnancy 😫 maybe we’ll get lucky and have good news after Christmas ☺️ I’m pleased to have found this thread 💖

@Farfaraway1 welcome to the group! I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage, that must have been really hard, especially to have it stretched over such a long time. I really hope that you'll get lucky soon xx

Hi everyone 👋 my first time posting in here.

@Kitekat81 internal scans pick up a bit more detail compared to an external one. They can be commonly used in early pregnancy to check for things like fetal pole etc if it’s not seen or obvious on an external scan. Xx

I’m 37 and blessed with two beautiful boys. I feel like someone is missing in our family hence trying for another. Its now 13 months since I stopped BC. I lost a pregnancy Feb this year which turned out to be an incomplete miscarriage which wasn’t picked up until 2 months later so had to go to hospital for D&C. I’ve also previously had an ectopic and as a result now only have one tube. Still waiting for my BFP but the more time that passes the more I think it’s not going to happen ☹️ I know I’m extremely lucky and I’m extremely grateful to have my busy boys. 💖
sending vibes to you all for calm, health, happiness and babies! Xx

@Overlyanxious
Good luck for Tuesday xxx

@MgW1 yeah I’m ttc my first. Thanks @whatever1980

Good luck on Tuesday @Overlyanxious

@Overlyanxious
With all the science and treatments , i feel unless its the dreaded cancer , nothing is insurmountable. Are you ttc first baby ? Xx

@MgW1 I’m seeing the Dr on Tuesday - so not too far away now. I’m going to push to be referred to a specialist as it’s all a bit confusing. Thanks for your supportive comment. All ok with my partner now - think it was all just the emotion of it. How are you getting on?

@Overlyanxious
AHH dear , sorry to hear that. When do you see doc? They can do amazing things now xxx

@Overlyanxious
When are you seeing the doc ? They can do amazing things now so fingers crossed xxx

@whatever1980 I was the same with my blood tests, I only got my results from the receptionist who just said 'normal'. I insisted on speaking to the GP who just said the same thing really, that my results were 'normal', so nothing to worry about, but she would start the referral process to the fertility clinic just because of my age, with the long waiting times it's better to at least have started the process, and there is no reason why I wouldn't conceive naturally in the meantime. I never received the actual numbers from the blood tests, and still to this day I'm not sure whether I should have asked for them. I don't know whether there would be any advantage in knowing them or whether I should just trust that they were 'normal'

@Scotti84 wow that's so impressive. I hate saying anything bad about our NHS as I've needed them a few times over the years and when I've really needed it, they've been amazing. The wait time for standard procedures can be really frustrating though, and everything is taking even longer at the moment because of Covid 🙄 Maybe I should move to Germany! 😄

On the day I had my external scan I was so nervous, I was so worried that they might see something wrong, plus it was quite intimidating having to wear a mask and surrounded by people in masks. Also, I was having the scan because I'd been having some irregular periods, and the sonographer joked that I should just wait until I hit the menopause, then I'd be irregular all the time! She was just being nice and probably had no idea how I received that harmless joke, but you really shouldn't joke about menopause with a 38 year old who is trying to start a family. Menopause is my biggest fear! 😣 I ended up being so nervous and stressed I didn't ask any questions on the day, so only had the verdict from my GP a few days later which was 'normal'. I really wanted to ask, what does 'normal' mean? Does normal mean fertile? Or does normal mean normal for a 38 year old with declining fertility?? In the end I chilled out a bit and decided to just trust my GP who would surely have told me if the scan showed anything that I should be worried about 🤷‍♀️

I agree @Kitekat81 I had 21 day bloods done and they apparently came back normal but it was left to the receptionist to tell me the results and as nice and as nice as she was couldn't me what they meant - so does that mean I'm ovulating - erm I don't know type of thing. I got a print out of the results to google but didn't massively help

Germany's medical system is as expected really efficient from what I've heard

@Kitekat81 the whole health system here is better, I’m always surprised. They just do stuff then and there, like blood tests, i just have to call in and get one, no appt or waiting in a queue at the hospital, but that’s very german - no messing about. He said he’d see my hormone levels to see what would need topping up and then decide what course to take.

I didn’t have an external ultrasound, just an internal one. It was a bit uncomfortable but he showed me where my ovaries were and did like a 360 of my womb. I couldn’t really make much out to be honest, but he seemed happy with it. I think an external is maybe a bit clearer from pics ive seen of them, this looked a bit more 3D, but he was checking me for polyps so maybe they would show up more on an internal?

Thanks @whatever1980 and @Kitekat81 I’m feeling less stressed about it - although ended up arguing with my partner who thinks I’ve given up on it all.

Im not sure about the difference for the two ultrasounds. I think I read that the internal one is used to pick up things like Endo and what I have.

Welcome @Scotti84 unfortunately I don’t know about hormone therapy.

@Kitekat81 thanks and yes everything crossed 🤞🏽🤞🏽

Speaking of fertility investigations - does anyone know if there is a difference between an internal and an external ultrasound? I was given an external one, but other people seem to have had internal ones... Is an internal one better??

@Scotti84 hormone therapy sounds interesting, do you know what they are going to give you?? Sounds a bit different to what happens in the UK, and definitely way more efficient! Here in the UK if we are over 35 we get our bloods checked if we've been trying for more than 6 months (day 3 and day 21) but to be honest the GP doesn't seem that interested in the results and it seems like they just collect these so they can refer us to the fertility clinic. Then it's a 3 month+ wait for an appointment at the fertility clinic who presumably look at those results and make suggestions? At least that's my experience of it! I've had the bloods done and am on the waiting list for an appointment at the fertility clinic, which is why I'm pretty clueless about what happens next!

Welcome @Tillybabs! I'm also 39 and trying for my first. We've been trying for 8/9 months so a bit further down the line :-/ Fingers crossed for both of us! 🤞🤞🤞 x

@Overlyanxious so sorry to hear that. I agree with @whatever1980 though, try not to worry until you've spoken to your doctor to get the full story. Hopefully they can provide some reassurance and there may be things they can do to help x