TTC 35+ Thread 5 Cougar and Silver Fox Club

@Happyhappy37 www.proceive.co.uk/ I take the proceive max because it's formulated for when over 35

@LittleAurora what is proceive? My hubby would like girl.

@Happyhappy37 interesting! I've learned something new today 😄

@Kitekat81 yes I do feel differently. I find that it's like doing pelvic floors but different. It forces the womb to contract. You feel it contracting. Feels tighter down there and your hubby will notice the difference 😀.

I've been taking proceive max. I have been mixing it into smoothies. We are trying to sway boy so have been eating bananas and meat and fish lol.
Any of you swaying for gender or any boy tips?

@Happyhappy37 wow every day's a school day! Do you feel different after you've done it? Can you feel the benefits?

To be clear: you boil the kettle pour it in the bucket and sit over it for 20 minutes.

@Kitekat81 vaginal steaming is basically sitting over a bucket of boiling water for about 20 minutes. (you can add herbs in the water) Its quite common culturally for me. Last time I did that was after birth for about a week or two (culturally it's a must to do after and after a period)
(if my mum knows that i don't steam after period I would so get the eye🙄)
Definitely going to start it back though

I've noticed that they have all sorts of vaginal steaming things these days but I will stick to the old school ways.

@Happyhappy37 omg what is a vaginal steam??? 😯😯😯 Have never heard of that!!!

@Kitekat81 ikr. Will be doing cloves and fenugreek.
Day after af. Do a vaginal steam and start the clove tea.
Day 1 after af am (on empty stomach) and pm (before bed). Clove tea
Afternoon - fenugreek seed tea.
I will do this until the day of confirm LH surge.
I plan to do this each month.

She said cloves and fenugreek increase fertility alot. Apparently she had family members do this who initially thought they were infertile. One of them got pregnant at 47yrs old.
Well she's my great auntie and I will listen to her 😀.
🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽

Side note : clove tea has a very strong taste but its doable 😊😊😁😁

@Happyalwayswinning that's interesting, it's usually us nagging our oh's to put more effort in, rather than the other way around 😄 What natural remedies are you going to try?x

Good morning all,
Sorry to all who's af showed up.

So my hubby gave me a proper telling off. Apparently i am not putting any effort in ttc 🙄. To be fair he's not lying. All that I have done is ' not prevent'.

So I am now tentatively going to put more effort in 😁, after this cycle.
I am already taking vitamin D and folic acid.
Af due 11th. My aunt has given me some natural remedies to use the day after AF to ovulation day to try.

Sorry for the long post.
Sending positive energy to you all 🙏🏾💜❤️💖

@selina37 oh no! Sorry to hear that 😞 hope you are doing ok. Hugs!

And I know what you mean re your ex it is rubbish that it sometimes appears that the person who did wrong got a nice life however, karma will catch up with him it always does!

Our time will come we will get our bfps and sibling for our children 🙏

Hi @LittleAurora Is this your first?

@Loladoodle caught you up cycle twin - AF invited herself this morning! 🙄

Hi 37 and TTC first cycle! Due to test on the 10th
I've been crampy and have cwcm so goodness knows what's going on
Fingers crossed

@GuessHowMuch
Hi there , just wondered do you get cramps during luteal phase or all month? Supposed to be having a scan tonorrow but now school closed and kiddies at home , i wont be able to go , might have to rearrange for next month xx

@GuessHowMuch thanks so much for replying 😊 I'm 39, ttc #1. Came off the pill in September 2019 and was 'not trying not preventing' to start with, but have been properly trying since April 2020. I had some irregular cycles in January and February (2 bleeds per month) and the same again in August, which is what has worried me a little. I've had blood tests with my GP which they said were 'normal', and have my first appointment at the fertility clinic in a couple of weeks so I expect they might look at the blood test results in a bit more detail. I think you've got the right idea, just focus on being as healthy as possible (not like me who's just eaten nearly a whole Terry's chocolate orange 🙈) and lots of dtd. If you are wanting more information about what is going on with your body I recommend temping (not sure if you already do that). When I had the irregular cycles in Jan/Feb I had no idea what was going on, but in August I was doing OPK's and temping so knew that it was because I hadn't ovulated. Would completely understand though that you might not want the extra hassle of temping and prefer to stick with the chilled out approach! 😄

@Kitekat81I’m 37. I have irregular cycles (including some 14 day cycles) and lots of stomach cramps and awful indigestion. I went to the GP this time last year and they did blood tests. My LH was high during my luteal phase and the doctor suggested that as menopause approaches and there are fewer eggs to release LH levels rise and rise because they don’t get the hormone feedback to say an egg has been released. I was offered more blood tests but I’ve got two DCs already (six and four) so don’t think I’d do anything differently than I am now - eating relatively well (after the overdose of green Pringles and Quality Street from Christmas) and aiming to lose a few lbs. I didn’t get a positive on an OPK this cycle so absolutely no idea what’s going on. What’s your TTC journey been like?

Ah sorry for being a miserable moo 😞 The most disheartening thing about my ex is their affair ended in her pregnancy 😒 and they are still together now so I see how much my kids enjoy having a younger sibling. Don't get me wrong, I don't want him anymore (shudder) but why do the no-goods always end up with what they want (or what others want and they take for granted?) I do try not to worry, but my habits of living with that dipstick for so long die hard, and sometimes I feel I push DP away out of automatic defence.

Anxiety is definitely much higher before AF,l too, which I suspect is only hours away but a bit delayed due to my huge stress levels yesterday!

Anyway, welcome @GuessHowMuch 🤗 What suggests that? Surely just being healthy is the best we can do! And keep trying as best we can 🥰

Happy New Year ladies!

Af here in full force today 😩 such fun!

Sorry you are struggling @selina37 my previous relationship did not end well (ended I’m divorce due to ex h cheating) but I refuse to let that dictate my future or current relationship. I know it’s not easy for everyone though. I am quite in to meditation and self help though so that def helps. Perhaps something you might try?

Hope everyone else is doing ok?

New Year New Me! Prioritising weight loss this month (including dry January) and also not going to poas early anymore! Here’s to a new less fat, less crazy, sober moi!! 🤞

Happy Monday everyone! I think I'm 2dpo, waiting for my temp rise to confirm ovulation, sometimes don't get a proper rise until 3dpo. So sorry for everyone waiting for af, it really is the most stressful part of the cycle, so many emotions.

Welcome @GuessHowMuch! Do you mind if I ask how old you are, and what was in your bloodwork to indicate perimenopause? I worry about it a lot but don't really know what the signs and symptoms are. From what I've read though it's still perfectly possible to get pregnant during perimenopause!

@selina37 sorry to hear that. I hope you can work it out. I know the anxiety is there because of past experiences but that doesn’t mean it will happen again. Try not to let it worry you so much.

I turned 40 yesterday so it just made it feel all the more depressing lol.

Hi Everyone - Happy New Year. I’ve just made the decision to try for a third so hoping I can join your lovely thread. Had some blood work done a while ago that suggested perimenopause so not super hopeful 😬 Think I’m about 1DPO if it happened.

@selina37 sorry to hear you’re struggling with anxiety. I’ve had anxiety since I was a teenager and it’s just the worst thing. Have you talked to your other half about your anxiety?

Happy new year all. Hoping this year (or month!!) will be lucky for us.. in the TWW so fingers crossed..!

@Tillybabs same here... it's gonna be here today for me too and I feel proper bloody down today anyway. Hope you're ok ❤️ Keep going 🤗

Arguments yesterday with DP for me 😪 and I can't get myself to snap out of it 😞
Anxiety gets the better of me sometimes. I was always scared of being cheated on and my ex did exactly that with bells on. It's hard to think rationally sometimes. Can't seem to shake the anxiety some days 😫