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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC baby #2

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Mommabear20 · 06/10/2020 10:44

For all us mammas trying for baby #2!

First month of trying here! Fell pregnant in the first month last time so 🤞🤞

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Char899 · 07/10/2020 14:12

@Mommabear20 personally that’s what I’d do. That way you won’t be starting back at work nervous to tell them and they won’t feel like you’ve dropped a bombshell!

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Mommabear20 · 07/10/2020 13:55

@Char899 thanks 😊 we do have a pretty good relationship and same with my Area manager. They have just also agreed to my set days (our hours and days change every week usually) so that I can arrange childcare for DD so hoping that will make it easier for them to find cover for me as they know exactly what/when they need someone.
So would you say having a sit down over a coffee or something would be my best option and get it over with before hand?

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Char899 · 07/10/2020 13:48

@Mommabear20 I used to be a manager at one of my jobs but I didn’t go back to my previous job after maternity leave, I’m a stay at home mum now (for now anyway) if I were in your shoes I’d probably tell them before you go back? That way they can get a head start on arranging cover for you? I think it depends on the type of relationship you have with your boss? If you have a good relationship with them maybe they’ll respect your honesty?

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Mommabear20 · 07/10/2020 13:41

Random question! Are any of you managers at your work place?

Basically I am scheduled to return to work from my mater leave, the first week in January 2021, IF I was to get pregnant this month I would be 13/14 weeks along when I return to work. As a manager, would you rather know prior to my return or would I be better waiting till I'm back and telling them in person? I work at a small shop of a large company

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Waiting4another · 07/10/2020 13:36

@Char899 Haha make sure you do a test first if you are thinking about heading to the GP about your cold!

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Mommabear20 · 07/10/2020 13:31

@Waiting4another hahahaha bless ya! That's my kind of logic too!! Not a stretch at all!

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Char899 · 07/10/2020 13:26

@Waiting4another @Mommabear20 I know!! I don’t expect it to last long though I’ll probably cave and buy some tomorrow! I just know as soon as I do I’ll test straight away at like 5dpo 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ Funnily enough I have a cold at the moment, had it over a week and a half, ds is better but I’m not! I wonder if that’s because my immune system is low as my body is busy making a baby? A bit of a stretch maybe but nice to think 🤔 😂😂

Waiting4another · 07/10/2020 13:25

FRERs are expensive though, I just use the really cheap strips from the internet and would only get a FRER to confirm if I see sth on the cheapies...

Waiting4another · 07/10/2020 13:22

I am all for testing heaps now, do not want someone else to tell me about my pregnancy this time haha

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Mommabear20 · 07/10/2020 13:20

@Char899 how have you not bought any yet 😂 it's a good idea though! I'll go through loads the week before AF is due 😆 #megaimpatient

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Waiting4another · 07/10/2020 13:20

So disciplined @Char899!
I was lax in testing last time and ended up having a GP tell me that I was pregnant! My OH and I were so shocked because we hardly even BD’d (we had both had bad colds). I went to the GP because I just couldn’t shake my cold and was so fatigued all the time. Should have been obvious in retrospect, but I just really wasn’t expecting it

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Mommabear20 · 07/10/2020 13:18

@Waiting4another haha men! 😂
I bought a 'big sister' tshirt for our dd and he freaked 😂

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Char899 · 07/10/2020 13:11

@Waiting4another fx you get af soon so you know where you stand! Ds is nearly 19 months so we will be looking at a similar age gap depending on how long this takes!

I actually have NO tests in the house! I nearly ordered some FRERs earlier but I’ve decided to wait so I can’t test too early! It’s killing me not to order any! Haha

@Mommabear20 gosh that is an expensive month! Gets it all out the way I suppose. You might just have to save for a few months in advance haha

Waiting4another · 07/10/2020 13:10

And my OH is so clueless - he saw an OPK the other day and was like OMG are you pregnant already?!
He is still upset that there was not a lot of ‘trying’ for our DS haha

Waiting4another · 07/10/2020 13:08

Haha, I know, my bathroom is getting out of control with all the OPKs and HCG tests! And this is attempt No 1 at kid No 2 🤦‍♀️

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Mommabear20 · 07/10/2020 12:56

@Waiting4another I cleared out the £shop yesterday! 😂 god help us if anyone looks in our bathroom cupboard 🤦‍♀️😆

That's still a nice age gap! I think any age gap can work! It just depends on everyone's individual circumstances 😁

🤞🤞 for some positive test pics on this thread soon!!!

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Waiting4another · 07/10/2020 12:53

@Mommabear20 @Char899, I hope you are stocked up on internet cheapies so you can start some guilt free testing soon. Fingers crossed for you both!
My DS is 16 months now, so will have to live with a 2-3 year gap minimum...

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Mommabear20 · 07/10/2020 12:52

@Char899 oh that would be lovely!
Yeah, we would be end of June as well which could be interesting 😂 I'm on the 12th, my SIL 13th BIL 14th and DD is 22nd 😂 expensive month for DH! 😂

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Char899 · 07/10/2020 12:45

@Mommabear20 going by the date of ovulation I’m guessing this one would be end of June? And ds will be 2 in March so would be perfect!

Ahhh fx for everyone’s bfp 💕

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Mommabear20 · 07/10/2020 12:05

@Char899 fingers crossed for you!!!!

Not feeling it myself this month, I think it'd be far too perfect for it to happen 😂 I'm trying not to get my hopes up but it's so hard not too!
What's the age gap with the little one(s) you've already got if it was to be this month?

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Char899 · 07/10/2020 11:33

@Mommabear20 I’m with you! I’m fairly sure I ovulated on Sunday because I had cramps in the morning and then my ewcm dried up (tmi) Flo says af is due in 12 days but my cycle fluctuates so I think af is due in 10-12 days. I’m not feeling it this month though, I think we missed the boat but I’m still hoping!

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Mommabear20 · 07/10/2020 11:32

@Char899 @Waffle10 that's the hope! 😂 they can entertain each other and the dogs and I can sit and drink tea 😂

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Mommabear20 · 07/10/2020 11:22

@Waiting4another good luck!! Fingers crossed it's a quick one again for you!!
How old are your kids?

According to my period log app ive just had my fertile days and AF is due in 14 days! Now the tedious wait begins 😣😆

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Waiting4another · 07/10/2020 11:19

@Waffle10 all of my OPKs have been about the same so far - all faint lines, I use them in the afternoon and if I feel like anything interesting is going on with my CM then also in the evening. I am only 5 weeks off contraception though and breastfeeding so I expect my OPKs are all the same because I haven’t ovulated yet. I have read on here that the peak can be easy to miss and testing in the morning doesn’t work. Last time it took me 6 and a half weeks from getting off contraception to ovulation, so hoping I don’t have too much longer to wait until I see a peak...
Did you just get the cheapies or branded/clearblue ones?

Char899 · 07/10/2020 11:01

@Waiting4another I’d just get stuck in if I were you! I think the only reason they say to wait for af is to help time the pregnancy so who knows maybe this will be your month!

@Waffle10 I totally get that. Covid puts me off a little too but we have had to put so much on hold the last few months that we are at the point now where we just want to move forwards!

@Mommabear20 it will definitely benefit you when they are older, they will be playing with each other so you don’t have to! Grin

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