TTC October 2020 Bus

Got my BFN this morning. I kind of knew it was coming as I didn’t get any positive opks this month but it’s still as ever as ever. Actually dreading telling my DH. He really gets upset.

January seems so far away for the fertility clinic.

Anybody else been to a fertility clinic? What’s the procedure? Xxxx

@redpeppersoup
Morning! I am sure your friends wont mind you telling them stuff , its what friends are there for! I told a few people at work when i was going for my dating scan and then word got round that I was pregnant and then I had a miscarriage so my manager had to tell people , I felt anxious about returning ( had 8 weeks off) but glad they knew what had happened otherwise they would be wondering why I had been off sick.
My husband refers to the vitamins i got him to take as 'jizz pills' 🙈, I told my friend and she was mortified , shes a tad bit prude!! 🤣
I got some cheap opk's off the internet and thought yesterday I was positive but i have tested this morning ( 2nd wee) and it is stronger than control line - i assume its peaked?! Says on the sperm meets egg plan to dtd every night for 3 nights ? 🤯🤪🤪 ?? Xxx

@redpeppersoup you don’t have to keep it a secret if you don’t want. I won’t be. After my miscarriage I wanted everyone to know my baby existed and needed my friends to be there for me. Now I don’t see the point in not telling anyone. Your personal choice of course. Also the first 12 weeks can be pretty tough on your body. You might need some support lol. I hate the first trimester.

@gracie2307 I’m doing fine, thanks for checking in lovely! Still a little bit crampy today but looking forward to trying again this month - I have my OPKs ready 😂 what day of your cycle are you meant to start testing? How you feeling today? X

@SarahMumof1DS so sorry to hear about your DH, that must be really tough to deal with, here if you need to chat X

Does anyone else find it really hard not to share details about TTC? I’m a bit of an oversharer and quite a few of my friends have been subjected to me moaning about AF showing up so late 🙈 god knows how I’ll manage to keep my mouth shut for 12 weeks if I get a BFP!

Thanks.

We just have to carry on don't we. This time my partner was feeling a bit low about things not related to TTC and it was really difficult as he didn't fancy DTD and obviously I felt for him but also felt secretly gutted. What can we do though hey

@ gracie2307
Im taking seven seas trying for a baby and my husband takes a vitabiotics vitamin supplement for men. I might switch to vitabiotics pre conception viatmins next month if no luck. I think the lack of fertile discharge is due to my hormones. I have had 3 proper periods following the mc and the 1st two I ovulated a week before my period. This time its mid cycle so its a good sign that my cycle is trying to regulate its self 🤞🏻
Have you been trying long?

@MgW1 Oh gosh, you have been through quite a journey, I am so sorry to hear that and can understand why you are anxious 😔 It sounds like you have a wonderful DH and I am glad he is very supportive. Wishing you lots of luck and baby dust for a speedy BFP 🤞. Are you taking any vitamins? Xxx

Hello fellow Monicas @SparkyLauz, @Lemongrass9 and @redpeppersoup Hope you are all doing ok? I cant wait for the next week or so to roll and AF is done and dusted! Xxx

Sorry for your loss @MgW1. I had a missed miscarriage in August. TTC after miscarriage is a rollercoaster isn’t it. Fingers crossed we get our rainbow babies.

@Gracie2307
Thank you for your reply.and welcoming me to the thread.
I had a miscarriage at 13 weeks earlier on this yr , I attended ( husband not allowed in!) my dating scan to find out the baby had died at 12 weeks 😔. We tried again last month for the 1st time and no joy but no fertile discharge or at least not a lot! So hence why I thought of using the pre- seed. Im 37 , we have 3 older children and when my youngest started school we decided to try again! I have just suffered 1 mc and feel anxious about trying again but now I have been pregnant , I am keen for it to happen again! My husband is ready when I am, he has been v. Supportive xx

@Gracie2307
Thank you for your reply.and welcoming me to the thread.
I had a miscarriage at 13 weeks earlier on this yr , I attended ( husband not allowed in!) my dating scan to find out the baby had died at 12 weeks 😔. We tried again last month for the 1st time and no joy but no fertile discharge or at least not a lot! So hence why I thought of using the pre- seed. Im 37 , we have 3 older children and when my youngest started school we decided to try again! I have just suffered 1 mc and feel anxious about trying again but now I have been pregnant , I am keen for it to happen again! My husband is ready when I am, he has been v. Supportive xx

@SarahMumof1DS aww what a shame. I was really hoping you would get you bfp this month!

I think that I must have ovulated as the levels have dropped since then. I think I ovulated during the night as I woke up to check on my son and felt really dizzy. Dizziness has become a new ovulation symptom since my miscarriage. I’m only 3dpo if I’m correct and getting some mild twinges and cramping. Just got to survive the 2WW now. I hate the 2WW!

Welcome @MgW1 😊 how are you? Hows your TTC journey been?

Generally they say the darker the test line compared to the control line for OPKs means ovulation is indicated to happen within the next 24 to 48 hrs. Its a bit of a wide window but if you test aftewards, the visibility of the test line should decrease as your LH surge declines. I am using the Clearblue digital OPKs at present as knowing when my test line was at its darkest was getting a bit confusing!

I am using pre-seed - started about 2 months ago. Was a bit conservative with it at first as that stuff is not cheap lol, used more last month, no BFP as of yet, but for this cycle will try and use it more. Have heard very good things. Im sorry to hear about your MC 😔 xx

Hey @SunnydazeQ! How are you? Congrats on the flashing smiley!! Thats great news the test has picked your estrogen rise 😊 glad you are feeling good, keep that positivity going! Ooh good tip about the coffee, Ive cut back to 1 cup of coffee a day then when AF buggers off, I will start the slow wean and see how I get on. I fear if I quit coffee now during AF I will end up climbing the walls like a rat in a cage 🤣🙈 xxx

Hi @Sunflowers81 how are you? Thanks for your message, definetley feel more me today! Just keeping busy with work although I have a bit of a pamper day on saturday, got a facial booked in to try and calm my skin down (I tend to suffer with really bad cystic acne, mainly around my jaw - bloody hormones!) so looking forward to that! How are you doing? Hows the testing going? Keeping everything crossed for you wishing you lots of luck xxx

Hi
Can i join?
I have just this month bought amazon cheapy OPK's. Tested 3 times today and all positive. When does the clock start for ovulation ? Is it from when I tested this a.m ? Is it 36 hours approx ?
Another question ... anyone tried pre - seed ? I have had no fertile discharge since I had a mc 3 months ago so thought Id give it a bash
Thank you 😊

@SarahMumof1DS That Sounds so incredibly tough for you. What a difficult thing for all of you to go through and to not have a firm diagnosis just makes it all worse. I think you’re being very strong about it all - it’s a big toll on you emotionally. I hope you’re being kind to yourself and fitting in some “me time” / pampering where you can!! Xx

@Theawkwardblonde aww I’m sorry to hear AF has arrived with a vengeance. It’s so disheartening when it arrives and you just think “urgh another month of trying” but fingers crossed it’s lucky number 14 for you ☺️ Definitely curl up on the sofa with a drink and a good film this evening x

Definitely out and jumping on the November bus. AF arrived with a vengeance. Who knows what the red bleed was Sunday. I'm suspecting another chemical due to the other symptoms which would mark my 4th.
Here's to moving on to cycle 14 😞

Hello,
I’m new on here for this time around - TTC baby number three.

I have a 7 year old girl and a 2 year old girl too.

I took my last pill on the 1st October and had my period/withdrawal bleed from the 5-10th so I was unsure what my body would do after this! However, I think today is ovulation day based on EWCM today and we’ve done the deed a few times over the last week (and just to be sure, again tonight!)

I’ll be hopefully testing in 10-14 days!

It’ll be nice to get chatting to you all x

Thank you @SarahMumof1DS, You are doing so well, staying so positive. I hope your husband is ok, I don't know what happened other than him being in hospital.

Thank you @SunnydazeQ, I've had some more spotting today, so could be the start of af. I'm so bloated that if af came properly I think it would be a relief from being so uncomfortable! That's great news about the flashing smiley! I hope everything goes to plan!

Thank you @ValliBec :-) Fingers crossed for a lucky month of November. xx

@PurplePops According to my app I’ve ovulated around CD19/20 and I get AF 14 days later and my last 2 cycles have been quite long, my last one was 33 days x