TTC #1, cycle 13 and fed up! Whose with me?

@notyetamumbuttrying I've had my electronic appointment letter and the name of the consultant in charge of the clinic. I've googled him and it looks like he's a big name in the fertility field. I'm gutted we've reached this stage, but glad that I'll be seeing someone who really knows what they're talking about (or at least one of their juniors who defers to them).
You never know, acupuncture might be a winner 🤞🏻

@CurbsideProphet yeah it's hard to predict what will happen but good things are moving forward at the moment for you! Acupuncture's something I want to try, think I'll see outcome of second SA first and then decide.

God I agree about dtd soooo much for so long 😬 My referral to the fertility part of gynaecology has gone through. The appointment isn't until January. I'm not even sure if that will go ahead when we get further into our second wave and they shut everything down again 😩 Trying to stay a bit upbeat as I finally start acupuncture on Saturday.

@Theawkwardblonde it's got selenium in it which is key for swimmers! Most male conception vitamins have it in too so as long as he's taking those then he'll get his dose. He needs to take zinc too.
I feel you with taking a break, 13 months is a long time for timed sex isn't it. Gets boring pretty quickly, even with all the dressing up or whatever to keep it exciting. Knowing you're doing it to conceive just takes the spark out of it doesn't it.

@dogmam Dogs make everything better! When I had my MC she was lying by my side the whole time, they just know! The doctor said it’s a positive sign I can get pregnant so will just have to see how it goes! Apparently you’re more fertile after an MC and I have ovulated 2 weeks later 🤷🏽‍♀️

It’s so frustrating and hope it’s not getting you too down. Feel like everyone is announcing now pregnancies too?! Sounds like your body should be in good condition so I hope you get you BFP soon!! I think exercise is a good thing 😊 Do you think you will go down a fertility route? xxxx

Yeah exactly @dogmam although we need to do it more regularly so that it's not all backed up swimmers come FW! 😂

@CurbsideProphet so bad what we have to go through as women! No wonder we get mood swings 😆

@notyetamumbuttrying the first gynaecologist wasn't interested at all in my period pain or change in cycles. Hopefully when I'm referred again I'll speak to a gynaecologist who listens...
Luckily I wfh all of the time now. I wouldn't be able to manage if I had a physically demanding job.

@mjm1608 aww that's so cute he makes you happy every day! I feel the exact same way about mine, I love him so much, my day revolves around him, (well that and thinking about ttc) I actually need to step back a bit haha.
That scan must have been hard, I'm sorry ☹. Has it helped you knowing that you can get pregnant? It's been a year for us and never had a positive test. First 6 month we were just 'seeing what happens' and the last 6 month's I've been tracking so really starting to question why it's not happened yet. I only have 1 coffee a day now, rarely have a drink, eat healthy but have upped fruit and veg, take folic acid and VitD and this month I've actually stopped running to see if that make any difference, not sure if I have been over doing it.. god knows, I'm clutching at straws!!

@notyetamumbuttrying ah well that sounds like some really positive changes already and atvthe end of the day, we can't be perfect and restrict everything, especially with bloody covid we at least need something to look forward to now and then! I suppose ultimately the DTD in the FW is the only way to get a bfp so if it's what works for you both then go for it, and any other times a bonus!

@CurbsideProphet were they able to sort out your period pain? Mine is horrendous every time! It starts a few days before and then cd1 and cd2 I have to double up on painkillers just to get through the day!
@Theawkwardblonde I can recommend Brazil nuts if he'll eat them, mine refuses lol! Wellman conception tablets, proxceed plus sachets, running, no hot baths, keep his laptop away from his lap, no phones in the pocket, eat more green leafy veg, no smoking, binge drinking etc.
@Monday55 sorry to hear about AF! Defo get testing underway, you will not regret seeing what's wrong (if anything).
@dogmam it's all that's keeping me going tbh as I just don't see it happening naturally for us. Yeah lifestyle changes are the biggest thing! So he's stopped smoking although he only started 6 months ago (bloody Covid) he doesn't binge drink anymore and is taking his supplements properly now. Only thing left is the exercise... he's also eating an orange a day as well as less rubbish in his diet overall.
We tend to leave all our dtd until FW and only once in tww but we need to spread it out more. We find this difficult as the desire isn't there as much when we know there's no chance of conception-bad isn't it! 😬

@dogmam - love the user!! I have a one year old pup who makes me happy every day! Thanks for asking, that’s so kind. I was only 5 weeks and nothing was found at the scan so in my head it was never a baby, the disappointment is overwhelming though! How many months have you been TTC for?

We DTD every 2-3 days from AF then fertile week every other day until a positive OKP where we do it 2/3 days in a row. It’s a total struggle not going to lie 😂 I ovulate on either CD 14-16 every month. I want to track ovulation so that I know how many days until I can test 🤣 but I understand why people say to relax and not be as obsessed! Easier said than done eh😄 xxx

@notyetamumbuttrying ah bet you can't wait for November to get the next SA. I just listened to that episode on the podcast with the urologist, think they mentioned it's worth 'cleaning up' your lifestyle before the SA although not really sure what that consists of, presumably cutting out crap from the diet and less alcohol hmm easier said than done though, I also heard a supplement called CoQ10 is good to improve sperm quality, might be worth a shot?!

@curbsideprophet yeah it hard, but think we just need to get on with it and deal with the problem if there is one! God this ttc is roughhhh On the brain!! Hope you can get some answers from your next appointment.

@monday55 sorry about AF, how are you feeling? Yeah best to get tests so you know where you're at, hopefully you can get those booked in soon.

@mjm1608 sorry about what happened last month. How are you doing? Hope you're ok. Yep same, good diet, healthy BMI etc and still no luck. Don't know what else to do!

CD12 today for me! When does everyone DTD? Do you think more is better or every 2-3 days? Just around FW or throughout full month?! I'm considering giving OPKs a miss (usually start them today and get peak CD 16/17) and just DTD every other day until CD 20 hmmmm decisions decisions!

@Theawkwardblonde it sucks being an adult & having to spend money on adult things 😄 hopefully you get some answers soon 🤞🏼 I will let you know my results anyway so you can have something to compare to hopefully. When is your appointment?
I have read this about pregnacare too actually! My cycles vary by 3-5 days every month but nothing that has made me panic. Have you looked in to pre-seed? It’s so hard to know what and if anything even helps!! I exercise 5/6 times a week, eat well, healthy BMI and barely drink anymore as well as doing everything right but no luck yet 🤷🏽‍♀️ Xxxxx

Hi ladies,

Can i join? we are on cycle 10 now but have been NTNP since May 2019. One miscarriage at 6 weeks in June 2020 and I'm really fed up now :(. We are 32 and 35 and have had initial early tests done as i get pelvic pain sometimes throughout my cycles. Waiting for our follow up so i can go on the waiting list for a laparoscopy. SA and initial other tests came back fine but it's so frustrating that it just isn't working. Everyone around me seems to be getting BFPs or is due in the next few months!

I take pregnacare and hubby takes the wellman vits which haven't messed with my cycles, if anything they have made them shorter and i don't get spotting like i used to before AF now. sending lots of baby dust to all xxxx

@Theawkwardblonde my OH takes the perfect man seven seas which is same thing - multivitamin and omega 3 and it keeps him happy that he’s helping 😂 it can take 60 days to take effect on men’s swimmers though!

I also take a multivitamin and extra vit d after my bloods came back slightly low. Dr said I didn’t need to but got my CP last month straight away so I consider worth it ☺️

@Monday55 sorry to hear AF arrived but v glad you’ve got an appointment sorted, I do think they’ll be helpful with everything ☺️ My OH was quite like that and a bit miffed when we started doing tests but I’ve let him see me a bit more each cycle and now he’s seen the CP we had, he’s understood a lot more and started to be as keen as I am so I do think your OH will come round too!

@theawkwardblonde Cross posted my cycles range from 25 to 28days. Here's is a theme for my last 5 cycles (26days/25/28/28/27). What are yours like?

@Theawkwardblonde Hope you don’t mind me jumping on this thread, reading a lot of comments that relate to me! I am 29, cycle 8 #1 & had an early miscarriage last month.

Although in the pretty early stages we paid for a fertility MOT privately as we didn’t want to wait longer incase we had issues. Hopefully you get answers soon, is it a private clinic? My blood level is high which suggests polycystic ovaries which is a bit odd as I have no symptoms of this. We have a phone consultation next week & the process has been fairly quick.

My hubby takes wellman & I take pregnacare plus. We also use pre-seed as heard many good things about this. Hope everyone gets their BFP soon 🤞🏼Xxxx

@theawkwardblonde Damn! that's definitely a set back! DH is taking a multivitamin + omega 3 fish oil supplements a day. Hoping it will boost whatever vitamin he might be lacking for now. I'm also taking a prenatal vitamin + omega 3 fish oil.

AF arrived today!!! for me giving me a 26day cycle. Just entering cycle 15 of TTC 😭😭

@LS2020 @theawkwardblonde @Nellle @CurbsideProphet I called the GP today and they asked me to call back tomorrow. Hopefully they'll let me get tests this cycle or the next one. DH really wants to get pregnant naturally but I told him it could be another year before we even get to the IVF route. He's up for getting his sperm checked out. It will definitely boost both our confidence if all tests test results come back normal.

@dogmam Hope everything goes well for you with the tests. I'm calling GP tomorrow to see if I can get bloods done this cycle or next one. The other ladies gave me good reasons to get it sorted ASAP

@Monday55 I just read back to catch up. I'm sorry for your miscarriage and chemical. Any sign of AF or are you testing again?

@notyetamumbuttrying sort of moving forward. My original gynae referral was for the change in my cycles and extreme worsening of period pain. My new gynae referral will now be for the fibroid and for 12 months ttc. I think!

@dogmam I'm glad your appointment went well. I've had the same struggle with acknowledging there is potentially a problem. It's crap really! I'll have a look for that podcast.