TTC #1, cycle 13 and fed up! Whose with me?

@beachpeach I am booked in for my 21 day bloods tomorrow (although i only ovulated on Monday so hope it's not too early) anyway, before I was offered this, I had standard blood tests looking at loads of things, as I had low b12, not on any particular day of my cycle, just to check on my general health to see if anything was outside the normal range, so maybe that's what you're getting done. Then once that's done, they will probably ask you to do a 21 day test. There's also a cycle day 3 blood test which is one of the early things they do so I am going to ask about that when I go tomorrow. Don't worry though, it's good to get your general bloods done just to check you don't have anything else going on, then after you can chase up for the more specific ones.

My other half is getting his SA on the 28th of this month too.

How is everyone feeling? I am 3dpo today so it's the dreaded wait for hopefully no AF! I do worry each month that we haven't dtd enough especially when you read people who do it every day the entire cycle!

@BeachPeach I'm glad you're getting it sorted! I don't have faith in your gp either lol! The SA is so important if he's had that before, best of luck to you both!

@BernadetteThreep course you can! Argh that's just the worst! How very annoying. Hope she comes soon and onto cycle 10 😬

@notyetamumbuttrying and @Theawkwardblonde thanks so much, that’s really helpful. I called this morning to check and they were all “umm, oh, I don’t know, hmm, we’ll check....” which fills me with confidence 😆

We’ve also booked OH in for a consultation as he had testicular cancer when he was younger so getting a semen analysis is a priority for us.

I’ve just not got much faith in our GP’s so hoping to get initial tests out the way so we can either get an all clear or get referred to specialists.

Great to have you guys to lean on and hear where you’ve got to in your “journeys” as we’ve not told anyone we’re TTC.

Is it OK if I jump on board?

We are on our 9th cycle of TTCing, feeling so fed up and frustrated today. AF is two days late but got BFN on a FRER this morning. Just want AF to hurry up now

@BeachPeach day 21s need to be 7dpo or 7 days before your period is due if you haven't tracked ov. Day 3 bloods need to be day 2-5 of your cycle. You need to do it at specific days so that they test the right hormones. It's scary that your gp hasn't told you this! Call them and get the right day.

Hi all, I’m late to the party, but can I join the thread? We’re on cycle 20ish of ttc and finally got the ball rolling with the GP. I’m also having bloods done - seems like a lot of us at this stage, but they’ve not booked them for a specific day of my cycle which seems weird. I don’t want to be pushy and annoying, but I’m also not clear what they’ll be checking if it’s just on a random cycle day (booked for day 13). Very new to the “TTC” world and it’s a bit of a headfuck! Good luck everyone

@dogmam I had some bloods done on day 21 recently. It's my understanding that these should be done 7 days before the next period.
My cycles are only 24 days now so I think next time they should be day 17 or so. I have a phone appointment with my GP next Monday about these bloods and to arrange more, so I'll be trying to politely point out which day they should be done.

@nellle congratulations, you must be on cloud 9, enjoy your bfp!

@monday55 i told my GP that my cycles vary each month from anywhere between 26 and 30 days and she said that thats 'regular', just goes to show that depending on which GP you speak to they all have differing opinions.. a bit like different articles on Google!

@rosie189 sorry about finding out your work friend is pregnant. It's horrendous finding out news like this and I don't know about you but the last few months, I am just hyper aware of everyone and everything pregnant/baby related and feel so sad by the smallest thing.

I am due to get my 21 day bloods on Friday but my peak opk was day 16 so possibly ovulating today or even tomorrow, day 17/18. I have read that the day 21 bloods should be 7 days after ovulation but because I have ovulated a little later it means my bloods on Friday won't be 7 days days after. Is it super important that these bloods are done on the exact right day? Or as it's day 21 will it still be ok?

@Nellle congratulations and fingers crossed for you.

I’ve had a bit of a crap week. My job means there are quite a few safety concerns around being pregnant meaning that a few if not all (depending on gossip) my colleagues are aware I’m TTC. I’m fairly sure one of my close work friends is pregnant and I’m already stressing about how to deal with the announcement which will be early for safety. Also I’ve found out in a really odd way and I feel like a creep but i honestly wasn’t snooping! We have shared computers at work and I went to log on to my email the other day and hers was still logged in and as I went to log her out I saw and email from Tommy’s pregnancy hub. This might be nothing but I’ve got myself so worked up about it.

This cycle has also probably been a bit of a dud in TTC hubby works away and pretty much away for my whole fertile week.

Anyone else feel they’re actually going insane from this whole process! Or is it just me?

@Nellle Congratulations!!! Hopefully you've started a streak of BFPs for all of us 🎉 🥳

@notyetamumbuttrying When I told the GP my periods range from 25 to 28days she seemed to classify that as irregular . When i think of irregular periods I think of dates that are bizarre e.g a 30day cycle one month and a 45 day cycle the following month etc.
I have been browsing old threads in the infertility category and there seemed to be a few women prescribed clomid to induce super ovulation but where monitored with ultrasound to make sure they didn't have too many eggs released. I'm driving myself nuts with research 😅

Thanks so much 🥰 I feel very lucky and quite shocked. But trying to keep a level head. Very early days xxxx

@Nellle congratulations 🥳 I hope you get a sticky bean!! 🥰

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I'm so sorry if this triggers anyone, because I know how hard it is hearing that other people are pregnant, but my intention is to give hope.

Today I got my BFP. It's 2 years since our miscarriage and 13 months since we properly started trying again. This is the first month I've posted here and finally went for fertility testing. Didn't expect this to be the month. Hoping for a baby this time 🤞🤞🤞

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Don't give up hope. There is no reason why it won't be you this month, or next month. Sending lots of love and good vibes xxxxx ♥️♥️♥️♥️

@CurbsideProphet we're a year now too. Thing is with me, I was so open with telling everyone we wanted to wait until the after wedding and now it's 14 months later and still no baby 😩 thank god I'm not seeing Dh's friends other halves. Some of mine already know and my family so at least I don't have to constantly keep up a pretence!

@Theawkwardblonde oh god it's so difficult to be repeatedly happy and excited for other couples 😬 I hope you're feeling ok now.

@Monday55 I feel the same about lockdown. We can only see people outside in a public place. We've been married a year now and I've been worrying everyone will start asking if we're planning children. We can't really see anyone and that suits me right now tbh 😩

Yay 😃 @Monday55!!
They didn't for me. They won't until the results as you might be ovulating so they won't recommend clomid before knowing that answer.

UPDATE: Finally have a date for my bloods and its 3rd week of Oct so should have results by end of the month.

For those who've done blood tests already and waiting has the doc mentioned clomid or letrozole?

@Theawkwardblonde I know the feeling. Everyone close to me seems to get pregnant in record time. I'm actually glad we are back in lockdown because during summer at family events everyone kept asking when we are going to have kids 😑

@Theawkwardblonde I know the feeling hun, I really do!! Do they know you're trying and how long it's been?

@CurbsideProphet yeah it is isn't it. Even when you know it's for the most important reason ever! 😬

@notyetamumbuttrying Professor Charles Kingsland. SA hasn't been mentioned yet, so I presume my GP is waiting for Gynaecology to request it as part of the plan.
We've both been trying to improve our eating and get more exercise. It's difficult to feel motivated!

Dr Jonathan Ramsey per chance? @CurbsideProphet he's the top man on male factor! I want to see him for Dh but we'll see what the second SA says first. Even though I know our issue is on his side and not mine, I'm still convinced my early ovulation probably doesn't help his slow swimmers lol so I've ordered some soya isoflavones to take for the next cycle to build up a stronger egg. Dh has proxceed plus sachets to start taking and has bought himself an Apple Watch to encourage running! I hope he starts on the weekend. He's been so good with not smoking and hasn't binged drank either. He's eating his oranges every day so I need to start feeling more positive now. 🤞🏾😬