TTC #1, cycle 13 and fed up! Whose with me?

@Cha0907 "keep doing what you're doing" 😃 I've noticed that the GPs I've spoken to tiptoe around politely to avoid saying SEX or SPERM. The GP I've spoken to now is more straight talking, but even she talked about DH having a "sample tested" and we should "keep trying" in the meantime.

@Theawkwardblonde no I don't mind saying at all. £200 for the initial consultation and £150 for follow up appointments. I've had bloods and scan on the NHS, so this is the best option for me. I'm on the NHS list to see the same specialist in January, so I'm hoping to start with him now privately and then switch to NHS. Obviously that depends on whether NHS services are going ahead by then.
I have Simply Health and can claim some costs back, so the initial appointment will actually cost me £50.

Hi @SR12 👋🏻 We're all here feeling fed up too! I'm sorry about your miscarriage. I had a very early one at new year. I just always thought we would start dtd regularly at the right time and that would be that. It feels very unfair that this hasn't been the case!

Hey all I have been reading through the comments here and as bad as it probably sounds it’s so nice to hear from people in similar situations and feeling fed up like me!

I’m 38 (just turned ) and me and OH have been trying for a bit over a year. I had a miscarriage two years ago and we didn’t want to try straight away but kind of wish we had now! I’ve struggled a lot with my GP surgery being very unhelpful and getting various bloods wrong etc (I know how stressed they all are at the moment) so we bit the bullet and did a private investigation the other week. Had our results on Tuesday and OH sperm concentration was a bit below average but aside from that everything else seemed fine - expect for the fact I’m old as I kept being told and my eggs would be mature

Every month I hate the wait until AF appears - it’s the stage I’m in at the moment. It seems like such a long stretch and every month filled with disappointment. I think I often start imaging pregnancy symptoms whilst I wait! It’s hard as my 6 best friends all have kids and are just having their seconds and I can’t even make it past the first hurdle! We’ve been told because of my age we should look at IVF but I’m not sure I’m ready to try just yet but maybe I’m kidding myself.

Anyway nice to meet you all and will follow all your journeys with my fingers crossed for you x

@Cha0907. I finally go the courage today to call and book a gp appointment. I had some initial bloods last year which were all normal but I have really heavy and sometimes irregular periods so hoping I can have some further investigations.

@CurbsideProphet haha I laughed there 😂😂 the doc i spoke with was male and said at the end of the call 'well in the meantime you and your partner keep doing what your doing' 😂😂

@CurbsideProphet haha, the Taskmaster challenge has cracked me up, we’ve got a similar situation here, my OH thinks cycling to hospital with a cup of jizz is the way to beat the traffic - could be messy 😆

So I got my bloods results today, which consisted of the following text from the health centre: “the result of your recent test is satisfactory, no further action is required”. WTAF!? Satisfactory as in, it’s definitely human blood? Satisfactory as is, I don’t have any tropical diseases? Or satisfactory as in I’m fertile as fuck? 🙃 Feels like such an uphill battle to get our GPs to take us seriously, even though we’ve been trying for nearly 2 years and OH has had testicular cancer. Guhhhh!

Hoping those of you also waiting on bloods get a less cryptic (read: fucking useless) result!

@Cha0907 nope apparently that's the only lab we can go to in our area! My GP even said that there must be desperate men trying to find a quiet layby somewhere along the way.

Hello 👋🏼

Sorry I have been MIA again. Really busy with work and I am knackered all the time!

AF arrived Monday so plucked you the courage to call my GP. Spoke with them yesterday and being referred to gynaecology because of some previous issues I had to see what they say regarding TTC and also to go for bloods on day 21. Feels like a massive relief finally speaking to someone about everything and getting the ball rolling! Also told my partner he needs to call his GP too :)

@CurbsideProphet that does seem like a palava for your partner to get the SA done. Surely there must be skmewhere closer!

@Theawkwardblonde fingers crossed everything ok with your bloods 🤞🏻

Hello all 👋🏻 I've been quiet lately.
I had more in depth bloods done and my GP suspects pcos because of slightly raised testosterone and androgen. She thinks I'm ovulating some cycles but not others. My NHS fertility appointment isn't until January (which would be 15 months ttc / many more cycles) so I've decided to see the same specialist privately - by phone because of restrictions here, but it's better than nothing.
In the meantime I'll keep going to acupuncture and keep with my eat less / move more lifestyle improvement.

GP has offered SA for DH, but as we're 35mins drive to the lab at the hospital (and then parking time and walking to the lab) we need to discuss logistics before we book that in. Has anyone else's DH done a SA? Even my GP said she didn't know why our nearest smaller hospital didn't do SA, considering you need to get it to the lab within 60mins. It's like an extreme Taskmaster task - "Get your jizz in this tub and drive it 15 miles. You have one hour. Your time starts now"

I've had CD21 which came back good

I'm waiting on fsh lr and AMH and rubella which is the ones my consultant has ordered for me but I don't get those results back until my next scheduled appointment to discuss all the tests Ive had done (hycosy and pelvic scan) so frustrating those bloods are there but I can't have them until my next app - 3rd nov!

Not long to wait I know but all has been good so far and after these tests not sure what they can do for me

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@Theawkwardblonde me too, so many what ifs, and it’s only my first lot of bloods! Were they your day21 ones? Or just an initial test?

@dogmam today I'm on CD14 last month I ovulated on CD13 and the cycle before that on CD12, it pretty much varies month to month.

Hi all, sounds like a bunch of us are about to get bloods done/hear back. Thanks @dogmam for the explainer.

My OH booked to have a SA done and he’s having a blood test before they do a SA. Anyone else’s partners had a blood test done prior to a SA? Seems weird to me but maybe connected to his testicular cancer history 🤔

Hope those of you waiting on blood results get good news and those of you waiting for AF get a pleasant surprise this month ☺️

@monday55 I bet you're pleased to see your peak although with that brings the looonnng tww! What cd are you? Is this the day you usually ovulated on?

Bloods were fine, it was a nurse who done them so no chat about fertility or anything, she just said results should come back Tuesday or Wednesday, I asked if GP would ring me and she said only if there's anything out of the ordinary. Hope the GP rings me regardless though so I can have another chat about what the next steps are depending on the results, regardless though I would like to get the day 3 bloods done as hear a lot of people get these early on in investigations.

I'm 7dpo today, AF due either Saturday or Sunday. I've only ever tested on one cycle, when I was 10 days late (turned out to be just an unusually long cycle), I'm really good and won't test until AF is late, which it never is, but this month i am soo tempted for some reason. I bought something off Amazon a few month ago and only got free delivery if I spent over £20 so randomally bought some First Response tests which I haven't even opened the envelope but I am soo tempted!!

UPDATE: Finally got my Peak ovulation today, so it should happen in the next 24hrs and then I'll be on the TWW. I gave myself a scare as I added a new supplement to my regimen which I realised could've altered my ovulation day. I Wouldn't have minded if this had happened any other month but I have my bloods next Monday, which I wouldn't want to mess up.

@dogmam How did the bloods go? My bloods are next Monday 19th Oct.

@strawberrysummer19 welcome to the thread! I hope you get good results with your tests. It's not easy to be relaxed TTC is on my mind everyday now. Are you taking any supplements? Have a read about Coq10/ubiquinol supplement? It improves egg quality and as you know the older we get the worse our egg quality becomes. You can find good amount of coq10 in expensive fertility supplements such as ' conceive plus or proceive' or you can buy it on it's own on amazon etc.

Thanks@Theawkwardblonde and @Rosie189

I too said I will be more relaxed this cycle but where im due on this week - anytime between tues-Thursday for me I'm symptom checking!

I have sore boobs but this is normal for me and I feel so tired - again normal for me

I went to bed at 7:30 last night as I felt so tired but I'm also aching. I have bad back ache which is radiating into my legs it's very uncomfortable- not sure what that could be. I normally get that when I'm actually on my period. Bad aches but it came on last week and have it now still

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Welcome @strawberrysummer19 🤞 for you.

@Theawkwardblonde I’m 11dpo. Despite almost no chance that I’ll be pregnant this cycle as hubby was mainly away I’m spotting today and my brains in overdrive 😫

Hi everyone, too late to join?

I'm CD 24 of a 28 day cycle

I've had hycosy this month which I ended up falling pregnant with my lo 10 years ago after my hycosy so fingers crossed

Been off the pill years sadly but actively trying and tracking using opks for 3 Cycles

But I'm older 38 so time not on my side

Took cycle 18 to fall with my 1st so back here again ttc 2

Nice to hear stories of people TTC in similar position - support each other through this lonely and sad frustrating at times journey

I'm been off the pill for years so just think it hasn't happened so can't help but think somethings wrong

Had cd3 and CD21 sa and hycosy
Just waiting on last test which is a pelvic scan then that's it, won't qualify for ivf as Ive a daughter from previous relationship so not sure if there's any meds or what

Wishing everyone lots of luck for this month xx

@Theawkwardblonde so hard not to right! You'll have us to keep you on an even keel! Cd5 for me so enjoying my period coming to an end today!

DTD every day 😯 I don't have the stamina for that 😂