TTC #1, cycle 13 and fed up! Whose with me?

@Theawkwardblonde the whole thing is insane isn't it! I can't believe I just bought them and used them when I said I wouldn't 🤦🏾‍♀️ah well, at least I was right about ovulation and don't have to worry about that. Rubbish when you don't feel hopeful, how far through tww are you? I'm only 1dpo lol! Have recently read that after my initial appointment at the acu for the ivf funding that it could be another 6 months before we actually start going 😢 didn't realise it was that long, thought it'd be a month naively!
@thislittlebird hi, welcome! Has your Dh had his SA done too? Hope all goes well for you 😊

I've just realised your OP was in September, sorry got confused because I've never interacted before, just lurked previously so still getting up to speed on it all.

@Theawkwardblonde this is all very relatable. We started trying last October I think, but had to take a break early in the year because I was ill. Not 13 yet, but this month is month 10 and we're over 35 so had the first tests already. So far they're good, one is borderline, so I have to redo that one and then we will be referred to the infertility clinic in the next couple of months. Last month I really thought it might be The Month because my period was 5 or 6 days late which never happens, but alas it was not to be.

The pregnant friends thing is really hard. It hit me pretty hard when I found out two friends were pregnant recently, due close together. I'm pleased for them, just wish I could join them, and I just didn't expect it to effect me so much.

@Theawkwardblonde I have exactly the same thoughts and it's really difficult not to wander off into sliding doors world and think about what could have been😔
I'm lucky that DH's sister in law is the only pregnancy for me to contend with. It's hard to be happy for everyone else when other couples get pregnant just by looking at each other 😬

Hopefully 2021 brings us all a longed for baby 🤞🏻

@CurbsideProphet I'm sure it'll go well!
Ah yeah can appreciate that. Not really a time for celebration but defo look forward to a successful pregnancy in 2021!! 🤞🏾

@notyetamumbuttrying I'm just counting down to my appointment next week with a Consultant at the IVF clinic. The appointment is via Skype which is a bit of a stress as if he's late I'll be sat there worrying I've done something wrong with the Skype app 😬 but hopefully I'll find out the time scales / plan.

1st Jan and 2nd Jan are the 1 year anniversary of me getting a bfp and then losing the pregnancy as quickly as it begun, so I just want to get passed that now.

@Rosie189 glad things are moving along now and yay to confirming ov! Hope you had a nice Christmas 🎄
@CurbsideProphet all good thanks, you? These tiers have been a blessing in disguise sometimes, glad you enjoyed your Christmas, we did too thanks!

I swore I wouldn't use opk's from now on but CB were on offer in boots today so poas earlier! 🙈

Good luck @Rosie189 💐

How is everyone? I hope you've all enjoyed Christmas despite everything. We've been Tier 3 since October so we've had no social gatherings at all. I'm relieved as if we were in normal times we would have to go to MILs with DH's brother and pregnant sister in law at new year 🙁 I would obviously be the picture of politeness and be very happy for them, but really I would find it unbearable.

@CurbsideProphet @notyetamumbuttrying I managed to get a second blood sample yesterday and that showed I had ovulated. So I’m relieved. Was getting a bit worried I’d had no sign of ovulation two cycles running. DH booked for sperm analysis mid jan so going to try and get a drs appt in new year and see what our next steps are.

I think it’s cause I work in a medical field and know how frustrating it can be to be told how to do your job as someone’s been on google. Lol.

Hope you all have as nice a Christmas as you can. Thanks for all the support!

@Rosie189 @CurbsideProphet is right! Do this. You only need to be ttc for 12 months to get all investigations done. Defo quote the nhs guidance at them. Good luck!
Merry Christmas Eve everyone xx

@Rosie189 could you book a telephone appointment and prepare what to say in advance?
Eg "We've been ttc for X months and as per NHS guidance I now need to be referred to the fertility clinic at X hospital for further investigation".
Obviously check the NHS guidelines first and have them ready to quote.
Only an NHS or private fertility clinic can test AMH and when I had my private appointments they told me an internal scan, AMH bloods, and sperm analysis are the next steps from 21 day bloods.

You can do this 💐

@notyetamumbuttrying no not been put on anything basically told to just repeat bloods. Not sure why I need 3 cycles of no ovulation to show an issue.

@Theawkwardblonde no they haven’t. Initially they said if there was an issue that would be looked at/referral but it seems just to be repeat the bloods again and again now. Think they said if everything was normal I’d have to wait longer for a referral.
My periods aren’t regular. They used to be pre pill. I’ve been off the oil l for probably 2.5-3 years now and since then been irregular. In the past year they’ve all been 27-35 days though, apart from cycle I got first bloods on which was 42 days. Just not sure what I’m meant to achieve by repeating them next cycle. I’ve asked to repeat them tomorrow as I think I’m now a week post ovulation and may have been 2 days post on the blood sample I had.

Think I need to book another appointment with the dr. I’m so rubbish at being pushy though.

@Rosie189 will they not give you clomid or you already on it? X

Just had my second lot of day 21 bloods done also showing no sign of ovulation and told to repeat next cycle 😫😫😫

@CurbsideProphet yep, the worst! Gosh if I've not given birth by this time next year then we are moving to the Caribbean 😂 I'm gonna be on some sort of pregnancy mission next year! I hope you get your well deserved pregnancy too my love x

@notyetamumbuttrying isn't the waiting a killer 😬
DH and I have agreed that if we have an awful time with IVF and I'm not pregnant by next Christmas then we will definitely go away just the two of us and stay in a lovely cottage in the Lake District. That's made me feel better. This Christmas feels really hard, so at least I won't have to do this again next year.

@CurbsideProphet I'll be starting in jan too. Should give me a good run up to March then. I really hope we can start in March 😬🤞🏾

@notyetamumbuttrying I've had reflexology and really liked it. I only stopped because I felt that I was spending ££££ on everything and we had the bill from the appointments at the private clinic. I'm hoping to have a couple of appointments in January before IVF to help me relax 🧘🏻‍♀️

@Theawkwardblonde I hate needles and can't look when I have blood tests etc. I've been having acupuncture and they're not really like normal needles as they are so fine. I don't watch while she inserts them and I do find it very relaxing.

On the costing front, I paid £95 for my AMH blood test and £350 for my internal scan. This was at a private fertility clinic. I can PM you the name as it is a chain.

@Rosie189 I so hope for you that the WFH role is an option for your DH 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@Rosie189 brilliant! The universe does listen sometimes 👏🏾
@Theawkwardblonde it sounds pretty bollocks! 😆 Have you both done this since you met?

@Theawkwardblonde @notyetamumbuttrying amazingly he’s just been offered a role working from home for 6 months. Surprising and still waiting on details but very excited! Hopefully it’s a good and possible change.

@CurbsideProphet ah it's so crushing hearing ppl close to you fall isn't it. Hope acupuncture helps then. I've been thinking about doing reflexology. A couple of the other girls I speak to have said they've found it great so gonna get some sessions booked in next month.
@Rosie189 oh god yeah, I bet it's really tough! I'm glad he's looking for other work. That'll defo help if he's not away as much.
@Theawkwardblonde I'll reply over here as well 😂 ok I see. Sounds like a stressful job too! I bet you're like ships in the night then. I guess you have to be really strategic with swapping shifts etc so that you can see each other without taking too much leave.