TTC after MC - September 2020 (Thread 13)

Morning all, @TJM123 so sorry to read about your losses, my mc was like your first at 5+1ish. I bled for about 4 days but I think a week is normal, or longer if you're further along. Hugs

@HappyVibes so interesting to read about your pcos diagnosis - I mean that in the best way. I know quite a few people who have it (with kids!) but I didn't know it could be so.. asymptomatic? Got all my fingers crossed that you can now go forward armed with more knowledge and conceive with no problems 💕

Ladies had a major bbt dip this morning so tested / BFN 😔 so now I’m just hoping for af to start ASAP xxx

@MinnieMouse4 congratulations definitely positive 🌈❤️

@Northernsoul90 sorry you are getting messed about with it 😔

@Firevie really hopeful for you with that chart! 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@TJM123 sorry to hear you are having another loss 😔 I guess the further you are the more you bleed? Hope it’s not too painful x

Hey all. I don’t know if some of you may remember me, I had a MC at 5+1 in June, well I got pregnant again (BFP on 24 August). I made it to 10 weeks but sadly the baby hadn’t been developing and I started bleeding just over a week ago. They’re letting me go through the MC naturally as nothing was showing on the scan. I’ve been bleeding for over a week now, has anyone had similar and how long did it last? Sending love to anyone who is struggling especially as it’s baby loss week, I know I’m finding things really tough. xx

@Furbsies it's hard isn't it. I've been spending the weekend with my in-laws and my sister-in-law is 7 months and starting to look really big. What to do? Can't avoid seeing it, can't ask them not to talk about it. My OH hasn't been hugely helpful recently, so it's a case of feeling the feelings on my own time and just not taking it out on anyone unfairly. I haven't got any answers but I'm there with you x

Hey all. Hope you guys are well. Just had a little break whilst AF is around. Trying to keep to good mental health. Have had lots of babies being born and pregnancies being announced recently so have had a hard time trying to keep to a sane mental state

Sorry meant I didn’t track or anything for my first. But I’m doing the lot now! 🤣. Good parenting! Not enough kids do what they’re told so good on you! Yeah keep with the OPKs. I find that’s the OPKs alongside CBD are a good combo.

I did. I tracked the, bbt and did opks, got peak last time so have been tracking this few days and nothing so far. Had ewcm this 2 days but nothing on opks.
Ah they are good kids. Do what they are told thank god.

@2alreadywantanother I don’t blame you for going for it. Wow I bet your two are keeping you on your toes. I’m 38.. 39 next month so feel the need to get a move on now. 🤣. Also, I never tracked ovulation or did OPKs, wondering if I should just go au natural if things don’t happen this month. All seems a bit robotic and mechanical don’t you think? 😘

@Richmondlady1981 I totally get u. My 2 are 10 and 11, caught pretty quick. The decided in june to try caught in 2nd cycle, mmc in sept. 2 wks over D&C and worried my cycles will be all over the place. Plus I'm 40 so that's a factor too. Not even waiting for af to arrive, if I get an opportunity and ovulation between now and then I'll take it and try. Fingers and toes crossed

@northerngal20 same with us. We got married on 4th August 2018. Had unprotected sex for the first time on our wedding night and over our honeymoon, then I found out I was preggers the last night of honeymoon! That was with my DS who was born in May 2019. All very straightforward. I then fell pregnant second cycle with my second pregnancy before my mmc. Makes it so much harder when AF arrives when you’re used to catching quickly. My cycles are much more irregular (in terms of when I ovulate and my luteal phase) compared to before the mmc. Some bodies need more time to reset than others I guess. I’m now on third cycle of ttc after mmc.

Good luck for your next cycle 💕

ok thanks so much everyone!! really good to know that spotting for a few days before and shorter cycles can happen - i'll see how the next few days go to see exactly when my next cycle starts. i don't think it's implantation as i got a bfn on a clear blue this morning (since the spotting started on weds i reckon if it was implantation there'd be some hcg in my system by now). it's all good - i feel like this is good practise for how the next few months could go, when we conceived the first time it was on our first month trying, so i guess at least this will teach me to have a little bit of patience throughout this whole process!

I'm of no use I'm afraid. Havent had 1st cycle yet 😥

@northerngal20 my first post mc was 31 days, then they flipped between 26-27days, with my last one being more normal at 29days. All af’s post mc started with 3-4days of spotting, but I only ever counted red fuller flow as cd1. My cycle just gone was 29days and it was the first time I didn’t really get any spotting, there was a tiny bit that eve, and when I woke the next day af decides to make herself known! It was my 8th cycle post mc that things were more like I was used to experience before.

@northerngal20 ps it could still be implantation!

@northerngal20 I’ve spoken to a few people about it and they say wait till you get more of a full flow to count as CD1. Not spotting. I know it’s a learning curve isn’t it. So many things different about my cycle now since my mmc. Now have spots on my chin at ovulation time (never ever before) and now spot a day before AF. Perhaps Body just needs some time to adjust. Have a good Saturday x 🤗

ahh ok thanks @RichmondLady1981 -- that's reassuring, i was starting to panic, and it's so hard to find anything out online about weird cycles after the first one! I guess i'll mark this as cd1 and just take it from there :)

@northerngal20 hi. I just had my period which was my third cycle AF. Exactly same happened to me. Had very light brown spotting for a couple of day. Never thought it was enough for full AF but then it came. Never had spotting before ERPC so thought it was a good sign. We are all different though so see how it progresses. X

hey everyone! can i get your advice? i started having some brown spotting on cd 23 (second cycle since ERPC) which i hoped at the time was implantation bleeding, but it's since progressed and i think it's just my af now at day 26 (it's still dark brown though). has anyone had a shorter cycle since their miscarriage? my first one back was almost 6 weeks, and i used to be pretty much bang on 28 days, but this was way shorter and the colour's all off. i'm wondering if i need to see my gp or if this is just my cycle still trying to get back to normal. anyway, i think i'm out for this cycle!

@HappyVibes Sorry to hear about the diagnosis but you seem really positive and well prepared and as always have a lovely outlook 🥰. I know 2 good friends who have conceived naturally with PCOS and there are loads of effective treatment options as I'm sure you have researched.

Sorry I've been a bit crap keeping up with everyone I was taking a step back this month and then the last few days haven't been great for me xx

@MinnieMouse4 Congratulations!! 🌈🥰 xx

So my RHR was still high after d&c, higher then what I was pregnant. Has finally started coming down. Hopefully that's a sign I'm heading for ovulation.
Doing 2/3 opks a day so hopefully get my peak.
Hope ur all well. Nothing much happening here.
Have my friend calling for drinks and pizza tonight 🥰 so looking forward to that

Hi ladies, af is 3 days late tested again this morning and it was a bfn. I feel so down and frustrated especially after seeing a line on previous test. I don't know what's going on maybe it was a chemical or something I really don't know but I just want af to arrive now as I'm obviously not pregnant. DH is working away this month and had planned his shifts around fertile week but that will all be messed up now too as I'm still waiting for my new cycle to start. I feel really hopeless now and emotional as I really thought I was pregnant 😢 I don't feel like I can keep doing this every month

@minniemouse4 can see the line without opening. Congrats 🥰🥰
Let's hope theres a few bfp over the wkend. We are certainly due a good run