TTC after MC - September 2020 (Thread 13)

Ps @susiebluebell awful weather here too! Been a wash out all weekend! ☔️ 🌧 💦

Hello @Furbsies and @susiebluebell! How’s your day been?

Strangest thing happened that hasn’t happened before. Got my first flashing face this morning and getting darker on the OPK. Then this eve at 530pm I did another CB digital and got a static smile!! Wanted to check with a cheapie so went ahead and line dark! Not sure if it’s my Absolute peak but definitely positive! Shows how easily we can miss our peaks If we are not careful and don’t measure twice daily. I only usually test once a day (FMU) with CB but then test twice once I’ve had a flashing smiley.

Usually have a few days of flashing but very quick to static this time! Managed to DTD last night and tonight. Will try my best for tomorrow too! 😃

Your OPKs getting darker? 😁

@susiebluebell woohoo tww buddies. I've been trying to relax but my weird cycles have meant I'm on the edge these days. The more relaxed I try to be the more I worry

But I'm doing OK so far. The flashing smiley made a huge difference.. Currently focusing on dtd as well.

Evening ladies, especially to my two cycle buddies @RichmondLady1981 and @Furbsies I think?? 😛 I'm on CD18 over here, right into FW, and looking forward to dtd over the next few days!

Shocking weather here in Cornwall as well, it's been raining non-stop all weekend.

Nothing further to report as I'm not tracking anything other than ov. Did have a friend's pregnancy announcement which was bittersweet, but otherwise feeling OK and hoping everyone else is too 🤞🏻

@Jazper yes hun, first time on Clomid and Hcg trigger shot. Hope you're okay 😊

@VP91x oh no lovely! I'm sorry😩 that is so frustrating! Will they not do a monitored Clomid cycle for you with a trigger to make sure you ovulate? I'm feeling okay, had very heavy AF so I at least know that the clomid didn't think my lining this time. I'm going to call tomorrow to schedule my ultrasound and then probably start taking the next round of Clomid on day 5. This time I think I may just wait 20 days post trigger to test.

@Sallyjo27 it may well be hun. I would keep them up for a few days as your signs of EWCM are indicating FW, and the darkest OPK maybe not a peak, and your peak is coming this week.

Just be mindful with the bloods - they need to be taken a week after predicted ovulation. So if you get a peak later on, push your bloods back too / book another. A week post ovulation is needed. My GP was reluctant to do mine later than the standard days, so they came back inconclusive. So I had them done again the month later (this cycle) thankfully. Xxx

@HappyVibes usually CD17 and my cycle is 29-31 days it’s only my 2nd proper cycle since my last miscarriage though so maybe it’s just taking time to get back to “normal” xx

@Sallyjo27 what’s your usual cycle hun? What day do you generally get your peak? Xx

@HappyVibes thank you for replying, I just put it into Femometer which I guess is a similar app? It’s come up as high, but not peak. I’m fed up of testing now 😩 it’s so frustrating I think I’ll just give up tonight and test tomorrow morning. I’ve used a ridiculous amount of tests this weekend. But will DTD tonight anyway in hopes that I’ll be ovulating Tuesday x

@Sallyjo27 have you put the OPK results in on premom hun? It’s sounds as though you may just have a long we cycle this month and now in your FW, with ovulation coming up if you have the EWCM and flashing CBD. I would keep your bloods appt but if you carry on OPK and do get a later peak, then rebook them for a week after ovulation again. Xx

@Firevie google can be a nightmare can’t it!! I have been so lucky this tww as I have been so distracted with work so I haven’t really noticed it! I have also made sure I don’t have any pregnancy tests in the house, and I don’t buy them in the shops as everytime I buy something like that (or alcohol) I see a load of parents from school 😂 Fingers crossed for us 🤞🏻🤞🏻 I’d love a bfp this month, as today would have been my due date!

@Bellabubble aww thank you hun! I know googling stuff is such a rabbit hole! I should honestly stop. You’re just 4days ahead of me! Fingers crossed for both of us we get our BFPs this month xxx

@Firevie the progesterone pessaries must be helpful as they can be given to women having ivf (although I was reading an American fertility site so I don’t know if that is the same in the uk!) I have a low bbt even in luteal phase - so J am now panicking that I don’t make enough progesterone to sustain pregnancy in the early stages! I definitely shouldn’t read google too much - it makes me over think! Currently 10dpo - and no spotting, so either cycles are returning to normal (as in pre-mc) or my cycle is longer than the last few months!

@RichmondLady1981 oo that's exciting. Hopefully we both do the tww together and then get our bfps.

@runnergirl1 I was beyond excited. At this point I just wanted anything to tell me my body is return back to normal. I do think our bodies are working so hard to get us back to normal. Hope that you get your BFP soon too!

For everyone else here. Has anyone used myoinositol?

@Furbsies. I eventually started and more a normal period than last time so hopefully my body has reset it just took its time. Currently cd5. Oh well that’s a good sign maybe your body is just out of sync too. We do moan but our bodies must know what they are doing. I hope you manage to get a peak then your bfp 🤞🏻 X

Morning ladies, can anyone help me 😩🙈
Last Saturday I had a nearly positive OPK lots of EWCM. I’ve tested since with the cheapies and the tests haven’t confirmed ovulation as of yet. I’ll try and attach a pic. My ava bracelet hasn’t confirmed it either (no tick above ovulation prediction). My clearblue ovulation tests (came Friday) are flashing smilies too. I’ve been testing first thing in the morning the afternoon and evening too. Still nothing and I’m in CD20 usually by now I’ve had a positive Ovulation test. TMI I’ve had loads of EWCM this past week. To the point where it’s been too much. I’m annoyed because I’ve got my progesterone blood test booked in for next Friday but don’t know if it will be accurate because I don’t know when or if I’ve ovulated 😩

@Furbsies great news on the flashing
Smiley! Looks like we could we TTWing at the same time 😊

@jazper congratulations 🎊

@moonchild89 I'm so sorry you are going through this. From what I understand from online reading. 3to 6 months after a MC is good time to conceive again as apparently it primes your body. But I'm not ab expert, this is just via online reading.
I'm sorry its been such a long journey. I hope that your rainbow is just round the corner

@runnergirl1 I think I've missed your post and can't find it. AF is still not here for me but I started OPKs based on how my cycle should have been and after a couple of negatives. I saw my flashing smile on clearblue yday so DH and I decided we are gonna DTD for the next few days and hope for the best...

@RichmondLady1981 thank you hunny! And yes to your smiley! Get going girl xxx enjoy

@chloedancer897 ah huni. I feel for you, I really do. It so hard not to think about it and have it in your head somewhere 24/7. No matter how hard you try to distance yourself. It really is a cruel process and so much heartache is involved when things do go our way. Send you love xx be kind to yourself x

Me, I was very distressed this few days. Treated myself to a new car (not brand new) but new to me. Nissan qashqai +2 and I'm in love. The I did a gel polish course yest, hoping to do a wee side job painting nails and if it progresses I'll do gel extensions.
Painted my own to kick things off.
TMI alert 🙈
So it's a wk and 2 days from my D&C, am I right in thinking, day of D&C acts as cd1? U can ovulate 2 wks after. I havent taken a pregnancy test yet to confirm a negative. But will over next few days.
Yesterday morning in bed, I was so horny. I was actually throbbing. Trying my best to hold out the 2 wks. Its soooooo not fair. Will opk pick up on this ovulation? Thinking if we can hold off until thurs then we would be in fw. It's not even about ttc, well it is too but I was that intimacy. I just love the affection during sex and I miss it 😥
Have baby sitter for today, we are hitting the town and getting drunk. I'm afraid I wont be able to resit when home tho. Hopefully I'll be too drunk and just conk out 🤣 poor DH is a horn ball but doing so well I must say 🙈
Anyway, time will tell. Not sure were yous are but its crappy wet weather here so can even walk to the pub. But enjoy ur day

@chloedancer897 I'm so sorry you are feeling so sad. I understand your frustrations. Hating yourself for feeling bitter resonated with me because i too have hated myself at times over the recent months for feeling exactly the same. But it's totally normal. You are allowed to feel sad, we're only human. And what a wonderful friend you are to put your emotions to one side to support her in the way you have. Be kind to yourself always ❤️

It really has @Rainbowhope11 , and thank you!
Oh wow, with me only popping on and off and scan reading, I've completely missed that you started Clomid! How exciting! Sorry AF got you, but as you say, perhaps it's a positive sign that your body is regulating. Was it your first cycle on Clomid?

@VP91x I retested this morning. It's difficult for me to assess the progression of it given that my last one was done at 3 in the afternoon. It's definitely darker, but wondering if it should be darker than it is... I think @MrsK21 is right, testing over and over just feeds anxiety. I will try and step away from them now and book an early scan in 4 weeks time. Xx

We had our private appointment where they did a scan, AMH and sperm tests - all came back good, so at least we know we were probably just unlucky that it took us 9-10 cycles to conceive first time round. We talked to the consultant about various miscarriage tests:

Thrombophilia screen (including antiphospholipid antibody screen)
Antinuclear antibody
Thyroid function
Karyotype
Sperm DNA fragmentation
3-d saline scan

However she said the probability of them all coming back clear is very high and so we’ve decided to carry on TTC naturally and hope the next pregnancy sticks. Very happy that at least we should have no issues conceiving again. They also confirmed in my scan the second miscarriage (4+5) was complete and then today I got my solid smiley on clearblue OPK so hoping we get lucky this month!

Hi everyone! This is my first time posting on Mumsnet (and actually on any online forum). I'm not sure if this group is still active but I couldn't help but post to see who out there is going through the same thing as me.

DH and I have been ttc for 14 months now. It's felt like a lifetime. Each month I've been faced with the disappointment of AF. Last week, we finally got our first ever BFP. It was quickly taken away from us a few days later when I started to MC while on holiday. This entire week has been exhausting. Now we are absolutely devastated and afraid that we will never conceive, and if we do, what if we MC again.

I want to get straight back to it and BD as soon as possible (will need to see what the doc says when I see him tomorrow), but right now, just need some hope and advice on how to move forward. I'm wondering if fertility also increases in the months following a MC? I've been sucked into the trap of googling everything which has not helped as there's a mixed bag of information out there.

I'm so confused and want to fast forward time... 😔

Happy Sunday ladies.

@chloedancer897 sorry you’re having a rough time. I completely understand how you feel and it’s normal. I work in a small office at school with a lovely lady, and she announced the other week she was pregnant. I confided in her about my mmc as we work so close together so bless her it was difficult for her to tell me. As much as I felt happy for her; deep down I was bursting with jealousy. I’m honestly so pleased for but it’s hard at the same time.

Yes @Firevie that’s what I read too... oestrogen lowers temps and progesterone raises it. Sounding positive for you so far! Everything crossed for that special bday pressie! 🎁

After a boring 16 day’s for me I’ve just had my flashing face on CBD... better go and find my nice underwear out of the drawer!

@VP91x thank you. You’re very kind!!! I just read your on cd18 but no ovulation yet. Could come later thought right? Are you doing OPKS this month or just taking a relaxed approach? I haven’t done any yoga or juices this time round. Just OPKS and pessaries and dtd. Hope this is enough! Xxx