Preconception planners - still planning

@RandyGiles06 I would see if you can rearrange for straight after your period, as if you catch first cycle I'm not sure you could then have it whilst preggers, and best not to put it off just in case.

@Baker0104 welcome, how exciting! I don’t envy you coming off the restless legs meds, I had it in my third trimester of my first! Can they change it to something pregnancy friendly? If not get a yoga ball!

What has everyone done about smear tests? I’ve had a letter for mine just because it’s due but I will likely be on my period and I wanted to TTC straight after that particular period so not sure if I should ring and rearrange or not!

@Bells3032 ah sorry to hear that! Such a shame they messed you around hopefully they will come back to you before Monday. Are you feeling any better?

@Baker0104 welcome :) exciting that you are ttc this month :)

Hiya, can I join please?

We're ttc this month for the first time! I'm so excited! I had a chat with my GP a couple of months ago to go through my medications etc, I've had 2 normal periods now so my cycle is pretty much back to normal, been taking folic acid and vitamin d etc. Slightly dreading coming off my restless legs medication tho! Eeekkkk!

@CookieMonster3001 totally agree with others that the dress can always be altered :) shame that it cost so much but I’m sure there is a way of fixing it seamstresses are amazing! You can defo still try to lose lb whilst ttc that’s my plan :) announcing at Christmas would be amazing!

Wow 500 and down to 100 that’s no easy task. Your poor friend. Based on numbers I would not be surprised if it got pushed back further... maybe your little one could attend if it was later in the year :)

OMGOSH I am obsessed with one born! It’s like a sick obsession though as I watch and so desperately want it to be me but at the same time crossing my legs like dear me it looks painful haha! I’ve been rewatching them all haha! Oo I need to give the toast a try :)

@Bells3032 omgosh the instructions! Not surprised you both laughed :) it’s so nice you can find humour :) it’s like they expect him to use the sanitising wash on it!

@Upupupintheair welcome :) so sorry to hear about your wedding so many in here have had the same! I think you have covered a lot of bases there on the vitamins, lbs and coil out :) can take a while to settle so may be worth having it out a little earlier if you want to know your cycle by May :)

@RandyGiles06 welcome :) that’s so exciting :) haha I know what you mean I’m trying to shift some lbs but can’t bare to give up what I love before I get pregnant haha! wine mostly

@gems05 ah you made it over :) fingers crossed you will be able to track more of a cycle :) hope it’s just a quick af for you :)

@Upupupintheair hey there, I feel you on the wedding stuff, our big spring wedding was Covid cancelled, ended up having a small wedding in August! I think I would have ended up really resenting still having it hanging over me and not being able to move forward even those few months drove me crazy! So yeah totally get where you are coming from. Hopefully the time will pass quickly and you are ttc-ing in no time!

@CookieMonster3001 OMG I keep thinking I should start watching one born every minute but I'm too scared 😂🙈

@TheNewMrsW yep pretty much!! there were 500 people originally invited and she has said if they don't change to guidance to allow at least 100 then there is no point in doing the wedding, which is fair enough!! Feel so bad about the amount of money she has already paid out for the wedding to maybe not even be able to do it at all. Covid sucks!! haha

On another note I have developed 2 new obsessions:

• Balsamic tomatoes and onions on toast
• Watching one born every minute

The 2nd one is making me beyond nervous as well as excited. The two feelings mixed together make me queezy! haha

Morning peeps I see the new thread and promptly followed...

Think I've got AF on the way today or tomoz after a few days cramping. I'm relieved in a way to start tracking now. 😁

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Can I join?

We are going to start TTC #2 in December. I have a 14 month toddler and both me and hubby have just started taking the conception vitamins. Can’t wait to get started but at the same time I don’t want to wish time away! Hoping to spend the next couple of months enjoying the food/drink I won’t be able to have when pregnant and lose some weight (though that does directly contradict enjoying food and drink so might not go well ha ha!)

Can I join? I may win the record for being the furthest out but we’re planning to TTC from May next year when we’re due to get married (another corona reschedule!) we were going to have a big wedding with 100+ people but we’ve scaled it right back to around 30 and now having it at home which will be great. We should have been trying for a baby right now (straight after our original date) but I try not to dwell on that too much, otherwise I get a bit sad. It also seems that all my friends are now getting pregnant, and I’m delighted for them but also feel a bit jealous (which is crazy as I’m not even trying yet), but there’s lots of baby chat which is making me even more broody!

My plan is to lose some weight and tone up. I’m about a stone over my ideal weight at the moment (although not technically overweight).
Start taking preconception vitamins in like February (both of us)
Have my coil out in about March / April time.
Anything else I’m missing?

My OH is a few years older and he would start TTC tomorrow if we could! Unfortunately Vegas isn’t open yet...

Eeek @CookieMonster3001 that's sooo exciting, would amazing to have a BFP for Christmas 😃 I'm sure you can get the dresses altered, or try to sell them on to cover replacements? Aren't Asian weddings typically large in numbers and involve a lot of the activities that are currently banned for wedding that do go ahead? That makes me think even more that they will opt to postpone, suppose it depends how desperate they are to be married though, no way we were waiting.

@Bells3032 😂😂😂 that's so funny, just hose down his junk with sanitiser 😂

Ahh thanks guys!! I think I'm gonna have another chat with OH tonight to make sure he is happy, although he thought we were going to start one month earlier, so don't think he will be bothered!! The dress situation is a bit of a sore spot, because its an Asian wedding, which means I have already brought 3 outfits, and they probably cost me around £6-700, but I suppose worst case scenario I can try get them altered.

And I think you guys are right, I want to lose around 10lbs and I can still do that between now and October. And who are we kidding, I'm probably not gonna get pregnant the first try anyway!

Would be so amazing to announce to everyone around Christmas though!!!

@CookieMonster3001 for the sake of a few lbs and a wedding outfit I say go for it! You can still continue to lose the lbs whilst trying and if it does happen straightaway well who cares! I def wouldn't take the wedding into consideration at all if they have started talking about it not happening, there's just no way of knowing what will happen and if there is a second wave over the winter all bets are off. If it does happen and you have a bump you will look lovely anyway, you can get some lovely matty outfits these days!

@rosiefl haha I’m not sure I would say normal but for this group it’s normal we are all obsessed lol!

@TheNewMrsW omg yes! Let’s do that that would be amazing!

@Bells3032 that’s good that less 4 hours to wait ah I so so hope it goes well for you! M

@CookieMonster3001 ah that’s so exciting! Not about the wedding but potentially earlier. LOL that’s abit like my ”ntnp” as I obviously know when I’m fertile lol but it does feel abit less pressure :) I would say go for it as there are lovely maternity outfits you can buy and tbh it may just keep getting moved :) cannot predict in this ‘new normal’ life. I am still trying to drop some weight but just doing that whilst “ntnp” and see what happens... in my mind telling myself “ntnp” reduces the pressure/ disappointment as the original plan was nov. After November I’ll be like DTD at set times of day etc if it improves chances haha!

Blooming heck, 1000 messages! Haha we are a chatty bunch aren't we!!

@mybobowler @ttcwc2 @rlou3 @rosiefl @toobroody welcome to the group!!

@thenewmrsw really? I had no idea either, although I have stopped drinking tea and have not had it for quite some time! Only go for a tea if I really fancy it, otherwise its coffee for me! Caffeine is a hard one to hit tho, but the switch to decaf has been OK, but I sometimes forget how much its in other stuff like chocolate! I drink a lot of coke zero so should check to see if there is any in there.. cant remember if its just usual coke and diet its in?!

@bells3032 ouch the spasms doesn't sound good! Someone once told me that potassium is supposed to be good for that, but I never tried it. Hope the SA goes well for your OH, I can imagine that must be so daunting! Hope you get your AMH results soon too! Sending you lots of love.

So turns out that the wedding I have been planning my TTC around might not even go ahead now in Feb, so I am torn between starting TTC earlier or just keep to the original plan.
Cons of starting earlier:
The wedding might still go ahead so I may not fit in to any of the outfits
I still have a few lbs to drop before I am at a healthy weight
Pros of starting earlier:
Starting TTC earlier

Hubby is not so fussed, but now my mind is torn! I mean to be honest its the difference of one month. Someone help me. I thought about doing the NTNP method, but who am I kidding, I have been tracking my ovulation for 3 months now, there is no way im not going to be able to plan.

@Bells3032 all the luck in the world for today 🤞

@mackjm20 well we can encourage each other to cut down a bit and lose those last few lbs!!

@rosiefl not weird at all I'm the same obsessively reading MN and googling things and looking at baby stuff. It's like once you make the decision a switch is flipped. Either that or it is weird but I'm just as weird as you are 🤪

I wondered whether it is 'normal' to become obsessed with the idea of having a baby. I've started looking at nursery ideas and clothes etc. Is that odd?? I'm not even pregnant yet. Wondered if anyone else goes through spells of this?

@rosiefl so good that it’s had a positive impact somewhere :) exciting that you have moved it forwards!

@Toobroody welcome :) ah how exciting! That will keep you busy :) so nice that dp is really involved too :) I have not cut out caffeine or alcohol (I have reduced) but rightly or wrongly will probably only cut out once I get a positive test. If it takes a long time I may reconsider but not currently done so.

@TheNewMrsW hahaha I hear you! Love wine and cheese I will miss both of these in pregnancy haha! Yes I am the same I know that cutting down will help shift the Lb as I still have quite a bit I want to lose eek

@Bells3032 I am the same my weakness is Pepsi max but I’m sure that will probs have a lot of caffeine in!

So sorry to hear you are feeling rough today, bless you! I’m keeping everything crossed for you on the results of the s.a.

Sounds like you will need some wine and choc by the end of today! Sending love and well wishes to you and dh x

@Bells3032 Sending you lots of luck and really hope today goes the way you want it to 💗