Preconception planners - still planning

Morning all! Had a lovely weekend with the family in Stratford and a relaxing couple of days! Lots to catch up on!!

@randygiles06 the only people we have told is my sisters and my OH sister. We are not planning on telling anyone else until 3 month mark (possibly before if we get an early scan done) Although funny you should mention this, as 3 of my family members were asking questions this weekend, when are you going to have kids? Don't wait too long, your not getting any younger. I was like thanks for the reminder! LOL

@sunflowersaremyfav93 LOL at you counting your grapes!!! looking at the OPK on Saturday it looked like your LH levels were lower, but ovulation is approaching.

@bells3032 glad you finally got your results and they were better than you were expecting! Big virtual hugs for you, I can imagine it must be a hard situation to deal with, but the positive is the option of IVF as Mack says. Also with you on the weight loss as I still want to try and lose a stone! Back on the running and healthy eating today.

@mackjm20 ee exciting about the NTNP! lol about planning the nursery and names and stuff!! I defo have a list of names I am thinking off and a couple of ideas about the nursery, but the OH stops me getting so excited!!

@mybobowler wow 2 weeks thats amazing!! I hope that happens with me!! Although I am trying very hard to manage my expectations so I dont get my hopes up too soon!

@thenewmrsw those books look interesting! you will have to give us a mini session on the contents once you have read them!

@butterfly5291 oh im so sorry AF has arrived. More virtual hugs for you!! I am almost certain you do not look as bad as you think you do in the photos, its probably just because your not feeling your greatest and having a shitty weekend! Your hormones will be everywhere as well because of AF Fingers crossed for next month and lots of baby dust to you!

@mackjm20 thank you. I'm sorry you hate your wedding photos...if these had been ours I'd be devastated! I have spoken to the photographer and they are going to make sure they are more aware of angles. I'm also going to have a cosmetic treatment to try get rid of the double chin...I've had it all my life even when skinny so worth a shot for £100! We're going to have another practice shoot too...think it's worth the money vo make sure I'm going to be happy on the day.

@TheNewMrsW oo let us know if the books are any good? I am picking up some books from the library on thursday :)

@Cupcakecafe I’m taking folic acid and about to start vitamin d. Yes may will give you lots of time to not have to rush any weight loss :)

@Baker0104 I was the same with all the abbreviations when I joined :) not trying not preventing :)

@Pebbleinthesand @sunflowersaremyfav93 maybe I need to look at slimming world again can’t seem to stick with anything at the moment! Huge well done on the first half marathon! How did you find it? What time did you get :)?

@butterfly5291 so nice to have you back :) so sorry to hear about af arriving and keeping everything crossed for your next cycle. I think ttc can be mentally exhausting and can only imagine the disappointment when af arrives.

Oh no! I’m sure you looked lovely. But if you really hate them Could it just be the angles? I was so disappointed with our wedding photos... perhaps see if they can try again and if you still don’t like them consider a new photographer? I’m so sorry you have had such a rotten weekend!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I don't know if it just my hormones, I've woke up again today feeling like I could burst into tears any second. Got such a busy few weeks in work could do without the stress. Also disappointed AF showed up... I'd felt sick all last week so was hoping that was an early sign. I know this TTC business can take months or years but was secretly hoping to get pregnant first proper month if trying so everyone who told me not worry about not being able to have a baby could laugh in my face!

In relation to your OPKs I would just keep trying, I missed my peak both months I've tried but because I temp track I could see I had ovulated. Which brand are you using? From my other thread ice found out that one step ones are rubbish and femometer are the best.

@Pebbleinthesand do you find slimming world still works when you have so little weight to lose? I lost a stone in the end with it but took months. I'm only 9st9lb but at the top of my BMI range because I'm only 5ft2...if I go up to 9st10 it tells me to lose half a stone. I looked at calorie counting but I could only have 1200 a day and just don't think I'll be healthy doing that.
Any tips from those trying to lose weight?

@Bells3032 just caught up on your posts, so sorry you will have to try IVF. Are the drs giving you support and advice on the next steps? Are there's other threads on here you can get support from too... people who are going through the same things?

@butterfly5291 Hi butterfly! I'm sure you looked absolutely lovely, it's so easy for us to feel like utter crap before AF.., I often feel absolutely gross, bloated, fat, spotty... the lot and then bang .. AF arrives and I feel normal again. You'll look back on those photos when you're a bit older and think .. damn I looked good, why did I not think it at the time? I always look back at photos and think, why did I think I looked fat at the time because I'm def bigger now!

@Bells3032 Sending you love and as @mackjm20 said, we're all here for you if you want to offload at any point.

@TheNewMrsW Ooh I had a look at it starts with an egg, thinking of getting it! Let me know how you get on with it.

@Pebbleinthesand sometimes BMI numbers really blow my mind! But I'm with you on that, SW really is good, I used to eat whatever I wanted and it'd be on plan.. can't remember why I stopped now?! Read a lot of benefits about the Fasting too, my colleague has PCOS and she swears by it for managing her weight and hormones.

Hey everyone...I missed a lot since the end of the old thread!
Well my first proper month of TTC failed...AF turned up today. Been a shitty weekend all round.
Had our pre wedding photoshoot yesterday and I am devastated with how I look on the photos...my face looks so fat. I honestly don't even look like me. I don't know if it's my hormones or stress but I've spent the past 24 hours very tearful...then AF turned up to top the weekend off!
Hope you've all had a much nicer one xx

Glad you got the results and are feeling optimistic @bells3032.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I absolutely rave about slimming world to anyone who'll listen 😂. It's the oy thing that I've ever been able to stick to long term. I've been doing intermittent fasting alongside it a couple of days a week to give me the boost I needed to get to my target weight and I'm hoping I'll be able to continue that within the next month to get another half a stone off so that my bmi is healthier. I ran my first half marathon yesterday so I'm hoping that will have helped me to get a big loss this week.

I know there are a few of us trying to reduce our bmi before TTC including myself but it's lost meaning for me a bit. I've always weighed heavy for my size and having lost weight I'm now a size 10 and an active runner but my bmi is still 25.5 so could do with being a bit lower if I don't want the gestational diabetes lecture again like I got with DD.

I'm back in school and teaching three days a week from tomorrow after not been in the classroom (apart from a 3 week stint teaching key worker kids) since March so I'm definitely looking forward to the return of my normal routine. Hopefully it'll stop me from obsessing about getting pregnant and exactly how pregnant I'll be at every event from hen parties to weddings to Christmas to Birthdays for the next year 😂

Glad you got the results and are feeling optimistic @bells3032.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I absolutely rave about slimming world to anyone who'll listen 😂. It's the oy thing that I've ever been able to stick to long term. I've been doing intermittent fasting alongside it a couple of days a week to give me the boost I needed to get to my target weight and I'm hoping I'll be able to continue that within the next month to get another half a stone off so that my bmi is healthier. I ran my first half marathon yesterday so I'm hoping that will have helped me to get a big loss this week.

I know there are a few of us trying to reduce our bmi before TTC including myself but it's lost meaning for me a bit. I've always weighed heavy for my size and having lost weight I'm now a size 10 and an active runner but my bmi is still 25.5 so could do with being a bit lower if I don't want the gestational diabetes lecture again like I got with DD.

I'm back in school and teaching three days a week from tomorrow after not been in the classroom (apart from a 3 week stint teaching key worker kids) since March so I'm definitely looking forward to the return of my normal routine. Hopefully it'll stop me from obsessing about getting pregnant and exactly how pregnant I'll be at every event from hen parties to weddings to Christmas to Birthdays for the next year 😂

Glad you got the results and are feeling optimistic @bells3032.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I absolutely rave about slimming world to anyone who'll listen 😂. It's the oy thing that I've ever been able to stick to long term. I've been doing intermittent fasting alongside it a couple of days a week to give me the boost I needed to get to my target weight and I'm hoping I'll be able to continue that within the next month to get another half a stone off so that my bmi is healthier. I ran my first half marathon yesterday so I'm hoping that will have helped me to get a big loss this week.

I know there are a few of us trying to reduce our bmi before TTC including myself but it's lost meaning for me a bit. I've always weighed heavy for my size and having lost weight I'm now a size 10 and an active runner but my bmi is still 25.5 so could do with being a bit lower if I don't want the gestational diabetes lecture again like I got with DD.

I'm back in school and teaching three days a week from tomorrow after not been in the classroom (apart from a 3 week stint teaching key worker kids) since March so I'm definitely looking forward to the return of my normal routine. Hopefully it'll stop me from obsessing about getting pregnant and exactly how pregnant I'll be at every event from hen parties to weddings to Christmas to Birthdays for the next year 😂

@Bells3032 ah perfect thank you!

Bit of a newbie but what does ntnp mean? Lol

sounds exciting for all of you

Which vitamins do you recommend?
I also need to lose some weight, so hopefully by May I can have lost quite a bit. My daughter was a c section, so i want to increase my chances of vbac. From what I've read if my bmi is more than 30 again they'll be less happy for me to try.

Ideally I want to lose about 2 stone, but I'm not sure how realistic that is considering its going to be Christmas in the middle

This week's reading material has arrived! 😃

@Mybobowleryea I defo don’t feel stressed doing it this way and if af comes because I haven’t been tracking etc and barely dtd it will be expected :) fingers crossed dh job works out:) eek Oct/nov that’s so exciting :)

@DaenarysStormborn welcome! Congratulations on the summer wedding:) dec/ Jan is exciting and perfect timing for mat leave for you by the sounds :) sounds like you have done all the right prep and will be good to go :) good luck :) x

Hi! Is it too late to join? Dh and I managed to get married this summer (small COVID wedding) and are going to start trying in December/January as we'd like a Sept baby onwards as it'll make mat leave so much easier (I'm a teacher). Had to switch my medication to a pregnancy safe one too which happened in July - it should all be washed out but they recommend waiting 6 months to ensure no problems. I'm a bit overweight so need to keep going with my diet and start vitamins - probably from mid October? Sending baby dust to all of you

@mackjm20 hah yes, it was a bit of a surprise, to say the least. I think my partner decided there and then to take every self-diagnosis I made with a pinch of salt! Good luck, NTNP is a good way to get used to TTC without all the pressure.

I'm hoping we'll be able to start around October or November. There's a bit of complication around my DP's job, but we're hoping it'll be more secure in the next 6 weeks or so. And then it's go-time! I'm not sure he realises that I want to start TTC as soon as that... maybe I need to have another conversation with him?!

@Mybobowler welcome :) so nice to hear your dd was conceived ntnp although that 2 weeks makes me a tad nervous lol! Was hoping ntnp may tie in with my nov plan haha! (Will obviously be so happy either way just gives me more time to lose lbs)

When are you delaying ttc until? Imagine if you get a quick bfp again :) fingers crossed :)

Omgosh I’ve been obsessing this weekend haha! I already have my girls and boys name fully decided nursery planned baby budget organised lmfao! I have lost the plot!

@Bells3032 it’s totally understandable to grieve the loss of the natural conception. You have been so strong for your dh. I am so sorry and if we can support in anyway will always be here to listen.

The positive is that there is a chance with ivf which is brilliant news. Also hopefully as your side are usually quick to conceive hopefully this gives a strong hope for the ivf taking well :)

Sending so much love your way x

Hello everyone! Late jumping back on here, but what a lovely bunch you all are!

Very excited for all the NTNP-ers on here. That's how DD came about (I have v short cycles and a short LP, so I had convinced myself it would take forcer to conceive - by some miracle, I was pregnant within two weeks!) - I'm back to having convinced myself again that #2 will take forever, so I'm a bit envious of those of you who are going for it now. Good luck!

Thanks to those of you who suggested vitamins. I've got myself some Floradix and folic acid, which I'm hoping will sort of my fatigue if nothing else.

Must be the hormones, but I can't stop thinking about babies the last few days. I've just had to tear myself away from the baby name board 😅

@RandyGiles06 so we are ntnp as of this month. Basically back to the previous thread original plan was nov- I’ve been impatient and begged for sept haha then dh was excited for sept and I was so nervous I tried to delay (all levels of crazy)

So the compromise was ntnp- in all honesty I’ve been tracking my cycle so I know approx window I haven’t done any opks which I will do when we are fully ttc so it’s somewhere in the middle of ntnp and ttc- although dh doesn’t want to know any dates at all:) just to go with the flow which I’m okay with :)

Ah good luck with the diet :) that’s the same as me I know my bmi won’t be under 25 but just trying to reduce it as much as poss :)

@Bells3032 I’m glad the results were better than you thought they might be, so exciting that you can start to get a plan together now! I always think the pictures you get in IVF where the baby is a tiny little egg are so cool to be able to show your child when they are older

So exciting about the ladies doing NTNP! How do you do it? Do you just try not to think about ovulation at all, or do you secretly know all of that but just not tell hubby

Good luck to all those dieting, I am starting tomorrow too, I was shocked at how much your weight is focussed on with my first pregnancy, whilst I didn’t have any actual complications, it seemed to be discussed a lot haha. I am quite heavy so I won’t be able to get into a healthy BMI range by December but I hoped if I can show I’ve lost a good amount of weight since last time it might work in my favour... I hope!