Preconception planners - still planning

@mackjm20 aww that's a lovely surprise from your friends and really sweet of DH too...you must be feeling better about DTD next cycle now.
Fertility friend gives you stats on what pregnancy test gets the earliest BFP and think it's FRER it says you can take 6 days before missed period. I think biologically the earliest you would potentially see a bfp is 9dpo but that is super early and would advise against testing then as more likely to feel disappointed but still might be pregnant. This cycle I'm going to hold out until at least 12dpo...which means if I ovulate when I'm meant to that I'll have to not drink over two weekends...which should aid the weight loss at least.

@SparklePrincesss it's really easy to symptom spot but it does sound like you are far too early in your cycle to be getting implantation bleeding and definitely too early to test. Can you post a pic of your Fertility friend chart and I can try help interpret it for you.

So update for me... after being so good and healthy last week and planning a low key weekend I came home Saturday to a surprise girlie get together (my girls cheering me up as work has been next level stressful)! So drank alcohol and my diet has been one of combating a hangover since so very beige lol! I’m actually now relieved that there is next to no chance of bfp this month and dh (who knew about the party) said that’s why he was avoiding dtd lol! As didn’t want me to be panicking about drinking if we had done it any closer to ovulation (as we did it day one of window so like 5 days before). Feeling a lot better about the lame first shot at ntnp now ha ha!

We are away next cycle in our fertile window for a staycation for 10 days so hoping we will have better luck then especially with my new opks and thermometer:)

I can’t help thinking though that every tww I will be totally crazy! Even with that like 1% chance this cycle it’s vaguely in the back of my mind... if I had dtd everyday I would probs be wanting to test constantly. Does anyone know the earliest you can actually get a bfp? As at least that would maybe reign me in until that day lol. For everyone on a tww I send you all my love as I predict this to be a new form of mental torture xxx

@florencesthoughts welcome :) glad to hear there is another ntnp :) re pregnancy tests I’m avoiding having any in the house until I miss a period (or at least that’s the plan) lol! Good luck :)

@bubblybrit so exciting that you have made the decision for number 2 though :) ah that’s good well fingers crossed then :) I’ve ordered the fermometer opks to start next cycle :)

@KittyT30 so nice to hear from you! Oh no so sorry to hear the symptoms have hit you so hard! You must be exhausted. Bless you do hope you are feeling better soon! Eek so exciting for the first scan :)

@TheNewMrsW love your non alcoholic H&M was it nice? Looks bloody amazing! Glad af finally arrived :) sounds like you have charting nailed! I can’t wait for af to arrive so I can chart properly this cycle :) so sorry to hear about the awful cramps!

@Pebbleinthesand gosh sounds so full on you must be so tired! How does it feel to be back teaching? Omgosh nightmare bojo cancelling the hen party! At least like you said you didn’t wait for it.

@HeyDW96 have you held off on testing? All sounds like good signs you have been having :)

@gems05 how are you feeling now? Bless you sounds like a horrid bug!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 that’s good that oh took the vitamins. That’s such a good way of explaining it! Technically on the tww although it doesn’t feel like it as we only dtd once in the window so I’m just classing it as waiting for af :) I haven’t noticed any symptoms and it would be like a miracle lol so just writing that one off :)

@CookieMonster3001 oo your weekend sounds so so nice :) minus the drinking and blisters lol! That’s good news about the strong opk :) thanks for the advice on the alarm :) that’s my plan each morning after af :) think I’m finally getting my head round it all :)

@queenatom
So glad that it seems your luteal phase is longer this is fantastic news! Fingers crossed for the next few days :) the tww sounds the actual worse bless you!

@SparklePrincesss welcome! You aren’t being silly at all it’s so easy to symptom spot think it’s natural and we all do it! Fingers crossed it’s a good sign :) it’s all so complicated isn’t it I get totally lost in google!

@HeyDW96 I don't honestly know! We're starting our ttc journey and I don't really understand it all yet and have been chasing my tail on google 🙈

@SparklePrincesss if you ovulated on Sunday when you dtd, would it be possible to have implantation bleeding today? Implantation usually occurs 6-10 days after conception I think. Unless you ovulated earlier!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 11-16th are the fertile windows my fertility friend has tracked in the past (I use it to track my cycles even before ttc) this month it's saying cd 13-16th which would be tomorrow to Saturday but because I noted watery cf on Friday (cd8) it's extended my fertile window from then. I'm so confused and have already ran away in my head with excitement 🙈

@SparklePrincesss forgot to tag you in my response below 🙈

Ooh that's interesting, I don't know much about implantation bleeding but if that doesn't usually happen to you that it's def interesting! I usually ovulate around CD14/15 but I guess it all depends on your cycle length. Have you googled it? You'll have to let us know when you do a test.. how brilliant would that be if you for a positive before really trying properly

@sunflowersaremyfav93 Thankyou! I'm excited. I don't know if I should do a test and when I could test at the earliest. Fertility friend is saying my period is due 4th October. I'm taking iron and just today started folic acid because of this random pink stuff. It's not like my normal spotting, it's literally vague baby pink but enough for me to notice. I put a tampon in and straight out and there was a def pinky tone. I'm already crazy and we've not really properly started 🙈🤣

@SparklePrincesss Also I wouldn't say that your age would contribute to infertility at all, for men it doesn't really matter their sorry refreshes all the time and for women I think 30s is also completely fine. Do you take any supplements?

@SparklePrincesss Welcome! That's exciting, I'd be the same as you. Are you going to do a test?

Hi everyone, I'm new on here and ttc. May I join you all? So I'm usually on average a 30 day cycle. My partner and I are just starting out on our ttc journey, he's mid 40's and I'm late 30's so unsure if we're fertile enough. We DTD on Sunday evening and today I've had very slight pink discharge. I'm on cycle day 12 and had watery discharge from cycle day 8. We haven't been testing for ovulation yet as we weren't organised this month to start. But I've already got my hopes up that it could be a good sign as I don't normally spot this early in a cycle, if I get spotting then it's usually 7 days before my period arrives so this is really early this month if it's just spotting. Am I just being silly, I feel like I am! All advice welcome!!

@RandyGiles06 very strange!! Ive read a lot about ways to get CM flowing but I really just don't want to keep buying stuff, so think need to reign it in and if I'm not pregnant by December I might consider some more supplements!

@queenatom that's sounding promising!! Keeping my fingers crossed for you, you will have to keep us all updated! If anything, at least your luteal phase is getting longer!

Hey gang, just checking in - how's everyone doing this sunny Tuesday?

This TWW is starting to get to me now - 10DPO (longest luteal phase so far!), no sign of AF and my temperature chart has been marked as possible triphasic by Fertility Friend. Distractions welcomed!

@CookieMonster3001 it’s so interesting how our bodies work isn’t it! My cycles vary somewhere between 25 & 30 days, though in the last few months they’ve been 25-27 days. I don’t get a lot of CM either, sometimes I don’t see any at all! I always get EWCM though so it’s really easy for me to tell when I’m in my “fertile window” TTC is so bizarre isn’t it, I’ve never given CM any thought until now when I’m borderline obsessed

@queenatom keeping my fingers crossed for you!

@RandyGiles06 the luteal phase is the time between ovulation and your period starting. 2 weeks is about right, and should generally stay each month (give or take a day or so on either side) The time between your first day of your period and ovulation is your follicular phase, and this can vary much more depending on when you ovulate. My FP tends to be around 12-14 days and my LP is usually 13 - 14 days, but I do get a month randomly where I have ovulated late and caused a 30 day cycle, but generally they are 27 - 28 for me.

I found I don't really get much visible CM and I never really get a lot of EWCM, mine tends to be more watery and I hear so many different things on this forum that watery CM isn't the most fertile or that EWCM and watery CM are both as fertile as each other. It can get very confusing!!!

Haha @CookieMonster3001 I have a special cup that I keep in a bathroom drawer for POAS from last time it’s a lot bigger than a shot glass! Is luteal phase the time between ovulation and AF? I think mines 2 weeks because there’s pretty much exactly 2 weeks between the day I get lots of EWCM and the start of AF. That seems pretty static but the time between the end of AF and ovulation seems to vary which seems to determine the length of my cycle. I haven’t actually tracked ovulation so I’m just going by CM. I wish I was one of these people who had exactly the same cycle length each week, I’ll be a wreck when I come to TTC!

Sounds like you had a lovely weekend definitely time to test those feet today!

Hi @CookieMonster3001 - currently 9DPO and waiting. Last two cycles AF has appeared at this time so if nothing else pleased that my luteal phase might be getting a little longer. Cracked and tested this morning - BFN, not a surprise as its still fairly early - so we'll see what the next few days bring!

Morning all! how was everyones weekend??
I had a great weekend, went up to Taunton for a bit of glamping which was so relaxing (bar all the drinking!) walked about 40km in total and totally beaten up my feet, blisters and bruises all over meaning I am limping around!! But a weekend away full of drinking and eating with friends was a great way to relax and now its over, time to cut the alcohol out and really start focusing on getting myself as healthy as possible. I got back yesterday and took an OPK straight away and after 3 months, I finally got a super clear positive! So glad I decided to get the easy@home strips instead because they are defo easier to read!

@mackjm20 im sure everyone has already told you this but I set an alarm for 7am every morning and take my temperature. For me now its more about looking for a trend rather than analysing every single temperature. They say you should have a solid 3-4 hours sleep before taking your temp, but this has never really affected me much, for me its more making sure that I take it at the same time every day (give or take 5-10 minutes). At the moment, I am using onestep and easy@home OPKs and I use one everyday between CD 6-10 and then 2 a day onwards (aiming for around 12pm and 5pm). The month I am going to really focus on TTC then I will also use the clearblue ovulation sticks once I start noticing my LH levels increase so I really dont miss the ideal time. Thats about it really!

@thenewmrsw Glad AF finally showed up!!

@Iamfoureels a plastic shot glass to catch your wee? You must have incredibly good aim, I use a large coffee lid and I still sometimes pee all over my hand haha. At first I was grossed out, but then I thought whatever, I'll have to deal with worse when I give birth and need to clean baby poop. Counting it towards my mummy training LOL

@queenatom welcome back! Hows the TTC and the TTW going?

@kittyt30 how exciting about your scan next week! Glad your doing well despite all the symptoms! My older sister lived off ham sandwiches and orange juice for about 4 months!

@butterfly5291 now mildly regretting my impatience for her to arrive as I'm now in the grip of the most horrific cramps I've had for quite some time! 😖😂

@TheNewMrsW yay! Glad she finally arrived... you'll be hoping she doesn't in a few months!

AF finally arrived today, along with a definite drop in BBT this morning, so I am feeling a bit more confident about charting now. Even though we aren't ttc quite yet I am excited to be at the start of a new cycle finally so I can start playing with OPKs and my fertility monitor😂

@sunflowersaremyfav93 yes it has been almost a week - which annoys me more and more each day that I'm still suffering coz I want to DTD this coming week. And I don't want to be on antibiotics or whatever when TTC

Typically the OPK is getting stronger already! So according Femometer next week is defo looking to be ovulation time - just a bugger that my temp is all over the shop cos of the stomach virus to confirm it for sure

@mackjm20 he ended up taking one yesterday without me asking, just hope he carries on without me having to nag. I ended up explaining it by saying...I don’t like fish so my body doesn’t have any goodness of the fish and during the first trimester our baby will be taking all of my nutrient reserves..and he said well then you should omega 3 and I said BINGO so the nutrients your body might be missing to produce healthy sperm you’ll get from the vitamins.. Let’s see how long it lasts. Are you on the TWW now? How exciting, will you test before AF is due or wait to see what happens?

@kittyt30 oh gosh I hope those symptoms lessen soon for you! Hope the scan goes well too, will you be finding out the gender at any point?

@mommabear20 Have you looked in to Slimming World?

@gems05 gosh you poor thing, it sounds absolutely awful!! It’s been a few days now as well hasn’t it?! Hope it passes soon.

Nope it's defo not the vitamins... spoke too soon 😩