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Feel so deflated TTC cycle 2 or 3

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AKcheer · 01/09/2020 13:05

Hi guys...I just feel so deflated right now. I’m 30, been TTC for 2 or 3 months now and it just hasn’t happened. I feel for everyone they are getting pregnant with a touch and I’m not. Last month I thought was the month - we DTD plenty around ovulation and I thought we nailed it. Yesterday AF came and I just feel so shit! I just want a baby :( and I feel everyone’s starting to ask questions too. I don’t know I just feel rubbish - anything to help pick me up or offer me positive stories/words. Any advice? X

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Ughmaybenot · 01/09/2020 13:38

I understand totally how you’re feeling but you’re being too hard on yourself. You hear about the ones that happen ‘just like that’ much more than you hear about the (perfectly normal!) couples who take several months.
I’m 26, DH is 28 and we’ve been trying for 7 months now. It’s disheartening every time it hasn’t happened but I’m confident we’ll get there, and so will you.

Juno231 · 01/09/2020 13:35

Just wanted to add that I'm 32 and next week I'll enter cycle 9 so it does take a while!

happylittlechick · 01/09/2020 13:31

I think you need to brace yourself. In all honesty 2months is nothing. Drs won't even consider tests until you've been trying a year. It took me 18months to conceive my first.

AngelSings · 01/09/2020 13:29

Try not to compare yourself to others. It's hard not to but the reality is that more people take months to conceive than it seems. You just tend to hear about the quicker ones more (I hated them whilst trying myself!). Took me many many months to conceive in my early 30s.

Juno231 · 01/09/2020 13:20

Hang in there! It will happen :) For a 30 year old I think the average is 6 months TTC so don't despair just yet! Just remember that each cycle you have 20-30% of a shot at most even if everything is perfectly timed, so those one shot people are just magical unicorns that happened to get lucky!