TTC after MC - Aug/Sept 2020 (Thread 12)

Thanks so much everyone 💜

I'll be seeing how I get on these next few days before I start getting any balls rolling!

I imagine I'm going to want an early reassurance scan whether I can get one from EPU or go private just so I can be officially dated and stuff too.

@MrsK21 thanks I haven’t marked it as cd1 as it’s still v light and just red when I wipe and brown gush (sorry TMI) on my pad. I usually have more flow after two days of this.
I think this time round I will def use my digital cb. So, I think I will start using pink dye OPKS on cd12 and then on cd15 perhaps start with cb digital and once I have ovulated start taking the progestonere pessaries i have from my OBGYN. Hopefully this will do the trick. Hope you’re having fun dtd 😉 xxx

@Bl0ndi3 yay yay yay I’m so very pleased for you! Here’s to a happy and healthy 9months xxx

@Bl0ndi3 congratulations 🎉🎉🎉🎉 xxx

@Bl0ndi3 ohh congratulations! I’m so happy for you! It’s so nice to see some positive news! I hope you don’t mind me asking but how long have you been TTC? Xx

Congratulations @Bl0ndi3. Lovely news 🥰 xx

@Bl0ndi3 awww so happy for you xx

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I've been out and bought some FRER so I'll take one in a couple of hours if urine concentrated enough 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

@chloedancer897 I agree with the ladies, he might be struggling to communicate as he doesn't really know what to say. I know how hard I find it sometimes talking to OH when I assume I am causing possible issues. I think it's important to talk and make sure he knows it's ok and you can find a solution together etc. Also, it is likely not so much an issue now and if it's in his head that it is, it could affect his libido etc, so definitely give it a day or two and have a chat. He will be on side soon I'm sure.

@VP91x sorry it was negative this morning lovely, really hope your test on Sunday brings a nice line for you.

@Lollol86 she didn't say much. She told me not to worry as it would come away with my next bleed. But she also said we could get pregnant with no bleed. It doesn't matter anyway as I think AF is coming so it will come away with that I'm sure. If it doesn't come to anything then I'll have to go back to EPU next week, hopefully that's not the case xx

@familybythesea so sorry for how your receptionist has treated you! that's awful! Hope your GP can provide some reassurance but definitelt let someone know what happened!

@Bl0ndi3 I can see a line on all your photos! Excited for you to test with a FRER!

@chloedancer897 your OH probably is feeling a bit gutted about his results, but he needs to remember he's changed a lot of things since then. Hope this is your cycle!

@VP91x sorry you had a BFN, hopeful for you in a couple of days!

@Firevie I would count today as CD1 if you're having to use a pad / tampon. I think that's what most apps recommend. Are you taking anything / trying anything different this cycle?

@Peblet sorry to hear of your loss - I hope your cycle returns quickly, you will get lots of advice and support here x

Little update from me - on CD8 today, on my second day of flashies on CB digis and we're trying to just regularly DTD and not stress too much about it. How are you getting on @Northernsoul90 and @HappyVibes? xxx

@MichT4 I'm confused, doesn't your pregnancy sac need to come away before you can start trying again? And if it isn't coming away surely epu need to do something about it? Xx

@VP91x that's still early though so your definitely not out yet xx

@VP91x thank you for offering your wisdom again! I swear you’re a fertility guru! And fingers crossed for you for Sunday! 9dpo is still super early!
@familybythesea glad you have your appointment. It’s probably so hard to wait until Tuesday but perhaps try and distract yourself with OH and your DS as much as you can.
@Peblet sorry to hear about your loss. Welcome and hopefully this group will be able to give you the same comfort it gave me.
My update - only been to pee once this morning and was a lot more blood when wiping so I have popped a pad into my knickers. Will see and either out today down as another day of spotting or if the pad fills up then as flow so cd1. Xxx

@chloedancer897 yay! Fingers crossed this is our cycle and we will have BFPs in the bag! Deffo keep up that positive attitude. I hear a lot of people saying if you picture you having something and keep that picture in your mind it will happen! Xx

@VP91x I’ll keep an eye on that this cycle. I’m using OPKs this time I have stocked up on the cheapies and I have 4 CBD ones left so I will use them once I start getting darker lines on the cheapie OPKs I think. I thought to maybe start a little later as I think AF may be longer this month. Hopefully your test was just that bit too early. Fingers crossed for a BFP on Sunday 🤞🏻 Xx

@Bl0ndi3 I can see the lines too! How exciting! Are you going to try with a FRER or CB? Xx

@familybythesea good luck with your appointment and hopefully your GP will help you feel more relaxed About it all and you can get a plan going forward. I agree that you shouldn’t take up a job like that if you don’t have the right skills. Xx

Thank you everyone. I’ve got an appointment for Tuesday as that’s the first one available. Now just need to try not to worry about it for all those days :( . I’d be surprised if I am perimenopausal because I’ve had a missed miscarriage and two chemical pregnancies this year, plus my mum is pretty much only now going through the menopause. But I guess it’s not impossible so still anxious about it as I do very much want a sibling for my son and have a hole in my heart for another little one. Thank you for your kind words and support - OH means well but he doesn’t really understand why hearing something like that is so upsetting.

@VP91x good luck for Sunday, hope you're not too disheartened as it is early days.

@MinnieMouse4 sounds like your receptionist needs training too - I can't work out why you'd do a job like that if you don't have any empathy or people skills!

Morning ladies....

So annoyingly I'm still waking up in the night to wee (5:12am today, 4:07 yesterday haha!) so my FMU is very diluted but I've just taken this test with 3 hour urine that was very pale....

It is there and still pale but I'm surprised with how diluted my urine was that there's anything there at all this morning.

I'll hold and test again later and pick up some tests either on my lunch or when I'm go shopping tomorrow

Can I ask you all pls, at how many days DPO does a FRER (on average) pick up a pregnancy?

@Peblet welcome to the group. Lots of support and knowledge here! X

@Bl0ndi3 I see something! 👀

Doing well over here, just stuck without internet in the new house! 😭

So pleased for you @Bl0ndi3 that is a real line!

And welcome @Peblet you'll find lovely support here x

@MinnieMouse4 I'm CD3 so we are cycle buddies again!

My OH got his updated semen analysis and it's not great. Morphology is low, at 1.8% although this was from August last year and he has been taking vitamins and cut right back on caffeine so I'm hoping it's a bit better. I just feel like we are constantly hitting walls. Weirdly this evening I've been the one being really hopeful and he's the one who is very negative and doesn't think it will happen. I think I'm getting all my positivity from @HappyVibes ! I said I have a feeling we will be pregnant by Christmas. I had a premonition that I'd have a baby at 36 which would be next year. Not that I'm psychic or anything but it's a weird thing to think! OH is completely against IVF now, he doesn't want to do it at all. I'm still hoping it will happen naturally but I hadn't ruled out some assistance. But I'm happy to just play by ear and see how things go.

How is everyone else?x

Sounds positive @Dizzy201, and thank you 🤞🏼

I'm ok thank you @Lollol86. Thought I had glimmers of early AF today but completely disappeared again so back to waiting. Getting a little weary of it now.
So glad to hear everything is going smoothly, and even the symptoms are a nice reminder of that. Hope you aren't feeling too rough though xx