TTC after MC - Aug/Sept 2020 (Thread 12)

Hi ladies,

Sorry I've been AWOL. I was having a really hard time with things and mumsnet just wasn't helping me so I took a little break.

I had like sooooo many days of flashing smiley face and low OPKs and didn't even bother testing today because I was bored of it but had some EWCM the other day so I started feeling excited that things were happening. I was just going to try and DTD every couple of days and hope for the best and test again properly next week.

That was this morning. Fast forward to this evening I had more EWCM, then spotted some OPKs in Poundland and figured I'd grab a couple packs. Got home had a good run 🏃‍♀️ , then decided to use one and it was a good positive result on the cheapie so I dipped a CBD too and static smiley!! Woop!

I'm feeling excited not necessarily about getting BFP - I know better than to get my hopes, but because things are happening 🥰 and I know when I'm likely to get my period now which I've been getting upset about because I like to have some kind of clue when it's meant to be. I hate just waiting blindly like I had to coming off the pill

We DTD yesterday so I might try and make DTD happen tomorrow (OH working night shift tonight) giving us the best possible chance to have caught.

The cycle we caught we DTD the day of peak and the day after so I feel good about our prospects now I finally got static smiley and we have timed DTD well so far ♥️

Sorry for the long post 🤭🤭 I hope everybody is doing well i wont even attempt to catch up on the thread as I've missed a whole thread by the looks of things haha x

@HappyVibes yes I really hope so, got everything crossed for us.

I came off the pill as we'd decided to start TTC #1. Managed to catch that first cycle but by the end of May, ended in mc and almost 8 weeks. Then didn't get AF until 11 weeks later in mid August so this is my 2nd cycle trying and first cycle after MC (which is so unusual given the length of time since I first got pg!)

Loving both your perspectives on this @Northernsoul90 and @MrsK21. What are both your journeys so far lovelies? I have a feeling that this month we are going to get a nice high rate of BFPs in this thread 💓💓💓

@Northernsoul90 @HappyVibes so before my last bfp back in May, I did think I was pregnant before testing and that's why I ended up testing! The main things I had which were really different were severe breast pains at 11DPO and needing to pee every hour or so also from about 12DPO. I tested as soon as AF was late then. So I'm telling myself based on experience it's still too early!

@VP91x You are are the font of all ttc knowledge !😊✨. How are you today? Xx

@MrsK21@HappyVibes I agree, last time I didn't get any noticeable symptoms until a few days after bfp and they were nothing significant initially (mainly tiredness and bad trapped wind). That was until 6 weeks and then I couldn't get out of bed 😭😂. The only thing I have noticed is the cm but I can't actually remember if I normally get this or not - my last proper period before this was in April so my minds hazy! Maybe im just noticing it more now because I'm willing it to happen so much! Xx

@MrsK21 I didn't temp today I think I might stop now, it's quite addictive though! 🤣. I know that I will wind myself up if I get dips though it's hard to know what to do for the best xx

@HappyVibes regarding Cm I think everyone is different. I usually stay creamy about a week if not slightly longer then dry after that obviously when I did fall pregnant it just kept coming and quite noticeable compared the the norm x

Oooh interesting @VP91x You’re a little guru in everything.

@Northernsoul90 oooh interesting re your CM. I’ve not really looked into the texture of mine etc.

I said this too @MrsK21 - it is genuinely only the minority that get any symptoms soooo early on! This is why I really didn’t want to get swayed into it ha. My mind just thought it would add a bit of excitement into our TWW I guess haha. Oh that’s good re temping - I don’t temp but it sounds good for indicating quite a few things for TTC.

Last time I genuinely had so many symptoms but I only realised after i had got my BFP & looked back...I was like omg that’s why XYZ happened. I guess it’s just more apparent now to me cos I know what they were/are.

Only 7more days & we are all so close to our testing & BFP’s 💫💓

@HappyVibes I'm doing ok, 7DPO and trying my best not to symptom spot. I think it's too early for anything symptom wise still for majority of women.
I've carried on temping (even though I told myself I'd do up to 5DPO then stop 🤷🏽‍♀️) and it's steadily climbing so taking that as a positive and each day as it comes.
Really not sure with the CM question! I've had lotiony CM for the past few days but nothing excessive so I'm not sure it's an indicator of anything for me really x

@BEESY90 Sending love your way ❤️ I really hope things settle down before Tuesday 🤞🏼🤞🏼 xxx

@HappyVibes 6dpo today for me and I have been wondering the same thing 😂 (not symptom spotting promise 🤣) I've had a LOT of lotion like cloudy and very wet CM since ovulation (sorry sounds awful). Don't know what this means, or if it means anything at all!! I really hope we get some bfps this time 🤞🏼🙏🏼 xx

Good afternoon lovely ladies.

This is me (not) symptom spotting 🙄Does anyone know how many DPO CM tends to dry up if not pregnant? Lolssssss I’m laughing at myself here at my poor attempt of staying strong hahaha.

How are you girls getting on @chloedancer897 @MrsK21 @Northernsoul90 Sure we had another little buddy too? 💓

Awww @Firevie I do think it’s looking that way. Sorry hun I know you we’re hopeful for a little later so that you catch the FW for Tuesday. I would suggest just keep going until Tuesday just out of interest. Like you say you’ll DTD anyway with OH ASAP. And the saving grace is that you now know your regularity of your cycle, know how to read OPKs confidently & have the CBDs too for extra reassurance. Is it a regular thing being away from OH or was it just a holiday? Enjoy your spa break xxxx

Ladies/experts, this is my test pic from just now. I think it’s fair to say I ovulated and had my peak on cd17 - agreed? Shall I mark the 0.74result then as a peak so premom can re calculate?

Sending you virtual hugs @BEESY90 I know you’ve been through so many ups & downs bless you through all this. Have you spoken with your close friends & family lovely? Was it EPU who you rang? If not, I would definitely recommend ringing them direct just to double check. Xxx

@BEESY90 I’m so sorry that your midwife wasn’t more help than this! And doesn’t help with the bank holiday weekend either! I’m not the best one to advice as I had the ERPC so don’t want to confuse you. Sure AE won’t be able to help? Hope the bleeding gets less and that you get seen on Tuesday then! Sending you virtual hugs. Xx

Morning ladies. Midwife on call told me I would need to wait till tues morn to get a gp referral to get a scan to see what was happening. I could call 111 or go to ED but they will just check I am physically ok they won’t look into what is going on so I just will have to wear my pads and wait. Sorry if TMI but I am losing orangey red watery blood with the odd small dark clot now. It started off brown spotting x

@BEESY90 sending you lots of love ! I hope your bean is fine 😘

@BEESY90 Thinking of you 💖 really hope all is well 🤞🏼🙏🏼 xx

@BEESY90 - hope everything has settled down this morning, broke my heart reading your message earlier I hope everything is ok x

@KatiePlus3 no worries! I’m sure your pic will show tmr at the latest and we will all be here! Xxx

@Louisa199 thank you! When I had my peak last time it was also cd17. But weirdly enough my premom app had predicted ovulation for cd36 this time round which seemed way too late to us so started testing early. I think other ladies on here have suggested that cd17 probably was my peak as I had a reading of 0.74 at 2pm but I didn’t test until the next day when it had gone down again, so ladies here thought I probably peaked in the eve of cd17. No idea! I will def Test later this afternoon and keep testing for another few days and will dtd Tuesday morning as soon as I’m reunited with OH xxx

@Firevie Since you got a ratio higher than 1.0 in the last cycle, the premom app will not identify a peak if the T/C ratio is lower than 1.0 in this cycle. When is your ovulation day in the last cycle? So far, your darkest test line appeared on CD17, no sure if it should be your peak, I would say keep testing. Fingers crossed.

Morning guys! my picture is still not appearing on the thread! so frustrating, but ive read new users have to wait 48hrs :(

@MichT4 he is way too cute to be naughty 🤣🤣 he will soon settle xxx