TTC after MC - Aug/Sept 2020 (Thread 12)

@VP91x glad Bella is feeling better, I generally find kids bounce back so much quicker than we do. I'm ok thank you, have waves of nausea and I think its getting worse. Yes my scan is on Saturday, so scared I'm going to get there and they say it's an empty sac.
Yes so pleased you got a peak, was that today? Have you managed to dtd? xx

@BEESY90 sorry to hear you are having to wait. I had to wait a few days for a scan and it was awful, think I was avoiding going to the toilet as much as possible just to avoid seeing what might be there when I wiped. I hope you are able to rest and find some distractions to make the time pass u TIL the scan.

Still waiting for AF, did a test this morning and BFN...now I just want it to arrive so I can look ahead to next month.

@VP91x sorry about the rabbit

Thanks @Bl0ndi3 My strength and willpower to not test early to symptom spotting is weakening as the days go by haha.

I’m so optimistic and positive that I had it in my mind even before our FW that this is our month. So no matter what my body is or isn’t doing I knew my symptom spotting would be crackers ha. I’m keeping shtum cos I’ve told my husband I’m not telling him any ‘symptoms’ cos I don’t wanna give us false hopes, we will just know from the test ha.

Oooh @Northernsoul90 that would be SOOOO much determination & discipline! You go girl! I envy you. I’m the same with AF suggested Sunday/Monday - but we’ve agreed on Saturday eek. Still feels like a decade away till Saturday and gunna take all my might to wait it out haha xxx

Thank you @HappyVibes @Lollol86 @2020wish @DBTJ you’re all so right. I was being selfish and out of line. I’m okay now. Just to clarify he didn’t actually speak to the friend who may be going through the same thing but was told about this friend going through this by his best friend who are luckily not experiencing any such thing. So no advice was offered to THAT friend but yes you’re right in that OH got the opportunity to grief by telling his best friend of what he’s been through.
@VP91x sorry to hear about milo!!!! How’s your cold? But yay to the 42% and EWCM!!!
I also did an OPKS this afternoon and it’s still showing at 0.3?! Last time the decline was rapid. What is going on?! Pic attached xxx

@BEESY90 I'm so sorry about how you have been treated! How are you? Has the bleeding settled? Xx

@HappyVibes @MrsK21 I can't decide when to test! According to glow af is due Monday so I might try and wait until Tuesday/Wednesday obviously if she doesn't show. Xx

@VP91x So sorry about Milo 😢. I hope you are okay and fingers crossed for ovulation 🤞🏼🤞🏼 xx

@VP91x so sorry to hear about your other bunny. Any idea what happened? How's Bella been? Xx

@Firevie I think the fact you were able to help someone else who could potentially be going through the same thing is a blessing. You never no what that information he told his friend might have mentally done for his friend to uplift him.

@BEESY90 did you go to a & e over the weekend

Ladies just a quick one and then I’ll catch up on the thread my friend has had tests on her and her partner and both come back normal. I know a few people on here have gone private for scans to check internally ovaries, tubes etc. Can I be cheeky on her behalf and ask how much these types of procedures are. Many thanks in advance x

@HappyVibes oooooh how are you holding up?? Any signs?

Yeah I'll aim to DTD tomorrow just to be safe in case today is ovulation and then I'm done and will switch off, enjoy my birthday and then see what the fertility gods have in store for me 😂

Meanwhile I have everything crossed for you!!!

@Bl0ndi3 oh yeah I’m sure you’ll be covered lovely with doing the day before & day after ovulation. Definitely sounds like you’re covered woohoo! What a scientific situation this TTC journey is hey?
Thanks lovely I’m currently 10DPO eeek. Xx

@BEESY90 I'm sorry that they treat you like that :( but how do you feel ? Did symptoms stop?

@HappyVibes just realised OH actually gonna be out at a friends tonight so it's unlikely we will get to do it tonight now...

I'm okay with that though we caught last cycle DTD at very very similar times around CBD peak result, so fingers crossed it worked again and that I'm as fertile as they say you after right after MC 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

I'll still go off today being ovulation though for counting purposes!

Where are you at in your cycle I missed so much of the threads that I've no idea where everybody is haha

@HappyVibes haha thanks lovely I might see how it goes, last cycle we DTD the day we got CBD peak and the day after and that was it - this time we DTD day before peak and the day after so I think if we don't DTD tonight we've still done enough but ideally if we DTD again today we definitely have.

We shall see, I managed to get us doing back to back DTD last cycle but I was drunk on a bottle of rose prosecco and was very bold and just climbed aboard the second night 😂😂

@Bl0ndi3 so with the CBD peak - this means that you’re going to ovulate one the next 24-36 hours. So then having your peak on the OPK the following day, this seems about right. So I would ordinarily suggest DTD on the day, and day after ovulation, as you are fertile for upto 24 hours after ovulation.

If you need to DTD tonight to be covered, maybe just bite the bullet and tell OH that you have been tracking your CM and CM indicates that tonight is the night hahaha.

Good luck lovely 💓💓💓

@VP91x this is BIG news! Oh my gosh! How amazing. This definitely sounds very very positive for you. I have everything crossed for you & sending you so much baby dust like you wouldn’t believe. This is literally amazing news for you. I know you know you’re stuff and it sounds like you’re in the FW, so enjoy and hopefully this FW brings you lots of excitement & positivity lovely.

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Premom is saying ovulation is today so I'm not sure whether I've timed things well as I won't get OH to DTD again tonight haha back to back happens very rarely and he doesn't know i OPK. 😇

Saturday - DTD
Sunday - peak CBD
Monday - peak OPK premom & DTD
Tuesday - negative OPK

What do you guys think re coverage and also when I've likely ovulated?

I want to say I had some pains yesterday but I can't be sure that it was ovulation pains. I definitely had them last cycle on day 2 of peak (same this cycle - if yesterday was ov pains too) so I'm thinking maybe it was yesterday but I don't know what's more accurate CBD or the cheapies and premom. Sorry I'm rambling. Last cycle was my first proper time testing and only used the CBD and we caught so I'm struggling to understand it all with the OPKs in the mix now too haha.

Based on this AF will be due around 15th September either way and my goal is to not test early and wait until at least 15th.

I am tempted to go off premom anyway as that's a day later and I won't end up getting my hopes up just for AF to come the following day I guess.

@Lollol86 thank you I totally agree especially when you have wanted it for so long, it happens then it cruelly gets snatched away from you. I feel like I'm back at square one and have no idea why it's not happened yet! Xx

@Firevie I fully agree with @2020wish she seems to have summarised everything I was thinking very well. It’s hard not to be sensitive given the journey itself being so emotive. But how good that you’re reflecting on it & are being self aware.

Tonight is a full moon so what a perfect time to leave any feelings, thoughts, situations that aren’t serving us well. 🌟

@Firevie sorry things haven’t went so well with OH. Tbh my honest opinion is that when this happened to you and him you confided in ur close friends that had been through the same thing, this would have helped ur healing process and pain. Men do need that support also and he probably didn’t get it until now that his friend may unfortunately be in a similar situation, maybe not only is ur OH trying to be a good friend offering support to a friend that needs it as ur OH can relate now to him, but also it could have been good support for ur OH confiding in a friend about his pain and having another male support him. I wouldn’t be too hard on him and try not to paint it as the same brush of him telling his family, I get you were annoyed at that and rightly so but I’d look at this situation differently and on it’s own entirely. Hope u get it sorted out x

@BEESY90 honestly both mc the care for me has been awful, it's like if you are less than 6 weeks they are just not interested at all. Xx

@Firevie ohhh that's a tough one I totally get why you are upset as you asked him not to say anything, however he was probably doing it in a comforting way. How is it being back home? Xx