TTC after MC - Aug/Sept 2020 (Thread 12)

@MrsK21I’m sorry that AF has arrived for you but you do have the best outlook on the situation. When AF does eventually arrive for me I think I’ll look at it that way also as it’s good to look for those silver linings to keep us going. It’s also great that your cycles are shorter too so it’s not long at all to wait for TTC again.

@HappyVibes your screen name is definitely the best one for you and your outlook too! Plus you give the best advice/support. I have everything crossed that you get your BFP this weekend. When is AF due for you?

I also have a question about ovulation - as I said I couldn’t keep up with CB OPKs that I started as I went away but I used them up to 22nd Aug and nothing so I know I didn’t ovulate until that point. I did have EWCM that day so I knew it would be round the corner for me so I did dtd before I left. My question is, if I ovulated later than predicted, does this mean AF will also come later than predicted? Xx

It's definitely AF for me girls, getting red blood and some clots now so I'm officially out. Really hope one of my fellow TWW buddies get a BFP over the next few days.

@HappyVibes oh no it's rubbish we're now out of sync! My cycles seem super short now - wasn't expecting them to go this way rather than longer after my 11 weeks of no AF post MC. How strange our bodies can become! You're still in the game so got my fingers crossed for you xxx

@MinnieMouse4 ahhhh we are both in the same boat with our testing eek. I’m staying strong and positive that we are still in the game girl!

@MrsK21 ah blooming heck. What a way to look at it! I love that outlook you have. If this is AF that is certainly amazing that you have a shorter cycle as more chances of FW coming round sooner. That’s really good. Mine went longer post MC so 36 days I had one month 😮 So I think that’s really good news for you for sure.

Keep us updated re the AF situ. I’ll be gutted cos I’ve enjoyed you being my lil TWW buddy - but if we both go to next cycles, we are gunna be out of sync with you having shorter cycles darn ha.

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@HappyVibes I had a horrid headache and vomiting last night (a CD1 or CD2 AF symptom for me) and this morning had a lot of brownish red watery spotting.
AF is due tomorrow so I think I'm out. I tested after the spotting came with a 10miu cheapie and that was a BFN. I'm not too disappointed tbh, just grateful my body has now properly bounced back and I've had a healthy first post MC cycle with my hormones settled down.
I'll see if this progresses into full AF over today / tomorrow but for now I'm taking it as a new cycle is about to start, my cycles seem a bit shorter post MC (26 days) so not too long to hang about till we can try again.

I hope @chloedancer897 @Northernsoul90 have better luck xxx

@BEESY90 so pleased to hear from you and that all is well! x

@chloedancer897 my private medical won't cover it so for now I'll wait. If they give me some ridiculous timescales then I might just pay, but I'll give this some time first.

@HappyVibes you aren't allowed to be pregnant when they are doing the tests. So while you wait etc is fine but once they start the testing, you shouldn't really be TTC.
I also hope they chuck you out of the clinic for being a time waster 😂

@MinnieMouse4 definitely still not out. Keep the faith!

Oh can you not try naturally @MichT4 omg I did not know this. Ooh yeah come on AF, hurry up little lady & then you can get a cycle in before the appointment & that’ll be your magical cycle 💫

I go for my first appointment Monday so I will keep you updated with what they say/do etc. Hopefully they do a test and are like ‘girl get gone, you’re pregnant already, cya’ haha. Xxx

@MichT4 l also caved and did a cheapy and got a BFN. I’m not out the running yet as AF hasn’t arrived but I have the feeling either AF/BFN is coming soon for me.

I also relate so much to what @HappyVibes said about her cycles being different after MC and not knowing what park of the cycle I am in. I just don’t know where I stand just yet.

@BEESY90 oh that is wonderful news. I am so glad everything is okay but I’m also sorry you had to go through that. Hopefully you can relax now xx

@MichT4 I'm sorry you're stuck in limbo at the minute. I'm sure you just want AF to come so that you can start charting again. I'm hoping you get some answers soon. Did you say you were going to go privately or just wait for the referral?x

@HappyVibes I need to test before my daughters birthday because I need to mentally prepare myself for AF arriving. If I just wait, I'll become more hopeful and then I'll be miserable when it inevitably comes

Yes @BEESY90 !! That's amazing news! I'm so happy for you, and also hope you are feeling much better now.
I think the issue is definitely with the reception staff, they think they have way too much power and control and ultimately, they need to allow people access to the care they need. I hate that think @chloedancer897 that they say it's early so can't do anything! People still need support. I get they can't physically do anything but leaving women to just get more and more anxious isn't the answer.

Anyway @BEESY90 I'm so delighted to hear this news. Look after yourself.

@HappyVibes good plan to wait til Sunday. And yeah it's good I've been referred, just hope I get a pleasant surprise about the wait. I'm not wishing it here too quickly though as you can't try through the investigations so I'd like the chance to try again too - if AF plays ball!!

@MichT4 @HappyVibes you guys are so inspirational. I love the positivity. Please post little quotes like that every day!!!

@BEESY90 what amazing news! I'm so glad everything is ok but what an absolutely nightmare for you to have gone through. I would put in a complaint if I was you. The medical staff are of the opinion that they can't stop a MC so what's the point of doing tests but they neglect to remember that we are people who are suffering and need answers regardless of whether anything can be done or not. So glad to hear baby is growing well too xo

@BEESY90 oh my goodness this is so so amazing to hear from you with such magical and amazing news. I am absolutely over the moon for you lovely. This is literally a sign that you are a strong independent woman who can do this! I am so absolutely ecstatic for you girl. This is the most uplifting news this morning, sending you lots of virtual hugs 💓💓💓

Ah I know @MichT4ginna have one of those mornings of allowing myself those feels I think.

Last time, this is exactly what we did - tested early got BFN. Two days later tested again and got our BFP. So we will probably wait till Sunday now to test again.

I knowwwww Mich! Arrrrrr we will blooming get there. It’s good that they’ve submitted the referral and that you can ring EPU too after the weekend. I’m glad that they’re not just leaving you in limbo.

Xxxx

Hello everyone. Sorry for being so quiet. After my dealings with the demon at maternity triage and useless gp I came down with almighty migraine (vomiting and all) from the stress and it lasted 48 hours. I have never been so poorly.
I had my scan yesterday and all is well?! And he has got so much bigger! They can see an area of bleed though but apparently it is something that just happens sometimes and will bleed out or reabsorb into the lining. They were so kind after the demons that man the phones! I hope everyone is well I will catch up on the thread now x

@HappyVibes 😂😂 love they analogy!

You're right, it's important to allow all emotions, in order to move on. We all definitely can do this.....the sooner the better please! x

@MichT4 @chloedancer897 that’s completely understandable for you to feel like this as it’s so hard and emotional TTC. It feels like we are on a hamster wheel and life is ticking away outside of the hamster wheel & desperate to get off it. But until we get the BFP & bambino in our arms we can’t get off ha. What a weird analogy that I just described lmfao. Dunno where that came from pmsl.

I feel like when you don’t get that BFP or anything else is thrown in as a curve ball, it’s hard to be positive because it’s hard to move forward & onto the next as it feels like being I’m limbo. But as time goes by optimism decreases too as our mindset is learnt to protect ourselves from past experiences where we’ve been hurt.

Sometimes we need to feel those emotions and allow them - that’s our time to process them and let ourselves recharge. It’s a tough one guys! We are all made of tough stuff though so we can do this & get our BFPs just like everyone else 💓💓💓

😂😂 @HappyVibes I had a feeling it would be you! Sorry it wasn't a bfp this morning but like you said, not out yet. AF being due Sunday/Monday means you might not have implanted yet, or only recently. Sending all the positive vibes to you for the next test

@chloedancer897 you could still not test this month, just use your daughters birthday as a nice big distraction and take your mind off it. Last cycle I was annoyed with myself for testing because I didn't want to, but the holiday made me. I wish I had the option to stick to my gut feel to wait (even though it now turns out I'd be waiting still 😂). Do what you need to, but no need to apply extra pressure if you don't need to

I'm fine thanks, generally feeling pretty bummed out about the whole situation but trying to scramble some positivity back. Luckily I'm distracted by Loki, the little shit bag 😂😂. The doctor has now done the nhs referral for RMC so I have to wait for that. I don't know if I said but she called EPU and they've asked me to call them next week if I still haven't had any bleeding, so perhaps they will scan me and see what's what. So I'm still very much in limbo. I'd rather AF just hurry up because then I know where I am and I can get my blood tests done. Feels like my body is mocking me x

You're so right @MichT4 I'm in total protective mode!

I will only test Monday because it's my daughters birthday on Tuesday (when AF due) otherwise I wouldn't test at all. I can't face it and actually I'm afraid to test this month!

How are you? Any further along with answers?

@MichT4 hahah I feel like you’re able to read my vibes! I did cave hahaha! Unfortunately no BFP to report over here from my early caving. I’m confident it’s because it’s early & still only low accuracy. I also don’t know for sure when AF will be, although apps are saying Sunday/Monday. Post MC my cycles have thrown me & different lengths so I can’t determine when AF is due...so unsure (other than apps) how many days pre AF I have tested. Time will tell. 😬 💓

@familybythesea welcome to the group hun, and I'm so sorry to hear about your losses.

I think they need to try and get the right day/time in your cycle with your blood tests, but not sure how much they can still gleam regardless of the date - can't always be exact. I have mine on the system for when I get to CD1 but had a similar thing with spotting and being unsure whether to book. I didn't because I'd had my smear so think it was that. I'd say definitely call though and get them to do day 21 bloods, or whatever day is 7 days short of your cycle - they need the whole picture not just the early cycle ones.
Have you had the results back yet? x

Anyone caved a day early? @HappyVibes @Northernsoul90 @MrsK21 @MinnieMouse4 @Banbi @chloedancer897

@chloedancer897 that'll definitely affect your temp. I think it's important for us all to take all fracking, especially temps, with a pinch of salt. It's so fickle as a measure, could fluctuate because you're wearing different pjs! And the skin temp is always more susceptible to external factors, as our resident expert @VP91x once reminded me

And it's totally understandable that we all have some engrained negativity, it's so hard to get our hopes up. Well I say all, not unless you're a fountain of positivity like our lovely @HappyVibes 🥰. Don't apologise for protecting your emotions and managing expectations, but I think it's important to always think you are in the game during the TWW until you're told otherwise. No reason you wouldn't be 💗

@MichT4 I also promise to stop being so negative from now!x

@MichT4 thanks so much. On night shift now so I'm sure it's messing with my temps! And not getting much sleep either

And you @chloedancer897

Fingers crossed you guys get your BFPs this weekend girls!xo