TTC after MC - Aug/Sept 2020 (Thread 12)

@Lollol86 how amazing!! Try not to think like that and think this is going to be a successful pregnancy ☺️ I’m sure you’ll feel more reassured when you see all is well still in 3 weeks time! Xxx

@Lollol86 that is WONDERFUL! It's brought a tear to my eye

@Northernsoul90 thank you, I was crying and shaking such a mess xx

@Lollol86 That's amazing news!! So pleased for you ❤️❤️ what a relief that must have felt as well I can imagine how nervous you were. Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months xx

Hey ladies, I've just got out my scan, baby has a strong heartbeat and measuring at 6 weeks 5 days. Based on lmp I'm 7 weeks. I was literally shaking I was so scared. I'm glad it wasn't an empty sac. I'm still going to have some doubt as my last pregnancy I saw a heart beat at 6 weeks and then baby died at 8 and a half weeks. I have booked another scan for 3 weeks time. But for now I am pregnant and my little bean is tucked up nicely xx

@MichT4 @chloedancer897 @MrsK21 @Firevie
Thanks ladies it looks like it is af for me sadly, I actually feel okay about it though. Last time af arrived I was really upset and overwhelmed but I've just kind of accepted it this time. This was my first full cycle since mc so I had tried not too get my hopes up too much although it's always a bit of a blow isn't it Xx

@HappyVibes I'm sorry that af arrived... she came for me too. I hope are you okay, your plan for the day/weekend sounds perfect. Sending hugs your way 💖 xx

@RichmondLady1981 It's crazy at the moment isn't it, I can imagine how much pressure you're under. Unfortunately our SLT aren't supportive or realistic at the best of times so it's all a bit much atm. I've been meaning to apply for other jobs for about 2 years now because I'm really unhappy where I am I just need to make that decision and go for it. Now is probably not the right time though!

Oh and I know they should be thanking us 😂🤣 xx

@RichmondLady1981 I stick it on in the morning when I go to bed. I'd be awful at having to get up in the morning to temp! The Ava suits my lazy nature 😂

Ps @MichT4... I’ll see what I can come up with for later 🥕🥖🌭

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@MichT4 thanks. Just ordered some cheap OKPs. Good idea. Thank the Lord for amazon prime. They arrive tonight! 😀

@Rb486 Glad you’re feeling better x

@MinnieMouse4 Sorry for the BFN. Treat yourself with naughty food and nice wine later.

@MrsK21
Good advice. Very sensible as CB can get expensive. It’s naughty of them not to sell the separate sticks without the actual applicator. Shouldn’t be allowed.

@chloedancer897 Still good charting and nice and high. I’m interested in the Ava. Sounds like you’re enjoying it. So when do you measure temps if you’re worried working night shifts isn’t accurate? Sorry new to this.

@HappyVibes
Sorry about AF. As always, so amazing how you always look on the positive and it’s so handy it falls in good time for your bloods. May I ask what is measured at that time? What are you looking for? Should all ladies get those tests? I’ve heard people mention one test several days after ovulation? I ovulate around day 20. Hope you enjoyed your walk! ☀️

@Northernsoul90
Thanks. Sorry it’s been tough. I’m SLT and I’ve felt stressed about stressing teachers out 🤦🏼‍♀️. So much pressure from government with Covid. We are doing blended learning which is so hard on everyone. Impossible to fit everything in. Glad I’m not the only one pestering my husband. They should be grateful we are pestering! Ha!

@Bellabubble

sorry to hear about your pets- so hard losing them as they truly become part of the family ☹️.

It’s so cruel when AF is late and it makes you think there’s a chance of BFP. Get your hopes up. Hope you’re ok.

Hope everyone is enjoying the sunshine and has nice plans for this evening.

It looks like my static (if it comes) will happen close to parents evening and interviews On Monday. Bloody typical! Just not fun DTD on a Monday school night. 😂

Hope those of you testing early next week have lots of luck!

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@MrsK21 oh sorry I just have read that wrong. At least you have a fresh new cycle full of new opportunities ☺️ let this be your month!!

@MichT4 I’m sooo sorry you’ve had to go through that again. Maybe they will give you cytotec to help remove anything? I had that twice 😭 hope you get some answers soon. It may be something so simple like low progesterone or thyroid. Like wtf do they not test us for this during our second pregnancies or after our first m/c? I work for the NHS but that makes my blood boil. It’s not just physical health, it’s very much mental health. Take good care of yourself xxxx

@HappyVibes so sorry AF got you but you are in the perfect mindset moving forward. Your plan today sounds amazing! I always reward myself every month with some lush bathbombs and a really hot bath. Just some me time is perfect. And a wee holiday sounds much needed too. I hope you and OH are ok xo

@HappyVibes*@Northernsoul90@MrsK21 @MinnieMouse4* sorry to hear about afs/bfns/ I can totally understand how you’re feeling as was the same for me last month but it does get better with every day and you remember to see the silver lining that we re all regulating again after our losses! I’m actually looking forward to my af as it will mean I can hop back on the TTC journey again haha. I have done my fertility yoga and meditation today, done a dance workout at home and power walked around the courtyards - feels so good! Allow yourself to feel all your emotions, enjoy junk food, boozy drinks, walks and some binge watching tv perhaps. We are all so so strong and will hols our rainbow babies in our arms soon! Sending lots of love xxx

@Northernsoul90 @HappyVibes sorry AF got you both too, what a bitch!
Next month will be our month, think we all needed this just to help regulate.

@Northernsoul90 that's positive your cycle is regular again though, we definitely need to take the wins. My cycle is a lot shorter now (25 days!) but seeing as it as only a week till FW and only a week and half to wait to know. Trying to stay positive about it.

@Rb486 I haven't got a static today hun, just meant earlier in my cycle. I'm on heavy AF day today but hope my next cycle also brings a decent static! X

@HappyVibes so sorry to hear af got you. Enjoy your walk and hopefully a new cycle brings new luck 🤞🏻 X

Oh @HappyVibes 😢. Both take the time you need to process it, grieve it and feel ready to move forward. It's so difficult this TTC journey, and sometimes it's right to just stop and let the emotion out.

Enjoy your walk. Beautiful day to be outside xx

Thanks @MichT4 Being honest, neither of us have taken it too well. But we probably just need today to have a cry and feel sorry for ourselves before we can look at things stoically & snap back into it.

Yes, they’re all my little silver linings with the AF arrival & things that ordinarily make me feel good so it’s the little wins about AF arriving.

Off for a nice long walk and maybe look at booking a last minute holiday away to truly relax and recoup away from TTC. Xx

@HappyVibes sorry AF has shown her face. It sounds like you have dealt with it well though, and I have to say your plans for the week ahead sound fabulous.

It's definitely good to keep living life as normal and TTC come alongside it. Every time I feel myself getting consumed I do need to have a word with myself.
You truly are a wonderful soul and your positivity to life oozes from you. It won't be long until you'll have to say goodbye to those lovely hot baths, I'm sure of it.

Sending lots of love xx

Sorry to all you ladies that have had bfn and af has showed xx

Good morning lovely ladies,

AF has literally just arrived for me today. So I’m having a little woe is me day & allowing myself all the feels. I have my appointment Monday which is timely as they probably need CD2/3 bloods - so will be perfect timing for that. I think I maybe needed this to take my head out the clouds a little& back into reality. &to also have a healthier balance with life & TTC...feel likes it fully consumed me the past month which isn’t healthy.

Anyway...a fresh new cycle, a nice hot bath, some munchies of bad food today, maybe a couple of sunbed sessions (lol) over the next week or so, a really intense gym session & maybe a few gins tonight.

Good luck to all you beautiful souls, you truly truly deserve it. Sending you all so much luck.

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Still looks good @chloedancer897. And actually if you had a reason to discard yesterday's temp, they'd be pretty stable up there.
Glad you like the Ava. It's very simple isn't it. I know I'd forget to temp with an oral one

@Bellabubble so lovely to hear from you again and sounds like you did the right thing taking a step back from here for a while with everything going on. I think giving our bodies time to heal if we are ready for that is really important and sounds like you are ready now for the next cycle. Fx for you xo

@MichT4 here is my chart so temps still high but not as high as yesterday (although I think they're all off from being on night shift). I am really enjoying the Ava. It's been keeping my mind occupied!

@Northernsoul90 sorry you think AF is coming, sounds like your cycles are very regular which is really good x

@Northernsoul90 sorry you are cramping and spotting. Might not come to anything but if it does, a nice regulated cycle as you say. How are you feeling? xx

Hey @Bellabubble. Lovely to hear from you and thank you for your message. It has been a tough time, but I think mainly for the fact that once you know it's not a pregnancy, you just want to be able to move on. So this missing AF is just the bad icing on a shit cake 😂. I've no doubt it'll happen (well, I have some!) but at least if I could feel in the game then I'd feel like I was moving forward.
You're right, I hate when people that don't understand the journey say it, even though I know they mean well. But I do appreciate it when it's from someone here, and I know what you mean.

Yes he's keeping us busy. He's currently going mental with a bag that some bath toys came in, while occasionally eating the soil out of my plant when he thinks I'm not looking. He'll crash in 5 mins 😂

@Bellabubble Sorry that you had had a tough time recently and that it was bfn this morning. I'm 12dpo as well so we may end up being cycle buddies next time. It's still early though if af hasn't appeared you could be in with a chance! Xx

I think I'm out ladies - 12dpo today and I'm cramping and starting with some a brown spotting. LP is normally 12, 13 days for me so it would line up for my cycle being back to normal at least as I ovulated when I normally would as well. Oh well onto the next cycle it is... 🤞🏼🌈