TTC after MC - Aug/Sept 2020 (Thread 12)

@RichmondLady1981 this mornings perfect because even if it released last night it will be sat waiting for up to a day I think. Just incase it’s not released yet keep going for the next few days I would. Xx

@RichmondLady1981 haha! Lovely to have a date night though. Sounds like you really had a lovely time and that's so important!

They are both dark, but I guess something is registering higher so I would agree, it's peak today. Today could be ovulation day as a similar pattern happened with @vp91x and her scan confirmed ovulation likely on the day she got the dark one second day in the morning (is that right @VP91x?). So still absolutely covered and more time to DTD too!

I hate a fuzzy alcohol feeling, especially when you barely had anything 😂

Btw @MichT4. Sorry you feel a bit meh. The lady I work closely with told me she was pregnant last week which was a bit weird. So happy for her but I understand what you mean... not easy.

@chloedancer897 that makes both of us. I can’t temp today as I was naughty last night 🍷🍷and it’s quite an important time as I need to detect a temp raise To confirm ovulation. Ahhh well there’s always tomorrow.

@MichT4
Last night was a disaster! We went out on a date night and had a few drinks and SOOOO much food. We both got back and just couldn’t!! Too full and shattered 🤦🏼‍♀️ So we woke up early (we have a 15 month old) and DTD this morning instead. (Sorry TMI). I’ve just tested on OPK and this one is even darker than yesterday (according to Pre Moms automatic measuring) so peak is today and not yesterday so I think I’m ok in terms of timing and hopefully haven’t missed the window 😬

Annoyed with myself as like you, I’m a massive lightweight now! Means I couldn’t do my temp this morning due to alcohol. It was quite high but have to discount it due to the 🍷 🍷. I think it’s a false high though as it seems peak LH is today.

What do you reckon?

@chloedancer897 Did you get 3 hours sleep? It won't sync if you don't get a solid 3 hours

Yeah I'm fine thanks, exhausted and feel a bit manky but aside from that 😂
It was a bit hard seeing my sister yesterday, she's 6 months now. But it's getting easier to be around and talk about. Pretty sure I heard her talk to my other sister about the gender point again - I was busy trying to eavesdrop but OH was yapping on about boxing so I couldn't hear 🙄😂. The subject upsets me because I'd do anything for either!

But anyway, all fine thank you. Loki is sleeping so I should be sleeping (like with a baby) but he wouldn't cry and wake me like a baby would, he'd go and eat or chew something he shouldn't

Any plans today? I plan to sit and do not a lot, even though I really need to clean the house xx

@MichT4 dunno what I did last night but it didn't record properly! So have no idea what my temps are like. Maybe that's a good thing! The shopping trip was lovely. She really enjoyed it, thank you. How are you?x

Morning ladies. Sorry for the silence yesterday, was at my sisters all day. I've woken up feeling really icky - only had a processo and a corona - I've become a massive lightweight!!

@Bellabubble ooh your pooch is so cute! Please tell me this puppy anxiety and stress passes quickly! I adore him but am already ready for the easier days 😂

@HPenthusiast @123feraverto I'm so sorry for your losses and that you find yourselves here. I really hope this group makes a horrid situation a little more bearable.

@Lollol86 yessss!!!!!! Huge congratulations on your scan. You must be on cloud 9! When is your next or are you waiting for the nhs one? So happy for you lovely.

@Pugprincess good luck this morning. Let us know how it goes

@chloedancer897 your OH is a diamond, it's probably a really good thing. Now you can just try and put it to the back of your mind. How were your temps? How was your daughters grown up shopping trip?

@RichmondLady1981 🍆🍆 hooray for the static! Hope you came up with something inventive last night 🤪

Hope everyone is ok this morning xx

Thank you @Northernsoul90 and @Lollol86 it’s at 11am XX

@HPenthusiast
Sorry to hear that you’ve been through such a tough time. Hope things start to improve soon. It’s good you had a negative just 6 days after your surgery. It took almost three weeks for me to get a negative. X

Enjoy the rest of your weekend. X

Thanks all for your lovely replies. It’s been very tough, we told our families we were pregnant at 7 weeks so we have had amazing support. But wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy.

My name indeed does stand for Harry Potter 😂 I’m just obsessed haha.

Sorry I forgot to mention I had a negative pregnancy test 6 days after my surgery and did a couple just in case.

I’ve had some very low cramps last night and all day today. Not sure if I’m over symptom spotting or not but will wait it out and see how my OPKs go over the next few days.

I was very regular prior to being pregnant and AF would always turn up on time on day 28 so it’s a weird feeling not knowing what’s going on now.

Fingers crossed we all get the BFP we hope for very soon ♥️

@Northernsoul90 no I don’t think I do at all as we have been successful 3 times and relatively quickly - just sadly two chemicals and 1 Mc. I just mean as we are literally loosing the will I would genuinely try anything to increase our chances. I know I ovulate regular, I’m confident on that. I just know that chlomid would help increase the chances of course. As would HMG. I will see what they say on Monday & then weigh up our options thereafter. Xxx

@HappyVibes @chloedancer897 @Northernsoul90 thanks for the info girls, I will do some reading up about SMEP in bed and might even plan to do that for my next FW.

I’m glad CBD was FMUs as I was panicking I had used them wrong and missed when I ovulated. Although, no real need to worry about that now lol!

I’ve made my peace with not being pregnant this time around so AF please come soon! 🤞🏻 Xx

Welcome @123feraverto and sorry to hear of your losses. I have found great comfort here in knowing that there are women here going through the same issues and emotions as me xx

@RichmondLady1981 pre MC I was average a 30 day cycle. Post MC they’ve been different - 26, 36 & 31. So I think they’re regulating back to their usual average now 💓

@HappyVibes Thank you, I might look into that then! Do you think you are having problems with ovulation with thinking about clomid? Xx

@HappyVibes @chloedancer897 I'm with you both completely, I'm not excited by ttc anymore just consumed by it - 1.5 weeks of the month I'm okay and then from fertile week to af it's all I can think of. It really is hard. Dtd is just for one purpose now and I feel like it's just so regimented but can't seem to snap out of it, I worry that if I stop taking a certain vitamin or stop tracking in some way it won't happen. Xx

@chloedancer897 absolutely feel the same. We haven’t DTD for pleasure in so long since TTC it’s so sad really. And this is partly why we had our little meltdown today. It’s not healthy at all. It’s so hard cos we don’t want to take a step back from DTD as a baby is something we absolutely long for. But at the same time it’s not normal how much it’s consumed our lives over the past nearly 12months. It’s such a tough call.

That’s why I am literally now at extreme measures and genuinely considering taking chlomid/HMG if nothing tangible happens come Monday. Blowing my mind is all this xxxx

Hi and welcome to all new people! Sorry for your losses.

Can I ask everyone to answer the following question please? Since your MC, do you find that your cycle now is longer or shorter than your previous cycles (before Mc).

I’m finding that most are longer but can see that some are shorter. It’s quite cruel to those who now have longer cycles and find themselves being late and then getting false hopes for a BFP, so I think it would be good and insightful to others joining the group to get a general feel for what’s happening on average.

Mine used to be 28 days (like clockwork!) but since June has been LONGER at 31/32 days. Every second feels like a week during the 2WW. On my second cycle post mmc, I was 31DPO and convinced I must be pregnant. But the AF showed up. 😢

Feel free to share how your cycle had changed so far.

@Northernsoul90 I'm beyond enjoying this now. It's completely taken over my life. As women, I feel like the brunt of the responsibility is on us as it's happening to us and it's so overwhelming. We barely DTD outside of FW as I feel like it's pointless. Which is absolutely awful but as you've heard from my journey, it's been going on so long that I can't get out of that headspace. When we started SMEP I was actually enjoying how much we were DTD but after months of it not working, I've lost that excitement too

@Northernsoul90 so a few months back we did them private...you order a fertility bloods kit on medichecks & then have blood taken by a nurse on cd2/3. Then you send the bloods off and a dr replies explaining the results of each hormone and what your score means. It’s amazing & literally SOOOOOOO detailed & SOOOO fast & reasonably priced too. I can’t recommend it enough.

But now I am having these done just because it’s my first gynae appointment since referral by my GP following x3 losses. So they need to do bloods for this first appointment.

I fully feel you. As the months go by the optimism reduces, which is sooooo hard. Fully felt like this today. I will literally try anything right now. Gunna see how Monday goes with the gynae and they may consider taking clomid/HMG. I am literally loosing the will now ha. Xxxx

@VP91x thank you so much xx

@MichT4 i pressed post to early! I remember the puppy stage well - the manic moments followed by the crash lol!! Mine currently wants my popcorn!!

@HappyVibes Have you requested the bloods through your GP or privately? I don't know whether to look into having some test done. Xx

The ttc journey is getting pretty exhausting and all consuming... does anyone else feel like they've just completely lost the excitement of ttc? It's just like a chore now like I'm on autopilot or something, we do the deed loads in fw and then I just feel like I can't be bothered the rest of the month as if it's not worth it does that sound really bad?!

@MinnieMouse4 Yes fmu for the cb ones ☺️ xx

@HPenthusiast @123feraverto I'm really sorry for your losses 💖 you will find lots of support and friendly advice on here 😊 wishing you luck in ttc xx

@Pugprincess Good luck for your scan tomorrow xx

@chloedancer897 i feel your pain af wise! I’m cd26, and natural cycles goes by previous data and says my cycles are on average 27days +/-1 day - so af could be due tomorrow, monday or tuesday 🙄 given i got a bfn this morn at 12dpo I’m not holding out hope - I only tested early this month as I haven’t had my usual pre-af spotting so I kinda got some false hope :(

@Northernsoul90 I think we were cycle buddies a few months ago too lol! I’m fairly consistent in the number of days luckily - but have been thrown by no pre-af spotting this month! Since the mc, every af has had 3 days of spotting beforehand, my body has genuinely confused me a lot these last 9months!

@MichT4 I understand what you mean about the hoping/believing part - I flip from telling myself it happened before so I’m sire it will again, to but why if it was ok before is it taking so long this time. The ttc journey is definitely hard on the emotions!

@Pugprincess thank you, I was just coming on here to wish you luck for your scan tomorrow. What time is it? Xx

@Lollol86 congratulations on your scan! A good measurement too! X

Sorry to read about the ladies who have got AF or BFN. Also welcome to the new ladies 👋🏻