TTC after MC - August 2020 (Thread 11)

@HE88 I actually took about 6 a day because I liked them and the box said you can take up to 24 so don't think it can do any harm 😂

@VP91x yeah all good, had my one outing of the week last night with my two friends and their 6week old and 20month old (only to one of their houses) but I was standardly tired when I got back in 😴 working Saturday this week aswell so just feels like a long one. Why have you moved your appt back? And what did the Dr say about the blood results (sorry think I missed this) x

@MinnieMouse4 welcome and sorry for your loss, as the other ladies have said you will always get a blank circle on the first day of CBD and if ovulation is close you may have already had your oestrogen surge so it may not pick it up and then you'll go straight from blank circle to static smile. In regards to ovulation, I didn't track before I fell pregnant but my cycle length was about the same length, 1st cycle was a couple days longer than 'normal' but generally got my static on CD13/CD14 after that, but I had surgery and don't know if that completely cleared me out compared to a natural MC 🤷🏾‍♀️

@Northernsoul90 totally get that sadness, it may sound a bit silly from me now I've been so lucky to catch again but even last night with my friend and their babies I thought I should've been talking about getting close to the birth not worrying about my 12week scan and whether it will all happen again 😩 enjoy getting your hair done ☺️

@chloedancer897 so are we wasting our money then? xx

@HopeForRainbowbaby @VP91x Thank you 🥰 it's weird it just sometimes dawns on me all of a sudden, I actually didn't have a bad day yesterday just felt sadness come over me at once. It's nice to know we all have similar experiences though - makes you feel less alone.

@MinnieMouse4 Welcome, I'm really sorry for your loss. I didn't get a negative hpt for 6 weeks after my mc and then ovulated a few days after that but it sounds like your hormones have returned to normal quite quickly which is good. Hopefully you will see a flashy tomorrow 🤞🏼 xx

Cd14 and 4th flashy for me this morning. I'm off to get my hair done for the first time since before lockdown so can't wait! 🤩 hope everyone has a good day!

@VP91x morning yes had a look online and most things look open and you can prebook the day before you go so it’s a bonus my boys love the swimming and not particularly bothered with the shows etc it’s great for Bell as age so much to do she will be shattered xx

@MinnieMouse4 sorry for your loss I’m sure everyone gets a blank circle the first day using clear blues it sets your baseline hormones so you may see something today hopefully xx

@ladysamee a faint line in 2.5 mins seems too soon to be an evap line to me ☺️

@MinnieMouse4 welcome lovely, sorry you find yourself here but hopefully you will hear lots of hopeful stories to help keep you motivated and lots of faith and hope...with lots of tips and support.

I have been ovulating a lot later than my previous cycles, and a lot later than my apps have indicated too. But bare with and keep up with the OPKs and I am sure yours will come, just maybe a little different timing than previous. Xxxx

Hello Ladies.

I hope to be able to join you all on your journeys. I have been reading over your stories for a few days now and wanted to say how sorry I was to hear of your losses. Congratulations to those who are expecting again!

My story is that I had been actively TTC for over a year and decided to stop last year as it just became too stressful and depressing seeing negatives month after month. I found out I was expecting in July and about 2 weeks later started bleeding which got heavier and a couple of days later I naturally passed everything. I then took a cheapy test around 6 days after the initial bleed which was negative.

Having this MC has made me realise just how much I want to be pregnant and the sooner the better. I don’t really want to wait for the first AF so have began dtd. I have read that you treat the first day of bleeding as CD1 so I am now on CD12. I began using CBD OPK today as my app says I will be ovulating this week but I got a blank circle.

What are everyone’s experiences with their cycle returning to normal after MC?

@Northernsoul90 yes I do. Especially when I am reminded constantly of the progress of ladies close to me with due dates of my two first miscarriages. It is not easy. But I am better emotionally dealing with two miscarriages and now chemical, all this year. But your time will come and then you can go crazy with buying with things and if you really like something now, actually why wouldn't you buy it sometimes ? And I agree, I feel like all ladies on this group really helped with this emotional process and always everyone is so kind to each other 😘

@VP91x where are you in your cycle ? I wish you quick AF so you can start with new cycle👍

Does anyone else ever feel a huge wave of sadness about their miscarriage just randomly and suddenly? I've been fine all day and thoughts just start to creep in thinking about how many weeks I would have been, what I would have been doing/buying/looking forward to and yet here I am back doing opks thinking about all the first weeks I will have to get through again. It's just so hard at times isn't it. I'm glad we all have this space to share our feelings and support one another as nobody truly understands what it feels like without going through it themselves

[quote fafi]@Bl0ndi3 the exact same thing happened to me, my EPAU said they'd cancel my booking appointment, a week later my midwife called to confirm the arrangements for the booking appointment. It seems like such a simple piece of communication when women are MCing and it seems to be missed all the time. Sorry you had to go through that.

@pugprincess I had some light spotting the one time we DTD whilst pregnant and I know how you feel, it scared me too. We've not done it since but I might try it again now we've had the scan. As others said it's harmless and common to cause some spotting for various reasons. Don't wish for sickness. Honestly I feel nauseous most of the time and haven't even been sick and that's bad enough. Can't imagine how horrendous it is for ladies that get it badly!

@ladysamee I can see a line too! Fingers crossed it gets stronger 🤞🏼 how long after testing did it appear?

@kittycat581 @fingerscrossedfor2021HK sorry for your loss, welcome to the group - you're in the right place

@stayinghopeful92x omg what a tosser! I'm so sorry to hear that! Good riddance by the sounds of it, but it can't be easy 😔

@BEESY90 oh honey that sounds so scary! I'm so sorry to hear you're going through that!
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Thanks everyone it was shit and it actually really set me back today I had a little meltdown this afternoon think everything just got too much I was tired and achey from yesterday's run, cleaning all day and then I'd not stuck to my diet and I just broke down and sobbed on the bed for a short while.

I'm gonna try and do CBD ovulation more consistently with FMU this week. It's just hard when OH doesn't know I test and I don't wanna risk him waking up if he's still asleep when I'm up bursting for a wee at 5am 😂😂

@SmileyT perfect thanks that was going to be my next question when did you take them. You also took calc fluor throughout your cycle 2 tablets twice a day? Xx

@Bl0ndi3 the exact same thing happened to me, my EPAU said they'd cancel my booking appointment, a week later my midwife called to confirm the arrangements for the booking appointment. It seems like such a simple piece of communication when women are MCing and it seems to be missed all the time. Sorry you had to go through that.

@pugprincess I had some light spotting the one time we DTD whilst pregnant and I know how you feel, it scared me too. We've not done it since but I might try it again now we've had the scan. As others said it's harmless and common to cause some spotting for various reasons. Don't wish for sickness. Honestly I feel nauseous most of the time and haven't even been sick and that's bad enough. Can't imagine how horrendous it is for ladies that get it badly!

@ladysamee I can see a line too! Fingers crossed it gets stronger 🤞🏼 how long after testing did it appear?

@kittycat581 @fingerscrossedfor2021HK sorry for your loss, welcome to the group - you're in the right place

@stayinghopeful92x omg what a tosser! I'm so sorry to hear that! Good riddance by the sounds of it, but it can't be easy 😔

@BEESY90 oh honey that sounds so scary! I'm so sorry to hear you're going through that!

@VP91x ahh sorry you're feeling a bit fed up this cycle, but not long until your next appt is it? Did your temps stay high? x

@HE88 yeah I took all three of those for the last cycle, EPO before ovulation and the other two all the way through the cycle x

@SmileyT was it yourself that was taking epo, omega 3 and coq10? Xx

@VP91x I ended up buying boots own epo and their own brand of coq10 which cost me 30 quid 🤦‍♀️. Do you take omega 3? Xx

@Hayley19835 I read into impryl as it was recommended to me too but apparently the men's conception has the same ingredients. You just have to also take NAC supplement too

I can't remember who said to me about heavy periods but I started doing Mayan fertility massage from YouTube and it helped me so much this month! I'm usually crippled from CD2-4 but I didn't even need pain relief this month. It's on YouTube if anyone is interested. You're meant to keep doing it up to ovulation to stimulate circulation so I'm doing it every day.

Also, there's a great YouTube channel called fertility homeopath that I watch. Highly recommend. She gives you great tips for implantation, TWW etc x