TTC after MC - August 2020 (Thread 11)

@MrsK21 don't worry at all. I only know because I've totally tortured the girls on here!lol

My Ava arrives tomorrow. I'll let you know how I get on with it. Fingers crossed for us both x

@Northernsoul90 honestly it's so stressful! I hope that if I don't catch this month, then at least a pattern will emerge with ovulation so then can target DTD closer to those times. Think you're right in that we're all first cycle post MC so it's all a bit unknown right now.
It's @MichT4 that has the pleasure of boating on Lake Windermere. Unfortunately, I'm just stuck in my home office with 1001 things to do for work but distracting myself with Mumsnet :)

@MrsK21 Have fun today, lake Windermere is lovely 😍 xx

@MrsK21 @HappyVibes We all seem to be in the same boat! I'm on my 4th flashy this morning but I get worried if I don't do it one day and then get my static the next morning we've missed a good opportunity - I have heard doing the deed the day before ovulation is a good time. If only we knew exactly when we could get static... it would be just my luck the one day we didn't do it I would get static the next day xx

Thank you @chloedancer897 you'd think I'd know all this info by now. I've been on the threads since beginning of June but this is first new cycle since MC so I feel super nervous. We've lost so much time to the first mc already.
How are you doing hun? How are you finding Ava? I was looking into it but trying out a regular thermometer first before I take the plunge.

@HappyVibes that's my nervousness too but I don't want to wear my OH out. He's been really good and is up for trying whatever seems best but don't want him to feel used and end up arguing. I remember a few ladies on the thread in past months having arguments with OHs because of the stress of DTD! X

BFN this morning and v light spotting but had a couple of clots since last night too so definitely think yesterday's was an evap line - looks like I'm out for this month xx

Sorry meant to tag @MrsK21 !

@HappyVibes you can stick to SMEP until you get your static smiley then DTD every day for 3 days from then because once you get your static, you may not ovulate for up to 36 hours so you'll be well and truly coveted x

@MrsK21 I’m not too sure what I would do if I was you eek. I panic about what if this one month I only get one flashy and wham straight into static. I think we are going to just go for it daily with our flashies until the end of the static window xxxx

@MichT4 Lake windermere boating sounds dreamy! Hope the weather holds up for you, it's been awful and raining in London. Such a mood killer when coupled with a Wednesday.
Thanks for the advice on SMEP. I have no idea how many flashies I will get so will skip today if cheapies correlate with the CBD and carry on with the plan for tomorrow until we get the static x

@VP91x thanks hun. Yeah I was hoping last nights BD would have us covered for today's flashy. Hopefully I don't get too many. I've decided to check with a late afternoon cheapie just in case I'm one of those ladies with a quick surge.
Ah I see - just reread the instructions as well and says you can eject the stick and the result will pop up again for 2 mins. I was spending a whole 15 mins almost in the bathroom when I just wanted to get back in bed lol nearly fell back asleep waiting on the toilet 😂

@Hayley19835 just from what I had researched into impryl, there's not a lot of difference in it and any other conception multi vitamin, so if you're already taking something, your partner can also take NAC and he will be covered x

@VP91x @SmileyT @MichT4 @Lollol86 @HE88 @susiebluebell @MrsK21 @Pugprincess

Thank you ladies and for sharing your feelings too 🥰 sending hugs and positive vibes back to you all xx

@HappyVibes My cheapies have been similar and I'm on day 4 of flashy - I've been questioning how good those one steps are (they are the ones I also have) as I've never managed to get a peak on them. Xx

@Pugprincess Yay for 3+ weeks!! 🥳 xx

@Pugprincess great news on your 3+. Hope you feel much more relaxed now.

@MrsK21 today I think we are going for a walk in the woods/by the lake. Tomorrow is meant to be the best day weather wise so we have booked a motor boat on lake Windermere so that'll be lovely.

Wahooo for flashing smiley!! I don't know much about SMEP, but I'd imagine you are fine to still skip a day. I think the day you get static you start your 3 day run xx

@MrsK21 thank you and yes I think you should dtd today if you want to? Just incase you don’t get many flashies x

@pugprincess yay for 3+ weeks! So hopeful for your scan next week too!

@northernsoul90 I get like that as well, yesterday OH started our SMEP and I found myself so teary. I just couldn't believe we're back to trying again and that we'd had a mc. It hit me out of nowhere

@VP91x argh! I hope AF just arrives for you now so you can move on from this cycle!! Feels like such a waste of time but hopefully not long now. Guess you won't bother with doing any tests?
Also on the CBD OPKs, do you mean to just dip the test in the FMU and leave in a drawer when waking for a wee and then insert into the reader later on when up properly? I'm also someone who needs to pee multiple times a night and has an early waking OH

@MichT4 so glad you've had the opportunity to switch off, perfect week for it. Have you got much planned for the rest of your hols?

@Bl0ndi3 I had them call me up too for 12 wk scan, and then a letter for 20 week one. OH just started binning anything pg related to try and save me from seeing it - he couldnt stop the phone calls though!

Today I have my first ever flashing smiley on my CBD! So happy it's moved to a flashy after my blank circle yesterday.
Question for timing DTD - we were planning to follow SMEP (so DTD yesterday on CD8) but given the flashing smiley today, should we also DTD today!?

@Bl0ndi3 hi, I got more ewcm after mc than I have ever seen in my whole fertile life lol, normally only get little bits but this was a tissue full when wiping after a 💩 lol. The evening primrose oil is also supposed to help but you only take it until ovulation then stop. Xx

@MinnieMouse4 welcome and I’m sorry to read about your loss. You will get lots of advice support and hand holds here xx

@Northernsoul90 I still get upset even though I’m preg now, nothing can replace the baby you lost. It does help in some ways though I think but my anxiety is highhhhh. When any of us get preg again the first trimester is going to be so so hard for all of us mentally.

Update from me: just braved my cb and got my 3+ phewww. So hopefully that means the spotting isn’t affecting anything negatively at the moment. Trying to take one day at a time. It’s hard. You think it gets easier once you conceive but that’s one hurdle, then there’s more 🙈

@VP91x could you leave your details for a cancellation appointment? You may get seen quicker we contact lots of patients off our cancellation list to get them in early maybe worth a shot xx

@VP91x hahaha I like it! I'll give that a go! He's in work the next 4 days so today he left at 6:30 and will tomorrow he's then on nights for 2 days so he won't be home when I wake up so I should manage just fine the next few days so I think I'll just keep using it. It's the 4 days he's off work that I struggle with. Tbh I will happily just keep buying the sticks or a new set because I got my BFP using it (May not have been the reason ofc) so I do want to use it.

@MichT4 by the weekend, hopefully you will know one way or another 🤞🏻
I'm ok thank you, starting to feel tired and back ache. Test lines have got really strong now so that's a positive. Just feels very strange and like I'm not pregnant, but that could be because I'm blocking it out too xx

Morning all. Thank you for your kind messages. I tried CBD again this morning with FMU and still a blank circle. Today is supposed to be OD too! Will stick with it. I think I’m just worried that maybe the test I took was a false negative with it being a cheap test. Only time will tell and I will stick with the CBD.

@VP91x yeah I wondered that i have probably been wasting these sticks I've used by not doing them daily and haven't done them at the same time some FMU and some SMU. I suppose i either need to start using them daily now with FMU each day or leave them this cycle and try again next cycle if needed. Not sure which to do as I got my BFP using the CBD last time so I feel good about it but it's been hard work this time around.

@Lollol86 I thought that I've had loads of CM ever since I stopped bleeding!