TTC after MC - August 2020 (Thread 11)

@Northernsoul90 yaaaaayyy for static. Knew it would be on its way xx

@MichT4 only one more sleep until you get to speak someone and hopefully have some answers. Try keep occupied today.

What CD did you get your negative after MC?

@LAcain what an amazing approach to take! I truly believe that thinking, speaking & generally being positive attracts positive things into our lives.

Yes the healthy eating was something I found difficult to revert back to after MC as during pregnancy I was on the mage beige foods cos I couldn’t stick anything other than that. But I’ve been so conscious after MC about really getting back to it - reverted back to greens and fruits, eating complex carbs rather than simple carbs, only one day a week having a treat meal etc. I’m usually like this anyway but PG I got very complacent because I just couldn’t bare the thought of most foods. Anyway back on track feeling MUCH healthier mentally and physically & truly believe that our time is SO soon 💫

I love your outlook today lovely. Xxxxxxx

@LAcain Sorry for your loss 💖 I hope you find lots of support and advice here - everyone is really friendly! Xx

@MichT4 Temps are still high aren't they... I really hope the doctors are helpful tomorrow and offer bloods/scan so you can get some answers! Xx

I got static smiley this morning! Cd18. I didn't temp this morning as had a few drinks last night and I woke up late and forgot but hope to see a rise tomorrow 🤞🏼

Oh and FF has taken away any cover line etc, says it can't detect ovulation any more 😭. It was CD18 before I put my temp in today xx

Morning all

@LAcain so sorry for your loss. First AF is hard as it's the first real reminder, but it is a good reset and I found that after the first AF you begin to deal with it a little better because you have to acknowledge it, if that makes sense. So I think things should feel like a fresh start for you and I really hope you have a nice swift TTC journey.

Still waiting for my AF after second MC but still being messed around of course. Another super faint line on my CB - same as yesterday. So now it's no more testing and wait for the doctors tomorrow. I wore Ava last night too and obviously I can't see a trend because I've missed a week, but temps are still high. I'm hoping they arrange blood tests tomorrow and also maybe a scan to see what's what in there ovary/ovulation wise xx

@MrsK21 we were TTC for 4 months before MMC. I know it’s not long so here’s hoping we will be as fortunate this time round.

@HappyVibes yes definitely gives me hope. I’m trying to reset today with a positive mind set. My body knows what it is doing and I have to trust it. I just need to make sure I stay on track keeping myself healthy and active and giving us the best chance to fall and stay pregnant when the timing is right.

Stories like that give hope don’t they @LAcain That’s lovely that your mum has shared that with you & hopefully will give you so much confidence and reassurance for your healthy bambino to come 💫 💓 xxx

Thanks ladies. I’m back home and curled up in the spare bed. He’s changed the bedding but I’m not giving in yet. I mean it this time he’s got to stop it. X

@Lollol86 @Firevie @HappyVibes thanks all, trying to look at the positive that my body is resetting, my temps suggest I ovulated so time to reset and get ready for the next cycle.

We’re getting tattoos on the 5th sept as a tribute to our baby we lost. I told my mum about it yesterday and explained why we have rainbow colours as part of it and she said she hadn’t heard of the phase before but that it means I am a rainbow baby. I found that kind of wonderful knowing I came after a loss and I’ll hopefully have mine one day too.

@Pugprincess sorry you’re not having a great time with OH. Has some time away improved anything?

@HappyVibes fingers crossed for us all! X

@chloedancer897 I showed him the smiley face and he said "he's got a patronising arsey face hasn't he?" 🤣 I was in stitches

@Lollol86 I had no idea about rainbow baby day! Hope today's the day we've managed to conceive ours 🤞🏽

@LAcain hope you're doing ok and once AF has been and gone, hope you're body is ready for that sticky bean xxx how long have you been TTC before your mc? X

@Pugprincess sorry you're going through a rough patch with your OH. The bogies are just bang out of order and also disgusting. Hope he comes to his senses and just fesses up sharpish! Please try not to stress yourself, look after your mental health especially at this crucial time xxx

@MichT4 that's crazy I can definitely see the line...and the OPK 🤨 so strange!!

Surly if it was a chemical youd of had AF by now and a negative test!!

So sorry your going through this, I really hope you either get a BFP in the morning or some answers when you see a doc x

@MichT4 sorry to hear about your sister! That’s not nice at all. Surround yourself with positive people only as you really don’t need any people around you that will bring you down xxx
@VP91x my periods have been very light ever since I stopped BC last year! First af post MC was pretty similar.
OH is going back tmr morning. He’s been getting on my nerves today - no particular reason but maybe I’m just sensitive so I’m not too unhappy about him going tmr and me having another week at home. Also my dad has been in one of his moods again which makes everything so much worse. It’s the same story with him every time and I’m just sick of it. Sorry for the rant just feeling meh ! Xxx

Evening ladies. Just catching up on thread after a day of pampering as AF arrived as expected no Olympic swimmers this cycle!
I had my hair coloured and cut, eyebrows waxed and eyelashes sorted finally and feel so much better for it!
@Pugprincess sorry to hear you have had a stressful day...men!!
@MichT4 hope you get some answers soon how frustrating. Sisters are so insensitive sometimes love mine to pieces but i don't think she gets my situation and thinks I just need to relax!

Hope tomorrow is a better day for all xx

@Pugprincess sorry to read about the bogeys/ that’s disgusting! Sorry you had a row over it which then got worse. Hope you had a bit of a break at your brothers. Xxx

@LAcain sorry to hear about your journey lovely. The first AF is hard as I know we hoped that we were going to be one of the couples that catch within the two week window after MMC. However we genuinely found so much comfort knowing that the AF meant that my body was having a full clear out, making sure that the womb was ultra clean, fresh & full of only goodness....ready for my healthy eggs to travel down safely & wholly, and ready for the fertilised egg to then attach safely & strongly and get all the goodness from the ultra cleansed womb xxxx

@LAcain so sorry you find yourself here! Similar journey for me - we lost our first baby and I had the ERPC on 14th July. I ovulated two weeks later and had my first AF 13th August. Similarly to you I didn’t think we would catch that quickly but we had caught our peak, dtd, temperatures were right and ovulation gad happened but was t meant to be yet. Was gutted to see AF but been telling myself body has now reset itself and is now ready to conceive xxx

@LAcain so sorry you find yourself here but you will find comfort speaking with these amazing ladies.
The first period is really hard but just try to tell
yourself that your body is resetting itself ready for your ttc journey. Sending you lots of baby dust xx

Hi Ladies, hope you don’t mind me joining. I’ve been reading for a while finding comfort in all your journeys.

Today I started spotting after low temps so AF definitely on her way after surgically managed MMC on 24th July. Despite telling myself it was unlikely we’d conceive again so soon I’m completely gutted to be facing my first period after losing our first pregnancy.

So I find myself here, in need of support as I face the whole TTC journey all over again.

@HappyVibes we definitely put far too much pressure on ourselves but that's because we want our little babies so bad.
Also today is National rainbow baby day 🌈 👶 xx

Thanks @Lollol86 that’s really reassuring! It’s so blooming hard cos you wanna do everything you can - but then I keep reminding myself that people get pregnant off just one time & voilla.

Yeah it seems like your static is about to come tomorrow/Monday @Northernsoul90 Good luck lovely xxx

Also he’s STILL saying he doesn’t remember doing the bogies and that he won’t do it again and I responded well how are you going to stop doing it if you don’t know when your doing it?! He can’t answer that surprisingly

@MichT4 the day before I started spotting last time I had a really stressful busy day. A series of unfortunate events all rolled into one. I had a job interview in the morning, then I was cleaning and sorting things out for a friends birthday get together I was hosting, then he got really drunk at my friends get together because he can’t control himself, then while he was drunk he announced his mum has been telling people we were expecting and I was fuming with her. Then the next day the spotting began so I just blamed all that stress and he was part of it. Then as the spotting progressed and I got pain I kept saying to him somethings not right and he got funny with me, wasn’t supportive at all so I resent that still. He didn’t start caring until I fully bled and called the ambulance, then he realised it was real and wasn’t just me being a drama queen. He reckons he didn’t want to believe it was happening which I get but at the end of the day he should have listened to me. I feel annoyed that I’ve let him get to me again today. I’ve tried to keep as calm as possible but I have been angry today so I’m worried what’s going to happen going forward. He knows this is a critical time for the baby because it was only 5 days from today the last one stopped growing. I feel like even if I am being unreasonable and extra sensitive cause of hormones he ought to be the adult for once and step up and calm me down? Sort things out? Not to mention he’s smashed my wedding gift photo frame in anger during the mc row. He’s trying to fix it but I don’t know if he can or what state it’s in. He’s honestly like a child sometimes. I ended up chucking his xbox controller cause it’s not the first time he’s damaged something of mine in a temper so I felt some payback was owed. I’ve just had enough x

I know everyone is different, my point being don't stress yourself out, you've all dtd lots and given it your best possible shot xx

Girls don't panic too much about SMEP, we were going to do it but we ran out of steam, we literally dtd every other day from day 8 of my cycle including day of static and that was it. I had the static on the Saturday and then on the Sunday I was out for the day and felt ovulation pains and just thought there wasn't much point dtd anymore as any new sperm wouldn't get there in time by the time I got home xx

@Pugprincess so sorry you have had a shit day. Honestly that's gross 🤮 I don't blame you getting out for a bit xx

@Northernsoul90 oh yes I remember you saying. I think the dip is usually the day of ovulation but it could get lower earlier? Have you tried another CB? Some ladies get their peak later in the day?

@Pugprincess sorry things haven't got better. What did he say about the MC? What do you think is causing the tension?

Thank you all for continuing to be such positives rocks of support, you all make everything so much easier. I remain hopeful but also think I know what's happening so am also hoping AF shows up and I can get moving on my blood tests etc. I'm going to ask them how quickly they'll see me etc and if it's long I might just go through my private medical. I currently have an annual limit of £1k though so it won't last long! I might ask my boss if I can go into the unlimited spend if I decide to go down that route xx