TTC Thread #3

@cew19 that's a good point, working from home has definitely reduced the distractions available!

@daffodil21 hope you get some answers today, we're all hoping for you!

We started trying last Christmas, so I know it could just be one of those things, but it's so shit every month anyway. Just thinking back to last Christmas when we were both so excited about the prospect of either having a baby or being pregnant this Christmas. I feel like I may have felt differently about it if it hadn't happened this year, but I've been working from home since March, have barely seen family or friends all year, and haven't been anywhere, so nothing to distract me.

Fingers crossed for you @Daffodil21 you deserve some positive news. Let us know how you get on. X

No Christmas miracle here, the opposite actually as AF has come 4 days early Had thought maybe implantation, but I use resting heart rate to track my cycle and that's gone down too. Bleurgh. Going to make an appointment with GP now I think. Feeling so disappointed, was so sure this would be our month. I blame Hollywood movies lol

Have you had any more spotting @Daffodil21?

Hope this is the one for you too. We all deserve a Christmas miracle now!

@cew19 I think my last few friends who were pregnant (including two lockdown babies) told me how long they were trying for- one had several cycles of IVF and had given up, one had a history of infertility before their first and this is their second, and the other was "first month trying'. Although I could have swung for her partner who started joking *why do people say it's hard, just have sex on the right day and it'll happen"

I keep the first two in mind when thinking about my own TTC. It took a while for them, and now they have a wee one.

Never asked them about positions though!

Hope everyone else is keeping a better hold on their sanity

Aww crossing fingers for you @Tofu35!

I am now in the one week wait, and already convinced it hasn’t happened again. Feel the same as I do every month. Does anyone actually feel any different in the first couple of weeks? I’ve also just found out another friend is pregnant. Anyone else just want to grill pregnant friends about how long they’ve been trying, what vits they take, what position, legs in the air or no legs in the air?! Or am I just going mad?!

Managed to avoid posting while I waited in the clinic waiting room- but home now! Had my hycosy today, like a smear test with additional ultrasound (with what I'll describe as a dildo camera) and the dye test to check there were no blockages. So I'm now sitting with a sanitary pad on because the dye just 'leaks out' over the next few hours.

A few of my friends were excited because they had a positive result after their hycosy, so my fingers are crossed :)

Bloody hell @Daffodil21. Do you need help beating them with a stick? I hope everything's okay! I completely agree with @Tofu35 with your history they should be more on the ball. I hope it goes okay tomorrow and until tomorrow actually.

It is amazing how much the person who answers the phone can make or break your experience/treatment @daffodil21. I had a friend who swears she would hang up if she heard a certain voice because she knew she'd be on the road to nowhere 😂

Hope you manage to get something booked in, you'd imagine with your history, this would make you a high priority within the early pregnancy group.

Shit, sorry @daffodil21. Hoping it's an isolated incident and not a sign of something else xx

@bramleyapples13, my husband had to go private for semen analysis (after a few errors with his NHS test and then a predicted 3 month gap to wait for the next appt). When I got my initial consultation with NHS fertility, they said the first step was the hycosy stuff and then suggested a 3 month wait. I think this is now month 15 or 16 for us (losing count, and the will!) so we just decided to have this part done private. So we called a few places and found one that was really nice (a few that were maybe less so).
I checked with the NHS clinic about what this would mean, and the doctor said 'if you go private, send us the results and it'll allow us to speed things a long a little quicker'.

I think if I wasn't 35, this 3 month wait wouldn't have been such a worry- I think we both just want some answers as to why we've been unlucky so far :)

Sorry long answer to a short question!

@daffodil21 you can't leave the thread, we'll block the doors 😉

@Tofu35 it's ridiculous isn't it. It's about as fun as making sure the washing ups done 😂 and I'm feeling a bit like I'm the only one making an effort. I want the OH to drink less but that conversation went like I was trying to plait fog 🙄 how did you go about going private? And knowing what needs doing? I've looked into it as an option if the fertility clinic keep taking ages but aren't sure where to start. I hope it goes okay for you. You'll have to let us know when you go for it.

@Daffodil21 I know! It's confusing who's going for what and where now 😂 how are you feeling in yourself? It would be so much easier if these places actually spoke to each other. I bet there's quite big cross overs with what they each do too. It's annoying me that they've not contacted you yet!

@daffodil21, AF arrived on Friday- soon as she appeared I called the clinic to book in for the test (needs to be a certain point of your cycle). I've never been so happy to see that bloody cramp queen 😂

@bramleyapples13 it's always the worst bit of early testing! Its tough to keep sex feeling enjoyable and not like a slog! Definitely had a few of those "let's just get this over with and we can tick it off the to-do list today" 😂

@daffodil21 oh no, I hope they call soon- that's rubbish.

I'm getting my hycosy on Tuesday (privately paid for). Just so happens it's the same time as my staff Christmas party, so I'll need to tell my team I can't run the zoom quiz 😂 bit nervous about it, but read the info they send out so hopefully all will be ok!